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It's Just A Preference...
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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This might not be the thread you're expecting it to be.
When it comes to finding others attractive, do you have a particular body type you prefer/find yourself drawn to more often?
Is there one you don't find as attractive?
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It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I think I used to. But not any more. I literally love women. I love women of all shapes, sizes, races. I just love them all. I want them all. "
See, now I believe this from you because you're... well you're a bit of a slut. 
If you did have a particular preference, would you mention it? |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for"
Okay, I love this answer but it's giving... nothing.
So, what are those physical preferences you're more drawn to than others? Some examples of them?
Do you think if men state what they like it's a bad thing? |
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Hi Meli x
I think I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t know what I like until I like it. I’m definitely a fan of eyes though, eyes that sparkle and sing!   |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man "
The mind is most important .... but physically I tend to prefer taller broad men ...its not a totally a deal breaker of course. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I think I used to. But not any more. I literally love women. I love women of all shapes, sizes, races. I just love them all. I want them all.
See, now I believe this from you because you're... well you're a bit of a slut.
If you did have a particular preference, would you mention it?"
Ummm I don’t think I’d mention it in a profile or something no. But I’d answer the question if asked in the forums.
I used to only like bigger women. Only anyone thicc. But I think it was because I’ve always been big myself, even when I’ve been fit and muscular and didn’t like the idea of being so much bigger. But I don’t care now and just appreciate women in all forms. Because like you say, I’m a slut. |
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I have things I very much prefer but, I can't think of anything that would make me 100% a no.
I probably have an upper and lower size limit but, I don't know what they are.
I'm not a fan of too much fakery either but, if you as person aren't as fake as you look, it's not a deal breaker.
Oh, a penis is a deal breaker. Or facial hair. That's not for me. |
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for"
That is totally true of me. If I don't think I match someones preference I simply don't bother to even ask/try.
However, it shouldn't stop you having or stating a preference? You are allowed to have them and it isn't wrong.
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I usually go for the curvier ladies rather than the thinner ones, just because I like something to squeeze, assuming I get the opportunity — there's just something really satisfying about having a good squeeze, especially boobs which I love
My other preference is the non-smoker, but that's not something I can determine on eye contact alone, unfortunately. I appreciate it's not a ‘body type’ preference, but it's a preference nonetheless. |
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
Okay, I love this answer but it's giving... nothing.
So, what are those physical preferences you're more drawn to than others? Some examples of them?
Do you think if men state what they like it's a bad thing?"
For arguments sake let's say I put that I'm not attracted to BBW. Define BBW, is there a scale? What I might believe is big and what you believe is big could be completely different |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I don't think I do. It's always been about facial attraction for me over anything else although I'll admit that I've gone through stages of preferring a more petite body type because with me being quite short and slim, someone petite helps make me feel a bit manlier which was totally just my own insecurity  |
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By *aizyWoman 35 weeks ago
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I thought I did when I joined fab, but I have realised I really don't have a set in stone prefrence, I find different body types attractive, a lot does depend on the personality for me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Hi Meli x
I think I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t know what I like until I like it. I’m definitely a fan of eyes though, eyes that sparkle and sing! "
Hi -man- x
Eyes are good. Are there any body types you know you don't like? |
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man
And women?
Would you ever use the terms picky or fussy to describe yourself?
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Haha. I’d never use those words to describe myself Meli!  .
Women definitely curvy and booby  |
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I don't think so.
I used to think it was the broader bearded long haired type for men. But I think that's just down to the people I was drawn to happened to look that way on the whole, because the socials groups and scenes I hung around in were predominantly that kind of look. So I was more likely to find someone who looked that way and sung to me than someone else I barely saw to get a feel for.
But no. Since I started worrying less about fitting into certain subcultures and groups and simply wandered off to find my own people it's anything. 6ft8 beanpoles, 5ft3 musclebound mini adonises, 5ft9 dadbods. Doesn't matter one iota to me |
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"I don't have a preference as such but I do think attraction is important. Does that even make sense? How's it only Tuesday afternoon? My mind has given up already 
Did it ever actually start? "
No! |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man
The mind is most important .... but physically I tend to prefer taller broad men ...its not a totally a deal breaker of course."
Having a particular physical aesthetic you prefer but it not being a deal breaker? Makes sense. I think people oft have one but it doesn't mean they rule everything else out. I was curious as to if people would say what they are. |
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By *aizyWoman 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man
The mind is most important .... but physically I tend to prefer taller broad men ...its not a totally a deal breaker of course.
Having a particular physical aesthetic you prefer but it not being a deal breaker? Makes sense. I think people oft have one but it doesn't mean they rule everything else out. I was curious as to if people would say what they are."
Oh hang on, I do like broad shoulders on a man. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Different body shapes/sizes suit different people so I really don’t have a specific type as such.
Having said that, I’m not really into big body building ladies type builds.
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So you know what you don't like but the rest? It's situational.
