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I’m utterly inept at that sex stuff Meli; I understand what to do but I just can’t seem to aim it right and my limp phallus usually ends up poking through the letter box (which has shocked more than one Amazon delivery person I can tell thee!)   |
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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1) Yes
2) By prior appointment only
3) Are you shitting me? No 
4) They'd probably do the comparing if I could be bothered to engage in such a poor spend of time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think you can be 'bad' at sex really, as long as there's attraction and you communicate properly and try to please the other person...
I guess the only thing that isn't fun is someone with really poor stamina who gets bored easily or someone who just doesn't try |
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I don't actually think about it much.
As long as the person(s) I'm doing the sex with enjoys it, and is satisfied, and I am too, then it's all good.
Though I was once told I could suck a ping pong ball through a hosepipe, so I'll take that as a compliment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful |
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"I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful "
‘…..and now for the weather…’ |
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Having a fun time with a like minded woman is the most important thing, connecting with her on a deeper level and having the best sex we can get, slowly and steadily seems to have been the most sensual way for me so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful "
Do a cockney accent. Everything sounds filthy with a cockney accent. |
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"I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful "
You can practice on me if you'd like. I don't mind  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When they don’t want to meet me again….. what do you think I imagine ? "
Oh Woody. The first post as well. I think you're not compatible. It doesn't mean you're crap. Just, not compatible. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Dunno if I’m any good but I love it  "
I've always thought you'd be pretty good Nora. Not sure why exactly - it might be because you're a good laugh. Or because you roamed the earth with the dinosaurs so you've probably picked up a trick or two in that time. |
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over a year ago
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Yes
Yes
I'd only worry if they didn't want to re-visit it again with me, or when it seems to always be so one sided to arrange to see each other again! Lack of effort kills a good thing. |
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"Dunno if I’m any good but I love it
I've always thought you'd be pretty good Nora. Not sure why exactly - it might be because you're a good laugh. Or because you roamed the earth with the dinosaurs so you've probably picked up a trick or two in that time."
. I think you’re beating Nero at the moment  |
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"When they don’t want to meet me again….. what do you think I imagine ? "
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You imagine that you were the pinnacle of their sexual conquest, their orgasmic zenith from which nothing can be bettered, leaving them to retire from their sensuality and take up residence with the Shaolin Monks in the foothills of the Himalayas. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I get told I’m better than I give myself credit for or think I am so that’s a positive.
Still seeking to be better and more round (/land relax more) "
Oh relaxing in to something makes such a difference doesn't it? If you're a bit... nervous or tense, whilst it's understandable, it doesn't flow in such an easy erotic way. |
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By *pandjMan
over a year ago
Sparkford |
Had a period when I came out of sexless marriage when I knew I was rubbish with various dates I had. Soon got back up to speed with someone who was more patient but I knew I was good before things went downhill with my ex. Also had issues with my foreskin that caused snags 25% of the time but that's now sorted.
Now in a relationship but can't make her squirt with my dick like the guy before me did. I am able to give her multiple orgasms with mine and a big clit one once I've cum. She squirts nearly every time she straddles my face which is epic and she says I'm the best lover she's had due to me being so attentive, passionate and my stamina.
I don't make a big thing of it but sometimes the not squirting on my dick thing gets to me. I know it's ridiculous as well but can't help but doubt myself.
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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No idea but I love it so…
I’m definitely a sex person 
No. I rarely worry about anything  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When they don’t want to meet me again….. what do you think I imagine ?
Oh Woody. The first post as well. I think you're not compatible. It doesn't mean you're crap. Just, not compatible."
That’s what I keep telling myself.
I actually identify as a great shag. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I'm way better than I was in my late teens.
Mind you, back then I'd be capable of going for 12 hours straight without a break.
These days I need the occasional pit stop, refreshments and rehydration.
