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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" 6 months free site supporter Mr | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" I liked that when I was new I was given some forum help on how to reply+quote, where to post appropriate threads and the biggie.... just a hello was great | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" I’ve been a member for a while but only started using the forums recently because of responses from other members. And also abuse for not being verified (public and private) - you don’t stand a chance of getting verified without chatting so I never understood why people do it. Recently I just said fuck it and decided I would try get involved more. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x I’ve been a member for a while but only started using the forums recently because of responses from other members. And also abuse for not being verified (public and private) - you don’t stand a chance of getting verified without chatting so I never understood why people do it. Recently I just said fuck it and decided I would try get involved more." Glad to hear and welcome again to the forums | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x I liked that when I was new I was given some forum help on how to reply+quote, where to post appropriate threads and the biggie.... just a hello was great" Some are really nice to new people...others not so much x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x I’ve been a member for a while but only started using the forums recently because of responses from other members. And also abuse for not being verified (public and private) - you don’t stand a chance of getting verified without chatting so I never understood why people do it. Recently I just said fuck it and decided I would try get involved more. Glad to hear and welcome again to the forums "Thanks Sparkle. I had the day off from work today and had loads of fun getting involved | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. " This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. " That's a good point x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included." I think that was the point of my thread. I know people get told "oh just keep at it" but it can be disheartening to some x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included." It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off | |||
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"We are quite new to the forums and we love them for their content and discussions. However I tend to stick more to the 'Swingers' section as whenever I reply to a thread or post anything in 'The lounge' I tend to be ignored. I understand that people have hot to know each other on here and hold no grudges etc just my honest opinion on why I don't get involved as much in the lounge S xxx" You aren't the only one to point it out. Usually threads end up a conversation between 3-5 contributors which kind of spoils it I think....so much for them being all inclusive x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off " The forums cliquey, never
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"When I first joined a while ago, I'm sure similar to most single chaps, I had a number of profiles message me or reply basically saying to go away. However I think I'm going to try and make an effort to get involved in the forums again after a fair while away from them. " Good for you. Everyone forgets they were all new at one point too | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off The forums cliquey, never
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off " It certainly does and despite how many times people say the forum isn't cliquey years of experience has shown me that it really is. I try to include newbies, I shall make more of a conscious effort | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! | |||
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"We are quite new to the forums and we love them for their content and discussions. However I tend to stick more to the 'Swingers' section as whenever I reply to a thread or post anything in 'The lounge' I tend to be ignored. I understand that people have hot to know each other on here and hold no grudges etc just my honest opinion on why I don't get involved as much in the lounge S xxx You aren't the only one to point it out. Usually threads end up a conversation between 3-5 contributors which kind of spoils it I think....so much for them being all inclusive x" Thanks Sparkle for starting this thread 
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off It certainly does and despite how many times people say the forum isn't cliquey years of experience has shown me that it really is. I try to include newbies, I shall make more of a conscious effort " It's usually the ones who say there is no clique are instigators | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off The forums cliquey, never
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The forums are very cliquey, which makes it hard for new people to come in and be a part of it. "In 8 years of using them they have never changed, only the faces change.. Unfortunately as they are not as inclusive as people like to scream and shout about, often by the most uninclusive. Mr | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off It certainly does and despite how many times people say the forum isn't cliquey years of experience has shown me that it really is. I try to include newbies, I shall make more of a conscious effort It's usually the ones who say there is no clique are instigators "Isn't it just, glad it's not just me noticed that | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter!" I do also think that if your first newbie comment is "looking for wanking buddies in Hull" you're going to get a bit of sarc | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter!" When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory | |||
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"We were all new once. When does a newbie stop being a newbie? " When they become part of the 'clique' | |||
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"We were all new once. When does a newbie stop being a newbie? " I'm screwed if I know | |||