Do you find it easy as a man to state what you like on the forums? |
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I am way more fussy with guys than I am with women
With women attraction tends to be heavily driven by that 'click' you get with someone
With guys I am a bit fussy and far more clinical in my approach
I don't like really fit or muscly guys
I prefer average to stocky builds
Not too slim, not too large, not too
I once described it as 'they need to look like they look after themselves, but also enjoy a good pie' |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I have things I very much prefer but, I can't think of anything that would make me 100% a no.
I probably have an upper and lower size limit but, I don't know what they are.
I'm not a fan of too much fakery either but, if you as person aren't as fake as you look, it's not a deal breaker.
Oh, a penis is a deal breaker. Or facial hair. That's not for me. "
So what are those things that you very much prefer? Even two examples of them. |
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I'm not so keen on slim 'bean pole' look I'm afraid. I do love a beard on a man. That's what first gets my interest, however, it's always comes down to personality. They could be my idea of a god and be a twat, but another could be lanky and slim and be hilarious. I guess, to be friends, it can be anyone who isn't a deliberate dick. To be more than that, to begin with preconceived ideas on preferences will prevail, but you never know someone may slip past that and you don't see what they look like anymore but how you connect with them.
Women, I find someone with natural curves beautiful. I'm not so keen on exaggerated changes/enhancements, to be fair on both women and men as to me it looks weird (this does not include anyone who has had a sex change as that's a whole different kettle of fish). But again personality would win, would get over initial turn offs. Basically if your a dick I soon won't be interested however you look, but if we connect then it won't matter how you look.
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"I have things I very much prefer but, I can't think of anything that would make me 100% a no.
I probably have an upper and lower size limit but, I don't know what they are.
I'm not a fan of too much fakery either but, if you as person aren't as fake as you look, it's not a deal breaker.
Oh, a penis is a deal breaker. Or facial hair. That's not for me.
So what are those things that you very much prefer? Even two examples of them. "
I like short women 5'2/5'4 ish.
Porcelain white skin.
Big eyes.
Small boobs.
A pert bubble butt...
But, that's all window dressing really. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
That is totally true of me. If I don't think I match someones preference I simply don't bother to even ask/try.
However, it shouldn't stop you having or stating a preference? You are allowed to have them and it isn't wrong.
MrsAbz"
Exactly that last part.
However, the first is the reason why people avoid stating what they like. A preference isn't an absolute. I've found that people can be rather binary in their thinking when it comes to... overthinking another's possible attraction to them.
Take veris. If a person is veri'd a fair amount by a particular "type" it doesn't mean they can't like others. But we allow our insecurities to deem it so. |
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When I was younger, I was mostly attracted to petite women. I think this preference derived from my early experiences with Ailsa, who was indeed a tiny little lady. As we’ve aged and matured and as our experiences have broadened, I’ve come to appreciate that attraction is a mysterious alchemy and I never really know who might light that fire, it’s predicated on such a broad mixture of qualities. I think it’s probably true that Ailsa’s current body shape still acts as a kind of default, because she’s the person who makes up the biggest and most intense part of my life sexual life, but much like our marriage, it’s no longer exclusive. I hope that makes some kind of sense Xx |
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"When I was younger, I was mostly attracted to petite women. I think this preference derived from my early experiences with Ailsa, who was indeed a tiny little lady. As we’ve aged and matured and as our experiences have broadened, I’ve come to appreciate that attraction is a mysterious alchemy and I never really know who might light that fire, it’s predicated on such a broad mixture of qualities. I think it’s probably true that Ailsa’s current body shape still acts as a kind of default, because she’s the person who makes up the biggest and most intense part of my life sexual life, but much like our marriage, it’s no longer exclusive. I hope that makes some kind of sense Xx"
I think you’re both hot. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"For women I like them close to my age, petite, slim
For men I like them older, manly, grey hair
Complete opposites!"
Well that's very clear and easy. Do you ever find yourself attracted to others outside of those types? |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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A person's mind, the way they think, their imagination, the way they speak to me & behave with me, how it makes me feel. Their voice, smell, eye contact, smiles but also their mouth... Physically: usually broad shoulders/solid thighs on men, feminine curves or edges on a woman.
Turn offs: Socially awkward people, those that love the li_elight/ the chase/ the next new thrill or experience. Too much alcohol, smoking, drugs. Physically; people with no meat on their bones.
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In terms of physical traits, no- I’ve got surprisingly wide-ranging appreciation of the female form. For me, my preference/type is based on personality. I’m an ambivert on a good day, with a tendency to introversion/introspection, so find myself more drawn to more extroverted partners, who are able to bring my social energy levels up a little. |
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
That is totally true of me. If I don't think I match someones preference I simply don't bother to even ask/try.
However, it shouldn't stop you having or stating a preference? You are allowed to have them and it isn't wrong.
MrsAbz
Exactly that last part.
However, the first is the reason why people avoid stating what they like. A preference isn't an absolute. I've found that people can be rather binary in their thinking when it comes to... overthinking another's possible attraction to them.
