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By *andT2023 OP Couple 39 weeks ago
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Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??  |
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By *sWyldWoman 39 weeks ago
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I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
seriously, you’re gorgeous x |
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Sadly, I don't know how you get over that nagging feeling, OP. I think most people feel it at times: I know I do.
I guess you've just got to trust that the vast majority are honest when they say they find you attractive and do your best to bank that... |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
I think you look bloody good (although I'm definitely not in the category you're describing lol)
We all have things we worry about or don't find attractive about ourselves. It doesn't mean other people even notice them. Trust that if they're messaging they've seen things about you they like
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your curves are sensational so nothing to worry about there
but I do hear you on the self-doubting front, I think we all do that from time to time
if you are getting nice messages then enjoy it, if the messages aren't so nice they can get lost. |
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By *andT2023 OP Couple 39 weeks ago
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"I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. "
True no ones run away ..yet lol but its that feeling someone might be disappointed . Hard to explain |
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"True no ones run away ..yet lol but it’s that feeling someone might be disappointed . Hard to explain "
Believe me, even the most superficially ‘perfect’ people often feel the same way about themselves.
We all have impostor syndrome at some level, sometimes.
Try not to listen to that worry at the back of your brain, and believe some of the compliments in this thread instead. |
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By *sWyldWoman 39 weeks ago
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"I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be.
True no ones run away ..yet lol but its that feeling someone might be disappointed . Hard to explain "
I get that feeling too. You can't control how others feel though and you can only be you. Its all these things we need to remember more often. Plus, chances are they have all the same worries! |
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By *andT2023 OP Couple 39 weeks ago
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Just read it back ..it really isnt a fishing for compiments thread ..as nice as they are . I just cant get my head around around it ..and i am worried to engage too much in case its a joke at my expense . |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
They are just toiling away in thr gym to make themselves attractive for you. Your curves have them enraptured, your beauty has them on a leash. Let them worship you and enjoy their adoration. This is your time to shine. |
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I feel the sammmmme!!!!
I used to be thin, I gained 5 dress sizes over 18 months so I'm struggling to find acceptance in my own skin and 100% don't believe any compliments I get.
It's a weird balance and just gaining more self confidence isn't an easy feat, if it were, someone would be rich from sharing the secret!  |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
In my personal opinion you have a great body and should be proud to show it off |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
If it's any cancellation I feel exactly the same but in reverse. I've just fabbed all your images, they're gorgeous, you carry yourself really well, and your femininity just shines through.
It's for others to appreciate you. Just be yourself and keep doing what you're doing. and keep being amazing! |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Just read it back ..it really isnt a fishing for compiments thread ..as nice as they are . I just cant get my head around around it ..and i am worried to engage too much in case its a joke at my expense . "
If there's one thing I know, it's that there's someone for everyone. |
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"I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. "
Absolutely this. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others!  |
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"I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others! "
I'd swoon over you in a heartbeat. throw the accent in, and I'd be a mess on the floor. |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Maybe you are a little cynical.
Just like women, men find all sorts of things attractive and it doesn't always tie in with their own appearance.
In early 2020 (pre lockdowns) I was dating a 20 year old who as way, way hotter than me! I couldn't imagine why she was so into me but, turns out she found my natural (disaster) body sexy.(we're both theatre people so, it's not like she didn't know guys with gym bodies!) she said it was partly because she felt guys who spent all their spare time on their bodies tended to have little else going on personality-wise.
If someone finds you attractive, I say, try not to question it. Just enjoy it and hope they never realise that they're out of your league! Or, alternatively tell yourself that no one is out of your league because, you ARE the sport! |
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"I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others! "
This!
There's more to a person than their body shape. For example, I'm an absolute sucker for pretty eyes. It doesn't matter if you're a stick or thick, if you have pretty eyes, I'm probably going to be interested! |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
You’re perfect as you are
Just remember to use your gut feelings and don't be fooled by the sweet talk as some guys will say anything to get you in bed on here (and in none fab life I guess)
They want sex and as long as you want sex without the promise of walking into the sunset and getting married with 2.4 kids then all is good and every one is happy.
Have fun, life’s short just go into it with your eyes wide open |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be.
True no ones run away ..yet lol but its that feeling someone might be disappointed . Hard to explain "
If they give you the feeling that they're disappointed then they weren't worth it anyway.
By the way, you look wonderful  |
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By *orny PTMan 39 weeks ago
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"Just because you've been conditioned to believe every bloke is only ever looking for an FHM cover girl, doesn't mean its true.
