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Is it actually hard to meet people from this site?
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
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By *eliWoman 34 weeks ago
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For me? No.
For others? It might be.
I don't mean that in a conceited way, far from it. It can be difficult in terms of logistics and syncing free time but it's more than worth it. I'm quite lucky and find I attract those I'm attracted to. Or vice versa. |
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In Manchester? Yes. It seems that everyone in this city is looking for BBC or hung guys. I guess it depends on the context of meeting too. Getting to socials is easy, meeting people for sex is another thing |
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Yes it is for many people. My evidence for that is the number of people who say so.
I think if people are open to meeting socially in groups with genuinely, absolutely zero expectations and are happy to arrange those type of meets locally to them many would find it much easier. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
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Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply. "
If they don’t like your face, nothing else matters. No matter how good your message is |
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Again, it all depends on what you're looking for and WHO you're looking for/speak to.
It will be very hard for single males as your're a tiny fish in a humongous pond and there's no reason why someone would pick you and not one of the thousands of others. Especially if they are predominantly messaging single women.
Couples, we've not met anyone else yet but I do think the possibility is there as you are initially more in tune with exactly what your're both after so just as question of clicking with the OP.
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We haven’t been short of offers, getting offers from people we’d want to meet or who align with our desires is much harder.
We could meet 100 single guys a day.
We meet most couples at clubs and so far, we’ve enjoyed every visit! |
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"We haven’t been short of offers, getting offers from people we’d want to meet or who align with our desires is much harder.
We could meet 100 single guys a day.
We meet most couples at clubs and so far, we’ve enjoyed every visit! "
Make that 101.
And 101 dalmatians alone looked like a lot so I wouldn't advise 101 horny men that's just too much isn't it |
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It all depends on what one is looking for as a Tv it is really easy Men (but they don’t really interest me tho) Also it seems easy to meet other TVs and crossdressers (but finding those that I like is quite difficult) finding women who like TVs is difficult (but not impossible). Basically it depends who you are and what you seek that makes it hard or easy to get meets, |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply. "
This!!! As much as sex is about the connection, there has to be an attraction. Wild to me how many people will message without any pics on their profile or attached to the message.
Thats why i feel parties/clubs are where it's at. You end up vibing with people you probably wouldn't chat to on here. In person energies are hard to replicate on a profile |
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By *edeWoman 34 weeks ago
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For me yes but that comes more down to being a bit pathetic at actually organising something myself or calendars just never linking up. Also nerves 
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If they don’t like your face, nothing else matters. No matter how good your message is "
In a nutshell. 
But this is no different to any walk of life.
What was the strap line on that classic Saturday night live sketch "Sexual harassment and You" ?
"Be attractive, don't be unattractive."
I had exactly this - can we have a face pic. Nope, we're not interested. Ultimately it's hardly a level playing field. Every woman on here has so much choice why would she not cherry pic the very best. it's her prerogative to do so, and if the table was turned I'm sure we would also.
Me, I've got to the point where I really don't PM anybody now for an encounter. I'll send a pm to complement on a picture or a status but otherwise I'm pretty much pissing into the wind compared to the competition out there.
if I get a wink or a fab likewise, I'll thank them in a PM but other than that I've come to the conclusion that if a woman really liked or was curious about what I had to offer she'd ask herself, no point competing with the other 100 men every hour trying to push their way between her legs.
And that's not being defeatist or negative, its being realistic. I can't change the way my face looks, or the length or girth of my dick, so it is what it is.
Anecdotally, we had a multi millionaire customer who we got to know quite well. He was on his 6th divorce and we asked him about his toys and women and lifestyle, and he replied in his wonderful matter of fact american way that after wife number 6, "I know i"m no underwear model so take my word for it, from experience; if it floats, flies or fucks - just rent it, it'll be less hassle and cheaper in the long run".
I had to laugh, and it proves that other than he had a metric ton of cash, he was no different to anyone else in that respect. |
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Thats why i feel parties/clubs are where it's at. You end up vibing with people you probably wouldn't chat to on here. In person energies are hard to replicate on a profile"
Absolutely. Meeting in the real can totally change a perception or preconceived idea of what someone is like or how they appeared in that photo taken with their potato camera selfie setting. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply.
If they don’t like your face, nothing else matters. No matter how good your message is "
Face
Body
And personality
One without the others is no good! |
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Never had any problems meeting people socially or otherwise from here.
You seem popular OP , are you asking for you or a friend ? I would ask what specific problems you/they are encountering as lots of people of all genders seem ready to meet on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Never had any problems meeting people socially or otherwise from here.
You seem popular OP , are you asking for you or a friend ? I would ask what specific problems you/they are encountering as lots of people of all genders seem ready to meet on here "
I do ok on here yeah. Not asking for myself. More just curious about people’s experiences as I see a lot of unverified profiles on search which have apparently been here for some time. Are they fake? Idk. If they’re not, are they struggling to meet? You know? |
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"Never had any problems meeting people socially or otherwise from here.
You seem popular OP , are you asking for you or a friend ? I would ask what specific problems you/they are encountering as lots of people of all genders seem ready to meet on here
I do ok on here yeah. Not asking for myself. More just curious about people’s experiences as I see a lot of unverified profiles on search which have apparently been here for some time. Are they fake? Idk. If they’re not, are they struggling to meet? You know? "
One of my filters is must be verified so all those who have the same wouldn't even show up for the unverified who then are in a vicious cycle. |
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I think it depends.
