"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
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Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react. |
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"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
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I think we can all be guilty of getting it wrong sometimes, maybe taking something the wrong way or being too quick to react without thinking it through.
I like to think if I make the wrong decision I will always own up, apologise and try to make it right. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Here? There have been a couple of occasions where in retrospect, things could've been said or handled differently. No one's perfect, after all.
For the most part I'm confortable with my conduct and behaviour  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m guilty of saying things in the heat of the moment before thinking about it properly. It’s not until after I think I probably shouldn’t have said that.
I’m quite stubborn so naturally it’s difficult to admit when I’m in the wrong but if I know I’ve upset someone then I will own up and try to apologise. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
I don’t deliberately try to upset anyone else’s feelings. Sometimes my opinions trigger someone else.
I don’t feel that this is something that I need to excessively apologise for. I am happy to say sorry, but ultimately others do need to take ownership of their own feelings.
If I have ever offended anyone, I sincerely apologise.
I can only see things from my perspective though and I believe others have the right to see things differently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have responded to being gaslighted and an attempt at manipulation. Recently and in the the past.
It took a while for me to bite at times. But I did. I regret biting.
Am I always right, fuck no.
Do I regret? Yes, I regret that I saved someone else's reputation at my expense. When really my anger tells me I should have let my dark sided bitch out and absolutely ruined them.
My head tells me they weren't worth it.
I still feel sad at the outcome, still tearful at times. Still beating myself up, but still stand by my boundaries.
There's no coming back from it either way.
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
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I'm often right, but that's mostly down to the autism, a rediculous memory and a brain itch to always know the right answer (my Google search history is wild...)
I try not to live with regret...
My past actions and decisions have led me to the life I have now and the person I've become, sure I've failed and made mistakes but I try hard to learn from them and to grow. |
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"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
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Funny how I was thinking about this last night - you've taken my thread idea!
Of course I feel regret, I've been a bit rubbish sometimes (hopefully not too many times) and am not always right.
The phrase I was going to describe this is "going on tilt" - it is something I've heard in chess but apparently originates from the world of poker. The wiki definition is good: "a state of mental or emotional confusion or frustration in which a player adopts a suboptimal strategy, usually resulting in the player becoming overly aggressive".
In my case, I (thankfully) don't think I've ever been aggressive to anyone by lashing out or burning any bridges - I don't "hate" anyone and hopefully nobody hates me. What I have done (and what I regret) is when I'm feeling negative about a reaction, seeking validation from someone else. This is just shooting myself in the foot - because that's not their job and it makes it more likely I'll have 2 negative reactions!
A step I've taken once I've come to this realisation - I deliberately avoid communication when I know I'm on tilt. Better to digest those feelings and come up with a clearer root cause than to just rant / moan about it to someone who's dealing with their own issues. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react. "
You're a saint Ghandi, you really are. |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
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I am 53 and yea, I have made a few fuck ups in my time.
Been rude inappropriately when I wish I hadn't, done things that now make me wince and been an outright cunt to some which I really wish I could turn back time and change.
But a) I admit it b) try to make amends when I possibly can and c) try my best to never do the same things again.
If I have had the chance to apologies, I have.
Thank got I am not famous or I am sure I would be in the same predicament as Russel Brand is in right now.
But with experience can come wisdom and I believe I have tried to change and make sure I do not do the stupid, idiotic and quite honestly cuntish things I have done in the past.
Ohhh and I do own up to my sins and go by this prayer
"May god give me the serenity to accept the things I have done, The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference"
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"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react.
You're a saint Ghandi, you really are."
I know Meli, when I die I expect a grandiose tomb in Westminister Abbey, and a statue erected of me in my home town, these are very reasonably expectations I feel. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever regret/feel bad for how you've responded/behaved? Including what you've posted on the fora.
Are you able to own when you've been a bit rubbish? Or are you always right?
Ohh Meli, im always right behave impeccably. Always respond and never react.
You're a saint Ghandi, you really are.
I know Meli, when I die I expect a grandiose tomb in Westminister Abbey, and a statue erected of me in my home town, these are very reasonably expectations I feel."
Haha you said erected *giggle* |
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I mostly post innocuous inane or humorous posts - on the odd occasion I get it wrong I’ll take ownership and rectify it if I can xx. Its a broad church on here and you should try to be sensitive to people and their sensitivities.
No one deliberately comes on here to upset others…. Do they?    |
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On the few occasions where I've had to deal with something on here, usually in the chat room. I have no regrets. I did what I did. I said what I said. Or I ignored the comments,and just blocked and deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm certainly not always right and I expect I've said things others won't like, maybe it even hits a nerve. However I've never purposely said anything to upset anyone.
So I have no regrets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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- because I don’t believe in ‘wrong or right’, but rather that synergy is out of alignment, I don’t regret per se but might feel a slight fleeting sense of disappointment we weren’t synergized at that particular moment in time  |
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