Take veris. If a person is veri'd a fair amount by a particular "type" it doesn't mean they can't like others. But we allow our insecurities to deem it so."
I hear you both.
And this place is hard enough without stating any preferences |
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I'm drawn to slender, fair haired women. But I've actually never dated one!
As a preference, I prefer slender women over obese women. But you must have intelligence, and an erotic je ne sais quoi. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I usually go for the curvier ladies rather than the thinner ones, just because I like something to squeeze, assuming I get the opportunity — there's just something really satisfying about having a good squeeze, especially boobs which I love
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Ah so slimmer* isn't quite for you? Fair. Would you openly have it on your profile?
*I'm not using thinner because if we're using curvier, we can use slimmer. |
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Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men) |
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)"
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"Different body shapes/sizes suit different people so I really don’t have a specific type as such.
Having said that, I’m not really into big body building ladies type builds.
So you know what you don't like but the rest? It's situational.
Do you find it easy as a man to state what you like on the forums? "
I would imagine that some might avoid stating specific preferences for fear of offending or else so as to ‘edge their bets’ - in doing so, upping the imagined chances of the sex stuff but it’s better to be honest.
I myself find it quite easy as I just proclaim ‘Boobs!’ in a fervent manner   |
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)
I feel attacked "
I do make exceptions Joe. |
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)"
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)
I feel attacked
I do make exceptions Joe."
Sooooo you're saying there's a chance? |
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)
I feel attacked
I do make exceptions Joe.
Sooooo you're saying there's a chance? "
A chance for the shorter men of fab to be utterly disappointed by me?
Always Joe |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
Okay, I love this answer but it's giving... nothing.
So, what are those physical preferences you're more drawn to than others? Some examples of them?
Do you think if men state what they like it's a bad thing?
For arguments sake let's say I put that I'm not attracted to BBW. Define BBW, is there a scale? What I might believe is big and what you believe is big could be completely different "
Well, for one, I think BBW is such a truly dire term I'd never give it the privilege of being quantified.
I do think you can say, I'm not attracted to those who are overweight. That's okay. It's a clear statement, you don't need to give exact measurements, the desired weight range. You could say that you're more drawn to women who are slender. On the forums I'd like to think no person would block you for stating such a thing.
It doesn't mean that you rule a person automatically out for being a bit chubby. |
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"Yes.
If I was to describe my ideal man he'd be 6'2, work out, v lines, and have a sleeve tattoo and a hairy chest!
The guys I currently like don't fit into that category, I'd say I generally go for the 'fitter' body type though. I like pretty things.
Avoid? Those shorter than me. (Basically 99% of fab men)
I feel attacked
I do make exceptions Joe.
Sooooo you're saying there's a chance?
A chance for the shorter men of fab to be utterly disappointed by me?
Always Joe "
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
Okay, I love this answer but it's giving... nothing.
So, what are those physical preferences you're more drawn to than others? Some examples of them?
Do you think if men state what they like it's a bad thing?
For arguments sake let's say I put that I'm not attracted to BBW. Define BBW, is there a scale? What I might believe is big and what you believe is big could be completely different
Well, for one, I think BBW is such a truly dire term I'd never give it the privilege of being quantified.
I do think you can say, I'm not attracted to those who are overweight. That's okay. It's a clear statement, you don't need to give exact measurements, the desired weight range. You could say that you're more drawn to women who are slender. On the forums I'd like to think no person would block you for stating such a thing.
It doesn't mean that you rule a person automatically out for being a bit chubby. "
I think if you stated overweight probably 90% of women here might think they fit into that.
(I don't believe this is the case) |
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By *edeWoman 35 weeks ago
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Not in the slightest which always seems to surprise people.
I can objectively look at someone and think they look good but that doesn't mean I'm actually attracted to them. It's only once I start to talk with someone and get to know them that an actual attraction grows for me |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I don't think I do. It's always been about facial attraction for me over anything else although I'll admit that I've gone through stages of preferring a more petite body type because with me being quite short and slim, someone petite helps make me feel a bit manlier which was totally just my own insecurity "
Oh Joe. That cotton wool urge is back.
Yes, you are someone who I'd think of as having more of a leaning towards a certain type. A few wrinkles ideally. More of a lived in face...
It's too easy to tease you.
I don't think that means you're only attracted to that type of woman though. I've seen what you're like around a pretty curvier woman whose hair is a personality of its own. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"It's a cliché but, i'm really drawn to a fun personality, someone who can make me laugh.
If we do have to talk body sizes/shapes then i'm drawn more to curvy "
It is clichéd. We both know that. It can be clichéd for the right reasons though - it's the truth.
Yeah, we're talking more body sizes/shapes. |
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We both appreciate beauty in lots of different ways but we are attracted to particular physical aspects. More so kez than me, she has more of a type that she likes, so as we are mostly here for kez to have a good play it does limit our already limited options.
As others have said attraction grows with how you see others not just what you are looking at. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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On here, a man's preference is always curvy (aka boobs)
It riles me when people say they don't have a type for risk of offending potential meets.
