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MEN, what have you learnt?
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What have you learnt from the Fab experience that you didn’t know before?
What have you learnt about women(or men)?
What have you learnt about yourself?
Maybe you’ve learnt something about your place in the world of sex/dating?
Are you better for it? Worse? |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I haven’t learned anything from fab that I’ve taken and internalised. I used to be on here and feel ugly and on the forums used to feel hated. But I don’t internalise this shit anymore. My friends and family love me and my partners think I’m beautiful. I care less than I used to about being attractive.
Also I’ve learned lots of shit about racism  |
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That the odds are not in favour of the male
That there are a lot of time wasters and dreamers
That no matter how polite you are in a message not to expect any reply
That there are actually a few really nice people out there
I ma site there are other things but those are the ones that spring to mind |
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"Cheating is so easy and impossible to catch these days with technology that no relationship is safe "
I agree with this. Going back 20-25 years when we all had Nokia 3310s, a text from a side piece could have you caught out.
Now you can turn all your notifications off, edit even long chat logs, password protect not just your phone but all your apps too. |
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I deal with mainly women for a living (can you tell by my stellar chat?!) so I haven't learnt much about them. And everyone (men and women) are different. Some are fun and flirty and take life a little less seriously and others are very self obsessed and think or know they are attractive so it becomes their whole personality.
This place is no different. But it is skewed here because it's full of horny men so even the less attractive people get all the attention |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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There’s not much difference between men and women.
Double standards 
I’m difficult to like.
I could probably find love again. I don’t want meaningless sex, but I don’t mind one offs. (That’s an odd one) the older I get the more liberal I’ve become.
My sexual fantasies and desires are tame compared to some.
Fab can be as judgmental as accepting at the same time.
Some people can change with a click of the finger depending what they want.
Everything isn’t what it seems in the surface.
And I’m alright for my age. A as f of I like them, there’s another 200 people already in line to grab her attention too.
I’ve learned loads, should I carry on?
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I have learned that I like to perve ^his pics.
i dont have pics though
I know this. It may not have been intended for you, but I didn’t like to say.  "
guessed as much  |
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By *stellaWoman 45 weeks ago
London |
"I have learned that I like to perve ^his pics.
i dont have pics though
I know this. It may not have been intended for you, but I didn’t like to say.
guessed as much "
Well, if you will only have private pics, what’s a girl to do?  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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That I can actually take a decent photo
My angles & lighting work has improved
My chat & flanter still need A LOT of work
Oh…and I can lose many many hours just looking at gorgeous sexy ladies in all kinds of situations /positions  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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This thread could be a disaster is what I have learnt. It'll only take one disgruntled, many time rejected bloke to unload and this will turn into a slanging match. Luckily, that isn't me today haha |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I have learned that I like to perve ^his pics.
i dont have pics though
I know this. It may not have been intended for you, but I didn’t like to say.
guessed as much
Well, if you will only have private pics, what’s a girl to do? "
find yourself someone else to perve  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I'm actually not as shy as I thought I was. Going to socials really helped me understand that quite like being out with good company and if anything, it's helped me more in my social life in going out with friends more.
It's also taught me to be more confident in my body. I never took a photo of my body before I joined Fab and have grown quite fond of finding new angles and photo opportunities.
Sexually, I'd say it's taught me that I'm allowed to have my own boundaries and likes that I can look for and that I don't have solely focus on trying to give pleasure to almost prove I'm worth of having sex with them  |
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That I really like a woman’s bent over, arse-up type pictures.
I am more of a boob than leg man
That people on fab are actually kind of sweet when you meet them
That there are some very saucy sods in the world, some of whom I am glad to call friend |
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Things I have learnt or confirmed my knowledge on, all tanks to Fab are:
1. No one is everyone's cup of tea/coffee/hot-chocolate/gin.
2. Women will always have more males to choose from than men would for women.
3. Moaning/crying/complaining/whining gets you no where; especially,for males.
4. You are 100% responsible for your feelings and how you respond to rejections.
5. No one owes you any replies, irrespective of how respectful, polite or well-structured your message(s) is (are).
6. Once you get a no, no matter how polite you reply to them or how nasty your reply is, it will still get you no where (better to not reply or be nasty as they will block you and then spread the news on their profiles,which you can't see)
7. There is no guarantees on what gets you noticed on Fab, it about keep doing whatever it is you are doing and hope someday you get lucky.
8. No matter the length or girth if your cock, someone you had what seemed like the best times with may never reply to messages afterwards.
9. Do not get too attached as it always ends one way,which will not favour you.
10. Messaging someone 100s of miles away has less tabn one percent chance of leading to anything.
These are my learnings,it may not be same for all. So I keep them to myself and not share to the public |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Cheating is so easy and impossible to catch these days with technology that no relationship is safe
Technology hasn't changed that one bit "
Damn, who’s gonna tell him?