But I'd give myself a B+/A for effort..... |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’m utterly inept at that sex stuff Meli; I understand what to do but I just can’t seem to aim it right and my limp phallus usually ends up poking through the letter box (which has shocked more than one Amazon delivery person I can tell thee!) "
Ah we suffer from the same affliction; being able to talk the talk but not fuck the fuck. It's a shame isn't it? Need to stop hyping ourselves up.
I hope your phallus isn't too bruised and battered from its predilection for small openings. 
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"Dunno if I’m any good but I love it
I've always thought you'd be pretty good Nora. Not sure why exactly - it might be because you're a good laugh. Or because you roamed the earth with the dinosaurs so you've probably picked up a trick or two in that time.
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. I think you’re beating Nero at the moment "
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I think Meli was being kind. Nora was there during The Big Bang. |
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"When they don’t want to meet me again….. what do you think I imagine ?
Oh Woody. The first post as well. I think you're not compatible. It doesn't mean you're crap. Just, not compatible."
This is the thing... That compatibility. Some people might think you're amazing, others not so much.
Personally, I need a few times with the same person to feel comfortable and really very into it. Lots don't seem to have the patience for that! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't think you can be 'bad' at sex really, as long as there's attraction and you communicate properly and try to please the other person...
I guess the only thing that isn't fun is someone with really poor stamina who gets bored easily or someone who just doesn't try"
I'd love to say no, you can't be bad at sex but sadly? You can be. Someone who doesn't try like you said? Bad. Well, if that's not part of the established dynamic.
I don't think how good/bad you are is based on stamina or how far you can get a cock in your mouth/throat. |
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By *ornyguyMan
over a year ago
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I know I've been a crap lay for some, didn't stop them doing it again though, but been much better with others.
I think it comes down to my levels of desire to the person as opposed to just getting a release. |
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"Dunno if I’m any good but I love it
I've always thought you'd be pretty good Nora. Not sure why exactly - it might be because you're a good laugh. Or because you roamed the earth with the dinosaurs so you've probably picked up a trick or two in that time.
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. I think you’re beating Nero at the moment
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I think Meli was being kind. Nora was there during The Big Bang. "
But what a bang it was. |
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At the Sex Stuff? I am good outside the bedroom which makes the sex stuff a lot better.
Are you a Sex Person? Yes but again, I make the outside the bedroom part important.
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others? No, never. They are with me for sex so I must be doing something right. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful "
Oh shush! That video of you saying daddy and whatever else you said? So hot. Channel that energy more often and you'll be fine. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It’s hard to know. I think I’m decent, I’ve not had any complaints and those that I’ve met want to come back, so I guess that’s positive.
I think it’s all about the chemistry between two individuals though, sex isn’t an individual action, it takes two people that are into and invested in each other to make great sex do if I’m good, then my partners are too |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
I doubt people know if they are good or not as they simply do what they do in the belief they are getting what they need or are giving what they think is good.
I've been with women in sexless relationships who were great and women who gave preferences for stamina and be done in say 30mins.
Same with seeing guys in group setting just lay on women occasionally moving their arse greased with sweat putting maximum effort in or guys being metronomically wooden with no hips just their whole back moving when shagging.
Seeing people fuck does open your eyes - if you look I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am good at some bits. Dirty talk comes easily to me for instance. But god, I've read some of the stuff on here and I don't even know what people are on about. I don't know anything about my gspot or 5 types of orgasms. Yes I compare myself often because I don't orgasm and then think i am crap at sex. |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
I’m observant - I pay attention to my partner, I feed off his reactions, the way his body moves, the sounds he makes, the furthest thing from my mind is ‘comparison’ we have all had previous lovers/partners but getting hung up on what someone has experienced before you is no good for your mental health or the health of the relationship.
I’m a dancer, rhythm is in me and with my current partner I find we are connected in a way that our bodies feel like we’re dancing - sometimes he takes the lead and sometimes we switch it up, it can be fast paced or it can be slow and sensual both I feel bring out different dimensions of our personalities it’s incredibly arousing to see my partner just letting go and likewise it’s amazing for me to feel able too. I think it boils down to comfortability with someone, connection and chemistry - it’s either there or it’s not xx |
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"I’m observant - I pay attention to my partner, I feed off his reactions, the way his body moves, the sounds he makes, the furthest thing from my mind is ‘comparison’ we have all had previous lovers/partners but getting hung up on what someone has experienced before you is no good for your mental health or the health of the relationship.
