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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually when they’ve finished their wank or sobered up 
More seriously, if engagement is lessening eg messages less interesting or frequent, become vague about details, physically a little detached or keep a little distant where they didn’t before etc. it’s not one thing it’s a pattern of little things. |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
I never lost interest. I just never had the courage to express my interest.. 
In all honesty though, I would say when more than 24hrs goes by without receiving a response from your last PM..  |
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When they resort to non-reciprocal chat, even when they have explicitly stated on their own profiles they wish to...chat extensively. When they offer lip service for articulate conversation - because they've told you they want to establish sufficient chemistry - but give you anything but that.
When your gut-feel tells you that you're no longer a ·choice· but now just an ·option· and you're lower down the pecking order.
When her loquacious interactions are replaced with monosyllabic responses... tantamount to breadcrumbing.
And those are just the ones who contacted ·me· in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking"
Oh yes. However emphasis needs to be made about over a period of time. Sometimes a quick short reply is all that's needed or can be done at the time.
Those that know me I can say lots, and then sometimes say very little. More often than not though I bounce back and bite them with paragraphs once again. |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
"Right I'm off to sulk(joking) thanks for your replies.
Clearly they are bonkers. Fancy a game of Cards against Humanity?"
Oooh ! I'll have a game of CAH.
Always good for a giggle.
Now that would be a good Saturday night thread for us no hopers.
Invite Wonko too.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Usually when they’ve finished their wank or sobered up
More seriously, if engagement is lessening eg messages less interesting or frequent, become vague about details, physically a little detached or keep a little distant where they didn’t before etc. it’s not one thing it’s a pattern of little things. "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking"
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other  |
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other "
It's called keeping in touch |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other "
That's fair enough though. If they're frequent and seem engaged then that's all that matters  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
It's called keeping in touch "
My people know they matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
That's fair enough though. If they're frequent and seem engaged then that's all that matters "
Some of them are comedy gold  |
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
It's called keeping in touch
My people know they matter "
That's lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
That's fair enough though. If they're frequent and seem engaged then that's all that matters
Some of them are comedy gold "
Comedy and sadness I would say. Somewhere betwixt the two |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
That's fair enough though. If they're frequent and seem engaged then that's all that matters
Some of them are comedy gold
Comedy and sadness I would say. Somewhere betwixt the two "
Oh very good  |
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"When the flirting happens less and less, the replies are shorter and a longer time is taken between replies. Going from multiple paragraph messages on different topics to single lines is genuinely heart breaking
I’m not brilliant at long messages. More likely to send a few short ones one after the other
That's fair enough though. If they're frequent and seem engaged then that's all that matters
Some of them are comedy gold
Comedy and sadness I would say. Somewhere betwixt the two
Oh very good "
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"When they resort to non-reciprocal chat, even when they have explicitly stated on their own profiles they wish to...chat extensively. When they offer lip service for articulate conversation - because they've told you they want to establish sufficient chemistry - but give you anything but that.
When your gut-feel tells you that you're no longer a ·choice· but now just an ·option· and you're lower down the pecking order.
When her loquacious interactions are replaced with monosyllabic responses... tantamount to breadcrumbing.
And those are just the ones who contacted ·me· in the first place."
Is that when you realise they wanted an uncouth shag all along |
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When they are slow as hell to message,
keep asking your username on kik etc.
Use one word replies.
Answer fk all of your questions.
They dissapear before you go to bed then either reply later next day or wait for you to txt again. And get an attitude when you mention it.
Boot emoji. Move on to fresh pickings. Life’s too short for that unfair shite |
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The only thing I would add is there geographical location can make a difference. Everyone lives busy lives away from here, so I don't expect daily updates on how they're getting on, if we're unlikely to meet straight away. Generally I'm happy with a few short messages a week and then contact becomes more regular closer to meeting. |
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When the messages become more and more sporadic or one liners (meaning they are just spinning the plate) or when they’ve been online time and time again and they don’t message you.
People will ALWAYS find time to message the people they want to.
K |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Struggling to understand how no one is just presuming disinterest until it's explicitly confirmed.
How can females on here be expected believe the hundreds of men are genuinely interested instead of just at a loose end and hoping for literally anyone to say yes? |
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Depends what you mean, if its just messages then the frequency may not mean much.
There's people here we message and they can be weeks or months apart but still interested in them.
Distance can be a problem and if we are both going to the same club then rekindling a conversation to arrange to meet is good.
Regular face to face people, it's pretty obvious if they duck meets but then have veris posted from the same place you would have gone to.
That's premium shithouse behaviour, delete and block. |
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When the person/person’s don’t make you feel any feelings for them like they used to in the beginning like butterflies, make you smile to yourself you feel nothing it’s when I know I lost any interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Am reading the replys to this and am thinking, nobody has asked do they have busy lives and just dont have time to reply. Its maybee they not lost interest but have busy lives outside of fab. |
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"Am reading the replys to this and am thinking, nobody has asked do they have busy lives and just dont have time to reply. Its maybee they not lost interest but have busy lives outside of fab."
Nah. You can tell the difference between just busy and losing interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am reading the replys to this and am thinking, nobody has asked do they have busy lives and just dont have time to reply. Its maybee they not lost interest but have busy lives outside of fab.
Nah. You can tell the difference between just busy and losing interest. "
How. ???? |
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