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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
It's tricky isn't it? It feels so good at the time and to be honest I'd probably do it a lot more if it was easier. But we do all play hard to get and rightfully so, but I imagine in cavemen times they just fucked anyone when they had an erection.
'seducing' women with words is work. No doubt. And the slightest comment they dont like, they move on. Which is fine but sad for me and many men's penises.  |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I think I’m the opposite , it’s often effortless exciting fun and a great idea until a split second after the sex , then it’s like oh no what did I do ? How to politely get them out? I want my apartment and life back just for me, slob around , play guitar and eat cake alone until the next sex is due.
Obviously not anyone off here, they are all wonderful and can stay the whole week. I’m taking about the ‘others’ the ‘normals’ |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Essex |
It worse when you put all the effort in and don’t get any.
Had this discussion the other week, i said women will always find it easier to pick up a guy if they want to the the other way round.
Did a little test in a town centre bar, away from home and was proved right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Waaaayyyy too much effort in the whole process.
It becomes easier if you're genuinely excited about meeting someone, but even getting to that part isn't easy.
I'll stick to wanking for now.
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality  |
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
The grafts real! Nuff said  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality "
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. "
sorry don't believe you |
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. sorry don't believe you "
Evidence says otherwise  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. sorry don't believe you
Evidence says otherwise "
Haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time  "
Don't like chorizo. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. sorry don't believe you
Evidence says otherwise "
what evidence lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo."
Fuck is wrong with you |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo."
I thought we had the same palette what with our hula hoops and daim bars but this is pretty shocking. |
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By *ee04Man
over a year ago
Essex |
"I also think that some people prefer the talk about it than the actual meet
This. Make a date. Put in the effort, then silence. The thrill of the chase has replaced the thrill of the meet? "
Think I got spoilt when I first joined fan about a decade ago.
My first ever message was from a woman and went “I’m married, I love my husband but we don’t fuck anymore. I just want sex are you up for that”. I had just split from my ex and replied yes of course. She came round the next day walked in was naked in seconds. This went on for a few years twice a week in her lunch hour from work.
She also introduced me to her friends, another couple on here. We never met as a 4 but they invited me round and I’d meet them every now and then stay over for the night which went on until lock down.
This is when fab changed and we have since seems to have more talkers than doers or is it I’m getting older and less appealing, well nothing I can do about that. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo.
Fuck is wrong with you "
Asking the wrong questions, because that list is far too long.
Fuck is right, much shorter list... Though harder to work out. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"I also think that some people prefer the talk about it than the actual meet
This. Make a date. Put in the effort, then silence. The thrill of the chase has replaced the thrill of the meet?
Think I got spoilt when I first joined fan about a decade ago.
My first ever message was from a woman and went “I’m married, I love my husband but we don’t fuck anymore. I just want sex are you up for that”. I had just split from my ex and replied yes of course. She came round the next day walked in was naked in seconds. This went on for a few years twice a week in her lunch hour from work.
She also introduced me to her friends, another couple on here. We never met as a 4 but they invited me round and I’d meet them every now and then stay over for the night which went on until lock down.
This is when fab changed and we have since seems to have more talkers than doers or is it I’m getting older and less appealing, well nothing I can do about that. "
Faf? |
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By *heelerMan
over a year ago
Northants |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
I never turn a chance down . You’ll never make up for that one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. sorry don't believe you
Evidence says otherwise what evidence lol "
I don't get my boobs out and use this  in reply to every guy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo.
Fuck is wrong with you "
Oh so many things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo.
I thought we had the same palette what with our hula hoops and daim bars but this is pretty shocking. "
You and DF can nibble on some chorizo
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
I never turn a chance down . You’ll never make up for that one."
I mean you probably will. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I shave my legs for a man he better know he's special to me.
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That's effort right there!
I've lost my favourite razor so I'm going hairy for a while. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind! 
Jo.Xx "
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update. "
Or my next username |
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
Depends what time of day….. would help if I had a willing victim though…… |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.The whole vibe you give off is negative but i suspect you are actually lovely in reality
Is it? Well fuck me.
Nah I'm a complete bitch in reality. sorry don't believe you
Evidence says otherwise what evidence lol
I don't get my boobs out and use this in reply to every guy. "
i certainly would never expect any woman to do that |
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update.
Or my next username"
Thought you shaved (all over) |
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update.
Or my next username"
I hope you do.
Don't forget to mention the fluffy toes that must be sucked! 
Jo.Xx |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Might need spiffing up a bit with some Worcestershire sauce. The eggs….
