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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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"Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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I see Fab as a place to talk to and potentially meet interesting people who I can hopefully discuss things other than sex with, but who are obviously sexually open as well. Maybe that will lead to nothing but forum interaction or private messages. Maybe it will lead to meets. Maybe it will lead to sex. Dating? Maybe that too, who knows. As long as it's fun, it's good. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
I like meeting like minded people and having fun at socials etc not strictly about sex but it’s where I feel you can voice your kinks and explore without feeling weired about it haha
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"I've always seen FAF to be an acronym for FIT AS FUCK..  "
I've always seen it as a dire acronym that doesn't make me believe the person wants a fuck with me but it's kind of cheeky and "fun". I'm such a dick.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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It’s hard to explain when it comes to sex. I do try to protect my feelings., so easy hook ups when nobody is anything on the cards apart from getting each other off, is ideal. Also, it’s not fulfilling. It’s just a load of fun isn’t it?
So I’d like to get to know someone, even if it’s a chat over a couple of hours, and then it feels a little more like a one night stand, we might keep in touch afterwards for a while and then drift off.
I do like feelings, I like the romantic feelings… they’re the ones which can really hurt you.
I like the lustful feeling, the ones which are fiery, and you cannot wait to get your hands on somebody, because you’ve been pressing each other’s buttons, driving each other wild.
I like the hippy vibes, where are you just looking out for each other, you might have a flirt, it might be just on a friend basis, having a laugh.
I’ve discovered allsorts in fab. So yeh, I faf.  |
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"I see Fab as a place to talk to and potentially meet interesting people who I can hopefully discuss things other than sex with, but who are obviously sexually open as well. Maybe that will lead to nothing but forum interaction or private messages. Maybe it will lead to meets. Maybe it will lead to sex. Dating? Maybe that too, who knows. As long as it's fun, it's good. "
I like that approach to it. Being open to things but not necessarily forcing or scripting them in a particular direction.
I think so much of it can be down to timing and opportunity and if you try and fit it into a particular pigeonhole it can be... not as enjoyable. |
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I'm not actively avoiding feelings but I think I'm unlikely to develop them beyond FWB type scenarios.
I currently have one FWB who I see even when sex isn't on the cards - I don't characterise it as dating as there isn't the romantic element, more two friends on a night out who may or may not feel each other up.
For me it's more than just sex but less than a relationship. There are genuine feelings of friendship and love, just not romantic love. I'm in warm regards, not in love. |
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I enjoy the social side of it. Talking, making friends, having a laugh. Building a delicious connection until you can't wait to rip their clothes off. I also wouldn't rule out fwb, possibly dating. Anything beyond is a no from me right now. How about you OP? X |
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I enjoy people who I talk on forums with.
In DMs.
On WhatsApp.
I also have lunch friends
I have a couple of fringe benefits friends.
I guess I’m well rounded after all.
One of my favourite fab people ticks all of those boxes. Before we even met we knew we’d be mates. I like those kind of friends. Crossing all of the lines |
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‘It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away
I see my Marianne walkin' away…..’
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I am still
In truth learning to try to keep some very personal emotions for a rainy day and not spill them on here
But I really like the openess of Fab and in context on here to be able to discuss topics with like minded people is hugely cathartic
Meetings are great to take the opportunity to get to know more about the person. It’s great there
Is that understanding your’re on Fab first and that’s the common denominator |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Dates? Nope. You see it all too often on here, people want the dates, the "boyfriend experience", then inevitably along come the emotions and it all ends in tears.
I don't want to go for romantic meals and days out, but I do need something. A guy I can talk to, laugh with, have great (ok mediocre) sex with, even get a little lost in the moment of sex. But knowing full well that that's all it is, and we leave and he sees other people, I see other people, and we meet again. |
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I like a feeling. Getting to know them a little better by seeing what they’ve written on the forum, and the buzz when a message comes through.
There are the opposite feelings too, sometimes, but let’s not go there right now. |
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"Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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I’m open to whatever comes along...and is reciprocated Just so long as it’s all nice, happy and free of drama or hassle |
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Not a lover of FAF, think it's something said in jest in general.
I'm not looking to date, but friendship yes. Not one for suppressing feelings because numbness is not really an option. But I believe friendships can be found in all walks of life, so fab is no different. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Mostly it’s just sex. But there needs to be a connection there, someone I enjoy spending time with when we’re together, chat occasionally when we’re not.
I don’t want or need anything more than that. |
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"I have soft spots for loads of FAB people - even some who I just watch out for their posts on the forum but never actually have a 1-21 chat lol."
Aww soft spots! That's such a cute way of putting it.  I have a soft spot for a few Fab people. It's nice, isn't it? |
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"‘It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away
I see my Marianne walkin' away…..’
