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By *bi HaiveMan 43 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"What are some qualities a profile can have that will make you possibly want to get to know that person?
My green flags are specific and rare.  "
Aside from nice, creative photos and a good bio?
For me it's forum activity.
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By *r_PinkMan 43 weeks ago
london stratford |
"Mine are even rarer’er. "
someone who is humble and not up their own bumhole!
also, someone who does not take this swinging lark to seriously.
I also have a think about seeing women smile, so a nice smile makes me look a lot more.
These things and of course, a banging body! |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I don’t think there is a one stop shop answer. You can meet someone and still misread green flags.
There are very clever wordsmiths who can write a succinct profile, pose the photos, say the things they think they want you to hear rather than they actually feel. They could be having multiple chats and tell you they are not.
A few years ago from here I met someone who I totally fell for and she said she did me. She told me it was just me and her, this was over a period of a year. Due to location I only saw her weekends and things were great. Until she told me I was 1 of 14 she was seeing, not all regularly but 1 of 14.
I never spotted it, stupidly naive, most probably, so even with all perceived green flags they aren’t always who they say they are |
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"I don’t think there is a one stop shop answer. You can meet someone and still misread green flags.
There are very clever wordsmiths who can write a succinct profile, pose the photos, say the things they think they want you to hear rather than they actually feel. They could be having multiple chats and tell you they are not.
A few years ago from here I met someone who I totally fell for and she said she did me. She told me it was just me and her, this was over a period of a year. Due to location I only saw her weekends and things were great. Until she told me I was 1 of 14 she was seeing, not all regularly but 1 of 14.
I never spotted it, stupidly naive, most probably, so even with all perceived green flags they aren’t always who they say they are "
Ouch. She lied to you for a year? And you met here? I’d be inconsolable.
Ethical non monogamy = green flag for me.
Cheating? Lying? That red flag is so big that it’s a fucking carnival tent. |
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By *aizyWoman 43 weeks ago
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"I'm not sure what they are. It's more a general vibe I get on reading, rather than particular green flags. If that makes sense.  "
It makes perfect sense Meli, it is what I was going to say, but as usual you have put it better than I could have, so I'll just agree with you  |
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"Couples with pics of both.
Ladies that have a nice polite profile.
I don't really look at men so no idea on that front.
Mrs "
If the couple doesn’t have pix of both, I often suspect it’s not a couple. I have trust issues |
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"What are some qualities a profile can have that will make you possibly want to get to know that person?
My green flags are specific and rare.
Aside from nice, creative photos and a good bio?
For me it's forum activity.
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I have had most of the people in the forum… maybe |
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Oh, it's not easy to pinpoint — anything that comes across as compelling and makes my ears prick up with interest, leaving me thirsty to know more about that unconventional person and their non-conformist photographs. |
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By *eliWoman 43 weeks ago
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"I'm not sure what they are. It's more a general vibe I get on reading, rather than particular green flags. If that makes sense.
It makes perfect sense Meli, it is what I was going to say, but as usual you have put it better than I could have, so I'll just agree with you "
I like you, Daizy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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"Plenty of red flags, but green flags not so much, a person has a certain je ne sais quoi "
This is it. It’s just hard to explain. And it won’t be the same thing someone else sees. That’s why we are not all attracted to the same people. |
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The first thing I look for is consistency in pics, bio, veries and forum contributions.
If they are consistently consistent I will then look for signs that they don't take themselves too seriously and that being on here isn't a lifestyle choice.
If they tick all those boxes I might consider tickling theirs. |
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