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"We were all new once. When does a newbie stop being a newbie? When they become part of the 'clique' "Good answer | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! I do also think that if your first newbie comment is "looking for wanking buddies in Hull" you're going to get a bit of sarc" But why though???? That's what I don't get | |||
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"We are quite new to the forums and we love them for their content and discussions. However I tend to stick more to the 'Swingers' section as whenever I reply to a thread or post anything in 'The lounge' I tend to be ignored. I understand that people have hot to know each other on here and hold no grudges etc just my honest opinion on why I don't get involved as much in the lounge S xxx You aren't the only one to point it out. Usually threads end up a conversation between 3-5 contributors which kind of spoils it I think....so much for them being all inclusive x" To be fair, when I first joined, I would always post on the more simple and innocuous threads that are just a bit of fun and found that if I wanted replies, I should reply to others first. I don't think it's fair to expect people to just reply to your posts. You have have to include yourself as much as others have to include you. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory " I think you missed the joke  | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off It certainly does and despite how many times people say the forum isn't cliquey years of experience has shown me that it really is. I try to include newbies, I shall make more of a conscious effort It's usually the ones who say there is no clique are instigators
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! I do also think that if your first newbie comment is "looking for wanking buddies in Hull" you're going to get a bit of sarc" That's very true, although I also see the argument that if you don't like what you see, then don't post. Works well in theory | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke "No I didn't but you can see how comments can be taken in the wrong context | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke "Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around." Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" It's only more recently that I have actually engaged and been more active in the forums, but that was due to an anxiety issue which is the same issue I deal with in real life interactions too. That's always a relevant but great question none the less to raise OP! x I'm not sure though. No one can push/force them to get involved in here to be honest. So I guess my answer would be they'll arrive here when they arrive. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
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"We were all new once. When does a newbie stop being a newbie? When they become part of the 'clique' "If a known member of the clique replies to your forum posts does that then mean you’re part of the clique? Also, if you do become part of the clique is it a lifetime membership or can you be expelled? Or leave of your own accord? | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x It's only more recently that I have actually engaged and been more active in the forums, but that was due to an anxiety issue which is the same issue I deal with in real life interactions too. That's always a relevant but great question none the less to raise OP! x I'm not sure though. No one can push/force them to get involved in here to be honest. So I guess my answer would be they'll arrive here when they arrive." I know they can't but I just think if they were made to feel more welcome then a lot more would stay | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few " All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr | |||
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"Hi guys we are kinda new and new to the scene we have just started looking in the forum section . We are going to try our best to participate haha " Welcome...they can be fun at times | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr " I like that | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr I like that "Facts innit Sparkle
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr " This | |||
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"Hi guys we are kinda new and new to the scene we have just started looking in the forum section . We are going to try our best to participate haha " Just a few things I’ll divulge to help you be noticed and accepted… If you’re the girl half then you’ll do well. If you’re not the girl half then you’re better off not letting that slip. Also… always display a picture of the girl half or nobody will reply to you. Good luck  | |||
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"I am a newbie and never know where to start in the forums there is lot of options and the few times I have commented I just get ignored, also many people won’t chat when your not verified but can’t get verified without first chatting " Welcome, hope you enjoy your stay. As far as I know you can get verified by cam now (I never use them) but there is always that option | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr " But then we do better and try and include people. Not put energy in to this sort of discussion on a frequent basis but instead transfer it to learning things like lube first before anal fisting. I love change. I love interacting with new people but I'm not going to make it a them vs us thing. Instead I'm going to try and do better. Chat shit to more people and not just those I've known for a long time. | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr I like that
