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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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Are you a tactile person generally? Comfortable with others being tactile with you?
When it comes to sex with people you meet on here do you ever... hold hands? Or is that a step too nauseating for you? |
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"Hesitantly tactile.
It’s only with those that I care for, then I crave touch. Would hold hands. But for me that’s pretty intimate oddly so only for someone special. "
^that’s re holding hands say in public. I do rate happily the hand finger interlock during sex move.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that. |
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By *iz78Woman 44 weeks ago
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Touch is my love language so yes.
Also I find it hot when they hold my hand when it's pinned above my head when kissing lying down, or when their head is between your thighs and you reach down your sides and hold their hands interlocking your fingers |
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that. "
The hand on leg/arm laughing - I’m envisaging it and can’t see it any other way then totally affected like a “look at me being cute and laughing” or a deliberate sexual advance. Do people really do it? I’m desperately trying to think if I ever have! |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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I know, I know but people are weird, got to make the thread as inclusive as possible.
I think it's me Meli  I think I may be mentally tapped  "
If it's any consolation, you taught me a new phrase today, you're not that bad really. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I know, I know but people are weird, got to make the thread as inclusive as possible.
I think it's me Meli I think I may be mentally tapped "
Tapped
I haven’t heard that in ages |
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"Are you a tactile person generally? Comfortable with others being tactile with you?
When it comes to sex with people you meet on here do you ever... hold hands? Or is that a step too nauseating for you?"
I wouldn't do it with a meet..... nooooooo
Mr is very tactile with meets though
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that.
The hand on leg/arm laughing - I’m envisaging it and can’t see it any other way then totally affected like a “look at me being cute and laughing” or a deliberate sexual advance. Do people really do it? I’m desperately trying to think if I ever have! "
I’ve had it from family members. Grabbing my arm when they’re laughing. Irritates the fuck out of me.
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that.
The hand on leg/arm laughing - I’m envisaging it and can’t see it any other way then totally affected like a “look at me being cute and laughing” or a deliberate sexual advance. Do people really do it? I’m desperately trying to think if I ever have!
I’ve had it from family members. Grabbing my arm when they’re laughing. Irritates the fuck out of me.
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Ahhh gotcha! |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"Hesitantly tactile.
It’s only with those that I care for, then I crave touch. Would hold hands. But for me that’s pretty intimate oddly so only for someone special. "
It's really quite intimate. I think hands are often overlooked/forgotten about and they can really heighten things.
Hesitantly tactile is a lovely way to describe it. With friends do you find you're quite tactile or do you save that for those you're having an erm more intimate relationship with? |
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"Even during relationships I've never been a big fan of holding hands. After a minute I've had enough."
It is funny when you’ve had enough and you have to engineer a “breakaway” moment that feels natural! |
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"Hesitantly tactile.
It’s only with those that I care for, then I crave touch. Would hold hands. But for me that’s pretty intimate oddly so only for someone special.
It's really quite intimate. I think hands are often overlooked/forgotten about and they can really heighten things.
Hesitantly tactile is a lovely way to describe it. With friends do you find you're quite tactile or do you save that for those you're having an erm more intimate relationship with?"
As a relationship anarchist my friends are just as much my people as someone I’m bonking. So it’s close friends I’m tactile, sure. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I like the holding hands and cuddling after 
Oh Joe you're absolutely too precious for this forum you know.  Do you hold hands during sex? If you were giving a woman oral would you?"
Oh during as well, whether it's in missionary and I can kiss her while holding her hands or if I'm going down on her. It's so sensual and slow that it can really heighten the experience for me, personally.
Although oddly, I'm not really a toucher in social situations, similar to what Pickle said. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I'm tactile and it gets me in trouble, I'll hold hands and know it doesn't mean love, just can't say the same for people I've held hands with.
But to be fair I regularly hold hands with people I help cross roads, it's a habit, so maybe people remind of young people too much and I'm then way too comfortable  |
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I like the holding hands and cuddling after
Oh Joe you're absolutely too precious for this forum you know. Do you hold hands during sex? If you were giving a woman oral would you?"
Aaaaaaand it’s wank time again for me. |
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I’m definitely tactile.
Hand holding, kissing, motorboating, licking, sucking cock… it all works for me.
I don’t do one off meets so with my friends often hold hands.
I guess it all depends what they’re comfortable with  |
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"Even during relationships I've never been a big fan of holding hands. After a minute I've had enough.
It is funny when you’ve had enough and you have to engineer a “breakaway” moment that feels natural! "
Tie your shoelaces |
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By *stellaWoman 44 weeks ago
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"Even during relationships I've never been a big fan of holding hands. After a minute I've had enough.
