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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money. 
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money??   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no money so i know each girl i have been with has never wanted me for my money.. Made that mistake when i got my.insurance money threw and my ex was all me me me me on it.. Never again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? "
That annoys the crap outta me! My sister is exactly the same, anytime I mentioned a male friend first thing she wanted to know was if he was rich |
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I think only women who have no respect for themselves think like that. Personally I am financially independant with my own house, car and certainly don't need a man to keep me now a man to cut the grass would be good regardless of his financial status!!  |
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"Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? "
it's not an assumption, it is a fact.
for those who argue it is not, just study the actual law applied to separating couples re division of assets, paternity, alimony, etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
it's not an assumption, it is a fact.
for those who argue it is not, just study the actual law applied to separating couples re division of assets, paternity, alimony, etc "
It's not a fact. The type of women who go to court to bleed their ex's dry make me sick.
I may be a single mum but I don't have any debts and I still have money left at the end of the month. Any time I've split up with someone I just wanted my stuff back, not anything of my ex's.
Guess I'll have to be careful. This guy is financially secure, but I don't want his money I just want his body!! |
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"I think only women who have no respect for themselves think like that. Personally I am financially independant with my own house, car and certainly don't need a man to keep me now a man to cut the grass would be good regardless of his financial status!! "
I am financially independent. Own my own house and car , have a full time job, owe no one anything and respect myself to the HILT.
I'd like to meet a man with money pls. |
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"Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
it's not an assumption, it is a fact.
for those who argue it is not, just study the actual law applied to separating couples re division of assets, paternity, alimony, etc "
It is usually an assumption about all women made by those with bitter experience related to one woman. Their bias shines like a beacon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
it's not an assumption, it is a fact.
for those who argue it is not, just study the actual law applied to separating couples re division of assets, paternity, alimony, etc
It's not a fact. The type of women who go to court to bleed their ex's dry make me sick.
I may be a single mum but I don't have any debts and I still have money left at the end of the month. Any time I've split up with someone I just wanted my stuff back, not anything of my ex's.
Guess I'll have to be careful. This guy is financially secure, but I don't want his money I just want his body!! "
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? "
It appears to be normal amongst your friends.... if that answers the question. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
It appears to be normal amongst your friends.... if that answers the question."
My statistics show that 100% of women think that way... |
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"Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
it's not an assumption, it is a fact.
for those who argue it is not, just study the actual law applied to separating couples re division of assets, paternity, alimony, etc "
It's not a fact. Not all women are like that though I acknowledge some women are. I have walked away before with nothing. If I want out, I'm not going to argue over money. Starting with nothing is easily done but then money to me is just a means to an end and I certainly don't need lots of it to be happy.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money??
It appears to be normal amongst your friends.... if that answers the question.
My statistics show that 100% of women think that way..."
My maths is shit. It's clearly actually 75% as 3 mates do and I don't.   |
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"I think only women who have no respect for themselves think like that. Personally I am financially independant with my own house, car and certainly don't need a man to keep me now a man to cut the grass would be good regardless of his financial status!! "
Disagree! Because I am independent with my own money, I certainly wouldn't date a poor man...I'm not that generous. |
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It is not that long ago in our cultural history that a man needed to prove he could financially take care of a young lady or else her family would tell him to fuck off... or in ye odlie speak 'fuck ye off' or something like that. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? "
I think it is born out of something a bit deeper - the "natural" (in evolutionary terms) and perceived need to be looked after, taken care of and therefore looking for a partner that can provide security.
Times have changed fortunately and these days women no longer need to consider this in their choice of partners. Win win for us girls as well as the boys I think |
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? I think it is born out of something a bit deeper - the "natural" (in evolutionary terms) and perceived need to be looked after, taken care of and therefore looking for a partner that can provide security.
Times have changed fortunately and these days women no longer need to consider this in their choice of partners. Win win for us girls as well as the boys I think"
Disagree to a large extent. Women ( not girls ) still need to secure a stable partner that can provide. Especially when starting a family. Rearing children on benefits or struggling as a working single parent isn't great. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? I think it is born out of something a bit deeper - the "natural" (in evolutionary terms) and perceived need to be looked after, taken care of and therefore looking for a partner that can provide security.