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr But then we do better and try and include people. Not put energy in to this sort of discussion on a frequent basis but instead transfer it to learning things like lube first before anal fisting. I love change. I love interacting with new people but I'm not going to make it a them vs us thing. Instead I'm going to try and do better. Chat shit to more people and not just those I've known for a long time." Ok | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x It's only more recently that I have actually engaged and been more active in the forums, but that was due to an anxiety issue which is the same issue I deal with in real life interactions too. That's always a relevant but great question none the less to raise OP! x I'm not sure though. No one can push/force them to get involved in here to be honest. So I guess my answer would be they'll arrive here when they arrive. I know they can't but I just think if they were made to feel more welcome then a lot more would stay" I totally agree and with you on that one. Just need everyone to read what you said until every word sinks in and they take action OP oh I do dream very well I do lol . | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig "I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it 
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr But then we do better and try and include people. Not put energy in to this sort of discussion on a frequent basis but instead transfer it to learning things like lube first before anal fisting. I love change. I love interacting with new people but I'm not going to make it a them vs us thing. Instead I'm going to try and do better. Chat shit to more people and not just those I've known for a long time." Lube first is a vital life lesson.... Mr | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way..."I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x It's only more recently that I have actually engaged and been more active in the forums, but that was due to an anxiety issue which is the same issue I deal with in real life interactions too. That's always a relevant but great question none the less to raise OP! x I'm not sure though. No one can push/force them to get involved in here to be honest. So I guess my answer would be they'll arrive here when they arrive. I know they can't but I just think if they were made to feel more welcome then a lot more would stay I totally agree and with you on that one. Just need everyone to read what you said until every word sinks in and they take action OP oh I do dream very well I do lol . " | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr But then we do better and try and include people. Not put energy in to this sort of discussion on a frequent basis but instead transfer it to learning things like lube first before anal fisting. I love change. I love interacting with new people but I'm not going to make it a them vs us thing. Instead I'm going to try and do better. Chat shit to more people and not just those I've known for a long time." That's got to be a tattoo quote for a courageous no fucks given soul out there in the world. "Lube first before anal fisting". | |||
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"But then we do better and try and include people. Not put energy in to this sort of discussion on a frequent basis but instead transfer it to learning things like lube first before anal fisting. I love change. I love interacting with new people but I'm not going to make it a them vs us thing. Instead I'm going to try and do better. Chat shit to more people and not just those I've known for a long time. Lube first is a vital life lesson.... Mr " I know. Thank you for improving my sex life. I also think a good life lesson is how to edit down posts so threads don't become walls of quoted text. It's something I have to do a lot because I waffle. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
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"I am a newbie and never know where to start in the forums there is lot of options and the few times I have commented I just get ignored, also many people won’t chat when your not verified but can’t get verified without first chatting Welcome, hope you enjoy your stay. As far as I know you can get verified by cam now (I never use them) but there is always that option " I believe so but cam isn’t my cup of tea, I fans fab in general is very much favoured to couples and single ladies | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose
Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again"Completely missed the point again, but I'll stop now because I've clearly run out of feet to shoot | |||
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"I am a newbie and never know where to start in the forums there is lot of options and the few times I have commented I just get ignored, also many people won’t chat when your not verified but can’t get verified without first chatting Welcome, hope you enjoy your stay. As far as I know you can get verified by cam now (I never use them) but there is always that option I believe so but cam isn’t my cup of tea, I fans fab in general is very much favoured to couples and single ladies " The only other suggestion is attending an organised social though some of these you also need to be verified....I'm sure you'll get there | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" Newbies could be encouraged to the forum by fab not allowing any sex until newbies had served a six month forum apprenticeship. Newbies could be included by allowing them a daily sex meet starting with a single of the same sex and working through all the possibilities and combinations...... And a free bag of cheese n onion | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose
Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Newbies could be encouraged to the forum by fab not allowing any sex until newbies had served a six month forum apprenticeship. Newbies could be included by allowing them a daily sex meet starting with a single of the same sex and working through all the possibilities and combinations...... And a free bag of cheese n onion " I got distracted by the cheese and onion | |||
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"So maybe don't introduce your sense of humour so early on with people you don't know - little life lesson "Trust me, it's something I do a lot of when meeting new people. I never show all of myself off and I'm quite guarded in those situations so I can get a feel for what they're like. I'm just more confident in the forums having been here a while that I can just show off my personality as and when I want without fear of putting people off. I hope everyone who joins the forums can get to that stage | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose
Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again
Completely missed the point again, but I'll stop now because I've clearly run out of feet to shoot"Getting the feeling you only see things from your point of view (face palm) Try elaborating your thinking a little | |||
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"Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again Completely missed the point again, but I'll stop now because I've clearly run out of feet to shoot I didn't miss the point again...I'm trying to point out that you may have been joking but that's not how your message came across." It's not how it comes across to you. You don't speak for the majority. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! I do also think that if your first newbie comment is "looking for wanking buddies in Hull" you're going to get a bit of sarc Posts like that do make me chuckle...do they ever get a response? Nope or its the endless "horny now, who wants x,y or z" " Only one way to find out... | |||
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"So maybe don't introduce your sense of humour so early on with people you don't know - little life lesson
Trust me, it's something I do a lot of when meeting new people. I never show all of myself off and I'm quite guarded in those situations so I can get a feel for what they're like. I'm just more confident in the forums having been here a while that I can just show off my personality as and when I want without fear of putting people off. I hope everyone who joins the forums can get to that stage "I'm the same on here as I am if I met you in person My confidence doesn't increase or decrease depending on whether I'm online. I treat people just how I would if I saw you face to face | |||
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"I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose
Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again
Completely missed the point again, but I'll stop now because I've clearly run out of feet to shoot
Getting the feeling you only see things from your point of view (face palm)
Try elaborating your thinking a little "Have you read my other comment about what I used to post as a newbie? That's me seeing from the POV of others. My initial comment was a joke and I already apologised if it came across in a way I didn't mean. I'm not quite sure what more you want me to do | |||
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"I think it would help if people started putting more energy in to becoming inclusive rather than making it a them vs us. Replied to everyone, time and work allowing. I try to as much as possible but also... replying to the forums doesn't pay my mortgage. So if we all made an effort and channelled energy into making it more inclusive and less hostile, less dickish to new posters, we'd encourage more folk to stick around. Unfortunately most are only inclusive to the select few All are welcome, but not all.are included.. Mr " Think you summed it up brilliantly Mr | |||
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"It’s always nice to see new faces and other body parts displayed with wanton abandon on here. Welcome newbies "Agreed | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off " I've noticed a real change lately and certainly a lot less cliquey, and more welcoming. | |||
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"So maybe don't introduce your sense of humour so early on with people you don't know - little life lesson
Trust me, it's something I do a lot of when meeting new people. I never show all of myself off and I'm quite guarded in those situations so I can get a feel for what they're like. I'm just more confident in the forums having been here a while that I can just show off my personality as and when I want without fear of putting people off. I hope everyone who joins the forums can get to that stage
I'm the same on here as I am if I met you in person
My confidence doesn't increase or decrease depending on whether I'm online.
I treat people just how I would if I saw you face to face "As am I. You clearly missed my comment about when I was new on the forums. The more familiar I am with my surroundings, the more confident I can be in myself. That's online and in person, please don't assume that my bravado is all online only | |||
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"I wouldn't expect newbies to get my sense of humour tbf... Ok, that was on purpose
Exactly...they wouldn't which is why it would put people posting again
Completely missed the point again, but I'll stop now because I've clearly run out of feet to shoot
Getting the feeling you only see things from your point of view (face palm)
Try elaborating your thinking a little
Have you read my other comment about what I used to post as a newbie? That's me seeing from the POV of others. My initial comment was a joke and I already apologised if it came across in a way I didn't mean. I'm not quite sure what more you want me to do"I know you meant it in a jokey way but to be honest if I'd been new, I would have taken that comment to heart...just because other people may know your "style" of replies on threads, it doesn't apply to everyone. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! I do also think that if your first newbie comment is "looking for wanking buddies in Hull" you're going to get a bit of sarc Posts like that do make me chuckle...do they ever get a response? Nope or its the endless "horny now, who wants x,y or z" Only one way to find out..." I think I will take a pass but thanks lol, we get enough offers without going there | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off I've noticed a real change lately and certainly a lot less cliquey, and more welcoming. " What forums are those?? Asking for a friend | |||
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"We were all new once. When does a newbie stop being a newbie? When they become part of the 'clique'
If a known member of the clique replies to your forum posts does that then mean you’re part of the clique?
