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I suppose Strings, are mostly feelings? Some form of commitment to stay in contact and be open with them to more than just sex?
For me, I view contact between meets as a string, and I like it. I speak to people that I have met,(sometimes sporadically though) but I know thats not for everybody. They become friends, hopefully, as well as lovers
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"My hard limit would be hanging out publicly with them near where I live. Is that a string?
Mrs TMN x"
I don't know Mrs NipNips, it's quite an individual thing isn't it? I wouldn't say that hanging out with someone near where you live is a string but also... I wouldn't do it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"I suppose Strings, are mostly feelings? Some form of commitment to stay in contact and be open with them to more than just sex?
For me, I view contact between meets as a string, and I like it. I speak to people that I have met,(sometimes sporadically though) but I know thats not for everybody. They become friends, hopefully, as well as lovers
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Feelings. Yes. Not Feelings but feelings with a small f. That's kind of how I see it.
Contact as a string makes sense. Is it a string though? I don't know. Is NSA just a quick fuck in a club kind of thing? Or a one night stand where you message in the run up intermittently and then it's done? I'm pondering, hence the stream of consciousness.  |
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"Always strings please.
I want to give a shit.
I want to fuck people that give a shit  "
This for me too. Not looking for love or commitment but care about me and my feelings please and i will do the same. This would include being honest with me and being reliable |
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I think for me it's about the 'non-committal' aspects when it comes to the type of NSA that I look for and seek. I need meaningfully-entrenched feelings and a mutual connection but they don't need to be deeply rooted to the point it resembles a bonding or an affinity with emotions. |
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I’d like to know the origin of the phrase.
I take it to mean show up, have sex and then leave without any emotional attachments, commitment or expectations outside of the sex - after all, the intention I’d imagine is that you’re not expecting a restaurant date or long term relationship expectations.
In my mind perhaps it’s an old phrase that’s still around but now its meaning is a bit blurred vs say pre internerd?
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I love strings. With a capital S.
I want to feel fond of him and be affectionate with him. I want to linger with him and watch a film after we fuck. I want him to be a friend I have the hots for.
If men don't want strings, I'm not for them.
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"I love strings. With a capital S.
I want to feel fond of him and be affectionate with him. I want to linger with him and watch a film after we fuck. I want him to be a friend I have the hots for.
If men don't want strings, I'm not for them.
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By *rispyDuckMan 44 weeks ago
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No strings to me means:
- this is just sex not a romantic/ traditional relationship
- no emotional feelings involved
- what you do or who else you see besides me is non of my business & vice versa 
- I don’t need to know your schedules
- no lovely dovey stuff that could lead to developing emotional attachments
- late night booth calls are ‘Acceptable’ |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I love strings. With a capital S.
I want to feel fond of him and be affectionate with him. I want to linger with him and watch a film after we fuck. I want him to be a friend I have the hots for.
If men don't want strings, I'm not for them.
Swoon. "
Not for 95% of the men who message me |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"Always strings please.
I want to give a shit.
I want to fuck people that give a shit "
How does fucking people that give a shit/having strings with them works in a more casual capacity?
Let's say you went to a club and went Glug Glug 3000 on someone. What reasonable level of give a fuck would you have? |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I suppose for me with any fwb I've had, when we are in the house it's basically like a relationship, cuddles, food, drink, talk, watch a film.
You walk out my door on your ones though oright  |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"In my head it means for a man I’m going to fuck you once then disappear and for a woman it means don’t get attached I don’t want a relationship "
Is there such a marked disparity in how different genders view it?
Perhaps on Fab it might appear that way but that's possibly because we tend to talk more about the bad rather than the good. That's a shame but an aside. |
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"In my head it means for a man I’m going to fuck you once then disappear and for a woman it means don’t get attached I don’t want a relationship
Is there such a marked disparity in how different genders view it?
Perhaps on Fab it might appear that way but that's possibly because we tend to talk more about the bad rather than the good. That's a shame but an aside. "
Panda’s Mel,
Eats, Roots, Shoots and Leaves. |
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"Always strings.
Fall in love with everyone, even if it’s just for an hour or two."
Delete love insert lust and it's accurate for me unless they have the capacity to fall back out of love just as quick. |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"I think for me it's about the 'non-committal' aspects when it comes to the type of NSA that I look for and seek. I need meaningfully-entrenched feelings and a mutual connection but they don't need to be deeply rooted to the point it resembles a bonding or an affinity with emotions."
What are meaningfully entrenched feelings that don't have an affinity to emotions? I've tried rereading that several times and I'm still not getting it. So you want the act of feelings without actually having them?