I added tomatoes and spinach.
Add diced chorizo next time
Don't like chorizo.
I thought we had the same palette what with our hula hoops and daim bars but this is pretty shocking.
You and DF can nibble on some chorizo
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You'd like that wouldn't you. Eating your hula hoops just watching us. Filthy. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update.
Or my next username
I hope you do.
Don't forget to mention the fluffy toes that must be sucked!
Jo.Xx "
Great now I'm day dreaming about your and coyotes feet next to each other |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
Depends what time of day….. would help if I had a willing victim though……"
Alright Jeffrey... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update.
Or my next username
I hope you do.
Don't forget to mention the fluffy toes that must be sucked!
Jo.Xx "
You know full well someone will like that. Lots of someone's. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yeah sometimes - it's so much easier to snuggle up with a blanket and watch Crowley's nefarious scheme come to light with a hot chocolate and hairy legs.
Then I remember I quite like sex. And the people I have sex with. Or will have sex with. I don't need to shave my legs but I can make a little bit of effort. My buzzing state after it is well worth it. For at least the next few days. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
Fur and grime! I'm stealing this for my next bio update.
Or my next username
I hope you do.
Don't forget to mention the fluffy toes that must be sucked!
Jo.Xx
You know full well someone will like that. Lots of someone's. "
Even if they don't like it, they will be in for any chance! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yeah sometimes - it's so much easier to snuggle up with a blanket and watch Crowley's nefarious scheme come to light with a hot chocolate and hairy legs.
Then I remember I quite like sex. And the people I have sex with. Or will have sex with. I don't need to shave my legs but I can make a little bit of effort. My buzzing state after it is well worth it. For at least the next few days."
Unfortunately supernatural wins with me every time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I go through phases. If I have had a meet then I usually want another and it gets easier to keep on going. Eventually I run out of energy and stop for a while."
It is like exercise! The longer you don't do it the harder it is to start again. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah sometimes - it's so much easier to snuggle up with a blanket and watch Crowley's nefarious scheme come to light with a hot chocolate and hairy legs.
Then I remember I quite like sex. And the people I have sex with. Or will have sex with. I don't need to shave my legs but I can make a little bit of effort. My buzzing state after it is well worth it. For at least the next few days.
Unfortunately supernatural wins with me every time. "
Ha! I'm trying to avoid that and telling myself I need to not be watching it this weekend. |
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
I feel ya! |
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"I go through phases. If I have had a meet then I usually want another and it gets easier to keep on going. Eventually I run out of energy and stop for a while.
It is like exercise! The longer you don't do it the harder it is to start again. "
I have actually made going down the gym part of my day to day life and I miss not being there. Once you create the habit it becomes much easier.
I don’t think it is as healthy to make fab meets a daily habit…. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, sometimes simply not worth it; when the preparation beforehand which takes min. 3-5hrs -for a sex meeting that may not last more than 1hr makes no sense whatsoever.
Prep.: diet, perform an enema to ensure pristine clean arsehole (clean water in until clean water out), shave body smooth all over and shower. The dolling up to look passable is the easy part and takes only 30-60 minutes to do.
It's the prep. beforehand which is a mission.
Then having to travel to and from a 1-2-1 meeting that may only last an hour is simply not worth it.
My reason why I now much prefer sex clubs and cruising outdoors since I receive plenty of action. Yes, some 1-2-1 private parties are worth the effort but in general, majority are not unless meetings are likely to last more than prep. time.
Hell, some can't even last more than 5-15 mins. Soul destroying when that happens, with a meeting lasting less time than putting on your make-up.
Some are worth the effort others are not. Never stop to learn that's for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
Keep their expectations low from beginning heh - that's my suggestion.
T |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
Keep their expectations low from beginning heh - that's my suggestion.
T"
This!
But also keep expectations low, yet still manage to disappoint. |
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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago
Colne |
Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
Keep their expectations low from beginning heh - that's my suggestion.
T
This!
But also keep expectations low, yet still manage to disappoint. "
That's level expert. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"If I shave my legs for a man he better know he's special to me.
That's effort right there!
I've lost my favourite razor so I'm going hairy for a while. "
I use disposable ones. It usually takes two to do my whole body.