Also, if you do become part of the clique is it a lifetime membership or can you be expelled?
Or leave of your own accord?
"Sorry, I missed this H&S. There is a probationary period for 3 months. Once you are fully accepted, it's a lifetime membership. You can leave but it's frowned upon. Membership is a voting process. One black ball amongst members voting is a no go unfortunately. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" I don't think its just newbies that need to get more inclusive treatment. I've seen some regulars who post that get overlooked/ignored too. It's great to get acknowledged and I think a fair amount depends on the OP and topic. Sparkle you have acknowledged everyone's comments which is brilliant and does encourage people to join in | |||
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"So maybe don't introduce your sense of humour so early on with people you don't know - little life lesson
Trust me, it's something I do a lot of when meeting new people. I never show all of myself off and I'm quite guarded in those situations so I can get a feel for what they're like. I'm just more confident in the forums having been here a while that I can just show off my personality as and when I want without fear of putting people off. I hope everyone who joins the forums can get to that stage
I'm the same on here as I am if I met you in person
My confidence doesn't increase or decrease depending on whether I'm online.
I treat people just how I would if I saw you face to face
As am I. You clearly missed my comment about when I was new on the forums. The more familiar I am with my surroundings, the more confident I can be in myself. That's online and in person, please don't assume that my bravado is all online only"I did see your earlier comment, I'm not the one presuming- obviously. Joe beans you seem a nice guy, I don't want to get in to an online debate with you but please understand I am also allowed my viewpoints on your comments. Messages can come across in all sorts of undertones and I agree they are not the same as meeting someone in person. You just seem defensive, and it's this sort of messaging that can make a newbie back off from messaging and posting on here. It's not your responsibility to ensure newbies feel welcomed etc at all, nor is it anyone else's but please understand that banter which has been going on for a long time between people on the forums can come across as passive aggressive when taken in the wrong context. Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x I don't think its just newbies that need to get more inclusive treatment. I've seen some regulars who post that get overlooked/ignored too. It's great to get acknowledged and I think a fair amount depends on the OP and topic. Sparkle you have acknowledged everyone's comments which is brilliant and does encourage people to join in "I felt I had to with this comment. I am guilty of starting a thread and just letting it run as I don't want to overtake it (if that makes sense) I like to see a range of replies from others x | |||
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" Sorry, I missed this H&S. There is a probationary period for 3 months. Once you are fully accepted, it's a lifetime membership. You can leave but it's frowned upon. Membership is a voting process. One black ball amongst members voting is a no go unfortunately." Thank you Willy. A very comprehensive reply that is both accurate and informative. You’ve made me feel ‘seen’. Good work Willy | |||
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" I've noticed a real change lately and certainly a lot less cliquey, and more welcoming. What forums are those?? Asking for a friend
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"I am a newbie and never know where to start in the forums there is lot of options and the few times I have commented I just get ignored, also many people won’t chat when your not verified but can’t get verified without first chatting Welcome, hope you enjoy your stay. As far as I know you can get verified by cam now (I never use them) but there is always that option I believe so but cam isn’t my cup of tea, I fans fab in general is very much favoured to couples and single ladies " BOSSSSHHHHH | |||
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"Sl Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx" 
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way..."Read what I posted lol. Where did I say she chose to ignore it | |||
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" Sorry, I missed this H&S. There is a probationary period for 3 months. Once you are fully accepted, it's a lifetime membership. You can leave but it's frowned upon. Membership is a voting process. One black ball amongst members voting is a no go unfortunately. Thank you Willy. A very comprehensive reply that is both accurate and informative. You’ve made me feel ‘seen’. Good work Willy "Inclusive is my middle name | |||
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"Sl Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx
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"Point » all newbies towards the Nocturnal Thread©®™. Inclusivity is the cornerstone of everything there and everyone gets a response. "They do indeed | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. | |||
