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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong in wanting to find that someone special "
I hope I do soon lol I get very lonely very quickly. I am a people person. I also like my own space now and then.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think the key is not to go looking for it.. i was actually in a pretty bad place when i was shot between the eyes so to speak by the lurve bug.
Joys of it are that you can find the person anywhere. Even if its not eternal love with that person just live for the moment and enjoy whatever it is, with whoever its with for however long it lasts 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thought I had met someone really nice on here! Only to have it thrown back in my face. Slightly gutted that I let my wall drop just makes me build it bigger, not sure I believe the saying someone for everyone anymore. But totally get what the op is saying love in a ideal world a girl can dream mind you I don't think this is a ideal world anymore lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of people have found love on here. And truth be told plenty are looking for it. I have never understood why being open and honest on that subject is seen as a taboo.
Good luck op and I hope you do find it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think the key is not to go looking for it.. i was actually in a pretty bad place when i was shot between the eyes so to speak by the lurve bug.
Joys of it are that you can find the person anywhere. Even if its not eternal love with that person just live for the moment and enjoy whatever it is, with whoever its with for however long it lasts
good luck "
I was pretty down with life when love came and found me and I am very happy indeed |
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"Plenty of people have found love on here. And truth be told plenty are looking for it. I have never understood why being open and honest on that subject is seen as a taboo.
Good luck op and I hope you do find it."
I think some think its a swingers site where its NSA that no one should be looking for love as its the wrong place... However love strikes anywhere... |
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I personally think we're made to have someone to share all the good and bad times. Fab can be fun for lots but I think its mostly for couples. For the singles it can be fun and a stop gap but I think its stopping most of you finding true love.
Most people have admitted to leading a double life me included. You meet someone special do you tell em about your swinging life............ 99% of people the answer would be NO
Sex isn't the be all and end all and that's what most are on here for. There's a few that find a fwb on here and things seem good for a while but reading the forums these people still play behind the others back. If you haven't got trust what have you got?
Most of you are living in denial........... fun & sex DO NOT EQUAL LOVE!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with how you feel and what you hope for...
Would take someone pretty special to make fall head over heels.. Once bitten twice shy and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plenty of people have found love on here. And truth be told plenty are looking for it. I have never understood why being open and honest on that subject is seen as a taboo.
Good luck op and I hope you do find it.
I think some think its a swingers site where its NSA that no one should be looking for love as its the wrong place... However love strikes anywhere... "
Very true |
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"I personally think we're made to have someone to share all the good and bad times. Fab can be fun for lots but I think its mostly for couples. For the singles it can be fun and a stop gap but I think its stopping most of you finding true love.
Most people have admitted to leading a double life me included. You meet someone special do you tell em about your swinging life............ 99% of people the answer would be NO
Sex isn't the be all and end all and that's what most are on here for. There's a few that find a fwb on here and things seem good for a while but reading the forums these people still play behind the others back. If you haven't got trust what have you got?
Most of you are living in denial........... fun & sex DO NOT EQUAL LOVE!!!!"
No but the 2 equate into a reationship the other bits get added on as time goes by... you can learn alot about someone from having sex and fun with them... |
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"I personally think we're made to have someone to share all the good and bad times. Fab can be fun for lots but I think its mostly for couples. For the singles it can be fun and a stop gap but I think its stopping most of you finding true love.
Most people have admitted to leading a double life me included. You meet someone special do you tell em about your swinging life............ 99% of people the answer would be NO
Sex isn't the be all and end all and that's what most are on here for. There's a few that find a fwb on here and things seem good for a while but reading the forums these people still play behind the others back. If you haven't got trust what have you got?
Most of you are living in denial........... fun & sex DO NOT EQUAL LOVE!!!!"
No but if you do happen to meet someone on here and it becomes love when you least expect it ...you don't have to lead a double life you can share it together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol "
Have you not thought of joining any special interest groups or societies in your local area where you can meet people in a relaxed social environment….!.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People do find love here ... And i think dating sites, people looking more for love... when its a two way things its heaven but when a one way love its hell ... so take care with your heart as it may get broken.... Is it better to have loved and lost i am not sure ,Hope you find what your looking for and it don't end up driving you mad.  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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t is nice to see when people find it and are happy & I wish them both all the luck in the world..