Have you ever heard the expression 'Meat for men, bones for dogs?' "
I haven't and some women are naturally skinny and that could be taken the wrong way. |
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By *andT2023 OP Couple 39 weeks ago
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"OP, if this was written by a bloke. would the comments be patronizing and the overused "he's just wallowing in self pity , to get a shag" be mentioned.
nice arse by the way "
Thsnks and absolutely wasnt intended to be a pity post. I realised its how some would read it after i posted it . It was a genuine fear i had ..that i was being taken for a mug. |
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"I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others! "
Ive looked at your pics. Very nice. I like the poses, very playful and classy. Accentuates rather than diminishes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
If you ever figure out that trick can you please let me know. It’s so much easier to see in other people than ourselves. I can look at your pictures and wonder why on earth you have anything to worry about and maybe somebody looks at mine and wonders the same thing but it’s doesn’t change our own doubts about ourselves.
Just know you’re not alone in having these worries and no, you’re not cynical, we all just need a bit of self belief sometimes |
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By *tevew9Man 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
In the real world i can understand your cynicism. But on a dating site, specifically something like fab. The responses are 90/95% truthful and are likely to celebrate your size |
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By *aizyWoman 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??
If you ever figure out that trick can you please let me know. It’s so much easier to see in other people than ourselves. I can look at your pictures and wonder why on earth you have anything to worry about and maybe somebody looks at mine and wonders the same thing but it’s doesn’t change our own doubts about ourselves.
Just know you’re not alone in having these worries and no, you’re not cynical, we all just need a bit of self belief sometimes "
100% this, you really aren't alone or cynical OP. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others!
I'd swoon over you in a heartbeat. throw the accent in, and I'd be a mess on the floor."
What accent? |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
You have a beautiful body. I just looked at your pics and if I were blessed with that body I’d be a happy lady x |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"OP, if this was written by a bloke. would the comments be patronizing and the overused "he's just wallowing in self pity , to get a shag" be mentioned.
nice arse by the way
Thsnks and absolutely wasnt intended to be a pity post. I realised its how some would read it after i posted it . It was a genuine fear i had ..that i was being taken for a mug. "
It absolutely didn't read as a pity post. And you're certainly not the only one! |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Going by what I see in your pictures there is absolutely nothing wrong with your body I think you look beautiful x |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I feel precisely the same. I've had men message and say I have a great body - they're surely taking the piss?
But I do think it's up to us to find positive things about the way we look. Some days it's easier than others!
Ive looked at your pics. Very nice. I like the poses, very playful and classy. Accentuates rather than diminishes. "
Thank you. |
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OP I feel exactly the same. Its stopped me from fully engaging in the site and moving forward...I can feel sexy at a coffee meet but with no clothes on 
I'm trying to ignore those doubts because confidence is sexy. And just hope when someone sees me naked they don't just walk out! Your photos are amazing. We all need to just accept ourselves for who we are 
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
It’s a swingers site. Just shag them and get over yourself. You have the confidence to upload your pics then wonder why people might want to have sex with you? Body beautiful by the way, is in the eye of the beholder. I get the confidence thing though but if they’ve reached out… go with it, I say! |
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This may be helpful to hear, OP. I’ve been lucky enough to sleep with a wide range of men, including a fair number of conventional attractive, ripped muscular cuties. I consistently hear from them that they actually struggle to pull big girls. They like big women, they approach them, the big woman assumes he can’t be into her and declines (leaving lucky Trixie to clean up ).
If a man approaches you there’s a very good chance he wants to touch you with his dick.
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??
It’s a swingers site. Just shag them and get over yourself. You have the confidence to upload your pics then wonder why people might want to have sex with you? Body beautiful by the way, is in the eye of the beholder. I get the confidence thing though but if they’ve reached out… go with it, I say! "
I don't think you do get the confidence thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Unfortunately I think most of us who are curvier feel like this at times! Particularly because we were teens in the 90s when it was all stick thin models being celebrated - if you look back at magazines and adverts from then you’ll be shocked to see that we were constantly told we were not sexy unless we were a size 8!
A few years ago after my divorce and when my body changed a lot following kids etc I dated someone who was on here as well. He was a godsend - he adores curvy women and constantly told me how sexy I was. He took me to a nudist spa, and said he was going to show me off - and while there he pointed out people who noticed me and liked what they saw. It did so much for my self esteem.
We then played with a few really curvy ladies too - and seeing how much he enjoyed their bodies, truly enjoyed it and wasn’t faking, really got me to understand many guys adore curves. Some days I still find it hard to believe but trust me - curves are SEXY!