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"I did see your earlier comment, I'm not the one presuming- obviously. Joe beans you seem a nice guy, I don't want to get in to an online debate with you but please understand I am also allowed my viewpoints on your comments. Messages can come across in all sorts of undertones and I agree they are not the same as meeting someone in person. You just seem defensive, and it's this sort of messaging that can make a newbie back off from messaging and posting on here. It's not your responsibility to ensure newbies feel welcomed etc at all, nor is it anyone else's but please understand that banter which has been going on for a long time between people on the forums can come across as passive aggressive when taken in the wrong context. Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx" I am completely accepting of different viewpoints appreciate you understanding that I was just joking in my initial response. However, having apologised for how it potentially came across, the pile on still seemed to happen and that's why I got so defensive as I need to stand my ground in explaining my thought process, as you have as well. I hope you stick around as well as you seem very sensible in your posts and explain things very well | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea." They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
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"As a pair of newbie’s who are here after watching the Carry On up The Forum movie in the video section, we were wondering as to what the etiquette is regarding Quote and Reply and/or Reply? Just the quote thing seems to fill the forum post up so when should we do it and when shouldn’t we? " I always do it, easier to follow the conversations x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking "Our mentor told us to come here and ask for polkadot text? | |||
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"I did see your earlier comment, I'm not the one presuming- obviously. Joe beans you seem a nice guy, I don't want to get in to an online debate with you but please understand I am also allowed my viewpoints on your comments. Messages can come across in all sorts of undertones and I agree they are not the same as meeting someone in person. You just seem defensive, and it's this sort of messaging that can make a newbie back off from messaging and posting on here. It's not your responsibility to ensure newbies feel welcomed etc at all, nor is it anyone else's but please understand that banter which has been going on for a long time between people on the forums can come across as passive aggressive when taken in the wrong context. Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx I am completely accepting of different viewpoints appreciate you understanding that I was just joking in my initial response. However, having apologised for how it potentially came across, the pile on still seemed to happen and that's why I got so defensive as I need to stand my ground in explaining my thought process, as you have as well. I hope you stick around as well as you seem very sensible in your posts and explain things very well "Joe beans I'm sending you a handshake and a hug
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking
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"I did see your earlier comment, I'm not the one presuming- obviously. Joe beans you seem a nice guy, I don't want to get in to an online debate with you but please understand I am also allowed my viewpoints on your comments. Messages can come across in all sorts of undertones and I agree they are not the same as meeting someone in person. You just seem defensive, and it's this sort of messaging that can make a newbie back off from messaging and posting on here. It's not your responsibility to ensure newbies feel welcomed etc at all, nor is it anyone else's but please understand that banter which has been going on for a long time between people on the forums can come across as passive aggressive when taken in the wrong context. Having spoken to you and seeing your messages on here I can see you're a good guy just having some banter - thank you for replying to my comments and I hooe to see you around in the forums S xxx I am completely accepting of different viewpoints appreciate you understanding that I was just joking in my initial response. However, having apologised for how it potentially came across, the pile on still seemed to happen and that's why I got so defensive as I need to stand my ground in explaining my thought process, as you have as well. I hope you stick around as well as you seem very sensible in your posts and explain things very well
Joe beans I'm sending you a handshake and a hug
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
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Read what I posted lol. Where did I say she chose to ignore it