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My Guitar Hero pleasure  |
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"‘It's more than a feeling
(More than a feeling)
When I hear that old song they used to play
(More than a feeling)
I begin dreaming
(More than a feeling)
'Til I see Marianne walk away
I see my Marianne walkin' away…..’
My Guitar Hero pleasure "
First heard in I’m 1989 it was used in a top gun style Schlitz beer ad.
Love that song. |
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By *ANDA!Man 24 weeks ago
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Sex. If I make a friend then bonus, but even then it's not a friend, its just someone I know. I don't do feelings. I find it scarily easy to just turn feelings off and get on with whatever is in hand. The upside of a traumatic childhood |
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"Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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faf making me think faffing, but I’ve never ‘netflixed and chilled’ so
I dunno on the phrases |
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"One off meetings for sex
So strictly one off, never see again sort of thing? Fair enough. "
Yes, we are not looking for a connection beyond the evening. It’s a complete physical act for us to add to our own dynamic. |
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"Fancy a bum is more my current mood… 
Feelings aren’t usually a thing to control. Sometimes they develop, sometimes it’s mutual, sometimes that’s not a bad thing. Dates are fun, and can be dead sexy too. Then again I’m a shit swinger really aren’t I…  "
Maybe you're not a swinger. I'm not. That's cool. Maybe you are one and just do things in your own peculiar fashion. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Fancy a bum is more my current mood…
Feelings aren’t usually a thing to control. Sometimes they develop, sometimes it’s mutual, sometimes that’s not a bad thing. Dates are fun, and can be dead sexy too. Then again I’m a shit swinger really aren’t I…
Maybe you're not a swinger. I'm not. That's cool. Maybe you are one and just do things in your own peculiar fashion. "
You calling me peculiar!   |
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"It’s hard to explain when it comes to sex. I do try to protect my feelings., so easy hook ups when nobody is anything on the cards apart from getting each other off, is ideal. Also, it’s not fulfilling. It’s just a load of fun isn’t it?
So I’d like to get to know someone, even if it’s a chat over a couple of hours, and then it feels a little more like a one night stand, we might keep in touch afterwards for a while and then drift off.
I do like feelings, I like the romantic feelings… they’re the ones which can really hurt you.
I like the lustful feeling, the ones which are fiery, and you cannot wait to get your hands on somebody, because you’ve been pressing each other’s buttons, driving each other wild.
I like the hippy vibes, where are you just looking out for each other, you might have a flirt, it might be just on a friend basis, having a laugh.
I’ve discovered allsorts in fab. So yeh, I faf. "
Oh Woody you waffling Woody man.
Sex, just the act itself can be fulfilling for some. Clearly less so for others. I like the uniqueness of each friendship I have on here - that's important to me.
Romantic feelings can be hard, vulnerable, messy. It's worth it though, even if it doesn't last. |
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By *edeWoman 24 weeks ago
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Well when I slid back onto fab last year after a little break I was adamantly against any 'feelings' being involved. That worked splendidly 
So now I'm open to all kinds of dalliance/relationship - I do feel sex is better with some kind of base connection though  |
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"One off meetings for sex
So strictly one off, never see again sort of thing? Fair enough. "
Why a one off? I find that the best intimacy is with someone who I have gotten to know, you get to know each others likes and dislikes. So it gets
Better, I never did understand a one night stand. Surely the best bits are yet to come? |
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By *bi HaiveMan 24 weeks ago
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"Whilst I wait for my WhatsApp to restore saved data...
FancyAFeeling?
When it comes to Fab, is it strictly sex for you? Friendship? Are you open to feelings, actively avoiding them?
Are you happy to go on dates with those from Fab?
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Strictly sex? No.
Open to friendship and feelings? Yes.
Dates? Also yes.
Fab is what you want it to be. |
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By *eli OP Woman 24 weeks ago
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"I enjoy the social side of it. Talking, making friends, having a laugh. Building a delicious connection until you can't wait to rip their clothes off. I also wouldn't rule out fwb, possibly dating. Anything beyond is a no from me right now. How about you OP? X"
My WA restored with only five messages missing so I think that's a win.
Similar to you really. I love the social side. Enjoy going on dates if it's more relaxed, low pressure than standard dates. I'm not looking to and leaning towards actively avoiding dating dating right now if that makes sense?
There's no particular right way of doing Fab is there, it's more about finding those who are compatible with you and knowing that sometimes you're just not. For whatever reason. |
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By *sWyldWoman 24 weeks ago
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I like feelings. Butterflies, excitement, a bit of lust.
In some ways I fall a little bit in love fairly often but that doesn't mean I expect anything more than those delicious moments shared and embracing every part of them.
Dating is lovely, being intimate with someone is a whirlwind at times full of intense feelings and they only enhance the experience. I wouldn't want to close myself off to them.
I think people sometimes fear them or see them as only ever leading to hurt or disillusionment. It doesn't actually have to be like that |
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