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So the fab forums constantly have the Men Vs Women which a lot of threads turn into, it's rather amusing.
Men hating the women because they don't reply, have too high expectations, can have any cock they want and are overly demanding.
Women hating the men because there whining, putting little effort in and throwing their cock in any inbox that will look at it.
So anyway where do the couples fall, are we just happily plodding on in the middle? Or are we despised too?
Let's leave the men and women alone for a moment and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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In some cases, it can be even more difficult.
Now you have 2 people that have to like one prospective meet
Or even worse - 2 people trying to find another couple they both like.
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It's a complete head fuck.
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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All couples? Nothing
Some couples. Can be extremely aggressive and hostile from the start, because there are two of them. They have each others back and it shows. Can attempt to come across intimidating because of it and they lean in to that ten fold.
Some couples are lovely and I have not a single bad word to say about them. |
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FF couples are overwhelmingly party hosts (fine) or some variety of fake.
MM couples are overwhelmingly dreamers (they're daring each other to go through with it but don't dare), gangbang hosts (fine), or fake.
MF couples... hoo boy. Yes I know love (not addressed to any specific woman) that you've got a man and I don't. Yes I know you think that makes you better than me. But if you want to meet me, that kind of attitude is pussy desiccant. So is this idea that I'm rare or exotic, or I'm putting on a show because your man has a lesbian fantasy. Maybe try treating me as a fellow person, an equal, and not assuming that my schedule is less important than yours and that I'm simultaneously a prize but also disposable?
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"I think couples could be less demanding and entitled.
There! I've said it
Owww I like this side of you, get it all out
Mrs "
In the words of the fragrant Miss Susan Boyle
"And that's just one side of me"
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I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for. |
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for."
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc) |
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So I'll share a recent experience of a couple at a social I recently attended.
Was messaged on fab by them, spoke with them on here, all very pleasant and cordial. Night before social it was left at make sure you come say hi, so I did!.
In person I found one of them, doesn't which one, to be very dismissive, arrogant and quite frankly so fr fucking stuck up their own arse, they were using there shoe laces as floss...
Now I'm easy with that, it's no skin of my nose, bit don't be rude arrogant and dismissive, I respect honesty above lots of things. Thr words are quite easy to find 'CG your not for us" bit not so easy to say for some. |
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"With the right couple, you get the best of two worlds.
What’s not to love."
That's the way we see it...we are laid back, easy going and fun. And we are just looking to connect with like minded people. Never imagined it would be such a challenge lol. But we stick at it because when you do meet people you connect with, it's great
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"All couples? Nothing
Some couples. Can be extremely aggressive and hostile from the start, because there are two of them. They have each others back and it shows. Can attempt to come across intimidating because of it and they lean in to that ten fold.
Some couples are lovely and I have not a single bad word to say about them."
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for.
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc)"
Totally get this both comments and see it a lot on fab, both with the elusive "unicorn" and single men bust bow down attitudes it must get extremely off-putting we've chatted to women who no longer meet couples because they feel like an object to some and that's awful, never chatted to any men about it though.
(Not all couples )
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for.
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc)
Totally get this both comments and see it a lot on fab, both with the elusive "unicorn" and single men bust bow down attitudes it must get extremely off-putting we've chatted to women who no longer meet couples because they feel like an object to some and that's awful, never chatted to any men about it though.
(Not all couples )
Mrs "
I do (/would, not currently meeting) meet couples, because when it works it is fantastic, but it's made me wary. (probably wary of all couples, but I don't think caution is a bad thing) |
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I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words… |
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over a year ago
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…"
How about just making conversation though. Doesn't always have to be about the attraction. As if that wasn't there, chances are you wouldn't be messaging anyway. |
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…
How about just making conversation though. Doesn't always have to be about the attraction. As if that wasn't there, chances are you wouldn't be messaging anyway."
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for.
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc)
Totally get this both comments and see it a lot on fab, both with the elusive "unicorn" and single men bust bow down attitudes it must get extremely off-putting we've chatted to women who no longer meet couples because they feel like an object to some and that's awful, never chatted to any men about it though.
(Not all couples )
Mrs "
I wonder if sometimes this attitude contributes to the alleged number of men who bottle out of meeting said couples, always thought it must take some nerve to rock up to meet 2 people.
Spose though we could all be better in some aspects, I know I could  |
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for.
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc)
Totally get this both comments and see it a lot on fab, both with the elusive "unicorn" and single men bust bow down attitudes it must get extremely off-putting we've chatted to women who no longer meet couples because they feel like an object to some and that's awful, never chatted to any men about it though.
(Not all couples )
Mrs
I wonder if sometimes this attitude contributes to the alleged number of men who bottle out of meeting said couples, always thought it must take some nerve to rock up to meet 2 people.
Spose though we could all be better in some aspects, I know I could "
I’d be shitting it but if I ever got the chance to meet even for a social I’d go because I said I would…. |
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…
How about just making conversation though. Doesn't always have to be about the attraction. As if that wasn't there, chances are you wouldn't be messaging anyway.
Sadly I’m just as bad with a keyboard as I am with speech…. It’s a confidence thing "
When I'm talking to a couple whose female partner is straight, I just make friendly conversation with her and direct any hints of anything else at the person I'm likely to be having sex with.