Riles me Meli!!!
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I don’t have a particular body type , I do admire a lady with curves but like a good personality "
All women have curves of some kind. So are you saying you notice a woman with bigger "curves" more? |
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I prefer someone who takes care of themselves a bit.
That’s not a size thing, more that they don’t look like they crawled through a drain on the way here.
On paper I’ve a higher proportion of ladies with curves in my history, but that’s not a conscious decision.
I’m more bothered that they’ve showered and cleaned their teeth recently |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I don't have a preference as such but I do think attraction is important. Does that even make sense? How's it only Tuesday afternoon? My mind has given up already "
It makes sense but it's such a salted porridge of an answer. Bland. Fills you up without any particular flavour behind it, not particularly offensive. :D
Of course attraction is important. You can't have consensual sex without it.
Not having a preference or a body type you notice more, makes sense. x |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Personality and connection overrules pretty much everything ...and yeah...another one who loves the curves...and particularly about the curvy butt... And even better if it's in fishnets |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"On here, a man's preference is always curvy (aka boobs)
It riles me when people say they don't have a type for risk of offending potential meets.
Riles me Meli!!!
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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As someone who doesn't really fancy anyone until we've interacted and I've got a feel for their personality that's a really hard question. I've been attracted to various different body types. It's probably easier to state what I don't find attractive, which I won't.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I don't think I do. It's always been about facial attraction for me over anything else although I'll admit that I've gone through stages of preferring a more petite body type because with me being quite short and slim, someone petite helps make me feel a bit manlier which was totally just my own insecurity
Oh Joe. That cotton wool urge is back.
Yes, you are someone who I'd think of as having more of a leaning towards a certain type. A few wrinkles ideally. More of a lived in face...
It's too easy to tease you.
I don't think that means you're only attracted to that type of woman though. I've seen what you're like around a pretty curvier woman whose hair is a personality of its own."
I know, I bring it on myself
I do like to think that even if I lean towards a certain type, I wouldn't be someone to rule out certain looks entirely |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man
And women?
Would you ever use the terms picky or fussy to describe yourself?
Haha. I’d never use those words to describe myself Meli! .
Women definitely curvy and booby "
Thank **** Nora, because of that you can have until the end of the month without me mentioning your youthful age. |
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I thought i had a type but now I dont think i particularly do. There needed to be that attraction, I like to laugh and chat, so someone that can chat back is great and who has a stupid sense of humour and doesnt want to treat me like a glass doll.
Attitude and connectivity I am finding come first now, that ability to communicate back with whoever. Yes, of course, i want to like what i see, but the dad bod or the fit bod, either - bit cliche but the person is the important part to me. I want to get naked with someone i want to enjoy them. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I don't think so.
I used to think it was the broader bearded long haired type for men. But I think that's just down to the people I was drawn to happened to look that way on the whole, because the socials groups and scenes I hung around in were predominantly that kind of look. So I was more likely to find someone who looked that way and sung to me than someone else I barely saw to get a feel for.
But no. Since I started worrying less about fitting into certain subcultures and groups and simply wandered off to find my own people it's anything. 6ft8 beanpoles, 5ft3 musclebound mini adonises, 5ft9 dadbods. Doesn't matter one iota to me "
That's really interesting, I've found that people can either be more attracted to a certain type because of social groups, growing up etc or less so.
I know I've been a bit erm... state your preferences etc but sometimes people genuinely don't have one. I don't. I've gone through phases but now it's very much person dependent.
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
That is totally true of me. If I don't think I match someones preference I simply don't bother to even ask/try.
However, it shouldn't stop you having or stating a preference? You are allowed to have them and it isn't wrong.
MrsAbz
Exactly that last part.
However, the first is the reason why people avoid stating what they like. A preference isn't an absolute. I've found that people can be rather binary in their thinking when it comes to... overthinking another's possible attraction to them.
Take veris. If a person is veri'd a fair amount by a particular "type" it doesn't mean they can't like others. But we allow our insecurities to deem it so.
I hear you both.
And this place is hard enough without stating any preferences "
Ah Willy, I see your point. It is hard for men as it is.
Meli, is right too that a preference isn't an absolute though.
Simply, in my world, my preference is for someone who prefers my body type or has a broad approach to what they like.
So rather than see it as "I dont bother because they won't find me attractive", I see it as I won't be comfortable with them and therefore even if I initially found them attractive, it has passed now.
Think I make sense?
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It’s the person. No one’s perfect and I’m not either. I suppose I’m most drawn to that and seeing in someone’s eyes if I can relate to them.
I thought I preferred curvier women but I don’t know I sort of got more curious about slimmer and shorter women too, it’s not easy to explain.
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Slim men with athletic style muscle, big dicks, long hair is a serious bonus.
Think line cook, life guard, warehouse lad type builds lol.
