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I really struggle to finish through vaginal penetration alone and because of this I end up getting frustrated which then leads me to not be able to finish. I enjoy it and it feels good and I stay eroused but I just wont cum!
I was wondering if anyone can reccomend any toys that may help with this to add extra sensation for me?
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Thanks for your reply 
The issue goes further as well as my partner thinks I wont finish so isnt interested in anything else. I wanted to try to sort myself to encourage her more. If that makes sense.. |
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"Toys are not a guarantee to cum though either, can you not wank over her to cum?"
Sounds hot! Unfortunately even though we have been together a long time this isnt something I would feel comfortable doing ?? |
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"Hi, I dont really know where else to ask this other than here...
I really struggle to finish through vaginal penetration alone and because of this I end up getting frustrated which then leads me to not be able to finish. I enjoy it and it feels good and I stay eroused but I just wont cum!
I was wondering if anyone can reccomend any toys that may help with this to add extra sensation for me?
Thank you!"
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I used to have issues to cum during morning sex.
Well, when I used to have sex.
Not sure what the exact name of the position, but I'll try to explain it as simple as possible.
It's almost doggy position, but you kind of halfway standing up. We called it monkey position with my ex.
Always worked and had an orgasm quite quickly.
Usually avoiding that position, unless I can't cum.
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Porn creep is another potential cause. Too much wanking which is a firmer grip that your penis gets used to and then can’t cum through piv sex. Cure is to lay off the porn/wanking.
There are also certain meds that can cause this mainly anti anxiety ones. |
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"Hi, I dont really know where else to ask this other than here...
I really struggle to finish through vaginal penetration alone and because of this I end up getting frustrated which then leads me to not be able to finish. I enjoy it and it feels good and I stay eroused but I just wont cum!
I was wondering if anyone can reccomend any toys that may help with this to add extra sensation for me?
Thank you!"
Take her up her arse! Nice and tight that will get you pumping fertile cum in her |
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"Toys are not a guarantee to cum though either, can you not wank over her to cum?
Sounds hot! Unfortunately even though we have been together a long time this isnt something I would feel comfortable doing ??"
And why not???
I don't think it's a performance issue it's a partner issue... Your dick is thinking more rationale and honestly than your brain is.
You're fucking a person who you say you've known long term but you're not comfortable wanking over her or having that discussion to do it or try it?
Sex should be comfortable it should be enjoyable pleasurable mutual discussion able and wow once you get that opportunity to realize it can be ri
limitless you will look back on this and say why was I denying that for myself for so long...
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"Porn creep is another potential cause. Too much wanking which is a firmer grip that your penis gets used to and then can’t cum through piv sex. Cure is to lay off the porn/wanking.
There are also certain meds that can cause this mainly anti anxiety ones. "
The death grip messes things up for a lot of men. |
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I have been through similar to the point that overthinking it so much made me sometimes go soft mid play and it just takes time to get yourself out of that psychological loop. My best advice is to talk it through with your partner at the time, explain it might happen and to try and play through it without actually acknowledging it during the session and then gradually it will begin to escape your mind and you'll reset yourself. That's what worked for me at least |
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