So don’t doubt yourself, go with the flow and enjoy the attention. I think your pics are lovely and there’s definitely a few men on here that will find you super sexy! |
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By *andT2023 OP Couple 39 weeks ago
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"Unfortunately I think most of us who are curvier feel like this at times! Particularly because we were teens in the 90s when it was all stick thin models being celebrated - if you look back at magazines and adverts from then you’ll be shocked to see that we were constantly told we were not sexy unless we were a size 8!
A few years ago after my divorce and when my body changed a lot following kids etc I dated someone who was on here as well. He was a godsend - he adores curvy women and constantly told me how sexy I was. He took me to a nudist spa, and said he was going to show me off - and while there he pointed out people who noticed me and liked what they saw. It did so much for my self esteem.
We then played with a few really curvy ladies too - and seeing how much he enjoyed their bodies, truly enjoyed it and wasn’t faking, really got me to understand many guys adore curves. Some days I still find it hard to believe but trust me - curves are SEXY!
So don’t doubt yourself, go with the flow and enjoy the attention. I think your pics are lovely and there’s definitely a few men on here that will find you super sexy!"
Thanks so much .. confidence boost n a couple of gins and i am all for it.lol |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Hmmm, maybe a little bit then fab can easily do that to a person as well. I can only give one guy perspective on it but as someone who isn’t body beautiful or with a particularly attractive mug, I don’t get messages at all except once in a extremely rare blue moon from body beautiful or any other type and rarely get a response if I message first, so I’d say if they’ve actually put some effort in to messaging you and connecting then don’t let that niggling voice in the back of your head spoil your chance to explore and enjoy yourself. Remember though people have different tastes in what they find attractive and beauty is subjective so if they message you properly and you think they’re hot then forget thoughts like that and focus on whether they are serious or time waster etc and worth your time cos in the end it’s more important that they act and behave right if they want to know you then looks etc. Plus if they’ve made the effort to send a proper message then obviously they do think your attractive just the way you are x |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
I'm not even remotely attractive and I've actually been turned away because I was "too good looking".
I was complimented and offended at the same time lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
I can only comment on the lady's pics but I'd advise walking to a place where you'll never go back, taking those nagging feelings with you, and when you get there, closing your eyes, and then putting the feelings down on the left side of your body, and then walking away, without looking back, and going home. Back home to the real world, where you're in the zone of knowing that your body type is 100% what most men desire......but it's the zone where you choose what man you want. And the body beautiful may not be right |
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By *TaR105Man 39 weeks ago
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I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
What, them pics of you are stunning, you have an amazing body, you dont have any worries in that department, DM me, i would be fine to rub that Genie bottle x |
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By *hilloutMan 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Body beautiful is a term open to wide interpretation. Do you mean the classic definition of physically attractive? (Slim, fit, muscular/athletic). If so, keep in mind that people that fall in this category have lots of options and should have no trouble in pairing with similar. If they've specifically shown interest in you, their attraction is genuine. Revel in it and enjoy.
Great pics as well Op |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Wow! Yes very cynical
I think I’m in good shape and love all kinds of body types , I guess start by knowing your value.
No idea what you’re like as a person but believe me - physically you are HOT ! |
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As a chunky girl myself I get this feeling 100%, perhaps stemming from horrible people in the past?
Having an answer athletic build, doesn't automatically make a person only attracted to athletic built people. Everyone's different but, more people than you think can and do appreciate a soft curvy body.
Take some time for self care, try an outfit a little out of your comfort zone. Buy yourself some new lingerie, take pictures of your body from several angles. Sounds daft but the more you actually look at your body the more accepting you become of it.
For the record, beautiful photos  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
You have a great Body x |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I think we all feel like that at times, I certainly do.
However ultimately you need to remember that in all the times you've ever got naked with someone they've never ran away or been put off.
We are harder on ourselves than anyone else would be. "
Again very sexy |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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My wife was like that at the beginning when we started swinging. She would get approached in clubs by every body type you can imagine. Super skinny, fat, ripped and lean and even big body builder types.
She came to the realisation that these people were into her and not doing it for some kind of dare or other nefarious reason.
But that confidence comes with time. |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Possibly
I learnt a long time ago that people are not necessarily attacted to the same body type as themselves. Fit men can most definitely be attracted to voluptuous women.
Sexy and attractive has a lot to do with confidence.
I'm a somewhat chunky and curvy size 16 but don't lack male attention when in clubs and there's always bigger ladies than me enjoying attention as well.
I would simply try to accept that they do indeed find you attractive.