I do think people share too much of themselves on here, their vulnerabilities, their hurt and their need for love. This on occasion will attract people who are out to exploit that and that is sad to see. People will string others along for their own gain on a NSA sex site.
to everyone happy
to everyone looking
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I see so many people hurt by love. I remember the hurt myself but I have a big heart. I would love to meet someone who has an open mind and can understand the swingers scene. I am 46 on sat and feel lost if that makes any sense. |
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"And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol
Have you not thought of joining any special interest groups or societies in your local area where you can meet people in a relaxed social environment….!. "
A level of self confidence helps and not looking too hard if Cupid is out there the arrow will find you there is plenty of time |
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"t is nice to see when people find it and are happy & I wish them both all the luck in the world..
I do think people share too much of themselves on here, their vulnerabilities, their hurt and their need for love. This on occasion will attract people who are out to exploit that and that is sad to see. People will string others along for their own gain on a NSA sex site.
to everyone happy
to everyone looking
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I totally agree!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree if it happens it happens even on here but if your activeley looking for it then you maybe better trying other sites is predominatly this site is like minded people meeting like minded people for n.s.a fun. |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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Love's on everyone's mind this time of year, and if not then it should be.
One of the most important things in life you can do is find someone to share life with and grow old with. As you grow older you find that this seemingly simple and basic need is pretty darn important to a satisfied longevity. The road is frought, you'll kiss boxes of frogs it'll drive you mad, it'll take you to the highest highs and the depths of despair. It'll break and make your heart whole.
But when the right person comes along and you look back; just for meeting the right person alone, it'll all have been worth it.
Good luck, and hope it happens for you. Everyone deserves to be happy
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see so many people hurt by love. I remember the hurt myself but I have a big heart. I would love to meet someone who has an open mind and can understand the swingers scene. I am 46 on sat and feel lost if that makes any sense. "
Do you really feel if you found a new love of your life you could still swing ???? alot don't as thay cant stand to see love of there life touched as feel its new and should be cherised the intimacy ? I know not everyone's the same . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had found some-one and recently messed up by getting the wrong end of the stick so lost them, still love them with all my heart but i guess it wasnt meant to be, hurts like hell, so im back to find some distractions to help me let go. I wont give up on finding some-one to love me again, as there is always some-one for everyone and im sure you will find that special some-one, dont give up looking xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will find it when you least expect it.. I am 33 and wanting kids etc.. I just tell myself it will happen if its meant to happen...
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Yeah but if you never buy a lottery ticket your not going to win no matter how long you wait for it to happen……
Sometimes if you really want something, you’ve got to put yourself in the best position for fate to lend a hand…… |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I see so many people hurt by love. I remember the hurt myself but I have a big heart. I would love to meet someone who has an open mind and can understand the swingers scene. I am 46 on sat and feel lost if that makes any sense. Do you really feel if you found a new love of your life you could still swing ???? alot don't as thay cant stand to see love of there life touched as feel its new and should be cherised the intimacy ? I know not everyone's the same . "
Good question but its not all about sex with others it's the friends I've made and the forums are something I would miss. As a vanilla relationship might not understand why I would want to still be on a swingers site. |
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If they loved you has you say you loved/love him getting the wrong end of the stick would surely have been got over 
Love don't come easy its something you've got to work at....... it sounds like easy cum easy go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do feel when you don't really know people well and swing , You don't get the intimacy and that's really what alot are looking for here don't wish to be close just raw sex . I think dating sites people are looking for love and life partners here its leg over and if you see again and again maybe more ... most get bored as its the candy shop lots on offer. And love it rear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love don't come easy its something you've got to work at....... "
This
Being in love with another person will also maintain longevity of the relationship and be the basis of true love.
People can fall in and out of love easily, but true love you will always be in love with that person.
Good luck in your search, I personally don't think swinging and trying to build a new relationship would work, so my suggestion would be to take a break if you find someone and build on the roots of your relationship taking time to get to know each other, sexually and mentally before swinging comes into play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We found eachother when we least expected it, twenty odd years later, I love him more than ever. We dont own eachother but compliment eachother, a bit like salt and pepper.
You will find what you are looking for van, remember you have had a rough ride of late, take your time, enjoy the fun and happy hunting.xxxx |
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Is that not what Fabflirts is for?
I agree with some of the above posters, love comes along when you least expect it. - Vince came into my life when all I wanted was just to be single for a bit and to be honest, it's the best relationship I've ever had.