Couldn’t arrange to cheat on fabswingers or on a dating app while your wife is in the shower before smartphones |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF 
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please? "
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi |
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi "
That’s not a thing is it? Where is it written? (please bear in mind that my Ladybird Big Book of Swinging is from 1976) |
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi "
Well that's something I didn't know ! |
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By *TG3Man 45 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi "
who told you that? |
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi "
Thanks! We lear. Everyday! |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner  "
Isn’t this just the norm? Regardless of gender the older you get the smaller the pool of people gets who are attracted to you. |
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Oooh another one
I have learnt that my “preferences” at the beginning led to rather disappointing meets and that when I opened my mind a little what I was seeking was not the package but the contents |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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When it comes to women I’ve realised that the majority of women here appreciate emotion and connection, even in the context of “no strings” sex. Sometimes it seems some women on here are more emotionally demanding than women in “real life”.
This isn’t a criticism, it’s more of an observation about different needs.
Men don’t have those kinds of emotional needs, so it’s a lot more straight forward. Again I’m not saying that’s good or bad. It’s just something I noticed. |
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi
Well that's something I didn't know !"
Really  |
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What have you learnt from the Fab experience that you didn’t know before? A lot of people have the same sense of humour as me.
What have you learnt about women(or men)? Don't simp over women is the order of the day.
What have you learnt about yourself? People can sense things about me without any sort of prompting. They are usually right.
Maybe you’ve learnt something about your place in the world of sex/dating? I could be doing more of both if I make more effort.
Are you better for it? Worse? Better! |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I have learnt there’s a difference between MFM and MMF
Not the hard way
K
I must have missed classes on those days... Care to elaborate, please?
MFM = guys are straight
MMF = guys play bi who told you that? "
This is how I understood it too |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner
Isn’t this just the norm? Regardless of gender the older you get the smaller the pool of people gets who are attracted to you. "
With the ladies is it so that they become sexy in a different light to younger as well as same age …. With a pool of younger gents now wanting them? Cubs is it?
Is there a similar thing for older guys with younger ladies?
Asking for a friend |
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By *ullyMan 45 weeks ago
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Yes I found that. Was chatting to a guy, A "straight guy" of course lol, anyhow I needed a pee, took four or five mins inc hand washing, came back to message "that conversation went downhill quick" And he'd blocked me? LoL
BTW for some reason all the guys that message and I've have fun with from Fabswingers have had "straight" on their profiles?? |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner
Isn’t this just the norm? Regardless of gender the older you get the smaller the pool of people gets who are attracted to you.
With the ladies is it so that they become sexy in a different light to younger as well as same age …. With a pool of younger gents now wanting them? Cubs is it?
Is there a similar thing for older guys with younger ladies?
Asking for a friend "
Lol! I’m very much an older man lover, but I don’t think there’s a name for it! A nice one anyway. |
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner
Isn’t this just the norm? Regardless of gender the older you get the smaller the pool of people gets who are attracted to you.
With the ladies is it so that they become sexy in a different light to younger as well as same age …. With a pool of younger gents now wanting them? Cubs is it?
Is there a similar thing for older guys with younger ladies?
Asking for a friend
Lol! I’m very much an older man lover, but I don’t think there’s a name for it! A nice one anyway. "
Indeed they do |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner "
I think it’s less to do with age, and more to do with physicality. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner
I think it’s less to do with age, and more to do with physicality."
Sorry I forgot to add that I mean in general! Not you specifically |
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By *ean counterMan 45 weeks ago
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"That nature is real ! As men get older the female of the species finds us less attractive and less suitable as a sexual partner
I think it’s less to do with age, and more to do with physicality.
Sorry I forgot to add that I mean in general! Not you specifically "
Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"I have learned nothing.
I know nothing… M’Lord 
Well you’re not a man so as a woman all you need to learn is delete and block x
Nah… I like asking them if they prefer receiving anal"
Always straight to their point hey |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"What have you learnt from the Fab experience that you didn’t know before?
What have you learnt about women(or men)?
What have you learnt about yourself?
Maybe you’ve learnt something about your place in the world of sex/dating?
Are you better for it? Worse?"
I've learnt that much more people are involved in the world of sex, swinging and kinky adventures than what I thought and new previous to joining.
Not really learnt anything new about men or women to be honest. Men are men and women are women.
I've learnt that I had waaay more patience than what I thought I had lol.
I enjoy chatting to others in the world of sex/dating.
Well as I have learnt something from this experience, I would say better for it than worse off. |
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Oddly enough, I learned that too many people in "vanilla" dating settings are way too naive when it comes to sexual health. On here everything is discussed before, and when bare play is agreed is always (at least in my experience) after testing has been done and evidence shared. To the point that when I asked ladies met from other settings or apps about their test results I got very odd looks in response |
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Seriously tho they are nuts, shhhh don't tell them I said that.
Love love xx
And a requited one at that to 