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I think most people feel it OP no matter their size or shape.
Took me a long time to believe that people on here were attracted to me and still have doubts sometimes but you need to push past those negative thoughts.
You look sexy to me.
Maybe try to believe some of these people who message and start building your confidence,it'll make the world of difference.
Em x |
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We've both definitely got body insecurities and are really trying to get into the mind frame of sod it this is us take it or leave it.
When we've met a genuine couple and we feel comfortable all our insecurities go away and we do forget about it all.
If someone likes you then they like all of you xx |
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"...this is us take it or leave it.
When we've met a genuine couple and we feel comfortable all our insecurities go away and we do forget about it all.
If someone likes you then they like all of you xx "
True wisdom. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
We all have very different tastes in lovers. Accept that you ARE beautiful in every but just a different model. I think you look amazing x |
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"We've both definitely got body insecurities and are really trying to get into the mind frame of sod it this is us take it or leave it.
When we've met a genuine couple and we feel comfortable all our insecurities go away and we do forget about it all.
If someone likes you then they like all of you xx "
Very hot!! |
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I've been on here 5 years and often have the feeling. Of the men I've chatted with and men I've met I've asked a few why me?
A lot like the fact I have the confidence to show off my body and they find that sexy, others just apparently love how I look.
There are a lot of men out there who love the larger ladies which really did surprise me as you don't get that impression when out in real life.
It's about being confident just being yourself.
I still get the feeling you have sometimes but I try to put it to the back of my mind, if a man is willing to chat and get to know me, arrange a meet, turn up, have sex and ask to see me again I can't be that bad. |
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By *orny PTMan 39 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"OP, if this was written by a bloke. would the comments be patronizing and the overused "he's just wallowing in self pity , to get a shag" be mentioned.
nice arse by the way
Thsnks and absolutely wasnt intended to be a pity post. I realised its how some would read it after i posted it . It was a genuine fear i had ..that i was being taken for a mug. "
I understand, I was just playing Devil's advocate and showing how easy others can get the context so very wrong. Frustrating isn't it? |
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By *orny PTMan 39 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"Unfortunately I think most of us who are curvier feel like this at times! Particularly because we were teens in the 90s when it was all stick thin models being celebrated - if you look back at magazines and adverts from then you’ll be shocked to see that we were constantly told we were not sexy unless we were a size 8!
A few years ago after my divorce and when my body changed a lot following kids etc I dated someone who was on here as well. He was a godsend - he adores curvy women and constantly told me how sexy I was. He took me to a nudist spa, and said he was going to show me off - and while there he pointed out people who noticed me and liked what they saw. It did so much for my self esteem.
We then played with a few really curvy ladies too - and seeing how much he enjoyed their bodies, truly enjoyed it and wasn’t faking, really got me to understand many guys adore curves. Some days I still find it hard to believe but trust me - curves are SEXY!
So don’t doubt yourself, go with the flow and enjoy the attention. I think your pics are lovely and there’s definitely a few men on here that will find you super sexy!"
Nudist colonies are an absolute game changer: I should know. |
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By *aneyyMan 39 weeks ago
london |
Hey I’m a gym fit gym who stays in very good shape, my type is definitely not gym fit women at all. I go for thicker fuller women with curves, cellulite and in my opinion a womanly shape, ohh and booty lol.
Honestly I think it’s women who hold each other and themselves to strict body standards. I can assure you most guys have a very wide range of body type they will find attractive for different reasons. If a guy sends you a message it’s because he likes what he sees |
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Not cynical, but unconfident and seriously misguided! Fancying you isn't a case of 'settling for someone less than perfect'! If you look at your photos, I actually fabbed your pics only this morning! Haha! I love a girl with curves, wobbly bits. I am not turned on by slim, thin, skinny or anorexic! I actually, literally PREFER, what skinny chasers would probably call overweight, to thin. I adore the FEEL, the LOOK of a curvy, ripe body... I call it a luxurious bidy. And that's not just tits and arse!-thats thighs-adore Big Beautiful Thighs-yes love the sight and feel of chunky thighs that have cellulite. A big Beautiful Belly-sexy as fuck as it moves. LOVE how rounded curves move, a gorgeous, mouthwatering sight to behold when fucking!
HOPE you get the message!-that it isn't a reality that ALL guys only REALLY like thin (supermodel?-that is such a bad term) -Kate Moss is supposed to be one of those. Really?? Yuk! Too thin! 
Undoubtedly some blokes DO go for thin. People have wide varieties of taste- yourself, you won't fancy some guys that SOME girls would wet their pants over!