For us, absolutely not since we changed to club meets only. However, private meets, we've manage 4 with 3 people, I couldn't say how many time wasters we've encountered who were well verified.
Perhaps it's also abit of a postcode lottery, some people will just have more options where they are, some more rural areas may be more limited |
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I imagine some people struggle because of other things in their lives holding them back (confidence, anxiety, material cicumstances...or at the other extreme they may just be obviously unpleasant or seriously deluded people).
Some may prefer (or find it safer) to get their rocks off virtually than in the flesh.
Some may be pitching "what they have" badly towards what others have/offer, and there's an incompatibility there.
I was verified well 2016-2020 profile, profile 2023 is unverified, but I don't really have a strong need of a veri this time for a number of reasons.
So...short version...I don't think it's that hard to meet, it depends more on knowing what you want from the site, who the matches may be, and then how to go about it.
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By *sWyldWoman 34 weeks ago
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Yes, no, maybe.
I think I probably could meet people if I wasn't fussy who or where or how. I am though so it becomes a bit more complicated.
Finding someone I want to meet who also wants to meet me and then logistics working for us both is actually really tricky sometimes.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work. |
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"I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work."
Exactly this. If anyone knows about getting meets it’s Joe  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work.
Exactly this. If anyone knows about getting meets it’s Joe "
Careful, people will think I've shagged the whole site  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"For me yes but that comes more down to being a bit pathetic at actually organising something myself or calendars just never linking up. Also nerves
I'm such a shit swinger - must try harder "
This is 100% me |
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"Never had any problems meeting people socially or otherwise from here.
You seem popular OP , are you asking for you or a friend ? I would ask what specific problems you/they are encountering as lots of people of all genders seem ready to meet on here
I do ok on here yeah. Not asking for myself. More just curious about people’s experiences as I see a lot of unverified profiles on search which have apparently been here for some time. Are they fake? Idk. If they’re not, are they struggling to meet? You know? "
I think the 80/20 rules applies to online dating and fab , though as with other things it’s more likely 95/5….. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work.
Exactly this. If anyone knows about getting meets it’s Joe
Careful, people will think I've shagged the whole site "
Let them think what they want!!
Some of us KNOW you’ve shagged the whole site  |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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It's definitely difficult to meet compatible people who are looking for the same thing.
There are so many non swingers on this site that also make it more difficult. |
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"I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work.
Exactly this. If anyone knows about getting meets it’s Joe
Careful, people will think I've shagged the whole site
Let them think what they want!!
Some of us KNOW you’ve shagged the whole site "
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I suppose it depends on the type of meet you're looking for. You could easily find a group social or club event, book a train, book a hotel and there you have it.
Meeting one to one might be much more difficult in terms of attraction online, in person, diaries matching, what your expectations are etc.
Also, I imagine for guys, they do have to work a bit harder and put more effort into this in order to make it work.
Exactly this. If anyone knows about getting meets it’s Joe
Careful, people will think I've shagged the whole site
Let them think what they want!!
Some of us KNOW you’ve shagged the whole site "
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If i disregard my personal safety and don't mind giving up my limited free time to have a depressing shag with a guy who sees me as nothing more than a living fleshlight - ya super easy to get a meet.
Finding a meet that's about mutual enjoyment, shared experiences, and doesn't spring it on me that they actually want a girlfriend... much more difficult.  |
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We could meet a lot more but for us it’s finding the people who’ll fit our dynamics and us theirs.
That takes time chatting to establish if the right connection is there. So it’s not an overnight process.
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With all the fakes and fantasists on this site, then you have to find people that fit your dynamics and then find a four way attraction  .
It's getting quite hard. We tend to stick to clubs and meet people at large group socials. |
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By *host63Man 34 weeks ago
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply.
If they don’t like your face, nothing else matters. No matter how good your message is
Face
Body
And personality
One without the others is no good! "
The trouble is personality is not readily apprent on first messages and women on here expect too much |
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By *host63Man 34 weeks ago
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"For me? No.
For others? It might be.
I don't mean that in a conceited way, far from it. It can be difficult in terms of logistics and syncing free time but it's more than worth it. I'm quite lucky and find I attract those I'm attracted to. Or vice versa."
You are a woman it's always going to br easy. Either in the lifestyle or outside of it. |
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"Managed two meets in three years. Not through lack of effort either.
There’s far more men than women so I think it’s luck of the draw whether your message is actually read and that you hit it off.
Maybe lucky that it gets read. But replies aren’t luck tbh. You get replies if you’re attractive. People can deny it all they want about creative messages blah blah but if they like your face and your profile they will reply. "
But most of the people I've met from here we didn't exchange face pics prior to meeting.
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Similar to many people, getting offers is one thing but finding people who there is a bit of an attraction to, who are also attracted to us, are looking for the same sort of things from swinging meets and are free on the same dates we are is tricky.
Combine that with time wasters and last minute drop outs and it can be difficult to meet people on here. That's not to say it doesn't happen at all though. |
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By *oxesMan 34 weeks ago
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"Similar to many people, getting offers is one thing but finding people who there is a bit of an attraction to, who are also attracted to us, are looking for the same sort of things from swinging meets and are free on the same dates we are is tricky.
Combine that with time wasters and last minute drop outs and it can be difficult to meet people on here. That's not to say it doesn't happen at all though. "
Sorry but I love this username. |
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yes ... maybe im also too fussy! But i dont want quantity!
Too many chasers who then ghost! I started my own rentaghost!
Seriously disheartening! 
