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Is it important to have an orgasm during sex?
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By *mmaleiaWoman 34 weeks ago
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"For me, yes would you meet someone again if your didn’t have one "
the 1st few times you have sex with somebody, you expect it to be awkward & you’re both getting to know each other, that would be taken into consideration |
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By *eliWoman 34 weeks ago
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No it's not.
I come quite easily. I think that's made me focus more on the other things I love about sex. Orgasms are great, of course they are.
What I really adore is the journey though. Those first touches, the first time my mouth teasingly goes lower. The first time feeling someone's body pressed against mine, seeing them without clothes. Those moments just before someone orgasms where there's that delicious erotic charge. I adore the build up, seeing another unravel because of me.
I think there can be too much pressure surrounding orgasms. Like if you don't have one or give one to another, you've not done The Sex right. That's so far removed from the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I always like the girl to orgasum with foreplay toys , fingers and oral, before I have sex just think it makes things more interesting "
Sorry bad typo in the spelling  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I posted a thread 'would you rather'
Have awesome hit sex but never orgasm again
OR
Have more intense orgasms but never have sex again.....
For me, I couldnt orgasm during sex for many many years in my youth so ai know 100% that I can have incredible sex (some of the best have ever had) without cumming.
Sex is about SO much more than climax (for me) |
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It's important for me that she gets to cum, preferably several times. I would love to orgasm myself during sex, but for various of those reasons that Steve hints at, it becomes increaingly unlikely. Polly xx |
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"No not really. Not for me anyway. I’d probably be a bit upset if he didn’t though I would imagine. Although I’d not say
Don’t worry.
I’m not leaving until I’ve mucked on your tits  "
Oh Sam you do know how to give me a minge twinge |
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"This is aimed at all genders.
Appreciate that not all men can finish easily for a variety of reasons"
For me it's not that important. Its more important for me that the men or ladies I'm playing with orgasm xx
Cali |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Yes, it does matter to me. I make sure my partner has at least one orgasm, preferably more ideally to the point when they need a nap. I usually have two-three. I am partial to a quickie, but it doesn't happen as often as it used to, and these days I like to arrange those. |
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"Yes, it does matter to me. I make sure my partner has at least one orgasm, preferably more ideally to the point when they need a nap. I usually have two-three. I am partial to a quickie, but it doesn't happen as often as it used to, and these days I like to arrange those."
How can you make sure though? I very often don’t, especially if it’s first time with someone. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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The thing is, both men and women can be on both ends of the scale. The premi and the delayed.
Lolly for example can orgasm very quickly, for me - not so easy, that said I personally will put in overtime to ensure the female orgasms at least once in fact I have had a previous partner whom was a challenge (my poor jaw lol)
I'd quite happily make a woman cum without finishing myself.
I guess it really depends on the person and the comfortability factor, situation and mental closeness.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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No. As long as both people have enjoyed themselves and are happy then no an orgasm isn't necessary.
Having said that, it's very rare for me not to orgasm, in fact I'm not sure it's ever not happened.
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It’s not that important to me as long as the sex is enjoyable, but of course it’s great when you both do, at the same time.
There’s so much more to adventurous enjoyable sex than the orgasms, I find some people are so obsessed with cumming or making you cum to the point it feels like the sole purpose for the fuck & spoils the sex, |
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"Yes, it does matter to me. I make sure my partner has at least one orgasm, preferably more ideally to the point when they need a nap. I usually have two-three. I am partial to a quickie, but it doesn't happen as often as it used to, and these days I like to arrange those.
How can you make sure though? I very often don’t, especially if it’s first time with someone. "
yeah this is the same for me. I rarely if ever orgasm with someone I'm not very familiar with. I've had some very nice times but haven't orgasmed from it. They could be amazing but my head stops me x |
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I like to cum but it is not a killer for me. I like to hold it for as long as I can to make sure she is fully satisfied and if I have held it for a decent time it probably means that I can finish without cumming. I do know many ladies like to feel you pulsing and throbbing as you cum whilst you are deep inside her fucking and if that is what she wants then more than happy to oblige. |
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Hmmm
For us no. There is no absolute guarantee of orgasm everytime.
Generally we do stuff that each other likes - a la.. " do that thing for a few minutes... it feels amzing.. don't care about orgasms"
Its more about enjoyment and the while expereince than russhing to a guaranteed orgasm. Or qorde somepne desperatly trying to make you cum ehen its jsut never going to happen for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I know for me it’s not a given on a first meet so I’ll allow it, but if it doesn’t happen on subsequent meets then I reckon there’s just not enough of a connection there. If I’m comfortable it’ll happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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In the 3 years we've been swinging I've (male half) not been able to finish once, yet as soon as we are home and just the two of us I can go 2 or 3 times so I think for me it's psychological but doesn't stop me enjoying myself. |
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I almost never orgasm during sex, so no. I can count the number of people who have made me cum on one hand, and it's hardly ever through penetrative sex unless a toy is also involved. Sex is about more than just orgasm for me. I get plenty of amazing orgasms on my own when I masturbate, nobody makes me cum better than me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Yes, it does matter to me. I make sure my partner has at least one orgasm, preferably more ideally to the point when they need a nap. I usually have two-three. I am partial to a quickie, but it doesn't happen as often as it used to, and these days I like to arrange those.
How can you make sure though? I very often don’t, especially if it’s first time with someone. "
It just takes time to get to know someone. Men are wired to have an orgasm with whoever they mate with (I know it's a generalisation), whereas women take longer to get comfortable with a new partner. I like it when a woman is upfront with me so I don't spend time on futile efforts. I once had a partner who would only orgasm once. That's how her mind and body worked and there was no point trying to force a second orgasm. So we played in different ways. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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For me no. I take along time to cum and can thoroughly enjoy a session without cumming.
I do get turned on by making someone else cum so it would bother me more if they didn't.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"For me no. I take along time to cum and can thoroughly enjoy a session without cumming.
I do get turned on by making someone else cum so it would bother me more if they didn't.
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It takes a while to bring me to orgasm, the price I pay for being able to stay hard for longer. But it's also fun for both of us as it gives my partner(s) more time to explore. I am definitely not a touch-n-cum man. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I don't have an issue orgasming in the right company/ in sex itself, so I'd have to be not enjoying it to not orgasm. I get off on others come, so again, I'd really hope to make that happen.
If people can't cum easily but are having fun, that's great, but I'd hope to know that they struggle with it first, or I'd take it as a sign they aren't that into me/ what we are doing. |
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By *irthandgirthMan 34 weeks ago
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It can take a lot to tip me over the edge so I don't get hung up on if I cum or not.
Sometimes I'm just concentrating on my partner and forget.
Sometimes the sex has gone on so long we have fucked ourselves to a standstill before I've cum.
One one occasion I had to call an ambulance as we had both died of exhaustion (totally true, honest).
Sometimes I'm dehydrated and it won't happen.
As long as everyone has fun it's all good |
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It's not an absolute given.
Though I do like to see and feel a guy cum when they're in me, but if they didn't at a first meet I wouldn't be put off. I enjoy the sex, the feeling of a cock in me, kissing, touching.
I love a guy licking me for ages but I'm more likely to come playing with my fave toys or myself. A close second is if I'm on top and he is able to stay hard and hold back.
Sex is more than just about the orgasm.. |
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