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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
All of that except the eye contact. |
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over a year ago
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This is the best way to get me into bed too, funnily enough. Engage my mind and I’m yours. Talk passionately about social issues and other woke snowflake stuff and I’ll do whatever you want.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
Spark my interest through conversation, discussion and jokes. Make me feel valued and wanted, rather than just someone who's in the right place at the right time. Mental attraction is way more important than physical, any day of the week.
Or just lie back and offer me grapes, honey and ice cream to eat from your naked body...... |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
Spark my interest through conversation, discussion and jokes. Make me feel valued and wanted, rather than just someone who's in the right place at the right time. Mental attraction is way more important than physical, any day of the week.
Or just lie back and offer me grapes, honey and ice cream to eat from your naked body......"
(Whispers…I have an almighty crush on you and am doing a little dance that you’ve posted) |
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"This is the best way to get me into bed too, funnily enough. Engage my mind and I’m yours. Talk passionately about social issues and other woke snowflake stuff and I’ll do whatever you want.
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Completely this for me too. |
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology? 
(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time). |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Errr...consent?
Obviously! Blimey!
Sorry, it's just that...I'm really uncomplicated  "
Oh I see! Sorry I thought you meant I wasn’t including consent in mine! Sorry I read that wrong!!
I get ya!  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?
(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time). "
Yasss. Phwoaaaar! |
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over a year ago
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?
(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time). "
I read about this in a book called ‘at the existentialist cafe’ and it sounds phenomenal  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?
(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time).
I read about this in a book called ‘at the existentialist cafe’ and it sounds phenomenal "
Lived experience is something I’m passionate about in my line of work.
In particular the idea of lived experience leadership. |
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"I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find
I love that I actually know what you have said!!  "
Rseacrh sowhs taht pordvdeid the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the crrceot palce egnilsh can be udnresootd rgeradelss of where the other leettrs are. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I just l8ke men motecinteelgent than me. There not hard to find
I love that I actually know what you have said!!
Rseacrh sowhs taht pordvdeid the frsit and lsat ltteer are in the crrceot palce egnilsh can be udnresootd rgeradelss of where the other leettrs are."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?
For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.
A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.
I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).
Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring.  |
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
I did A-level Sociology - wanna talk about Phenomenology?
(I don't actually remember much about Phenomenology off the top of my head but I remember finding some interest in it at the time).
Yasss. Phwoaaaar!"
I had a Marxist Feminist Sociology teacher. I agreed with a lot of what she said but held out a bit and argued for a Phenomenological point of view on the issues we discussed, as I recall. I should refresh my memory - shame I don't have my old notes!
But I think Sociology is also a general way of looking at and interrogating the world as well as it is about specific schools of thought, and I've never lost that I think.
What are your interests in it? |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?
For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.
A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.
I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).
Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring. "
I like what you’ve written a lot  |
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By *lueseasWoman
over a year ago
Leamington Spa |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
This is an excellent list. I would only add a cheeky, naugthy glint in the eye... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
Well for a start, if someone starts dictating, then it's not a conversation is it?
For me, sharing core (for me anyway, maybe I'm too long in the tooth) values such as courtesy, respect, dignity, honour, selflessness, diplomacy and empathy go a long long way.
A person doesn't have to have an astounding intellect to spark my interest, but a distinct lack of values will definitely get my warning lights flashing.
I'm aware I'm probably not being too succinct or clear, but that's just me probably rambling on like a stuck record (I find it much easier to talk in person as opposed to writing stuff down?).
Gonna stop now before I make myself sound even more stupidly dull n boring.
I like what you’ve written a lot "
Aww thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
"Debate not Dictate" I like that saying....
& I'm going to use it....
Debate Don't Dictate
 
Sometimes people dictate in the forums when it should be just debates....(from my experience anyway)!!!! |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.
A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.
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"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.
A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.
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Would that be organic chemistry?
Good evening my Norse goddess. |
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By *eliusMan
over a year ago
Henlow |
"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
Yep all that and hobnobs! Or a Krispy Kreme… |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.
A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.
Would that be organic chemistry?
Good evening my Norse goddess. "
Organic yes |
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"Mutual chemistry.. The kind that gets us beneath the surface in a matter of minutes in conversation. Openess, a warm heart, natural attentiveness and a dirty smile.
A kiss that makes me juice and some biting of my neck. Get the neck AND nipples and you're in.
Would that be organic chemistry?
Good evening my Norse goddess.
Organic yes "
BTW, Did you ever see the drawing I sent you?
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Chemistry. Without chemistry, which I can't quite explain why I have with some and not in the slightest with others, it'll never be more than a platonic thing. So chemistry as a base. A basic thing that's needed.
On top of that? I adore passion, passionate people. When there's something that makes someone's eyes light up, where they lean in to waffling excitedly about a topic. That ability to care about something, to embrace it. Very hot. If someone can combine that with the ability to make me think, to challenge me but not fall out when I disagree? 
I like those who have a humour that's compatible with mine, tactile to a certain degree. I like people who possess a level of emotional maturity, who are able to discuss things as well as they can listen. Who are kind to others, show respect and thoughtfulness.
What definitely gets me in to bed? When I feel desired. Wanted by that person. Not because I have a vagina but because I'm me. I like feeling wanted, desired, whatever. I like feeling like there's more than the physicality that makes someone want to fuck me. If someone can convey that? Perfect. |
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you? "
Er...I’M A MAN 
Just ask |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
Er...I’M A MAN
Just ask"
LMFAO this!!! |
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Humour, confidence and easy conversation…. I can chat with the best of them so need someone to bounce off.
I think I have a good sense of humour and I think laughing and taking the mick is vital for that connection
I’m generally quite confident in most things and find that attractive in others. |
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"What’s the best way to get you into bed? What do you find attractive?
For me, talk psychology/sociology but debate, not dictate, and turn my mind on to how you reason, how you think, what you have learned from your experience or from truly listening to others. And make me laugh. Be kind and affectionate and tactile. And have sparkly eyes and no fear of eye contact. And I’m putty.
What does it for you?
"Debate not Dictate" I like that saying....
& I'm going to use it....
Debate Don't Dictate
Sometimes people dictate in the forums when it should be just debates....(from my experience anyway)!!!!"
Prefer mass debates myself |
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