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I wouldn't say anything, I'd stay as friends and if they brought up meeting for sex, then I'd enter the conversation with them. Sometimes the moment is wrong but the person is right and next time is awesome. If I had a bad time twice, then I'd friendzone him due to sexual incompatibility  |
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‘Yeah….I’m so sorry I won’t be able to meet you ever again as I’ve just been called up by the SAS to go on a top secret mission in Bhutan with an extremely low chance of survival.
Thanks for the sex though.’ |
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"‘Yeah….I’m so sorry I won’t be able to meet you ever again as I’ve just been called up by the SAS to go on a top secret mission in Bhutan with an extremely low chance of survival.
Thanks for the sex though.’ "
Ahhhh…..balls. I didn’t read the question quite correctly did I? 
Ok; Take two: I’d likely not wish a repeat if we didn’t ‘gel’ personality wise. |
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Quality of sex is important,first time might be might not. I never expect anything. Maybe our expectation bar is too high thinking all sex is going to be out of this world.
Only time sex is not good is when you are both d*unk.
Women never tell what their sex life is
If you told them you are honest let him or her or them know gently. Stringing them along is not right. Just tell them. Honesty remember is a policy in all matters of communication. |
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"What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?"
Sometimes the sex happens quite early in a friendship. We’ve chatted on here. We get along. We meet up for drinks. We end up in bed.
But what if then, after the sex, we chat about something and *really* disagree? What if they’re a bit racist? Or a bit Tory? What if I my attraction to them shrivels up and dies because of it?
I reckon that’s totally possible. That could make me walk away from even pretty mind blowing sex and say ‘not again thanks’. |
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"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.
But you've decided you don't want to see them again.
What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?
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If they friend follow you on Fab, they might be getting the message from this post… |
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Keep it polite and respectful without putting the other person down. I'd tell them that I enjoyed their company and it was at least fun but I don't feel that we're sexually compatible. They would understand what I mean as sexual compatibility is something I would explain is important to me prior to meeting
Saying "no" to someone is never easy no matter how polite you can be about it, rejection sensitivity can be a bitch but there are ways to say no without putting someone down |
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I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself. |
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"I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself."
Good description Nero! |
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"I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself."
I quite like a comfortable silence, no need for pointless waffle, just chill out in peace until whoever needs to leave has the energy to get dressed.
I don't think I've ever told someone directly that I absolutely did not enjoy the sex and would not like to do that again with them. Well, unless they harangued and whined afterwards because I told them no thanks on doing it again when asked repeatedly. |
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"I don't think I've ever told someone directly that I absolutely did not enjoy the sex and would not like to do that again with them. Well, unless they harangued and whined afterwards because I told them no thanks on doing it again when asked repeatedly."
Oh, that wasn't the question.
To the actual question, I probably just say thanks and that I don't think we're compatible enough to keep seeing each other. |
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"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.
But you've decided you don't want to see them again.
What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?
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If he was a cold fish (I've said no twice because of this) |
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"I wonder if sometimes the no-thank-you situation kicks in naturally. There's often an 'epilogue' period after the "middling" sex. The lead up which began with a raging flame of conversation, excitement and anticipation is eventually replaced with the dwindling embers of intermittent conversation with little or no indication on what to do next... ...the prevailing silence speaks for itself.
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I quite like a comfortable silence, no need for pointless waffle, just chill out in peace until whoever needs to leave has the energy to get dressed.
I don't think I've ever told someone directly that I absolutely did not enjoy the sex and would not like to do that again with them. Well, unless they harangued and whined afterwards because I told them no thanks on doing it again when asked repeatedly."
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No, I totally get this and agree. Comfortable silences are wonderful. My point was more around the ever-decreasing 'engagement' of conversation and connection days or weeks after the coital encounter. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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Going to the past have to say that had many disappointments. Depends very much on the circumstances I guess. If was due to lack of experience or nerves then I might if appropriate try to encourage them.
Its worse when some guy disappointment is next in forums/chat/mates bragging about how he ruined me etc etc. etc.
I'm quite hard bitch when I have to be, probably just tell them straight, maybe their ego might be a little battered/destryed but might make them bit more ...
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"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.
But you've decided you don't want to see them again.
What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?
If he was a cold fish (I've said no twice because of this)"
Like a cold fish after the event?
Most only get in touch when they're horny. FWB my arse.  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.
But you've decided you don't want to see them again.
What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?
If they friend follow you on Fab, they might be getting the message from this post…"
Oh it wasn't about me! Or anyone I've met from Fab. I've had some great socials/dates/dalliances recently. Plus this would be a really cruel way to tell someone.  |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Imagine the scene. You've met someone. The sex was at least middling.
But you've decided you don't want to see them again.
What sort of thing would make you say 'no thank you'?
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No personality, bad breath, not a great kisser  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"- a general lack of synergy
That’s how I’d expect to be told by some management consultants "
When you go to a gangbang and find out it's a team building exercise  |
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