Razors aren't cheap and I'm not wasting them on a crap shag. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready". "
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
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"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
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Jeans and a tee shirt would suffice  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
Jeans and a tee shirt would suffice "
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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago
Colne |
"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
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That's all included in meet ready for me... Not that I tend to wear much admittedly.  |
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"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
Jeans and a tee shirt would suffice "
All day long yes. |
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"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
Jeans and a tee shirt would suffice
You know me so well "
I'd prefer people are comfortable. We're gonna have a laugh |
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"I think I’m the opposite , it’s often effortless exciting fun and a great idea until a split second after the sex , then it’s like oh no what did I do ? How to politely get them out? I want my apartment and life back just for me, slob around , play guitar and eat cake alone until the next sex is due.
Obviously not anyone off here, they are all wonderful and can stay the whole week. I’m taking about the ‘others’ the ‘normals’"
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards  "
He don't wanna wait, for your egg to be over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find the sex is great and it actually gets me excited in the lead up to a meet. The whole palaver of messaging first is putting me off though, I've tried sending messages again recently for the first time in ages instead of letting them message me and the lack of replies and dead conversations reminds me why I don't do it.
I know this sounds like "lol single male ranting again" but it's such a painful process and such effort, you wonder if it's worth the reward. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready".
Not just meet ready, but wearing a push up bra, low cut top, short skirt, heels and a face full of make up.
That's all included in meet ready for me... Not that I tend to wear much admittedly. "
I wouldn't do that for someone I hadn't met before. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards "
Last night's midnight snack still stuck to my nighty? |
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
Last night's midnight snack still stuck to my nighty?"
Half time treat |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!"
I expect that is be design. Actually expect is wrong. I know. |
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Yeah it's effort but it's worth it.
The Mr never notices when I don't shave my legs anyway, even when I do I forget one
Meet effort though I CBA at all, we don't generally look for meets on here these days unless it's someone we've already been chatting too.
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!"
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting."
And PSL goodness |
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting.
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And PSL goodness "
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I'm going to smack you! PSL  . |
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By *KTim61Man
over a year ago
Tipton |
I had a FWB. who came to stop with me for a month, but we only had sex twice, the 1st week & the last week, on my birthday infact, but I questioned her about it, she said I should have asked her ? My fault ? |
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over a year ago
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"Yes! Yes! Yes!
I sometimes feel like men on here expect women to be "meet ready" 24/7 not realising the effort it takes and quite frankly whether we're in the mood to be arsed to get "meet ready". "
Exactly. And I can not be arsed. |
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over a year ago
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!"
Rumour has it, women can message guys.
This could be the problem though as I can't the arsed to message guys. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
Nope.
The amount of effort may of course vary. I know its trickier for women as there's an expectation to look their best - hair, make up, trimmed/waxed/groomed, nails, lingerie, clothes, shoes, even frigging handbags.
It's easier for men. Shit, shower and shave, pit spray, make sure the crotch doesn't look like darkest Peru and brush your hair (should you have some) and your teeth.
Takes us way less time to get ready.
But with someone you know well some of that can be unnecessary and it's all about the time spent together, rather than the bells and whistles of how you look. Quality time is more important than putting on all the finery every time.
Otherwise its just 'fake you'.
And I'd always rather see the real person, not the polished and presented one.
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over a year ago
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards "
And they say romance is dead 
I sleep naked so that saves you a job. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job. "
She does |
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job. "
Would you like me to wake you first?
I’ve heard some guys have sex with conscious women but I’m yet to come across a willing one… |
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job.
She does "
I’ll leave your pyjamas pulled down if you’re there too. |
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over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
Nope.
The amount of effort may of course vary. I know its trickier for women as there's an expectation to look their best - hair, make up, trimmed/waxed/groomed, nails, lingerie, clothes, shoes, even frigging handbags.
It's easier for men. Shit, shower and shave, pit spray, make sure the crotch doesn't look like darkest Peru and brush your hair (should you have some) and your teeth.
Takes us way less time to get ready.
But with someone you know well some of that can be unnecessary and it's all about the time spent together, rather than the bells and whistles of how you look. Quality time is more important than putting on all the finery every time.
Otherwise its just 'fake you'.
And I'd always rather see the real person, not the polished and presented one.
A"
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over a year ago
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"Hmmm,dies that lack of effort carry through to to sex also?
Sometimes.
Sometimes.
Clever...in a schoolyard level "
I like to get to the level of those I'm talking with. |
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over a year ago
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job.
Would you like me to wake you first?
I’ve heard some guys have sex with conscious women but I’m yet to come across a willing one…"
Tricky, I do like my sleep.
Try a slight tap on the shoulder and if I don't wake, just carry on.
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting.
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And PSL goodness
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I'm going to smack you! PSL ."
Promises promises |
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over a year ago
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting.
