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Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .
Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .
Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure ."
Where did you learn that  |
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"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .
Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure . Where did you learn that "
I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Trust in myself and the person I'm with. It mostly follows from that"
so for you, if you’re struggling to shake the insecurity is that telling of something bigger?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .
Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure . Where did you learn that
I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy ."
If only that were actually true |
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"Well I've been doing longer that you've been Stephen .
Most important things is to please excite anf enable the woman to relax and release any inhibitions and just allow her to enjoy the experience and then she will join in and reward you and make you happy .women have far greater capacity for pleasure . Where did you learn that
I've loved women from early age its so simple you make s woman happy she make you happy .
If only that were actually true"
It true pm me to discuss further |
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"Communication with partners; learning what they like/dislike.
what’s the best way to approach it you’ve found?"
It should be during an intimate moment (nothing worse than a formal check list) whereupon with inhibitions naturally subdued, you may ask if/how they like something (an act for instance).
Likewise, one should communicate one’s own preferences.
Time provides the best learning; the longer you spend together, the more you understand one another’s wants/needs and desires  |
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By *CLM87Woman 25 weeks ago
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Trust in yourself and have the confidence to say no or stop.
If your confident in this ability then you can truly relax.
As others have said communication is really important.. understanding what you both do or don't want. |
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By *eliWoman 25 weeks ago
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Having confidence in myself. Well, it's a work in progress.
I think even eight years ago I'd spend so much time in my own head. Worry I wasn't attractive, or the other wouldn't be attracted to me.
I've found that the happier I am in me, the more open I am to exploring and enjoying sex healthily, the more I have a desire to learn another's body and let mine be learnt. I have increasing confidence in communicating what it is I want, in finding out what another enjoys.
I'm not sure if that makes sense, wine before 8pm is not a good idea. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young 
Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.
Looks fade young man "
Don’t say that   |
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"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young
Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.
Looks fade young man
Don’t say that "
Yes but guys with a twelve inch cock who can sling it over their shoulders, always are in demand  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"One day, nobody will want you anymore, so do it as much as you can when you're young
Doubtful. I’m quite good looking.
Looks fade young man
Don’t say that
Yes but guys with a twelve inch cock who can sling it over their shoulders, always are in demand "
I’ll be alright then |
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"Trust in myself and the person I'm with. It mostly follows from that so for you, if you’re struggling to shake the insecurity is that telling of something bigger?"
It's more that I can't let go when I'm feeling that way, and I can't be what another person needs me to be under those circumstances |
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"Always take your wand, men will fail."
Some men will fail. I've never failed
Women sadly have got used to using artificial aids. Real multiple orgasam brought about from human far superior in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Having confidence in myself and loving my body.
It also helps to find someone you can open up to, be honest about your wants and desires.
Trust is also needed .
For me I need desire, attraction and for them to explore my mind not just my body.
Hope that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Learning not being afraid to ask for what I want and demanding mutual pleasure .... that sex is not all about him cumming.... sometimes in great sex he doesn't... oh and having confidence to say no. |
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I learnt through trial and error. No computers in my day. You learnt as you went along. Then the first guy I lived with was a bit older than me so he taught me somethings. Then I did a lot of experimental things with my ex husband |
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"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave  "
So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out |
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"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave
So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out "
No, where he’s got it wrong is not wiping his knob on the curtains whilst she can’t see. |
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"Women don't appreciate it when you accidentally cum in their eye, let them find something to wipe it, and then go "cheers babe" with a smack on the ass as they leave
So we should cum in the mouth, so as not to blind her, before a cheers babe and the obligatory slap on the arse on the way out
No, where he’s got it wrong is not wiping his knob on the curtains whilst she can’t see."
Thank you both for teaching me. I can't wait to try these out!  |
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Having sex with a variety of different women has taught me that they are all different and they all enjoy different things. What works for one doesn’t work for another - just adapt and go with the flow and you will find the thing she likes. |
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"Remember when the boys were all electric?
I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent
J
I got it Stephen! See ^^^"
Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line |
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"Remember when the boys were all electric?
I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent
J
I got it Stephen! See ^^^
Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line "
It was my permanent earworm yesterday every time I saw this thread |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Confidence and communication. It's not a performance, just two (or more) people having fun trying to get each other super horny.
As for how you'd ask, there's not a special trick. Just a 'what do you like?' can cover it.
Good sex is all about engaging with the other person and you both just enjoying the fuck out of each other. And you both need to do it. If only one person is making an effort, it makes for incredibly lacklustre sex.
The opposite of good sex is passivity. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Remember when the boys were all electric?
I actually had a book called Sex Tips for women from a gay man. The hand job tips were excellent
J
I got it Stephen! See ^^^
Dammit and I was just scrolling through to see if anyone said the next line
It was my permanent earworm yesterday every time I saw this thread "
Julie. I know you get me. You’re great like that |
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Not that you need any help.
These are just my thoughts and don't apply to all females.
Look at sex from the woman's point of view.
They like trust and a connection before sex.
Stimulate her mind and her body will follow.
Read female magazines, Marie Clear or Cosmopolitan to understand more about the opposite sex. There are/were no good tips in FHM/ the men's magazines back in the day. Changes magazines to websites today.
And always be a gentleman in reputation and in public. Treat her like a queen in public and her bedroom is yours. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Learning good communication, owning my own desires, relaxing and remembering that sex should be fun and can contain plenty of laughs. Plus practice, practice, practice
Loss of great books helped too, off the top of my head I remember:
-Sex Outside the Lines - Chris Donaghue
-Come As You Are - Emily Nagosk |
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I think going on dates and seduction and this sounds bad but certain bdsm scenes are not spontaneous, they feel it to the other but are literally lived in the mind in detail first , I learned this from someone on here actually, planning to engage all the senses and imagination , it’s game changing |
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Haven't read the whole thread so may be doubling up.
Asking her. Not as an interrogation (I am capable of not interrogating people). But, in those quieter, softer moments of relaxing and re-buulding, touching, seeing her response, asking, adding things if wanted.
Asking again the next time.
Listening to what she volunteers when not asked.
Helping her find confidence to ask for things she may have buried a bit.
Shutting up and letting bodies just find out.
Shutting up again.
Plus, what works well with one woman may not work at all with another, so it's always about learning.
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In my youth, reading porn that was (allegedly) written by women. Reading problem pages in women's magazines, again in my youth.
If the opportunity presents itself, asking someone what they DON'T like to do during sex. |
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