It is funny when you’ve had enough and you have to engineer a “breakaway” moment that feels natural!
Tie your shoelaces "
OMG: you’re a genius. Thank you, thank you, thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Touch in general in different ways before, during and/or after sex is my favourite. So you could definitely say I'm a tactile person. Being on the spectrum, my senses are naturally heightened too. |
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"Even during relationships I've never been a big fan of holding hands. After a minute I've had enough.
It is funny when you’ve had enough and you have to engineer a “breakaway” moment that feels natural!
Tie your shoelaces
OMG: you’re a genius. Thank you, thank you, thank you! "
You're welcome |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that. "
So I can't hug you or touch your arm when I next see you? *makes notes*
Knowing your boundaries and not being afraid to state them is important - I quite like when people check first before they hug etc. Especially when I'm meeting them for the first time. |
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I’m very tactile; I love the intimacy and communicative power of touch.
Often it is the simplest of gestures that express so much; holding hands, a hand placed delicately against the small of a partners back, the stroke of a cheek.
Yes….I’m a soppy bugger |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"Touch is my love language so yes.
Also I find it hot when they hold my hand when it's pinned above my head when kissing lying down, or when their head is between your thighs and you reach down your sides and hold their hands interlocking your fingers "
Oh it's so incredibly sexy to have that level of intimacy in that moment. I hadn't experienced a woman holding my hands whilst giving her oral until this year. Yeah, let's go with that. It was honestly just... I think my brain melted being the soft sod I am. |
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By *eli OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"I'm tactile and it gets me in trouble, I'll hold hands and know it doesn't mean love, just can't say the same for people I've held hands with.
But to be fair I regularly hold hands with people I help cross roads, it's a habit, so maybe people remind of young people too much and I'm then way too comfortable "
Yes, I'm not sure why it's misconstrued. It's affection isn't it? Not a declaration of more, no intent of more. Possibly because it's generally not done? Not unless you're quite close to someone. That closeness doesn't have to mean love. It doesn't mean you're falling for the person. You can like them. Express that through your hands.
It sounds like a habit. |
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By *a LunaWoman 44 weeks ago
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I hold hands if in a relationship.
I enjoy cuddles on the sofa. Hand holding. Hair stroking. A hand resting on the leg. Arm stroking. Kissing (not in public though).
I like a fella to be tactile but appropriate when in company.
I don’t do hugs from random folk though. |
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By *iz78Woman 44 weeks ago
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"Touch is my love language so yes.
Also I find it hot when they hold my hand when it's pinned above my head when kissing lying down, or when their head is between your thighs and you reach down your sides and hold their hands interlocking your fingers
Oh it's so incredibly sexy to have that level of intimacy in that moment. I hadn't experienced a woman holding my hands whilst giving her oral until this year. Yeah, let's go with that. It was honestly just... I think my brain melted being the soft sod I am."
It just takes it to another level, especially when you moan in pleasure and they just grip your hand tighter. It's another form of communication without words.
It's saying I'm here with you in this moment |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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If I am having sex, I’m gonna be touching you all over, so they better get used to that. So it’s easy for me to hold their hands., I don’t have to love them, to hold someone’s hand.
I like stroking someone’s back, feeling how soft their skin is. I remember a woman who kissed me on here a couple of year ago, and I remember her hands felt under my top, so I know I enjoy other people being tactile with me. Touch is very sensual and I’m very sensual type of guy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I'm tactile and it gets me in trouble, I'll hold hands and know it doesn't mean love, just can't say the same for people I've held hands with.
But to be fair I regularly hold hands with people I help cross roads, it's a habit, so maybe people remind of young people too much and I'm then way too comfortable
Yes, I'm not sure why it's misconstrued. It's affection isn't it? Not a declaration of more, no intent of more. Possibly because it's generally not done? Not unless you're quite close to someone. That closeness doesn't have to mean love. It doesn't mean you're falling for the person. You can like them. Express that through your hands.
It sounds like a habit. "
I think when people are hopeful they will count it as more, or if they haven't experienced it done in that context and only a relationship dynamic then they'll make that link and perhaps struggle with the idea. Which is understandable but also why communicating is paramount. But the hopeful ones will only hear what they want.
I'm making it more of a habit to emphasize it's meaning and context and making dam sure I'm convinced they understand now. I've had it though where people do all the nodding and use they right words but they then say I was leading them on. And that just isn't on.
Some men insist on the hand holding thing while others run of screaming relationship stating you need an exorcism. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I'm tactile and it gets me in trouble, I'll hold hands and know it doesn't mean love, just can't say the same for people I've held hands with.