Got to love getting into semantics to hide what you actually meant as if sub-text doesn't exist. Well done "You missed off where I said 'maybe' I'm not the one hiding what I said as you're the one using sarcasm to make veiled digs, as you just did then. It really isn't a cool look Glad you think you know what I'm thinking because I don't half the time.... | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking
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That sounds like another cryptocurrency."Substantial gains for all who utilise it! | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off I've noticed a real change lately and certainly a lot less cliquey, and more welcoming. What forums are those?? Asking for a friend "My friend has just got back to me..The Lounge in particular they say. | |||
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" I know. Thank you for improving my sex life. I also think a good life lesson is how to edit down posts so threads don't become walls of quoted text. It's something I have to do a lot because I waffle. "The editing down is something I learnt before lube, but tbf I can't be arsed half the time. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x We are still quite new to the forums, the biggest off put for us is commenting on a thread with something worthwhile and being ignored. It happens a fair amount too. This is a common complaint by many people. I've been using the forums on and off for over 4 years, and I rarely get acknowledgement of my posts. That said, I use the forums for me, only participating where I want to, so I don't expect any kind of response. I do agree though, that some validation or acknowledgement does definitely make one feel more included. It takes a couple of seconds to type a quick reply. It makes the forums feel cliquey which does put alot off I've noticed a real change lately and certainly a lot less cliquey, and more welcoming. What forums are those?? Asking for a friend
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking "What about the Wonky thread for anyone who is or not yet diagnosed as neurodiverse? This one is at least 15 links long. | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
Read what I posted lol. Where did I say she chose to ignore it
Got to love getting into semantics to hide what you actually meant as if sub-text doesn't exist. Well done
You missed off where I said 'maybe' I'm not the one hiding what I said as you're the one using sarcasm to make veiled digs, as you just did then. It really isn't a cool look
Glad you think you know what I'm thinking because I don't half the time...."Did you not see my apology for how my comment may have come across? What is your expectation of me beyond that, that you continue to try and get one up on me. It's over, go home. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking
What about the Wonky thread for anyone who is or not yet diagnosed as neurodiverse? This one is at least 15 links long."Haven't saw it | |||
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"I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Sarcastic? Never! They shouldn't be such snowflakes and learn to take a bit of banter! When a newbie asks a general question and is told "oh here we go again, why not look at the million other threads re said topic".....that's not banter, uts quite derogatory I think you missed the joke
Or maybe Sparkle chose to ignore it
Who would choose to ignore a joke and take it literally?
Would they? Or are you assuming they do? It didn't look like a joke to me. It looked like an underlying dig
I'm not assuming anything, you're the one who said she chose ignore it implying she did get it
Anyway, I quoted the bit about sarcasm berating newbies and did just that in what was supposed to be an ironic way. If you didn't get that then apologies if it didn't come across that way...
Read what I posted lol. Where did I say she chose to ignore it
Got to love getting into semantics to hide what you actually meant as if sub-text doesn't exist. Well done
You missed off where I said 'maybe' I'm not the one hiding what I said as you're the one using sarcasm to make veiled digs, as you just did then. It really isn't a cool look
Glad you think you know what I'm thinking because I don't half the time....
Did you not see my apology for how my comment may have come across? What is your expectation of me beyond that, that you continue to try and get one up on me. It's over, go home."No, just responding to your comments to me... why the rudeness, it's unnecessary. I've not once been sarcastic or rude to you. | |||
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"As a pair of newbie’s who are here after watching the Carry On up The Forum movie in the video section, we were wondering as to what the etiquette is regarding Quote and Reply and/or Reply? Just the quote thing seems to fill the forum post up so when should we do it and when shouldn’t we? " I don't think there is a set etiquette I could be wrong tho, I usually use reply quote if I want to answer someone's comment on a thread, if I am just answering the opening comment I just use reply. | |||
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" I know. Thank you for improving my sex life. I also think a good life lesson is how to edit down posts so threads don't become walls of quoted text. It's something I have to do a lot because I waffle.