I’m a dancer, rhythm is in me and with my current partner I find we are connected in a way that our bodies feel like we’re dancing - sometimes he takes the lead and sometimes we switch it up, it can be fast paced or it can be slow and sensual both I feel bring out different dimensions of our personalities it’s incredibly arousing to see my partner just letting go and likewise it’s amazing for me to feel able too. I think it boils down to comfortability with someone, connection and chemistry - it’s either there or it’s not xx"
Totally agree with that last part. Makes all the difference. |
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I cum quick, just like everybody else ...
Been through it all. Had one instance / relationship where I couldn't even maintain an erection (I think more a mental block than anything else).
And other relationships where my partner's say I fuck like a pornstar....
I find I'm better at The Sex stuff when theres a good connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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No idea but I hope so. I would hope that the person or people I am playing with would communicate with me if I'm not doing something well. But I tend to go off any sounds people make (if they are vocal) which is a good indicator and helps.
Yes, I'm very much a sex person and love it. I don't really drink alcohol now (I used to), don't do any substances and try and keep my diet as healthy and clean as I can. So playing is one of my main enjoyments of life. |
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By *ark ElMan
over a year ago
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"I doubt people know if they are good or not as they simply do what they do in the belief they are getting what they need or are giving what they think is good.
I've been with women in sexless relationships who were great and women who gave preferences for stamina and be done in say 30mins.
Same with seeing guys in group setting just lay on women occasionally moving their arse greased with sweat putting maximum effort in or guys being metronomically wooden with no hips just their whole back moving when shagging.
Seeing people fuck does open your eyes - if you look I suppose"
This!
The bit about being “wooden with no hips” kills me because it’s so true ! |
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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No.
I’d care if I cared for the person I was having sex with. But....nah. 98% of the time I’m just happy to be having it. |
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"I’m observant - I pay attention to my partner, I feed off his reactions, the way his body moves, the sounds he makes, the furthest thing from my mind is ‘comparison’ we have all had previous lovers/partners but getting hung up on what someone has experienced before you is no good for your mental health or the health of the relationship.
I’m a dancer, rhythm is in me and with my current partner I find we are connected in a way that our bodies feel like we’re dancing - sometimes he takes the lead and sometimes we switch it up, it can be fast paced or it can be slow and sensual both I feel bring out different dimensions of our personalities it’s incredibly arousing to see my partner just letting go and likewise it’s amazing for me to feel able too. I think it boils down to comfortability with someone, connection and chemistry - it’s either there or it’s not xx"
This, this, and this.
Our minds are dancers. The best dancers.
OP - if you're ever able to learn that letting your mind "dance" answers questions far better than how we think questions should be asked/answered (maybe you do already)...you'll have cracked most of it.
See, feel, "know" the waves and the rhythms. Dialectic, reason, argumentation - they're not as big in the picture as "sensing" deeper rhythms.
This, this, this...dancing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh Meli, there was a time when I did worry about this stuff!
My marriage was pretty sexless for the last few years, and by the time I first joined Fab I'd been celibate for over 2 years. I was worried that I'd forgotten what to do, or that sex practices had moved on from from when I first dated my ex-husband and people were now expecting weird and wonderful things that I was unfamiliar with!
That was 9 years ago. I think I might have got the hang of it now...
And please never mention how ridiculous and overthinky my brain is  |
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I haven't been with anyone for a very long time.
Things wouldn't worry me as it can only be good for both if compatible.
