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By *stella OP Woman 41 weeks ago
London |
Question - has this happened to you?
Just met someone for a social, planned for a while, they mentioned in passing they’d had a Fab encounter just prior to coming to meet me (like hours before).
Not sure how I feel.
How would you feel if it happened to you? Do you do this yourself? Interested in thoughts. |
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By *r_PinkMan 41 weeks ago
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"Question - has this happened to you?
Just met someone for a social, planned for a while, they mentioned in passing they’d had a Fab encounter just prior to coming to meet me (like hours before).
Not sure how I feel.
How would you feel if it happened to you? Do you do this yourself? Interested in thoughts. "
I am a dirty old man darling and it would probably turn me on!
but thats just me |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.
Funny. This happened to me once. |
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By *stella OP Woman 41 weeks ago
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"Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.
Funny. This happened to me once. "
Really? I have to admit, my bad, but I didn’t imagine a woman would do that. How wrong I am!
Sucks a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Firstly, I feel like they could have spared your feelings by not mentioning it at all.
I’d probably be a little pissed off. If I’m meeting someone I want their full attention and if they’ve just been having sex with someone else hours before are they going to be fully present with me? Or is their mind going to be wandering. Did they have to cut their encounter short because they’d already made plans to meet me?
It would put a dampener on things for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.
Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"
Lmao not everyone wants seconds  |
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If i had planned to meet them id be disappointed unless i knew they were having a play meet and had arranged to meet them because they would be in the area so knew what i was getting into. Id have no issue with it
If they had been on a fab encounter and id met them before and we happened to bump into each other then fine.
If they were meeting me and had also purposely booked to meet someone else on the same day beforehand i would be uncomfortable with that and i think a little peed off.
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By *aizyWoman 41 weeks ago
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I don't think it would bother me if we were meeting for a social but, I would wonder why they felt the need to mention it. Maybe they thought it would be better coming from them rather than you seeing a veri from someone else they met the same day as you? Tbh I have no idea its not something I'd do. |
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"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.
Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"
Swinging doesn't mean it's a free for all.
People should still be respectful of others and give the time and attention they deserve.
Clubs are a far different atmosphere than making plans with someone personally and meeting up. |
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"I don't think it would bother me if we were meeting for a social but, I would wonder why they felt the need to mention it. Maybe they thought it would be better coming from them rather than you seeing a veri from someone else they met the same day as you? Tbh I have no idea its not something I'd do."
Hopefully they had a shower at least |
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"Nah I would feel like they didn’t value me and the social we had planned together. Also would be a bit like wtf bro why would you do that.
Funny. This happened to me once. "
Or the person they'd just been with.
Yeah, sorry, go to go... Social with someone in half an hour! |
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"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.
Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?"
I don't agree with that.
There are other ways to play, swing, have encounters, however you like to phrase it.
Just because you wouldn't be bothered, doesn't mean everyone wouldn't.
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"If it bothers you, maybe swinging is not for you.
Is it any different if a woman shagged in a club & offered you seconds?
Lmao not everyone wants seconds "
Tell the gang bangers that, not everyone is the same, thankfully. Bye the we would not do it, too tiring |
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By *aizyWoman 41 weeks ago
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"I don't think it would bother me if we were meeting for a social but, I would wonder why they felt the need to mention it. Maybe they thought it would be better coming from them rather than you seeing a veri from someone else they met the same day as you? Tbh I have no idea its not something I'd do.
Hopefully they had a shower at least "
 
Sorry OP, I thought they had met someone else for a social on the same day as you. If they met someone for sex and then met me for a social and told me about it, nope I wouldn't like that at all. |
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It wouldn't bother me that they'd met someone prior to me, but what would bother me would be the lack of discretion and respect for the person they had met and make me wonder if I would be the next meets gossip. No thanks, I wouldn't be about to find out |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Oh that’s a tough one Estella. It hasn’t happened to me but I wouldn’t be impressed.
Or maybe it happened but how would I know if they wouldn’t have told me? It’s a difficult one. "
This op. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Was it a social meet?
I’ve met socially with more than one person in a day. Less than two hours apart. I didn’t so much as kiss either person though. Had a drink with one. Dinner and drinks with the other. I wouldn’t see anything wrong with that if I was meeting someone socially.
They could have spared the details of having just had sex with someone else, but unless your meet was not intended to solely be social I don’t see it as them treating you as a number. |
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Who is this guy?
We're all struggling to get a meet and he has two in one day 
It's not something I'd have mentioned myself, but at least he was honest with you. Maybe they struggle for time and had the other planned for a while. If you were just meeting for a social, I don't think it would bother myself |
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My feeling is that there's no intentional harm or disrespect meeting more than one person in a day.
For sure there is a lack of tact and discretion in mentioning it.
We all know we are not the only one. That's ENM. No one needs that fact displayed ungraciously though and it's natural to feel a bit off in the knowledge that one's potential paramour's attention may not be fully focused and sincere in the moment. It's a very human reaction. |
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I want to feel that I'm special to the person I'm meeting even if it is a social. I know I'm not and I know its possible that they are seeing other people but lie for goodness sake or at least don't mention it.
I know this is illogical given the nature of swinging but... |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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Fab can be odd. I’m a slut at heart, and have no problem with fucking around. But if I arrange to see someone it’s always a big deal. I spend 3 hours getting ready, I want it to be a special experience, even if it’s one night. I wouldn’t arrange two meets in one nights. Are they out of line for meeting twice in one night, or am I a prude? |
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By (user no longer on site) 40 weeks ago
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At parties and clubs people can often be seen playing with different people at different times of the night. It really shouldnt be a surprise that someone on fab might have more than one partner in a day. Being open and honest about it is a good thing and should never be discouraged. |
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It wouldn't bother me in the slightest as I am not expecting exclusivity from anyone on here. I would actually be impressed they still turned up despite them having some fun on the same day and this being just a social. |
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That seems kinda rude to us if we plan a social with someone we make sure that we don't have anything else arranged for a few days before and after. If you happen to say that it's a single male are you really surprised that he would be trying everything he could to try getting interaction with as many as possible |
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"It wouldn't bother me that they'd met someone prior to me, but what would bother me would be the lack of discretion and respect for the person they had met and make me wonder if I would be the next meets gossip. No thanks, I wouldn't be about to find out"
How would you feel then if you only found out they met someone else on the same day from the verification they posted after both meets? Would that have been better? I think that person chose honesty over deceit, and there was no information in the OP's post how much was said about the meet prior to the social. |
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