The editing down is something I learnt before lube, but tbf I can't be arsed half the time."Fair. I've not learnt lube until now, it's really heartwarming that a newbie could teach an oldie something new. | |||
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"Everyone was a newbie at some point or other. I just think making everyone feel welcome is a good start "Exactly xx | |||
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"No, just responding to your comments to me... why the rudeness, it's unnecessary. I've not once been sarcastic or rude to you. " Ok, honest answer? I fucking hate that my comment could've been taken in a way to be exclusionary to others, especially when I thought the joke was obvious. I did get defensive because excluding others is the last thing I'd ever want to do and thought the pile-on for what I thought was an obvious joke wasn't fair and still don't think it is. I understood the different points of view but considering even Sparkle said she knew I was joking, I don't know why you keep wanting to push the subject. | |||
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"Everyone was a newbie at some point or other. I just think making everyone feel welcome is a good start "Well said...not always done though x | |||
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"Everyone was a newbie at some point or other. I just think making everyone feel welcome is a good start "• Not me, Le Petit Oiseau, I came out of my mother's womb as an Oldbie. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" That last bit is tragic how the forums treat others. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x That last bit is tragic how the forums treat others. " It is but when others can't see how words can affect people, it's always going to happen sadly x | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x" Just looked at your profile and that got me in | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x That last bit is tragic how the forums treat others. It is but when others can't see how words can affect people, it's always going to happen sadly x" I agree words are important. | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Just looked at your profile and that got me in" Oh god help you....don't worry I'll get you an urgent appointment with specsavers
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x Just looked at your profile and that got me in Oh god help you....don't worry I'll get you an urgent appointment with specsavers
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"I'm curious what the conversion rate is for people that are on fab/use the forum. I was thinking earlier with the fab curse, if more locals used the forum then you've got more chance of meeting someone you click with. Rather them judging them solely of the profile. " The forum is like a droplet of water against the size of the ocean | |||
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"I think that what needs to happen is that newbies need to be given the space to actually participate without the small group of people who tend to dominate the forums coming in and taking over every thread. Bluntly, they need to post less. They tend to take over threads and then it just becomes a boring rehash of pretty much every other thread." Now had I said that, I'd be having a right go at me | |||
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"What would encourage newbies to the forum? It would be nice to see some new faces??? I would like to see more inclusiveness as newbies tend to get sarcastic answers or berated x How about a thread called "Hello, I'm new what do I need to know here?" or "Hello and welcome to the forums" "Mentor a newbie" might be an idea. They would only get the piss ripped out of them under the guise of a "joke" but good thinking
What about the Wonky thread for anyone who is or not yet diagnosed as neurodiverse? This one is at least 15 links long.
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"No, just responding to your comments to me... why the rudeness, it's unnecessary. I've not once been sarcastic or rude to you. Ok, honest answer? I fucking hate that my comment could've been taken in a way to be exclusionary to others, especially when I thought the joke was obvious. I did get defensive because excluding others is the last thing I'd ever want to do and thought the pile-on for what I thought was an obvious joke wasn't fair and still don't think it is. I understood the different points of view but considering even Sparkle said she knew I was joking, I don't know why you keep wanting to push the subject." I'm not trying to push it. Just responding to your comments towards me....Look, I'm not trying to be difficult and there is no pushing of a subject or trying to get 'one up' on you regardless of what you think I meant. As I said there was no sarcasm or rudeness aimed at you, despite telling me to 'go home' which again it's unnecessary | |||
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"No, just responding to your comments to me... why the rudeness, it's unnecessary. I've not once been sarcastic or rude to you. Ok, honest answer? I fucking hate that my comment could've been taken in a way to be exclusionary to others, especially when I thought the joke was obvious. I did get defensive because excluding others is the last thing I'd ever want to do and thought the pile-on for what I thought was an obvious joke wasn't fair and still don't think it is. I understood the different points of view but considering even Sparkle said she knew I was joking, I don't know why you keep wanting to push the subject. I'm not trying to push it. Just responding to your comments towards me....Look, I'm not trying to be difficult and there is no pushing of a subject or trying to get 'one up' on you regardless of what you think I meant. As I said there was no sarcasm or rudeness aimed at you, despite telling me to 'go home' which again it's unnecessary" | |||
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