It's not easy to come across someone compatible but when you do, don't let them go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a shit shag, I'd love to be better.. And if someone can teach me to talk dirty without sounding like a newsreader or dissolving into a fit of giggles I'd be eternally grateful "
You must be having a laugh
YOUR PROFILE IS FANTASTIC
AND YOUR HOT LUSH AWESOME FANTASTIC
SO TAKE A HUG WISH YOU ALL THE BEST XXXX |
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I am a sex person. I think I am good at the sex.
As a general rule I'm engaged, enthusiastic, invested in my partners enjoyment. I don't remember the last time I had bad sex with someone I chose to have sex with |
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No, but I'm getting better.
Im trusting more in my instincts and my irracional forces, those I used to selfcontrol with a little help of my education and culture . Im letting me go with the flow, get carry away by the passion, and it feel so good. Its working |
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With the Mr yes, I've learnt his body I know how to please him & I enjoy doing so.
Am I good with everyone else hell no, I don't know everyone's bodies, I don't know what all the people like and it always confuses me when people say they are amazing at the sex - everyone likes the sex differently, everyone likes to be touched differently, some hard, some soft, some passionate, some sloppy, it's finding that person you fit with well that you understand and learn what each other likes, some you just fit with and others take work, some just aren't compatible at all.
So basically my answer is no.
Mrs |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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Yes
I'd only worry if they didn't want to re-visit it again with me, or when it seems to always be so one sided to arrange to see each other again! Lack of effort kills a good thing. "
Yes, definitely. I think there's got to be at least some energy/effort from both sides to keep chemistry going. If it's not forthcoming then you could
a) think maybe it wasn't good for the other and b) lose interest. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Nahhhh. I'm a lie back and think of England, pull my nightie down when yer finished kinda girl."
I'm sure that means you're truly fantastic at it. All that effort and focus you're putting in to it is truly top tier stuff. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Meli, there was a time when I did worry about this stuff!
My marriage was pretty sexless for the last few years, and by the time I first joined Fab I'd been celibate for over 2 years. I was worried that I'd forgotten what to do, or that sex practices had moved on from from when I first dated my ex-husband and people were now expecting weird and wonderful things that I was unfamiliar with!
That was 9 years ago. I think I might have got the hang of it now...
And please never mention how ridiculous and overthinky my brain is "
You don't have an overthinky brain, don't worry about it. *winks*
Yes, if you've had a bit of time away you can worry that you don't know what to do or you've not kept up with the latest sex fad. I feel like that after a few weeks of not meeting anyone. It's not easy is it? |
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"Don't know if I'm any good at it, but I try, I'm an enthusiastic trier!"
Every meet you have is experience gained, I thought I was fairly good when I joined here, but I realise I had a lot to learn and I’m still learning |
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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No I'm rubbish ,but I can guarantee that you'll never be more disappointed than spending a night with me.
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"Oh Meli, there was a time when I did worry about this stuff!
My marriage was pretty sexless for the last few years, and by the time I first joined Fab, I'd been celibate for over 2 years. I was worried that I'd forgotten what to do, or that sex practices had moved on from when I first dated my ex-husband and people were now expecting weird and wonderful things that I was unfamiliar with!
That was 9 years ago. I think I might have got the hang of it now...
And please never mention how ridiculous and overthink my brain is "
Hi. Similar to my life story. Glad I can feel less alone or isolate here x |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
No I'm rubbish ,but I can guarantee that you'll never be more disappointed than spending a night with me.
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Well, that's a definite silver lining. You're the best at something, you should take pride in that. |
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It's not let me down yet, but hey I can't comment as we are all gonna say we are great but proof is in the pudding or eating or..... (Insert innuendo)
Only as good as your last verification I'd say and if you get the repeat meet.
Give us a try I suppose maybe? Never one to blow my own trumpet(yes that's innuendo as well!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always give 100%.
Given a prevailing wind, some jump leads and a team of paramedics on stand by, I’m pretty sure satisfaction is guaranteed (I should add that this bold claim is not legally binding) |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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I never. Compare myself to others. That way lies madness |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am good at some bits. Dirty talk comes easily to me for instance. But god, I've read some of the stuff on here and I don't even know what people are on about. I don't know anything about my gspot or 5 types of orgasms. Yes I compare myself often because I don't orgasm and then think i am crap at sex. "
Confession time... a post of yours inspired this thread.