For women, size 12-14, massive bums, small boobs. Gingers/red heads really got to me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I am way more fussy with guys than I am with women
With women attraction tends to be heavily driven by that 'click' you get with someone
With guys I am a bit fussy and far more clinical in my approach
I don't like really fit or muscly guys
I prefer average to stocky builds
Not too slim, not too large, not too
I once described it as 'they need to look like they look after themselves, but also enjoy a good pie'"
Oh what a descriptor! That's really tickled me, beautifully put. I can think of exactly what you mean but it also has flexibility.
I've spoken to a few bi men where there's far more... rigidity surrounding what they're attracted to in men. That might be because they were hetero-romantic though, if that makes sense? |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I my preference is the sexy body type.
*lies down hoping to be lavished with hot sexy women throwing themselves at me on a bed of soft pillows. … "
What. Is. This.
No Woody that's just no. So you don't find yourself more drawn to a certain look? Size or shape? |
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Women will state their preference as they know what they want.
Men (mostly) won’t state their preference for fear of losing out on someone to have sex with.
I know that’s pretty harsh but in essence it’s very much the truth.
Men don’t have a certain type in terms of hair colour, type…I believe they are more attracted to personality or I am.
If I lined my ex GF’s up, there wouldn’t be an overall type for looks, but they’d all have an outgoing personality.
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"As someone who doesn't really fancy anyone until we've interacted and I've got a feel for their personality that's a really hard question. I've been attracted to various different body types. It's probably easier to state what I don't find attractive, which I won't.
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Why not Nell? Nell, why won't you share how you really feel? I was counting on you Nell. Oh Nell. |
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I'm into small feminine type men sadly I lack the body parts for 90 percent of men I'm attracted to luckily tho me and my husband have the same taste in men.
I like women with big boob's and big asses (bigger the better) full of tattoos and piercings and my husband is into the complete opposite .
Our preferences tend to be different with couples tho we tend to meet somewhere in the middle and we get to know the couples first become friends be able to have a good time and be relaxed around them.
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"I usually go for the curvier ladies rather than the thinner ones, just because I like something to squeeze, assuming I get the opportunity — there's just something really satisfying about having a good squeeze, especially boobs which I love
Ah so slimmer* isn't quite for you? Fair. Would you openly have it on your profile?
*I'm not using thinner because if we're using curvier, we can use slimmer."
Apologies, my bad for using ‘thinner’ when I meant ‘slimmer’. I'm already open about preferring curvy ladies on my profile, but maybe I need to re-word it slightly. I guess you could say prefer female body sizes that are about a size 18-20, hence why I prefer ‘curvier’, if that makes sense.
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I'm not so keen on slim 'bean pole' look I'm afraid. I do love a beard on a man. That's what first gets my interest, however, it's always comes down to personality. They could be my idea of a god and be a twat, but another could be lanky and slim and be hilarious. I guess, to be friends, it can be anyone who isn't a deliberate dick. To be more than that, to begin with preconceived ideas on preferences will prevail, but you never know someone may slip past that and you don't see what they look like anymore but how you connect with them.
Women, I find someone with natural curves beautiful. I'm not so keen on exaggerated changes/enhancements, to be fair on both women and men as to me it looks weird (this does not include anyone who has had a sex change as that's a whole different kettle of fish). But again personality would win, would get over initial turn offs. Basically if your a dick I soon won't be interested however you look, but if we connect then it won't matter how you look.
MRS"
Preconceived notions can initially attract you to someone, but it's more than that, you're right.
I'm not really discussing that though. Nor personality or a myriad of things that aren't how a person looks. I find people are quite cautious/wary because they don't want to put people off. A part of me thinks that's quite a shame. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"When I was younger, I was mostly attracted to petite women. I think this preference derived from my early experiences with Ailsa, who was indeed a tiny little lady. As we’ve aged and matured and as our experiences have broadened, I’ve come to appreciate that attraction is a mysterious alchemy and I never really know who might light that fire, it’s predicated on such a broad mixture of qualities. I think it’s probably true that Ailsa’s current body shape still acts as a kind of default, because she’s the person who makes up the biggest and most intense part of my life sexual life, but much like our marriage, it’s no longer exclusive. I hope that makes some kind of sense Xx"
It more than makes kind of sense George, I do understand.
I think our formative sexual encounters, our relationships etc, they can all have an impact on what we find attractive. It doesn't mean others can't be attractive to you. |
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"I am way more fussy with guys than I am with women
With women attraction tends to be heavily driven by that 'click' you get with someone
With guys I am a bit fussy and far more clinical in my approach
I don't like really fit or muscly guys
I prefer average to stocky builds
Not too slim, not too large, not too
I once described it as 'they need to look like they look after themselves, but also enjoy a good pie'
Oh what a descriptor! That's really tickled me, beautifully put. I can think of exactly what you mean but it also has flexibility.
I've spoken to a few bi men where there's far more... rigidity surrounding what they're attracted to in men. That might be because they were hetero-romantic though, if that makes sense?"
I like 'Hetero-romantic'
I'll put it on my CV!