And PSL goodness "
Pumpkin Spice Latte - are you sure she likes them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think Ive only shaved my legs twice this whole year, Im all out of effort
Twice? That takes some effort
I must have drank a redbull those days"
One leg every 6 months doesn’t count… |
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over a year ago
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job.
Would you like me to wake you first?
I’ve heard some guys have sex with conscious women but I’m yet to come across a willing one…
Tricky, I do like my sleep.
Try a slight tap on the shoulder and if I don't wake, just carry on.
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You’ll need to leave a written letter of consent on the pillow. I’m not having that shit bite me in the arse….. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions.
Nope.
The amount of effort may of course vary. I know its trickier for women as there's an expectation to look their best - hair, make up, trimmed/waxed/groomed, nails, lingerie, clothes, shoes, even frigging handbags.
It's easier for men. Shit, shower and shave, pit spray, make sure the crotch doesn't look like darkest Peru and brush your hair (should you have some) and your teeth.
Takes us way less time to get ready.
But with someone you know well some of that can be unnecessary and it's all about the time spent together, rather than the bells and whistles of how you look. Quality time is more important than putting on all the finery every time.
Otherwise its just 'fake you'.
And I'd always rather see the real person, not the polished and presented one.
A
Ah if you saw me first thing you may change your mind on that "
Nah.
I've seen myself in the mirror enough times first thing.
Little beats that for nightmares.....
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over a year ago
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"You might like to note that your profile says age 95 to 95 only. Note ONLY.
Kind of likely to restrict any contacts! As nobody who isn't 95 can't write to you!
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It's ok. The OP struggles with men on here. We on the fora supply her with light relief and heavy petting.
And PSL goodness
Pumpkin Spice Latte - are you sure she likes them?"
She does!!! |
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job.
Would you like me to wake you first?
I’ve heard some guys have sex with conscious women but I’m yet to come across a willing one…
Tricky, I do like my sleep.
Try a slight tap on the shoulder and if I don't wake, just carry on.
You’ll need to leave a written letter of consent on the pillow. I’m not having that shit bite me in the arse….."
It’ll be fine… mainly as you weren’t invited. |
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over a year ago
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"Fear not fair maiden…
I like dirty girls, I never make plans and you can just open your bedroom window and I’ll appear Dawson’s creek style.
I’ll even pull your nighty back down afterwards
And they say romance is dead
I sleep naked so that saves you a job.
Would you like me to wake you first?
I’ve heard some guys have sex with conscious women but I’m yet to come across a willing one…
Tricky, I do like my sleep.
Try a slight tap on the shoulder and if I don't wake, just carry on.
You’ll need to leave a written letter of consent on the pillow. I’m not having that shit bite me in the arse…..
It’ll be fine… mainly as you weren’t invited."
First time I've used that, did I use.it right?? |
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over a year ago
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"There ain't no man in the world hot enough for me to get a leg wax.
Just haven't met me yet... That's how the line works, right? "
I sang that. Badly. |
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over a year ago
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"I actually do get the meh quite often, I’m terrible at messaging and when it gets to the 3rd day I just lose the energy "
I'm terrible at replying to people. I get distracted easily. |
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"I actually do get the meh quite often, I’m terrible at messaging and when it gets to the 3rd day I just lose the energy
I'm terrible at replying to people. I get distracted easily."
Yep same, even if I message first. I could quite easily not reply for a day and it’s not because I don’t want to talk its more I’m probably just gonna ask the same thing again |
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"I actually do get the meh quite often, I’m terrible at messaging and when it gets to the 3rd day I just lose the energy
I'm terrible at replying to people. I get distracted easily.
Yep same, even if I message first. I could quite easily not reply for a day and it’s not because I don’t want to talk its more I’m probably just gonna ask the same thing again "
I’m also not very good at chat over messages haha |
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over a year ago
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"Does anyone else lack the effort to have the sex?
You have to talk to people and plan things and shower and stuff. It's hard work.
It's like working out, I know I should do it as it's good for me and I'll feel better, but actually getting to that point of doing it is just hard.
Once I'm there I fully participate and it's never as bad as I anticipated, but I still have to get there.
I'm having some scrambled egg so that may perk me up but am open to other suggestions."
this is why I can never organise a 3some. Too much effort again
(thats my excuse anyway) |
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over a year ago
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"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
I love this
I have shamelessly pinched it! "
I was gonna use this for my bio!!! |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"You need to find one that will do you regardless of the fur and grime! They are the best kind!