But to be fair I regularly hold hands with people I help cross roads, it's a habit, so maybe people remind of young people too much and I'm then way too comfortable
Yes, I'm not sure why it's misconstrued. It's affection isn't it? Not a declaration of more, no intent of more. Possibly because it's generally not done? Not unless you're quite close to someone. That closeness doesn't have to mean love. It doesn't mean you're falling for the person. You can like them. Express that through your hands.
It sounds like a habit.
I think when people are hopeful they will count it as more, or if they haven't experienced it done in that context and only a relationship dynamic then they'll make that link and perhaps struggle with the idea. Which is understandable but also why communicating is paramount. But the hopeful ones will only hear what they want.
I'm making it more of a habit to emphasize it's meaning and context and making dam sure I'm convinced they understand now. I've had it though where people do all the nodding and use they right words but they then say I was leading them on. And that just isn't on.
Some men insist on the hand holding thing while others run of screaming relationship stating you need an exorcism. "
I like holding hands. But I found it isn’t necessarily peoples actions that lead you on. It’s normally words. Because it’s the words that we remember. I’m just given a guys point of view to help you out. |
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"Touch is my love language so yes.
Also I find it hot when they hold my hand when it's pinned above my head when kissing lying down, or when their head is between your thighs and you reach down your sides and hold their hands interlocking your fingers "
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I love being tactile. With my friends I'm very touchy. With a lover thats a big part of it, I want that affection, touching, kissing as much as possible."
*Woody drinks the last of his drink, puts down the glass. And order another…..
He looks across the bar and notices reflection in the mirror…. He Reminisces as the sound of the public around him fades out, and he remembers the moans of pleasure from a woman he once had.
I really need to meet someone soon |
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I am very tactile, but only with people I think are open to it, or who I would like to be tactile with me. And that includes friends, family, kids...
Some people just really aren't used to being touched affectionately and I think that's quite sad.
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"I love being tactile. With my friends I'm very touchy. With a lover thats a big part of it, I want that affection, touching, kissing as much as possible.
*Woody drinks the last of his drink, puts down the glass. And order another…..
He looks across the bar and notices reflection in the mirror…. He Reminisces as the sound of the public around him fades out, and he remembers the moans of pleasure from a woman he once had.
I really need to meet someone soon "
Do we need to start a "Go date me" or something Woody? |
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"I am very tactile, but only with people I think are open to it, or who I would like to be tactile with me. And that includes friends, family, kids...
Some people just really aren't used to being touched affectionately and I think that's quite sad.
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Yess, totally agree with both sentences. |
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By *sWyldWoman 44 weeks ago
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All the hands, all the touching. I'm incredibly tactile. I love to give and receive affection in that way.
I love those mid conversation hand holding, fingers interlocked, eye contact moments.
And when those moments become "I have to kiss you right now" moments, it's even better. |
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"I love being tactile. With my friends I'm very touchy. With a lover thats a big part of it, I want that affection, touching, kissing as much as possible.
*Woody drinks the last of his drink, puts down the glass. And order another…..
He looks across the bar and notices reflection in the mirror…. He Reminisces as the sound of the public around him fades out, and he remembers the moans of pleasure from a woman he once had.
I really need to meet someone soon
Do we need to start a "Go date me" or something Woody? "
I tried this the other day. Nobody was interested. … it’s a swinging site…what did I expect? |
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"I am very tactile, but only with people I think are open to it, or who I would like to be tactile with me. And that includes friends, family, kids...
Some people just really aren't used to being touched affectionately and I think that's quite sad.
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It's a good point about people who want it. My niece and nephew are at the age where they don't want to be constantly picked up and hugged and I don't want to be THAT relative that forces them |
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"Are you a tactile person generally? Comfortable with others being tactile with you?
When it comes to sex with people you meet on here do you ever... hold hands? Or is that a step too nauseating for you?"
When it comes to sex I am very tactile. Hand-holding - yes, interlinking fingers while going down on a lady, holding her hand or wrist above her head, but also I like to kiss the palm of a lady's hand (and every other inch of her body for that matter). |
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"During sex I like to hold hands and touch and hold one another tightly.
Other than that I hate being touched by people I am not particularly close with. A hug to greet sure. But don’t touch my arm or my leg when you’re laughing. Don’t touch my back when you’re walking past. None of that. "
So, I can't come up behind you when you're washing up, put my arms around your waist and kiss your neck??  |
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"Are you a tactile person generally? Comfortable with others being tactile with you?
When it comes to sex with people you meet on here do you ever... hold hands? Or is that a step too nauseating for you?"
My father's family is Polish and they're very tactile. I'm fine with people I know/trust but, strangers can do one.
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