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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it |
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"Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it "
I sometimes come across guys who double triple insist on paying for me. I often cave because fuck me it's not worth the argument.
However, because I'd rather pay for myself, I order the cheapest thing I can stand on the menu 
(Some guys also think that buying me a drink/meal etc means I owe them something. It also works for this. If general you want to argue that buying me a drink means you deserve sex... come on, I'm worth a bit more than a fucking lemonade ) |
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I can just tell instantly. Its the kinds of things they will order and places they like to go, it’s all about instagram. They will be on instagram too. They typically are used to guys being total idiots and pushovers so make no attempt to try and conceal it. Can’t say I’ve met a smart one ever |
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"Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it "
I don’t agree with any of that!
It is possible to accept someone’s generosity and not be a golddigger.
Many people find it uncomfortable and strange going Dutch and would rather take it in turns paying or go with trust and generosity , that includes many on here and they’re definitely not gold diggers, the complete opposite , often insisting on paying for me ! |
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If you think you’ve met a gold digger just say something like ‘been an expensive few weeks, how about we (something free/cheap)’. You’ve just told them you’re careful with money without telling them, and you’ll get their response when they aren’t getting a lifestyle they can’t afford. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it
I sometimes come across guys who double triple insist on paying for me. I often cave because fuck me it's not worth the argument.
However, because I'd rather pay for myself, I order the cheapest thing I can stand on the menu
(Some guys also think that buying me a drink/meal etc means I owe them something. It also works for this. If general you want to argue that buying me a drink means you deserve sex... come on, I'm worth a bit more than a fucking lemonade )"
If I’m taking someone to dinner, I always say to them, me casa su casa, order what you like.
I’m old school, if you invite someone for dinner, they are your guest, so you make sure your guest is looked after.
Just the way I was brought up  |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I always agree in advance how we are splitting the bill. My last partner wanted to treat me to nice dinners etc and I learnt to accept that but also made sure I paid for stuff when I had the opportunity.
There are the male equivalent .... dated one briefly that let me pay for everything ... and was married to a sponger for 10yrs who would let me pay for everything and contribute v little despite earning his own money.
I would avoid people like him now in the future and say No sooner. |
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"Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it
I sometimes come across guys who double triple insist on paying for me. I often cave because fuck me it's not worth the argument.
However, because I'd rather pay for myself, I order the cheapest thing I can stand on the menu
(Some guys also think that buying me a drink/meal etc means I owe them something. It also works for this. If general you want to argue that buying me a drink means you deserve sex... come on, I'm worth a bit more than a fucking lemonade )
If I’m taking someone to dinner, I always say to them, me casa su casa, order what you like.
I’m old school, if you invite someone for dinner, they are your guest, so you make sure your guest is looked after.
Just the way I was brought up "
Yes. It's difficult to navigate as someone who doesn't want to feel beholden to someone. I'm new school.
Like, do I insist on paying and annoy you? Or do I give in and risk you think I'm a money grubbing whatever?
Ordering the cheapest thing on the menu is my compromise.
I guess what I'm saying is, someone who lets you pay isn't automatically a gold digger (as has been said above). I'm just trying to go along to get along.
And because I'd rather pay and don't want people thinking I'm scrounging, I will nurse that lemonade like a boss all night! |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"Don’t be overly generous regardless if you can be.
You’ll soon see the independent woman for who they are.
Those with self respect always, always insist on going Dutch and that’s when you choose how generous you wish to be.
Another tell tale sign, the good ones always wants to take you for a drink post people and they will insist on paying for it
I sometimes come across guys who double triple insist on paying for me. I often cave because fuck me it's not worth the argument.
However, because I'd rather pay for myself, I order the cheapest thing I can stand on the menu
(Some guys also think that buying me a drink/meal etc means I owe them something. It also works for this. If general you want to argue that buying me a drink means you deserve sex... come on, I'm worth a bit more than a fucking lemonade )
If I’m taking someone to dinner, I always say to them, me casa su casa, order what you like.
I’m old school, if you invite someone for dinner, they are your guest, so you make sure your guest is looked after.
Just the way I was brought up
Yes. It's difficult to navigate as someone who doesn't want to feel beholden to someone. I'm new school.
Like, do I insist on paying and annoy you? Or do I give in and risk you think I'm a money grubbing whatever?