(I think you are correct in your observations btw) |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"On here, a man's preference is always curvy (aka boobs)
It riles me when people say they don't have a type for risk of offending potential meets.
Riles me Meli!!!
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You're expressing an awful lot of human emotion here, I'm proud of you.
It doesn't rile me, I just think it's kind of sad really. I like when people are confident enough to say what they like. Even if they don't have a particular preference. Is it confidence or is it not caring about potentially upsetting others? Not sure. |
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I think it’s difficult because as has been touched on already there’s a big difference between being initially, visually attracted to someone and seeing past the surface. I like to think that I’m attracted to a personality more than appearance and I honestly believe that I am although I do find my eye more often than not drawn to the more “cuddly” (for want of a better word) people, perhaps those red haired people and definitely someone with a gorgeous smile. That being said, I don’t need any of those things to be attracted to someone |
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"Yes. I my preference is the sexy body type.
*lies down hoping to be lavished with hot sexy women throwing themselves at me on a bed of soft pillows. …
What. Is. This.
No Woody that's just no. So you don't find yourself more drawn to a certain look? Size or shape?"
Size - tiny and small. Like smurfs, and probably slim women are my catagorical type.
But I’ve posted thread after thread about this, it’s very rare to find someone in my history of that type of woman. (There’s one or two) so it’s appropriate for me to say they are very nice to look at, but I don’t get along with an image. I get along with the person.
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Not in the slightest. I have no preferences to body types, however I can find the strangest of things can physically attract me to a person, like how one corner of their smile might be lower than the other or the way a curve of a bicep or shoulder looks when covered with a t shirt. |
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"With men, no. With women, absolutely!
I'm too excited so I'm replying to you quickly.
With women, are you, by any chance, more attracted to those who are zaftig?"
Oh god yes. Not as fat as me, but a glorious handful - a cup which runneth over. All curves and roundness and voluptuous softness.
I do occasionally have a crush outside my norm (I've a real thing for Clara Batten at the moment) but it's unusual. |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"With men, no. With women, absolutely!
I'm too excited so I'm replying to you quickly.
With women, are you, by any chance, more attracted to those who are zaftig?
Oh god yes. Not as fat as me, but a glorious handful - a cup which runneth over. All curves and roundness and voluptuous softness.
I do occasionally have a crush outside my norm (I've a real thing for Clara Batten at the moment) but it's unusual."
I will always associate zaftig with you because I'd not heard of that word until I read it on here. From one of your posts some time ago. It's rare I learn something like that from here and it's really stuck with me. So, thanks.
P.S The way you describe women that you're attracted to is truly glorious.
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A brain is of first and foremost importance. Then her voice, after that she's gotta be one I'd want to wake up with haha no preference on body type. Gushing squirters fast tracked to the front |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I think it’s difficult because as has been touched on already there’s a big difference between being initially, visually attracted to someone and seeing past the surface. I like to think that I’m attracted to a personality more than appearance and I honestly believe that I am although I do find my eye more often than not drawn to the more “cuddly” (for want of a better word) people, perhaps those red haired people and definitely someone with a gorgeous smile. That being said, I don’t need any of those things to be attracted to someone "
That's the kind of distinction I'm interested in. You can be drawn to someone more readily because of those features but at the same time they don't need to have those things. A preference, what you're drawn to isn't binding nor limiting.
Yet we can be so hesitant to mention it in case we put off others. It happens a lot on the forums? Away from, I've noticed people are far more likely to say what they're looking for aesthetically. That might be because it's more sex/fantasy based though? Who knows. |
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"Yes. I like big broad men. I’m not attracted to the slimmer man
The mind is most important .... but physically I tend to prefer taller broad men ...its not a totally a deal breaker of course."
I'm not attracted to slimmer men sexually, although I often appreciate them as attractive out of that context. For me it can be a deal breaker sadly. I dated someone who was great in every conceivable way. But naked and when having sex, it just wasn't there. I really, really wanted it to be too  |
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"With men, no. With women, absolutely!
I'm too excited so I'm replying to you quickly.
With women, are you, by any chance, more attracted to those who are zaftig?
Oh god yes. Not as fat as me, but a glorious handful - a cup which runneth over. All curves and roundness and voluptuous softness.
I do occasionally have a crush outside my norm (I've a real thing for Clara Batten at the moment) but it's unusual.
I will always associate zaftig with you because I'd not heard of that word until I read it on here. From one of your posts some time ago. It's rare I learn something like that from here and it's really stuck with me. So, thanks.
P.S The way you describe women that you're attracted to is truly glorious.
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"It's funny I was just thinking about preferences today.
I have preferences I tend to be drawn to more than others but they're not set in stone.
I also would never state my preference as others might not think they match they match when I believe they do.
Bit like the job descriptions we talk ourselves out of going for
Okay, I love this answer but it's giving... nothing.
So, what are those physical preferences you're more drawn to than others? Some examples of them?
Do you think if men state what they like it's a bad thing?