You're not crap because you don't orgasm during sex. I think we all have such different turn ons, ways of approaching things. It's about finding people you're compatible with. I'm convinced I don't have a G-spot. I'm not going to ask anyone for anal (well, possibly two). I've never squirted and the thought of an orgy leaves me towel dry. I'm not worse at sex than someone who enjoys those things. Nor am I better.
I always imagine you to be rather good at communicating. That's something that can help people be "good" at sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh blimey. Who knows?
Me. I know.
But but but how would you know?
Are you a Sex Person?"
I can do the sex quite well according to some. Not so well I reckon according to others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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Utterly useless at it!! |
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Hmm. I'd say there are aspects of it that I'm good at (shouldn't take much guesswork to work out what). In my younger days nerves meant that I was often unable to finish during sex, which I enjoyed as it meant I was almost guaranteed to last a decent amount of time. But my confidence took a hit during lockdown for various reasons and now I'm not as good at it as I used to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure if I'm good or not but I can lack sexual confidence which just plays on my mind and makes me overthink where the next experience has to be amazing to get that back up. |
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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I have been told I am good
I am VERY enthusiastic and I really think that is half the battle ( oooh is “half the battle” a good turn of phrase to use in this context? )
Anyway, if the guy, or guys, see that you are really enjoying being with them then I think that gives them confidence and enthusiasm to be with you.
If everyone is comfortable and feeling good then “the sex thing” is going to be good… I think!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am I sexual person? Yes, I think about it often. Good at sex stuff? By what standards? What's good for one person might not be good to another. Lastly, I never worry or compare myself because it's all about attraction and preferences. If sex wasn't great that's probably because there wasn't much attraction and/or mismatched preferences or a person didn't really know what they're into or what they looking for |
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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I enjoy sex and don't worry if I'm good or not, just gi with the flow. I've not had anyone complain.
Cal must think I'm good enough as he's kept wanting more and his is the only opinion that really matters
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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Knowledge wise - encyclopedia. Starting reading sex books in my teens, pre Internet.
Practical wise - I believe I do reasonably well. There is always room for improvement. As they say, practice makes perfect.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm sure I'm perfectly average. It's a statistical fact that most of us will be!
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Not only have you kept that username but you're also bringing statistics into a qualitative discussion? Sigh, YOLO, sigh. |
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"I'm sure I'm perfectly average. It's a statistical fact that most of us will be!
Not only have you kept that username but you're also bringing statistics into a qualitative discussion? Sigh, YOLO, sigh."
It's a truth universally acknowledged that 99.9% of Fab is exceptional at something sexual... |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm sure I'm perfectly average. It's a statistical fact that most of us will be!
Not only have you kept that username but you're also bringing statistics into a qualitative discussion? Sigh, YOLO, sigh.
It's a truth universally acknowledged that 99.9% of Fab is exceptional at something sexual..."
Redeemed slightly with the cheeky little homage to Austen. Well done. Do you think you're exceptional at something sexual? |
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"I'm sure I'm perfectly average. It's a statistical fact that most of us will be!
Not only have you kept that username but you're also bringing statistics into a qualitative discussion? Sigh, YOLO, sigh.
It's a truth universally acknowledged that 99.9% of Fab is exceptional at something sexual...
Redeemed slightly with the cheeky little homage to Austen. Well done. Do you think you're exceptional at something sexual?"
No. I'm in the 0.1% - the true elite. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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"At the Sex Stuff?
Are you a Sex Person?
Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?
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I used to think so
But think I have lost my edge since I hit 50!!!!
but then again, I hit 50 when Covid was in its peak and have lost my confidence somewhat since! |
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"Um I had a message saying yes, I am good at the sex, apparently
Nice one Tessa! Everyone should get this question answered at some point. "
I disagree.
Asking the question is not going to get a truly honest answer.