Ordering the cheapest thing on the menu is my compromise.
I guess what I'm saying is, someone who lets you pay isn't automatically a gold digger (as has been said above). I'm just trying to go along to get along.
And because I'd rather pay and don't want people thinking I'm scrounging, I will nurse that lemonade like a boss all night!"
Touche!
I can respect that opinion and point of view |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Should they enquire about your status with them immediately and frequently asking about your financial situation.
They only appreciate expensive gifts; whilst the idea of a thoughtful gift such as a bouquet of flowers or an original poem has no value to them.
Chances are their friends circle may well be Gold Diggers. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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Thanks for all the advice guys. It is really appreciated. I suppose I’m just old School in my day if you took a lady out for dinner, you paid suppose I just need to get with a modern times thank you |
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"Look for a woman wearing a hard hat and swinging a pick axe and sounding like Gollum from LOTR 
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The worse ones are the women mining for Mithril. They rarely go Dutch, much."
Yeh but you don't see many Dwarf-women. And in fact, they are so alike in voice and appearance, that they are often mistaken for Dwarf-men. |
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By *alcon77Man 29 weeks ago
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"Look for a woman wearing a hard hat and swinging a pick axe and sounding like Gollum from LOTR
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The worse ones are the women mining for Mithril. They rarely go Dutch, much.
Yeh but you don't see many Dwarf-women. And in fact, they are so alike in voice and appearance, that they are often mistaken for Dwarf-men."
It's the beards. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"If you are a simp or weak-willed, a woman can become a gold digger. "
Nonsense, any decent human being would never take advantage of another's kindness.
Gold-diggers are anything but decent.
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"If you are a simp or weak-willed, a woman can become a gold digger. "
That’s mean! I think they focus on simps & weak-willed, but they also target strong willed men who don’t care . I remember a conversation around a gf that cost over 200k a year and he was like yeah but the sex is worth it and she disappears when I tell her to without issues |
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"If you are a simp or weak-willed, a woman can become a gold digger.
That’s mean! I think they focus on simps & weak-willed, but they also target strong willed men who don’t care . I remember a conversation around a gf that cost over 200k a year and he was like yeah but the sex is worth it and she disappears when I tell her to without issues "
Surely that’s more of a transactional agreement than gold digger territory? |
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This shouldn't even be an issue here unless you are looking to date people. Money shouldn't be an issue for fwbs fbs or ons. My lovers range from millionaires to the flat broke and neither condition enhances my experiences. |
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By *ascaIMan 29 weeks ago
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"Look for a woman wearing a hard hat and swinging a pick axe and sounding like Gollum from LOTR
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The worse ones are the women mining for Mithril. They rarely go Dutch, much.
Yeh but you don't see many Dwarf-women. And in fact, they are so alike in voice and appearance, that they are often mistaken for Dwarf-men.
It's the beards. "
well done everyone haha |
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Usually dressed in a checkered shirt, dungarees rolled up to the shin, has a donkey, wades through mud in the stream with a sieve and has one gold tooth
Failing that they instantly want or need something financially based from you in return for fuck all, aka no actual physical contact or actual plans to be with you  plus if you flaunt it the will come  |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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"Thanks for all the advice guys. It is really appreciated. I suppose I’m just old School in my day if you took a lady out for dinner, you paid suppose I just need to get with a modern times thank you"
You can still be old school in your approach Op, if that's how you want to be. It doesn't mean that someone is a gold digger if they say yes to it. I do think being sensible is a very good idea.
Personally, I'm the one who is happy paying for drinks, food, whatever. I buy drinks for men, pay for dinner, without expecting anything. If I know they're more traditional in their approach? Well that's when I'll let them pay for dinner and I'll pay for drinks. Or similar.
I think on Fab, it's best to be sensible really. Not discussing salary, not offering to pay for everything. You can be a gentleman and also sensible, x |
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Carry refillable bottles of tap water, labelled as 'tap water'.
Decline any invitations to places or events that require money. Suggest free of charge activities, to pass your time, including cuddling and sex.
They will avoid you and decline anything that doesn't gain them what they are after. |
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If I’m taking someone to dinner, I always say to them, me casa su casa, order what you like.
I’m old school, if you invite someone for dinner, they are your guest, so you make sure your guest is looked after.
Just the way I was brought up "
Same |
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