For arguments sake let's say I put that I'm not attracted to BBW. Define BBW, is there a scale? What I might believe is big and what you believe is big could be completely different "
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I haven’t been physically attracted to a white or Asian man for a long time, so I tend to say my preference is black men.
I’m attracted to black, white and Asian women though.
I prefer tall, broad men with anywhere from an athletic/muscular physique to a dad bod type. I don’t find myself attracted to the extreme ends of the scale in terms of fat or thin.
I find curvy women attractive. And whilst I find very petite women attractive too, I almost never play with them as it makes me feel beastly as I’m a large woman.
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"With men, no. With women, absolutely!
I'm too excited so I'm replying to you quickly.
With women, are you, by any chance, more attracted to those who are zaftig?
Oh god yes. Not as fat as me, but a glorious handful - a cup which runneth over. All curves and roundness and voluptuous softness.
I do occasionally have a crush outside my norm (I've a real thing for Clara Batten at the moment) but it's unusual.
I will always associate zaftig with you because I'd not heard of that word until I read it on here. From one of your posts some time ago. It's rare I learn something like that from here and it's really stuck with me. So, thanks.
P.S The way you describe women that you're attracted to is truly glorious.
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Having been fat all my life I probably know hundreds of euphemisms, but I love the earthy sexiness implied in zaftig. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 35 weeks ago
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"This might not be the thread you're expecting it to be.
When it comes to finding others attractive, do you have a particular body type you prefer/find yourself drawn to more often?
Is there one you don't find as attractive?
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I think the key phrase for me above is 'as attractive'.
I don't think there's a body type I've ever focused on specifically, but if I had to choose it would be someone I'd consider 'too thin'. Like the skeletal catwalk model look.
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I definitely have a type. I find myself lusting after rugby/dad type bods most of the time. I like a man who looks like he could throw me around. I would never say never but I do have some types that wouldn't be my fave but it isn't a deal breaker if we get on well. |
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We have absolutely no body type preferences as long as we BOTH find them attractive but we are drawn to the quiet girl next door type and then on the absolute opposite end of the spectrum we love the loud rock chick/goth type... sexy bonus point for tattoos and piercings... the more the better  |
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By *eli OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Yes. I my preference is the sexy body type.
*lies down hoping to be lavished with hot sexy women throwing themselves at me on a bed of soft pillows. …
What. Is. This.
No Woody that's just no. So you don't find yourself more drawn to a certain look? Size or shape?
Size - tiny and small. Like smurfs, and probably slim women are my catagorical type.
But I’ve posted thread after thread about this, it’s very rare to find someone in my history of that type of woman. (There’s one or two) so it’s appropriate for me to say they are very nice to look at, but I don’t get along with an image. I get along with the person.
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Of course. We all get along with the person. Well most of us do if we want to have sex with them.
Anyway, thank you. It was a direct answer to my curiosity and I appreciate it! I've said before, I don't think someone who catches your eye more readily means it's the only aesthetic type you can get hard/wet over. |
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"We have a preference for body’s that just wanna have fun.
You know earlier we were talking about the range of humour and what we find amusing?
Yeah..."
That wasn’t supposed to be humour.
It’s a fact.
A perfectly valid response to your op.
The body isn’t anywhere near as important as the actions, stiff bodied hard to read expressions and reluctance to be open are the main things that put us off.
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"We have a preference for body’s that just wanna have fun.
You know earlier we were talking about the range of humour and what we find amusing?
Yeah...
That wasn’t supposed to be humour.
It’s a fact.
A perfectly valid response to your op.
The body isn’t anywhere near as important as the actions, stiff bodied hard to read expressions and reluctance to be open are the main things that put us off.
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Okay. So let's see. One, I know for a fact that Henriette has a physical preference. One that's more likely to catch her eye.
Secondly, we're not talking about the additional stuff. It was directly asking about an aesthetic you like. The other stuff has been covered numerous times but there appears to be a reticence to discuss any actual physical preferences/likes etc that doesn't end in people insulting a demographic.
I think the majority of us wouldn't find a person attractive if they were stiff bodied, hard to read. There's probably a person somewhere in the world who faps to that idea though. |
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"This might not be the thread you're expecting it to be.
When it comes to finding others attractive, do you have a particular body type you prefer/find yourself drawn to more often?
Is there one you don't find as attractive?
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Personally, ideal for me is short...ie 5ft2 (I'm a short arse), 'average' body type, ideally nice ass\boobs and really dark eyes.
But that's an ideal, as long as I find someone attractive overall I'm happy...providing I can talk absolute bollocks with them. |
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"We have absolutely no body type preferences as long as we BOTH find them attractive but we are drawn to the quiet girl next door type and then on the absolute opposite end of the spectrum we love the loud rock chick/goth type... sexy bonus point for tattoos and piercings... the more the better "
Drawn to. Yeah, I think drawn to is perhaps a more accurate way to describe aesthetic attraction. I'm not sure I'm keen on preference as a word any more.