In Tess’s example the opinion seems to have been offered unprompted so holds more credibility.
Good for you Tess you great shag you |
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"I'm sure I'm perfectly average. It's a statistical fact that most of us will be!
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My dear fellow if that was true the majority of the gentlefolk would rename themselves "YouOnlyFuckOnce"..."
Not true, Nero. It's like sport. I play a lot of football and I like it, but I'm never going to play for Arsenal.
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I personally think I’m good at one sex act. Otherwise, I don’t necessarily think I’m great in general.
I consider myself a sex person. One of my partners says I’m one hungry, greedy sex machine.
I used to compare myself to others. Especially when it came to certain sexual activities specifically. Now, I don’t bother. I happily share what I am less confident about, but otherwise I feel eagerness, broad mindedness, and enthusiasm go a long way to make me a memorable sex partner. Of course this is all highly dependent on the other(s) I’m sharing sex with.
What makes for great sex isn’t so much the ability to do wild tricks and such but the way one connects with others. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Um I had a message saying yes, I am good at the sex, apparently
Nice one Tessa! Everyone should get this question answered at some point.
I disagree.
Asking the question is not going to get a truly honest answer.
In Tess’s example the opinion seems to have been offered unprompted so holds more credibility.
Good for you Tess you great shag you "
I don't think you have to ask the question to get it answered. I do think everyone should experience the little grin of knowing someone thinks you're a good fuck.
Tessa didn't ask and now she knows someone thinks she's great. I think someone wanting to see you again, a remark of unprompted, yes, satisfaction/happiness will always carry more weight than asking 'Am I a good fuck?'.
Plus, who would ever be so needy as to ask that? |
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"I personally think I’m good at one sex act. Otherwise, I don’t necessarily think I’m great in general.
I consider myself a sex person. One of my partners says I’m one hungry, greedy sex machine.
I used to compare myself to others. Especially when it came to certain sexual activities specifically. Now, I don’t bother. I happily share what I am less confident about, but otherwise I feel eagerness, broad mindedness, and enthusiasm go a long way to make me a memorable sex partner. Of course this is all highly dependent on the other(s) I’m sharing sex with.
What makes for great sex isn’t so much the ability to do wild tricks and such but the way one connects with others. "
I love the anticipation of what is going to happen!! Just let it happen and all the best is going to come our direction for sure !! And if we are lucky enough we could both cum together |
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By *ags73Man
over a year ago
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"At the Sex Stuff? "
I’d leave for others to judge. That’s not my call to make.
"Are you a Sex Person?"
-xy? -xual?
I like it, I enjoy it, I like the woman enjoying it too.
There’s stuff I know but probably loads I need to do again or learn
" Do you ever worry/think you're not that great at The Sex or compare yourself to others?"
Always someone younger, fitter, with a bigger schlong, whatever it might be..
Can’t compare yourself against maybes. He might be this but can’t do that. Or then again he’s fantastic at it, so could go around in circles on that.
So in the moment and with that person, I do what I do and try to get a connection, have fun and not worry about how I might compare. |
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I'm a sex person. I bloody love the sex. It's not about particular acts, but the exploration and finding out what's enjoyable. I'm all in when it comes to sex - I am very uninhibited and enthusiastic. So the times when sex hasn't been good is when there's been a mismatch in that respect. I don't compare myself with others when it comes to sex, I think that's a slippery slope in the swinging world. I'm either for you or I'm not.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *ags73Man
over a year ago
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" I am very uninhibited and enthusiastic. So the times when sex hasn't been good is when there's been a mismatch in that respect. I don't compare myself with others when it comes to sex, I think that's a slippery slope in the swinging world. I'm either for you or I'm not.
Mrs TMN x"
From past experience I think the times I had a mismatch are few but, it can be awful either lying like a plank of wood expecting me to ‘be the shag’ or awkward with them coming into it with expectations and not contributing toward what they expect.
It’s a two player (or more) interactive thing I guess, and you can both talk and coax and suggest as you go.
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