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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.
What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships. |
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over a year ago
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Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation. |
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Humour
Communication
Understanding
Acceptance
Open mindedness
Ability to converse on a range of subjects at various levels.
Able to view things from a variety of perspectives.
And fucking loaded with a large cock. Obvs the most important |
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Both male and female plutonic friends. If someone can have fulfilling relationships and form bonds that isn’t with agenda for getting their privates slobbered on then i think that says a lot.
This goes for women and men.
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The first time they really disagree with you.
That moment that proves they're not just vapid empty yes men saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain their point of view without violence or anger or actually trying to change your mind, just that exchange of interpretations and reasoning.
That's my biggest and most favourite green flag  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
Ooft. What a word to make a typo on  "
 I was about to start replying but yes. Brilliant. Love these forums. Really do. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation."
This for me too, constant sex chat is a huge turn off for me. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation."
Yes! It doesn't mean that you have to divulge your deepest, darkest thoughts/past from day dot, talk frequently but having that open level of conversation, wanting to learn each other? That's a good thing. |
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
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"Someone who is willing to talk about absolutely anything. I find that if I'm talking to someone whether is about absolute bollocks it means they are engaged with me on some level. May not be sexual but it's a brilliant start. Everything starts with a conversation.
This for me too, constant sex chat is a huge turn off for me."
Should of said on here ^.
In real life humour goes a long way with me I love a good sense of humour whether its in a friendship or relationship capacity. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
Ooft. What a word to make a typo on "
Oh, ffs. You too?
I expected Meli to pounce on that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first time they really disagree with you.
That moment that proves they're not just vapid empty yes men saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain their point of view without violence or anger or actually trying to change your mind, just that exchange of interpretations and reasoning.
That's my biggest and most favourite green flag "
I couldn't agree more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first time they really disagree with you.
That moment that proves they're not just vapid empty yes men saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain their point of view without violence or anger or actually trying to change your mind, just that exchange of interpretations and reasoning.
That's my biggest and most favourite green flag
I couldn't agree more."
Hang on.
This is total fucking bullshit. |
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"The first time they really disagree with you.
That moment that proves they're not just vapid empty yes men saying what they think you want to hear. When they explain their point of view without violence or anger or actually trying to change your mind, just that exchange of interpretations and reasoning.
That's my biggest and most favourite green flag
I couldn't agree more.
Hang on.
This is total fucking bullshit."
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
Competence!
Oh, the irony "
The result of no auto-correct and sausage fingers |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Emotional intelligence is important, along with self-awareness.
I find empathy and compassion very attractive, along with humility and an erotic mind.
Saying all that, a little bit of hubris now and then doesn't hurt.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
Competence!
Oh, the irony
The result of no auto-correct and sausage fingers "
If you say it how you spelled it it's actually quite funny  |
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I can break it down to a feeling.
The communication is open and explicit no ulterior motives, no reading you to see what you really mean. Ahhh bliss.
And then there's just that little moment of connection, when you are both lost for words and it doesn't matter. Although that's not always the best in a work environment. Important caveat.
When it's there it's there and then when it's not it's obvious by its absence. How the feelies are handled is when the green flags emerge. If it stays open and it's: ok I've been thinking/feeling and I need to ask you X. It's yay time. If it descends into games it's sads times. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook. "
I'm not going to jump on it again. It's good to see you back for the shits and giggles though.
I do think positivity attracts positivity to a certain extent. Yeah, I like this list. Not just for your inability to show competence.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
I'm not going to jump on it again. It's good to see you back for the shits and giggles though.
I do think positivity attracts positivity to a certain extent. Yeah, I like this list. Not just for your inability to show competence.
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The competenfe thing might catch on |
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A sharp sense of humour. Intelligence - both emotional & wit. Kindness. Empathy. A quiet confidence. Not completely giving in to my bullshit (probably. Mostly)
And the undefinable thing. That gets you in the belly and you know you’re going to have an absolute blast together, but that you are 100% safe.
And nice shoes. Nice shoes are always good. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Humour
Communication
Understanding
Acceptance
Open mindedness
Ability to converse on a range of subjects at various levels.
Able to view things from a variety of perspectives.
And fucking loaded with a large cock. Obvs the most important "
You're such a scamp Granny. Viewing things from a variety of perspectives is underappreciated. Sometimes we (not you) can get lost in how we perceive things to be, listening to one source and we don't even consider alternative perspectives. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Outgoing personality types. I’m shy and quiet usually so I like a chatty Cathy, but one that knows when to shut up. They don’t have to be the life of the party, just outgoing (ish) with me.
I like humour.
Independence. I don’t do clingy.
Outdoorsy.
Good with their hands (be it DIY, art or whatever)
Patient
Loyal (particularly their cock and their heart)
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Both male and female plutonic friends. If someone can have fulfilling relationships and form bonds that isn’t with agenda for getting their privates slobbered on then i think that says a lot.
This goes for women and men.
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Yes! Why are people so rotten at accepting that you just want a platonic friendship? It's really crap. Friendship is great, it shouldn't be conditional based on you bumping uglies.
I like people who are able to have meaningful platonic friendships without getting the hump that holes to service them won't be on offer. |
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Honesty.
Sense of humour
Confidence without a massive ego.
Respect boundries.
They can chat about a range of topic's and not all about sex.
They are interested in me as a person .
Positive outlook on life.
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"flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.
What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships. "
Anything that indicates that their morals and attitudes are in the right place.
A Cis straight person saying thing in support of trans rights etc. for example |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Communication and consistency."
Yes. It's an even more vivid hue of green after being in a relationship where both were lacking. Is that a bad thing? I can't tell. I guess it's positive if you're more aware of what you do want rather than focusing on what you absolutely don't want. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"flag. We talk a lot about red flags on here, things that put us off of someone.
What are some of the green flags for you? In whatever capacity - friendship, sex, work or romantic relationships.
Anything that indicates that their morals and attitudes are in the right place.
A Cis straight person saying thing in support of trans rights etc. for example "
Ah. An alignment of your views is really important. You want people you can talk to, have things in common with. Not be thinking in your head this person is a massive 'phobe, why am I here? |
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"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
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Ooft. What a word to make a typo on "
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Ah, but Míss Hånts, did ·you· really mean to say plutonic ? (sic) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Green gauging
Has a pulse
Has wit
Humour
Nothing pretence is a realist
Reads a profile and engages in a long message about my profile. Not oi love wanna fuck..
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"Resilience. Confidence. Competenfe. Pragmatism. Objectivity. Positive, glass half full outlook.
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Ooft. What a word to make a typo on
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Ah, but Míss Hånts, did ·you· really mean to say plutonic ? (sic) "
Keen eye here! |
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Liking cats. I'm not owned by a cat, but liking them shows respect for boundaries, independence, and engaging with someone on their terms rather than attempting to dominate them - all things cats demand. |
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"Liking cats. I'm not owned by a cat, but liking them shows respect for boundaries, independence, and engaging with someone on their terms rather than attempting to dominate them - all things cats demand."
I can’t stand cats. Does that say something about me then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This might sound odd, but someone who supports the decisions I make or if they don't agree, questions them in a kind way. I suffer from a lot of indecision as a result of wanting to please people so someone who does that would be a real comfort  |
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Someone who is not massively arsed as to how they come across in their profile, doesn't take themselves and others too seriously, isn't after constant adoration and validation, can laugh at themselves, is light hearted and fun to be around.
Mmmm narrowed that down quite a bit. I'm fucked. |
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