I think you can find certain things very attractive but it doesn't rule out others. I probably should have asked people if they have an aesthetic they're more drawn to. |
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"Absolutely. Tall, dark, fit and handsome is my definite and enduring phenotype. Short and skinny aren't for me. "
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"We have a preference for body’s that just wanna have fun.
You know earlier we were talking about the range of humour and what we find amusing?
Yeah...
That wasn’t supposed to be humour.
It’s a fact.
A perfectly valid response to your op.
The body isn’t anywhere near as important as the actions, stiff bodied hard to read expressions and reluctance to be open are the main things that put us off.
Okay. So let's see. One, I know for a fact that Henriette has a physical preference. One that's more likely to catch her eye.
Secondly, we're not talking about the additional stuff. It was directly asking about an aesthetic you like. The other stuff has been covered numerous times but there appears to be a reticence to discuss any actual physical preferences/likes etc that doesn't end in people insulting a demographic.
I think the majority of us wouldn't find a person attractive if they were stiff bodied, hard to read. There's probably a person somewhere in the world who faps to that idea though."
I see.
I don’t have a specific body preference Meli.
I like people.
Unfortunately that doesn’t really fit with your question so I’ll be sure to check my responses fit the criteria in future.
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I have a FWB who says he’s not into big girls but he can’t stop touching and squeezing me, even commenting on how attractive the plus size aspects of my body are (I mean my tummy haha). So I think he must enjoy bigger women but doesn’t consciously know it - is that cos he’s ashamed to admit it or has he always just accepted what society tells him is attractive and is only now realising he enjoys more? |
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Most here do not care. A fuck is a fuck.I do not have a type for that very reason.
It is what you do that counts more than body types. It like saying no to certain body types based on looks on profile. Me SEX IS SEX regardless |
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"Hi Meli x
I think I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t know what I like until I like it. I’m definitely a fan of eyes though, eyes that sparkle and sing!
Hi -man- x
Eyes are good. Are there any body types you know you don't like? "
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"Most here do not care. A fuck is a fuck.I do not have a type for that very reason.
It is what you do that counts more than body types. It like saying no to certain body types based on looks on profile. Me SEX IS SEX regardless"
I hope your interview went well today!
So sex is sex regardless of who you're with? So you don't have a preference as to those who you fuck? It's more just... sex. No bells or whistles attached. |
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"Most here do not care. A fuck is a fuck.I do not have a type for that very reason.
It is what you do that counts more than body types. It like saying no to certain body types based on looks on profile. Me SEX IS SEX regardless
I hope your interview went well today!
So sex is sex regardless of who you're with? So you don't have a preference as to those who you fuck? It's more just... sex. No bells or whistles attached."
Bells and whistles? Do you have a thing for Morris dancers Meli?
At a foundational level, there has to be attraction though, surely, no? Whether is their smile, what they have to say, the sound of her voice? Her laugh?! No? Just horny, need sex, who can I have sex with? |
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"This might not be the thread you're expecting it to be.
When it comes to finding others attractive, do you have a particular body type you prefer/find yourself drawn to more often?
Is there one you don't find as attractive?
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I'm drawn to those a fair bit taller than me, so at least 5ft 8. Slim/average/athletic build.
I don't find extremes of skinny/fat/overly muscley attractive. |
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"I'm not so keen on slim 'bean pole' look I'm afraid. I do love a beard on a man. That's what first gets my interest, however, it's always comes down to personality. They could be my idea of a god and be a twat, but another could be lanky and slim and be hilarious. I guess, to be friends, it can be anyone who isn't a deliberate dick. To be more than that, to begin with preconceived ideas on preferences will prevail, but you never know someone may slip past that and you don't see what they look like anymore but how you connect with them.
Women, I find someone with natural curves beautiful. I'm not so keen on exaggerated changes/enhancements, to be fair on both women and men as to me it looks weird (this does not include anyone who has had a sex change as that's a whole different kettle of fish). But again personality would win, would get over initial turn offs. Basically if your a dick I soon won't be interested however you look, but if we connect then it won't matter how you look.
MRS
Preconceived notions can initially attract you to someone, but it's more than that, you're right.
I'm not really discussing that though. Nor personality or a myriad of things that aren't how a person looks. I find people are quite cautious/wary because they don't want to put people off. A part of me thinks that's quite a shame. "
Apologies!!!!
So if I was on a naked attraction type show and didn't know them from Adam and was judging on appearances only.......for a man the type would be: beard and a bit of a rugged mountain man look, tattoos a piercing or three :D brown/black hair or going grey. His body shape would be sturdy and generally taller than me so I'd feel smaller and safer. Generally someone who could throw me around a bit.
A woman : I think approachable looking (ie I'd be put off by bitch faces as why would I want the drama - that's the impression it gives to me), boobs, bum as I want a hug with a bit of softness/squishiness. A kind/cheeky face
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I probably do have a type but honestly it’s hard to define, as chemistry for me is 70% personality, 20% looks………and 12% a love of maths…… Wait, it’s 10% anal
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