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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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unsure what to put as a title really.
the thing what has baffled me and the gf is when we first joined well over a year ago we were only a soft swing couple with bi fem,hardly anyone wanted to meet us because of it altho we did have a handful of meets.
Since rejoining not so long ago and going into the world of full swapping and sep room swapping,no one wants to meets us..how mad is that 
we understand people have comitments,we do too, but it justs eems everytime we ask our 'friends' no one can make it, out of our whole friends. Have already had a friend clearout due to ignorant 'friends' deleting messages without a reply 
Do people actualluy play these days?
Last time we were free 2 weeks ago on a sat night,we had a meet arranged with a couple our age. but first we went out for tea (being child free etc) we got back to a message saying she has gone out but your welcome to come play with me on my own? seriously?! that was another wasted night in,we didnt go out either as we had bought drinks in ready for the meet.
Seems were getting nowhere.
This isnt somethin we wana do all the time,but every now and then as it is good to have some fun.
just wanted to get it off my chest lol |
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"May I ask why you would report men for using one liners, its not exactly against the site roles? 
Am I missing something here?"
The OP states this in their profile. |
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"May I ask why you would report men for using one liners, its not exactly against the site roles? "
They may have that on their profile but I think it's more down to a misunderstanding of the rules about what can be reported and what can't.
As the for OP, it takes time to find reliable playmates you can trust and call upon at short notice. That's what I would do in your position and once you've built up a list of potentials take a bit of time to get to know them socially at first, it takes both of you to make a committed joint effort though. |
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"May I ask why you would report men for using one liners, its not exactly against the site roles? "
coming out with lines such as 'i wana fuck your missus hard' isnt exaclty a nice message is it? shit like that gets them blocked,oh and unverifed ppl we will report them for anythin really.
single guys like that are a joke,get them no where and it winds us up.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"May I ask why you would report men for using one liners, its not exactly against the site roles?
They may have that on their profile but I think it's more down to a misunderstanding of the rules about what can be reported and what can't.
As the for OP, it takes time to find reliable playmates you can trust and call upon at short notice. That's what I would do in your position and once you've built up a list of potentials take a bit of time to get to know them socially at first, it takes both of you to make a committed joint effort though."
short notice? The meet arranged wasnt short noticed,it was planned all week. messagiing them all week and tolf them our situatiuon first and we was due to meet about 8. that didnt happen.
we have been messaging friends all week,our meet event has been up 2 weeks as we arrangeda sitter 2 weeks ago.
we have bene on here before and its just the same old tbh
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By (user no longer on site)
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Can I suggest going to some clubs to build a wider friend base. You don't have to play but you may find some people you like and who are more reliable as they are less likely to bottle out of a meet. If you've the courage to screw in front of people or in a private room in a club then you're more likely to be ok going to meet elsewhere. Just my opinion.
But I think blocking and reporting for being unverified is a bit harsh. Everyone has to start somewhere. You were unverified once I assume.? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How about a single F and a single M together? (shit - another one-liner! I'm seriously fooked  )"
yeah we'll accept that if a guy has a fook buddy and if the fem is bi then thats cool.
as for the club scene,alot has told us to go BUT were only on here for that extra bit of fun every now and then. The club scene is a route we wont be taking.
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But I think blocking and reporting for being unverified is a bit harsh. Everyone has to start somewhere. You were unverified once I assume.?"
no your right,but its mainly aimed at the single guys who have been on here for say 5 months plus without a verification. Maybe if they didnt message people the way they do they may get somewhere. If theyre too harsh with what they say the yeah,they get blocked and reported. Why should we listen to that?
Having said that,not all are like that. we have got a good handful of polite respectful genuine males,its just the other percentage that let them down. |
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coming out with lines such as 'i wana fuck your missus hard' isnt exaclty a nice message is it? shit like that gets them blocked,oh and unverifed ppl we will report them for anythin really.
single guys like that are a joke,get them no where and it winds us up.
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Jesus H fucking Christ.
It's a SWINGING site, what do you think guys want to do with your missus, wine and dine her and take her to the theatre? |
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"How about a single F and a single M together? (shit - another one-liner! I'm seriously fooked )
yeah we'll accept that if a guy has a fook buddy and if the fem is bi then thats cool.
as for the club scene,alot has told us to go BUT were only on here for that extra bit of fun every now and then. The club scene is a route we wont be taking.
x"
Hope you guys find some genuine fun soon,but would really have a re think about going to clubs. Having an extra bit of fun every now and again does not mean you can discount clubs,there probly the perfect place. No let downs,you can see what people look like etc.
If we decided never to go to a club we would never have no fun lol as we dont have many offers on here. But by actually attending clubs we have met loads of lovely couples.This goes for everyone,get out there and socialise,dont rely mainly on fab.
Good luck anyways.
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Unfortunately as someone already said "welcome to swinging". Having been on here as a couple I know exactly where you're coming from. The problem with planning well in advance is that people are horny when they agree to meet but then come closer to the time and theyve lost the horn or can't be arsed :-S add to that a lot of people like to have a drink or two so prefer people to travel to them so an already small pool of interest is already shrinking.
Im still shocked to find your struggling though cause your pics look very tasty.
Just goes to show even those blessed with beauty struggle to find meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"unsure what to put as a title really.
the thing what has baffled me and the gf is when we first joined well over a year ago we were only a soft swing couple with bi fem,hardly anyone wanted to meet us because of it altho we did have a handful of meets.
Since rejoining not so long ago and going into the world of full swapping and sep room swapping,no one wants to meets us..how mad is that
we understand people have comitments,we do too, but it justs eems everytime we ask our 'friends' no one can make it, out of our whole friends. Have already had a friend clearout due to ignorant 'friends' deleting messages without a reply
Do people actualluy play these days?
Last time we were free 2 weeks ago on a sat night,we had a meet arranged with a couple our age. but first we went out for tea (being child free etc) we got back to a message saying she has gone out but your welcome to come play with me on my own? seriously?! that was another wasted night in,we didnt go out either as we had bought drinks in ready for the meet.
Seems were getting nowhere.
This isnt somethin we wana do all the time,but every now and then as it is good to have some fun.
just wanted to get it off my chest lol"
You live in Blackpool, get yourselves off to Infusions and meet some people face to face?...failing that, get yourselves down to Buddies Hotel and ask Ian for toast with your breakfast...wont get you a meet, but his response will brighten up your day  |
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