I find that when you go looking for love, you're more likely to make mistakes or force something to happen that isn't natural.
I guess the one good thing about possibly meeting someone off here is that you're both out in the open to begin with - No awkward "By the way, I am/was a swinger" conversations in future.
Admittedly it may put me on edge if you openly admit you're looking for something more, but only because I've fucked people in the past who have turned needy and posessive. I'd maybe say don't mention it, meet people, have fun, and if you find yourself naturally spending more time with a certain person who's just as eager as you are, maybe you're onto a good thing.
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think I was on a bit of a downer today son turning 18 watching everyone saying they are in love. And me thinking will I ever find love. Well Ive read the posts and decided if it happens it happens. Not going to go looking just enjoy what I have. There are people a lot worse off than me. I am just pleased that people are finding happiness big hugs to all |
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"I think I was on a bit of a downer today son turning 18 watching everyone saying they are in love. And me thinking will I ever find love. Well Ive read the posts and decided if it happens it happens. Not going to go looking just enjoy what I have. There are people a lot worse off than me. I am just pleased that people are finding happiness big hugs to all "
Van, that is the attitude which will find you love...I have been single 14 months through choice, needing time to heal and even accept love as a concept..But I am there and if i am meant to give my all to someone again, then it will happen....As I am sure it will for you too...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think I was on a bit of a downer today son turning 18 watching everyone saying they are in love. And me thinking will I ever find love. Well Ive read the posts and decided if it happens it happens. Not going to go looking just enjoy what I have. There are people a lot worse off than me. I am just pleased that people are finding happiness big hugs to all
Van, that is the attitude which will find you love...I have been single 14 months through choice, needing time to heal and even accept love as a concept..But I am there and if i am meant to give my all to someone again, then it will happen....As I am sure it will for you too... "
Life is too short to worry about looking for love and thank you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"t is nice to see when people find it and are happy & I wish them both all the luck in the world..
I do think people share too much of themselves on here, their vulnerabilities, their hurt and their need for love. This on occasion will attract people who are out to exploit that and that is sad to see. People will string others along for their own gain on a NSA sex site.
to everyone happy
to everyone looking
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not even sure I know what love is if I'm being honest, but I too would love to meet someone special, to share my life with, is it likely on here? maybe not, but like others have said, love happens when you least expect it, who knows what or who is around the corner....Good luck OP I hope you find what you're looking for. |
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Get me, i was happy as a pig in shit, loved being on my own had mapped my life out, id never said i wouldnt fall for someone it was just nothing i thought about. I never have been someone that wants or needs to be in a relationship, i was 41 callum was growing up and i was shagging the world and then along came jay. We where just friends for a year although i didnt know but hes told me since that he was woeing me, i wasnt attracted to him, he had never been with a big woman and look what happened lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You know thats strange as i have always said that. My exact comment "wanting to find my soul mate but happy to make friends along the way on this journey", i was criticised and told to get off the site.
I have always wanted to find someone to share a life with, using this site purely to fulfil some needs that so intensely had to be met.
Its ok for married people who actually have each other but it would still be nice to have that certain special someone.
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Love, as Bryan Ferry used to say, is a drug.
Like all drugs it fucks up your perceptions.
The purpose of love is to make unfuckable people appear sexy for long enough for your DNA and their DNA to make some more DNA.
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Respect on the other hand is a whole other ball game.
I don't love anyone I used to love in the last quarter century or so.
I do still have an enduring respect for some of those people.
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Respect alone doesn't make your cock hard.
It also takes an irreverent sense of fun and kink and a schoolboy interest in the female / male body. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I truly believe there is someone for everyone.
However, I also believe it is not possible for one person to tick all the boxes, and that variety is the spice of life.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No its not wrong . It is something I miss hugely. Im sure its not too late tho "
I have worked out finding love is ageless so there is hope for me yet lol xx |
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And it's so true that love can be found on here when it's least expected and although it couldn't be it at least showed me that despite being hurt in the past it is possible to be open to loving again!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You never know whats round the corner...unless your me.
I tend to check and if i happen to see some little fat geezer with a bow and arrow flying in my direction....i shoot the sod first.
Its a "no way jose" for me on the lurve front. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You never know whats round the corner...unless your me.
I tend to check and if i happen to see some little fat geezer with a bow and arrow flying in my direction....i shoot the sod first.