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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It's worth meditating on the question itself, as well as the answer to it.
Many people will attest to finding your specific body type attractive (and they mean it sincerely), but many more will actually not have really thought about it - instead finding you attractive because of your relationship/lifestyle, or because of something you said/did. Or, simply, that they don't find you unattractive, and know that they won't be able to develop an attraction to anyone until/unless they've developed some sort of relationship with them (which can be as simple as finding out you find them attractive - the most attractive quality for many people!).
So, how do you define attractiveness? And why do you, internally, define it in a way that places you outside of the "circle of attractiveness"? And, can you change that? Deconstructing what it means to be attractive might allow you to re-draw that circle, or draw multiple circles, or.. whatever you like, it's your circles. But it can also teach you something about how other people are drawing theirs, consciously or not.
As an example, I find myself very attractive but I don't find masculine-presenting people attractive at all, or dominant people for that matter. That's ridiculous, right? |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Lovely curvy, woman. You have nothing to worry about, your gorgeous as you are. |
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By *hoirCouple 39 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
In a nutshell yes. Why wouldn't they find you attractive?
I get around these thoughts by saying to myself "it's arrogant of me to assume I know all of their thoughts" and "why do I assume they'd be horrible to me like that?"
It's not very nice to think that people only ever want to be nasty, it helps to reset my negative thinking somewhat
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By *irthandgirthMan 39 weeks ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
There are many people on here who aren't so shallow to just go on looks. I would pass up a 10/10 with the personality of brown rice to meet someone I clicked with, or who made me laugh.
People have different priorities. A supermodel body doesn't mean someone will be engaging, funny, charming, intelligent, passionate or (given this is Fab, good in bed or filthy).
I just find people to connect with. |
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
You have a beautiful body no need for doubts
Am i getting cynical ?? "
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"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
Very lol
You are very sexy love the photo's |
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Take people as you find them and don't overthink. Attraction isn't a game of top trumps anyways. Its far more intresting and multifaceted. I think you get a grip of who's genuine and who's not in this game. If they're genuine and you like them too cease the moment and don't self sabotage.
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OP I agree with the other posters you look great. However I would caution you to remain cynical about compliments on fab from men. This is a sex site! And a lot (not all) will say anything to get in your knickers! |
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By *hesblokeMan 39 weeks ago
Derbyshire village |
Mad to think about, isn't it, can't believe there are those out there who find me attractive (promise, honestly). But you gotta believe, cos if I absolutely love bigger women then some ppl will absolutely love super skinny blokes. Variety is the spice of life, and we can't all like the same stuff, that would be terribly dull!  |
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By *essTTWoman 39 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ?? "
This is the exact reason why I haven't met any one new in over a year
I'm only attracted to slim men but there's always a voice in my head that tells me slim men aren't attracted to my body shape so I prefer to stick to guys who I've already been with and who know what to expect when the clothes come off |
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By *hesblokeMan 39 weeks ago
Derbyshire village |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??
This is the exact reason why I haven't met any one new in over a year
I'm only attracted to slim men but there's always a voice in my head that tells me slim men aren't attracted to my body shape so I prefer to stick to guys who I've already been with and who know what to expect when the clothes come off "
See? They do exist. Thankyou |
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By *essTTWoman 39 weeks ago
Birmingham |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??
This is the exact reason why I haven't met any one new in over a year
I'm only attracted to slim men but there's always a voice in my head that tells me slim men aren't attracted to my body shape so I prefer to stick to guys who I've already been with and who know what to expect when the clothes come off
See? They do exist. Thankyou "
Sorry? |
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By *hesblokeMan 39 weeks ago
Derbyshire village |
"Hi
I am sure you will notice i am no supermodel from my photos ...with that in mind how do i get over the nagging feeling when someone messages , who happens to be the body beautiful, that its some joke ..they cant possibly find my soft body attractive.
Am i getting cynical ??
This is the exact reason why I haven't met any one new in over a year
I'm only attracted to slim men but there's always a voice in my head that tells me slim men aren't attracted to my body shape so I prefer to stick to guys who I've already been with and who know what to expect when the clothes come off
See? They do exist. Thankyou
Sorry?"
Women who like skinny blokes |
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Firstly OP, you’re gorgeous. And some of your photos are just stunning!
How you get over it though… I wish I knew. I used to be much harder on myself and my looks than I am but I got over it. Well not completely but now to the point of caring less what others think. I don’t know how, and I don’t know when or why this happened but… yeah.
Sorry that’s not more helpful. I was kinda hoping it would be when I started lol |
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