Jo.Xx
I love this
I have shamelessly pinched it!
I was gonna use this for my bio!!!"
Snooze ya loose! |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
London |
"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor."
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
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over a year ago
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"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor.
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
Don't say I don't treat you!"
I can watch supernatural?
Don't make too much noise then.
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor.
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
Don't say I don't treat you!
I can watch supernatural?
Don't make too much noise then.
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It's the online effort we're not so much a fan off. Especially with all the pitfalls and furtrations that come with it. We like to be swingers of opportunity. So we generally do our meeting people randomly on nights out in town or at a club. This way we have made the effort only because its a night we want to make the effort and intend to go out. No wasted energy in-between.
Obviously our experience isn't maybe the same as yours because we are a couple, who knows each other inside out and fancy the pants off each other. So sex pretty effortless between us. |
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I'm terrible at replying to people. I get distracted easily.
Yep same, even if I message first. I could quite easily not reply for a day and it’s not because I don’t want to talk its more I’m probably just gonna ask the same thing again
I’m also not very good at chat over messages haha "
Maybe we should try in person |
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over a year ago
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"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor.
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
Don't say I don't treat you!
I can watch supernatural?
Don't make too much noise then.
Oh sorry you're gonna need the subtitles on while I groan like a pig "
I'll wear headphones |
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"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor.
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
Don't say I don't treat you!
I can watch supernatural?
Don't make too much noise then.
Oh sorry you're gonna need the subtitles on while I groan like a pig
I'll wear headphones "
Ear muffs would suit better |
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over a year ago
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"Anyone had sex here yet?
Effort brucey.
Effor.
Coyotes I've told you you really have to do so little! Open your mouth, lie flat on a pillow. Hell have some daim bars. Hell, watch supernatural during.
Don't say I don't treat you!
I can watch supernatural?
Don't make too much noise then.
Oh sorry you're gonna need the subtitles on while I groan like a pig
I'll wear headphones
Ear muffs would suit better "
I have some black fluffy ones
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"Yes, sometimes simply not worth it; when the preparation beforehand which takes min. 3-5hrs -for a sex meeting that may not last more than 1hr makes no sense whatsoever.
Prep.: diet, perform an enema to ensure pristine clean arsehole (clean water in until clean water out), shave body smooth all over and shower. The dolling up to look passable is the easy part and takes only 30-60 minutes to do.
It's the prep. beforehand which is a mission.
Then having to travel to and from a 1-2-1 meeting that may only last an hour is simply not worth it.
My reason why I now much prefer sex clubs and cruising outdoors since I receive plenty of action. Yes, some 1-2-1 private parties are worth the effort but in general, majority are not unless meetings are likely to last more than prep. time.
Hell, some can't even last more than 5-15 mins. Soul destroying when that happens, with a meeting lasting less time than putting on your make-up.
Some are worth the effort others are not. Never stop to learn that's for sure."
Exactly this... All the preparation takes longer than the actual sex most of the time!! |
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"Yes, sometimes simply not worth it; when the preparation beforehand which takes min. 3-5hrs -for a sex meeting that may not last more than 1hr makes no sense whatsoever.
Prep.: diet, perform an enema to ensure pristine clean arsehole (clean water in until clean water out), shave body smooth all over and shower. The dolling up to look passable is the easy part and takes only 30-60 minutes to do.
It's the prep. beforehand which is a mission.
Then having to travel to and from a 1-2-1 meeting that may only last an hour is simply not worth it.
My reason why I now much prefer sex clubs and cruising outdoors since I receive plenty of action. Yes, some 1-2-1 private parties are worth the effort but in general, majority are not unless meetings are likely to last more than prep. time.
Hell, some can't even last more than 5-15 mins. Soul destroying when that happens, with a meeting lasting less time than putting on your make-up.
Some are worth the effort others are not. Never stop to learn that's for sure.
Exactly this... All the preparation takes longer than the actual sex most of the time!! "
Do you do all of this because you like to feel confident about yourself or do you think it is an expectation the person you're meeting has? For the latter, wouldn't it be better to talk about it before to save time? Not everyone cares about make-up, etc. |
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I'm in a relationship so luckily it's always available and he'd probably shag me even if I had shit my pants and had toilet roll stuck on my fanny lips.
I couldn't be doing with arranging a shag at the moment. I can't be fucking bothered. |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"I'm in a relationship so luckily it's always available and he'd probably shag me even if I had shit my pants and had toilet roll stuck on my fanny lips.
I couldn't be doing with arranging a shag at the moment. I can't be fucking bothered. "
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