Like a girlfriend experience that an esc*rt would offer? That's not snark, I couldn't think of a similar thing. |
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The strings for me are people who see it for more than it is - it was a fun night, we got on well, we all enjoyed ourselves and we left on good terms. Maybe we will meet again, maybe we won’t but neither party is beholden to the other. |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"Can I just say I like *some* strings attached?
Different relationships have different amounts of strings. More strings, fewer strings, longer strings, shorter strings … "
No, this is far too much of a wishy-washy answer (it's cool, it's you, you can say that).
Obviously strings vary relationship to relationship - what are some for you though? Common strings. |
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"Always strings please.
I want to give a shit.
I want to fuck people that give a shit
How does fucking people that give a shit/having strings with them works in a more casual capacity?
Let's say you went to a club and went Glug Glug 3000 on someone. What reasonable level of give a fuck would you have?"
Fair point.
Sometimes in a club there's just a pretty penis I want to Glug Glug 3000 on and never hear from again.
But that's a hedonism in the moment thing rather than something I ever spend time seeking. I wouldn't entertain talking to someone on here just for the sake of that |
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Strings for me are people thinking they can tell me who I can and can't see or how many people I can be seeing at the same time.
Also, telling me they had to be the only person they are seeing.
I don't see emotions as strings. |
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"In my head it means for a man I’m going to fuck you once then disappear and for a woman it means don’t get attached I don’t want a relationship
Is there such a marked disparity in how different genders view it?
Perhaps on Fab it might appear that way but that's possibly because we tend to talk more about the bad rather than the good. That's a shame but an aside. "
I would think so but I have nothing but uconscious bias to go off |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Strings are feelings (loving feelings just to make that clear). It’s an agreement that whatever it is, can end quickly when someone moves on from the other. That’s how I see it. |
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"Strings are feelings (loving feelings just to make that clear). It’s an agreement that whatever it is, can end quickly when someone moves on from the other. That’s how I see it. "
Really though, that’s how every relationship should be.
If someone no longer wants to be in the relationship, both parties should end it quickly and courteously. |
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"Obviously strings vary relationship to relationship - what are some for you though? Common strings. "
Okay, to me ‘strings’ means responsibilities.
I have responsibilities to my job. Work comes with strings attached. I have responsibilities to my dog. Pets come with strings attached. Same goes for relationships - even casual ones. They come with responsibilities. Like the responsibility to not hurt the other person’s feelings unnecessarily.
That the strings, for me. And I don’t think there are ever absolutely *no* strings between two people. Although they can be very, very minimal and/or loose ones. |
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I guess I would say "no strings attached" when I don't want that person to become emotionally or psychologically attached to me. Fuck buddies who just fuck. I've had some dynamics like that in the past and they're good for dealing with horn but they don't really do anything for me especially.
I found in my experience men use NSA when they don't want any emotional obligations to the person, but they are happy to take emotional support, and give it sometimes. On their terms.
Hopefully we're evolving beyond that, especially in the scene, where NSA arrangements are still negotiated and discussed and approached with respect, rather than being shrouded in smoke and mirrors. |
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"Strings are feelings (loving feelings just to make that clear). It’s an agreement that whatever it is, can end quickly when someone moves on from the other. That’s how I see it.
Really though, that’s how every relationship should be.
If someone no longer wants to be in the relationship, both parties should end it quickly and courteously."
I like this x |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"I’d like to know the origin of the phrase.
I take it to mean show up, have sex and then leave without any emotional attachments, commitment or expectations outside of the sex - after all, the intention I’d imagine is that you’re not expecting a restaurant date or long term relationship expectations.
In my mind perhaps it’s an old phrase that’s still around but now its meaning is a bit blurred vs say pre internerd?
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I think so, yes, definitely. I think now there's not such a clear cut definition. Sex has changed somewhat hasn't it? A poster (I think Nicecouple) spoke before about how things were thirty odd years ago. Socially things have changed, even more so with technology and the ease of communication etc. |
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I'd say at least for me personally, strings aren't so much feelings as emotion in sex can be fun.
But to me being able to be vulnerable with someone is a huge string as it's very much a long term relationship thing in my eyes |
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"I’d like to know the origin of the phrase.
I take it to mean show up, have sex and then leave without any emotional attachments, commitment or expectations outside of the sex - after all, the intention I’d imagine is that you’re not expecting a restaurant date or long term relationship expectations.
In my mind perhaps it’s an old phrase that’s still around but now its meaning is a bit blurred vs say pre internerd?
I think so, yes, definitely. I think now there's not such a clear cut definition. Sex has changed somewhat hasn't it? A poster (I think Nicecouple) spoke before about how things were thirty odd years ago. Socially things have changed, even more so with technology and the ease of communication etc."
I am curious - when did the definition change such that “no strings” actually means “some strings”?
I appreciate that I am probably a dinosaur so might have missed this but it doesn’t seem like a definition that is that easy to “blur”. |
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