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over a year ago
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Do you ask what your partner likes? What you can do for them to make it better? Anything they want you to do?
Ofc on fab this may well be discussed before you get naked and do the sex. But plenty of us have had sex with people we’ve not met on fab. Would you ask in the moment? Or would you just do what usually works? Do you ask if what you’re doing is ok? Or do you just assume they’ll tell you if it’s not? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I’ve had plenty of women that are so attentive and ask what I like or if I like something. And when talking to my fiancé her experience of men is that they’re the complete opposite. Not that they’re all bad lovers btw. Just that they don’t ask those things.
I wonder if men are also more the kind of ‘this is what I like’ kinda conversation starters. And rule out based on that response. Do women do that? |
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I'm not the most verbal person in the moment.
Vocal for sure, but not particularly verbal.
Good sex tends to be a lot of feeding on each others energy and the dynamic can shift and move throughout.
Sometimes I'll ask afterwards of their body language implied less than ecstacy at some point. But if it was notable enough to clock it I'd usually have already adjusted in the moment. |
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"I’ve had plenty of women that are so attentive and ask what I like or if I like something. And when talking to my fiancé her experience of men is that they’re the complete opposite. Not that they’re all bad lovers btw. Just that they don’t ask those things.
I wonder if men are also more the kind of ‘this is what I like’ kinda conversation starters. And rule out based on that response. Do women do that? "
I like those conversations. There's a flip side though where it can feel like it is becoming paint-by-numbers. Or transaction. I like to explore what we like and to have room for discovery in the moment.
A big reason why I like regular partners rather than one-offs. |
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I am super on finding out what the guy enjoys and giving it to him (wahey!!). Absolutely pants at talking about what I'd enjoy. Literally tongue tied and shy (and I am not a shy woman). So it's my own fault if I don't get it. |
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"I like to read body language and reactions.
If that doesn't work ,I'll ask
Em x"
Interesting. Would you ask before you tried something? Like would you say ‘What do you like? Can I do anything to you or for you?’ I’ve had women ask me that and it’s hot. Took me a while to feel comfortable saying it but I love that kinda consent |
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With the Mr yes we discuss what we like, don't , want to try etc we are very open in the sex department
With meets sometimes we've discussed it sometimes we haven't, I try and read the room and bodies, sometimes it works sometimes not, I'm a little shy around new people so discussing what I like isn't something I tend to do, although probably should
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Absolutely; the foundation of the best sex is built upon learning about what one’s partner likes and dislikes, where and exactly how they like to be touched/caressed/kissed and tasted and all the myriad of nuances in between.
It’s a joyous journey of erotic discovery.
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"I like to read body language and reactions.
If that doesn't work ,I'll ask
Em x
Interesting. Would you ask before you tried something? Like would you say ‘What do you like? Can I do anything to you or for you?’ I’ve had women ask me that and it’s hot. Took me a while to feel comfortable saying it but I love that kinda consent"
If it's not something we've spoken about beforehand then I'll ask but try to make it sexy you know?
I've been known to say "where do you want me  " , "help me please you" or "show me how you like it "
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Whatever about what may I say. There's nothing sexier than a woman saying how likes it in the heat of the moment.
Talking and teasing is also my highway to heaven.
Come to think of it I have been known to whisper probing questions into the ear of my lover.
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"I don’t bother trying. That way they can’t blame me for it being shit.
I...
I'd say I can't fault your logic Woody, but I definitely can  "
It works for me. Sadly not for them. 
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