Its a "no way jose" for me on the lurve front. "
Snap I am 35 and single for 5 years now . Love is not for me . Why bother I have thort I was in love 2x in my life and both have ended VERY badly so not doing that again lol how ever I am on a well known dating site , I am not looking for love I just love flirting and going on dates . Every one at work jokes that I go on lots of 1st dates but never a 2nd lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly I dont believe in love... for me. But I know others can find it. And it brings them a lot of joy. All I know is that if I loved someone I'd do anything to protect it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally think we're made to have someone to share all the good and bad times. Fab can be fun for lots but I think its mostly for couples. For the singles it can be fun and a stop gap but I think its stopping most of you finding true love.
Most people have admitted to leading a double life me included. You meet someone special do you tell em about your swinging life............ 99% of people the answer would be NO
Sex isn't the be all and end all and that's what most are on here for. There's a few that find a fwb on here and things seem good for a while but reading the forums these people still play behind the others back. If you haven't got trust what have you got?
Most of you are living in denial........... fun & sex DO NOT EQUAL LOVE!!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get me, i was happy as a pig in shit, loved being on my own had mapped my life out, id never said i wouldnt fall for someone it was just nothing i thought about. I never have been someone that wants or needs to be in a relationship, i was 41 callum was growing up and i was shagging the world and then along came jay. We where just friends for a year although i didnt know but hes told me since that he was woeing me, i wasnt attracted to him, he had never been with a big woman and look what happened lol"
love the way you narrate diamond, I find it really engaging you never though of writing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol "
There is. Hang in there. |
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A thought that love can be like a star
.....if it is so bright and blinding it blinds you to everything else around ...but can burn so bright that it burns itself out quickly or explodes like a supanova.
.....A star that just draws your attention and twinkles in a night sky of thousands of others & keeps drawing the eye like the Pole star constantly there and lasts a lifetime |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A thought that love can be like a star
.....if it is so bright and blinding it blinds you to everything else around ...but can burn so bright that it burns itself out quickly or explodes like a supanova.
.....A star that just draws your attention and twinkles in a night sky of thousands of others & keeps drawing the eye like the Pole star constantly there and lasts a lifetime"
Wow that is so true and a lovely way of putting it |
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"A thought that love can be like a star
.....if it is so bright and blinding it blinds you to everything else around ...but can burn so bright that it burns itself out quickly or explodes like a supanova.
.....A star that just draws your attention and twinkles in a night sky of thousands of others & keeps drawing the eye like the Pole star constantly there and lasts a lifetime"
Blooming heck sir knight hit the nail on thr head. Xxxxx |
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"A thought that love can be like a star
.....if it is so bright and blinding it blinds you to everything else around ...but can burn so bright that it burns itself out quickly or explodes like a supanova.
.....A star that just draws your attention and twinkles in a night sky of thousands of others & keeps drawing the eye like the Pole star constantly there and lasts a lifetime
Blooming heck sir knight hit the nail on thr head. Xxxxx"
Thank you for the thumbs up ....that's how I see lots of relationships that go on around me ....& last night My little bit of Welsh Gold says she wants to Twinkle
Well I think that's what she said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol "
Hope so, you seem a nice bloke. |
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"And be loved is that so wrong. But I am wanting to find someone very special to me. Yes I know this is a swingers site. There is someone out there with the same way of thinking as me. I'm sure there is. I hope there is lol "
We got contacted a few days ago by a couple that met on here and are now engaged |
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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago
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"A thought that love can be like a star
.....if it is so bright and blinding it blinds you to everything else around ...but can burn so bright that it burns itself out quickly or explodes like a supanova.
.....A star that just draws your attention and twinkles in a night sky of thousands of others & keeps drawing the eye like the Pole star constantly there and lasts a lifetime
Blooming heck sir knight hit the nail on thr head. Xxxxx
Thank you for the thumbs up ....that's how I see lots of relationships that go on around me ....& last night My little bit of Welsh Gold says she wants to Twinkle
Well I think that's what she said "
twinkle twinkle little star |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Plenty of people have found love on here. And truth be told plenty are looking for it. I have never understood why being open and honest on that subject is seen as a taboo.
Good luck op and I hope you do find it."
I'm not sure talking about looking for love has ever been taboo???
They talk about it all the time on e harm and POF |
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