No. Never. But you can be too forgiving, too soft and too easy to take advantage of.
The trick is to not lose your niceness, but at the same time be discerning with whom you choose to be nice too. |
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Too nice for one’s own good certainly.
Sadly, many folk seem to perceive ‘niceness’ as a form of weakness and will exploit it fully to their own ends, confident that said soft characteristic will prevent the bearer from implementing any form of retaliation. |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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Nice Vs empathy…
Be empathetic, be polite.. be humble, be inquisitive, be curious and be confident about the things you’re passionate about..
Non of the above are weak, all are perfectly beautiful. |
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"Guilty. I'm always to nice but now attending evening classes on how to be a more desirable b'stard. 
I need those classes  "
Before my first lesson I would have shared the deets. But after only my second lesson. I'm now a complete and total utter b'stard and not going to! |
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Nice can be nice. But also often used in poor attempts to conceal agendas or almost attempted to be used as a trading unit to get something from someone else.
It's also not really anything by itself. I can be civil and nice to anybody, but that doesn't mean that they're going to find me interesting or engaging or attractive or compatible, or that they owe me something just because I followed the social protocol. |
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Im nice until ive bummed you then your yesterdays chip papers to me… although Im friends with all the people ive met still.. even years after … if you form a connection with someone … well I keep in touch as long as they want to aswell. They seem to.. so I must be nice!! |
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"In my opinion you can be nice without being a pushover. Nice is one characteristic and allowing people to take advantage of you is another."
Definitely. The latter will just lead to resentment because it's not actually being nice.
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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"Nice can be nice. But also often used in poor attempts to conceal agendas or almost attempted to be used as a trading unit to get something from someone else.
It's also not really anything by itself. I can be civil and nice to anybody, but that doesn't mean that they're going to find me interesting or engaging or attractive or compatible, or that they owe me something just because I followed the social protocol."
It can be seen as altruistic, for sure… but that’s looking at life through a lense..
Being pleasant and nice isn’t a social protocol, for some it’s a way of life. It’s about taking care of others without asking for anything back in return. Don’t look at it as something that other perceive, look at it as the best version of yourself…
For me it give me a sense of well being.. (enormous) PARKLIFE!! |
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Definitely and also be thought of that it’s an act…
I just don’t have time for drama and like being nice. Doesn’t mean I’m a pushover or does it mean it’s an act. |
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