Times have changed fortunately and these days women no longer need to consider this in their choice of partners. Win win for us girls as well as the boys I think
Disagree to a large extent. Women ( not girls ) still need to secure a stable partner that can provide. Especially when starting a family. Rearing children on benefits or struggling as a working single parent isn't great. "
The term "girls and boys" was not intended to be a put down - and I guess it could be seen on teh same level as people frequently referring to a penis as a "willy" pet hate of mine. So I ll take that back and refer to the sexes as women and men!
Ad 2) That of course, all depends on the sort of job you have - I did not "need" a husband with a good income although I would agree that having one made things easier and allowed us to give the children a better education and holidays. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sport my self and my children and am not looking for a partner to do this . But my ex was a bum and I had to work long and hard to pay for my family . So I don't want a guy for his money but he has to be able to pay his way |
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"I mentioned to my mates that I'd had a date the other week.
Each one said that was nice.... Then they said it was good because he will have loads of money.
What the heck?!! 3 female friends all mentioning his financial status.
Do most women really think that way? Because I bloody well don't!! Do men assume that women only want them for their money?? I think it is born out of something a bit deeper - the "natural" (in evolutionary terms) and perceived need to be looked after, taken care of and therefore looking for a partner that can provide security.
Times have changed fortunately and these days women no longer need to consider this in their choice of partners. Win win for us girls as well as the boys I think
Disagree to a large extent. Women ( not girls ) still need to secure a stable partner that can provide. Especially when starting a family. Rearing children on benefits or struggling as a working single parent isn't great. The term "girls and boys" was not intended to be a put down - and I guess it could be seen on teh same level as people frequently referring to a penis as a "willy" pet hate of mine. So I ll take that back and refer to the sexes as women and men!
Ad 2) That of course, all depends on the sort of job you have - I did not "need" a husband with a good income although I would agree that having one made things easier and allowed us to give the children a better education and holidays."
hahaaaaaaaaa You said willy ... ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I sport my self and my children and am not looking for a partner to do this . But my ex was a bum and I had to work long and hard to pay for my family . So I don't want a guy for his money but he has to be able to pay his way "
That's a good point. I had to support my ex for a long time. Not because he struggled with life, but because he was a lazy arse that didn't like work.
So I guess the ideal would be someone on my level- neither wanting support from me, or wanting to support me.
....Or thinking I wanted his support. |
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"Normal life is somewhat like on here, you soon know who you like and what they are after More like a box of chocolate... you never know what you re going to get "
plus some bastard already nicked all the strawberry centres...  |
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maybe the traditional breadwinner bloke stereotype runs deep in the requirements of a lot of women. unfortunately sex equality and the recession makes men less employable and encourages the need for a joint wage in a household and a more independent outlook in ladies such as yourself. good luck and good for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Normal life is somewhat like on here, you soon know who you like and what they are after More like a box of chocolate... you never know what you re going to get
plus some bastard already nicked all the strawberry centres... "
And I alway end up with a nut ! |
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By *aris23Woman
over a year ago
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Wouldn't look for a man for his money. I've supported myself since becoming 'single' 20 years ago, brought up 4 kids on my own and never took a penny from anyone. Very independent in life and finances. Had two later relationships where the men turned out to need lots of emotional investment but to safeguard me and mine I always ensured that they were never financially dependent on me!
Should I ever take up with another man he will have to be self-supporting financially.
Also have promised myself no man is ever going to worm his way in and then walk away with half my collateral. Legal agreements would be drawn up that should either of us leave the other we leave with what we brought to the relationship plus equal shares of anything we gleaned during it!
Tough - but so is life!! |
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By *phroditeWoman
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"Wouldn't look for a man for his money. I've supported myself since becoming 'single' 20 years ago, brought up 4 kids on my own and never took a penny from anyone. Very independent in life and finances. Had two later relationships where the men turned out to need lots of emotional investment but to safeguard me and mine I always ensured that they were never financially dependent on me!
Should I ever take up with another man he will have to be self-supporting financially.
Also have promised myself no man is ever going to worm his way in and then walk away with half my collateral. Legal agreements would be drawn up that should either of us leave the other we leave with what we brought to the relationship plus equal shares of anything we gleaned during it!
Tough - but so is life!!"
Great post - goes to show that not all of us need to have the financial support of a man. I am not a raging feminist, far from it... but quite agree with you here. |
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