So in your situation, something like, "You seem like a sound bloke, Dave, and it's lovely talking to both of you. I'd love to meet both of you to see if Debbie likes the way we work together to give her pleasure"
(not that you'd only talk to the bloke, but... hopefully you see what I mean) |
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It's a minefield, amirite?
I think a lot of it comes down to how the couple handle things between themselves. Is everyone clear about what they want? Is everyone on board or is one partner the driver? Are you looking for social/friendship connections or just sex? Are you continuing to communicate about any changes?
When we first joined fab, we defo didn't get this right every time! It's hard to know exactly what's for you until you try. Ultimately we have put our relationship first. That doesn't mean we're dickish to people - I hope! - but it's a dynamic that isn't involved with singles meeting. I mostly meet alone but Mr will always be involved in some way. It works for some folk and not for others, and again, they don't always know how it's going to feel until they try.
Excellent topic, OP!
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…
How about just making conversation though. Doesn't always have to be about the attraction. As if that wasn't there, chances are you wouldn't be messaging anyway.
Sadly I’m just as bad with a keyboard as I am with speech…. It’s a confidence thing
When I'm talking to a couple whose female partner is straight, I just make friendly conversation with her and direct any hints of anything else at the person I'm likely to be having sex with.
So in your situation, something like, "You seem like a sound bloke, Dave, and it's lovely talking to both of you. I'd love to meet both of you to see if Debbie likes the way we work together to give her pleasure"
(not that you'd only talk to the bloke, but... hopefully you see what I mean)"
I do see and thank you for your kind thoughts but what if his not called Dave as I was just going to copy and paste….  |
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AND YET NO ONE STILL COMES TO FIND ME UNDER THIS SODDING TREE!!!
Sorry. Apologies. My take on couples. Your the same as the single guys and single women. Some of you are cool as dick. Others are demanding. Others are not even trying. They think their a couple so everyone should want them.
In every category their are several sub categories. The attitude we all all control individually. Struggling for meets or interaction on here. Be less arsehole. It's a simple philosophy  |
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I'd absolutely love to have some fun with a couple, been something I wanted to try for a long time
It just seems a lot of couples are not interested in single guys,there more interested in other couples
And obviously I completely understand that
The guy to couples ratio is probably 80% single guys
20% couples
Or somewhere around those figures so for the couples who are interested in single guy can definitely have their pick and rightly so
But for us guys who are just mister average we just don't get a look in unfortunately |
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"AND YET NO ONE STILL COMES TO FIND ME UNDER THIS SODDING TREE!!!
Sorry. Apologies. My take on couples. Your the same as the single guys and single women. Some of you are cool as dick. Others are demanding. Others are not even trying. They think their a couple so everyone should want them.
In every category their are several sub categories. The attitude we all all control individually. Struggling for meets or interaction on here. Be less arsehole. It's a simple philosophy "
Calm down luv. You have built it, they will come.  |
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…
How about just making conversation though. Doesn't always have to be about the attraction. As if that wasn't there, chances are you wouldn't be messaging anyway.
Sadly I’m just as bad with a keyboard as I am with speech…. It’s a confidence thing
When I'm talking to a couple whose female partner is straight, I just make friendly conversation with her and direct any hints of anything else at the person I'm likely to be having sex with.
So in your situation, something like, "You seem like a sound bloke, Dave, and it's lovely talking to both of you. I'd love to meet both of you to see if Debbie likes the way we work together to give her pleasure"
(not that you'd only talk to the bloke, but... hopefully you see what I mean)
I do see and thank you for your kind thoughts but what if his not called Dave as I was just going to copy and paste…. "
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"AND YET NO ONE STILL COMES TO FIND ME UNDER THIS SODDING TREE!!!
Sorry. Apologies. My take on couples. Your the same as the single guys and single women. Some of you are cool as dick. Others are demanding. Others are not even trying. They think their a couple so everyone should want them.
In every category their are several sub categories. The attitude we all all control individually. Struggling for meets or interaction on here. Be less arsehole. It's a simple philosophy
Calm down luv. You have built it, they will come. "
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone 
Not even me Little bird, tell me you hate me
Yes. I date you to say you hate Gandhi "
You'd date Little.bird if she says she hates me Pickle....shameful mate |
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Not even me Little bird, tell me you hate me
Yes. I date you to say you hate Gandhi
You'd date Little.bird if she says she hates me Pickle....shameful mate "
Poor form from me that |
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Me too. I just dislike most, and I like very few.
Do you love me?
No
Do you loooooove me?  "
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3zJZ2d4cis
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Me too. I just dislike most, and I like very few.
Do you love me?
No
Do you loooooove me?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3zJZ2d4cis
(The Contours - Now that I Can Dance)"
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I do think alot of couples seem to think they have the upper hand and other couples will meet them in an instance. No. We need to establish the attraction, a good connection and stuff before any of that!
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Not even me Little bird, tell me you hate me
Yes. I date you to say you hate Gandhi
You'd date Little.bird if she says she hates me Pickle....shameful mate
Poor form from me that "
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Not even me Little bird, tell me you hate me
Yes. I date you to say you hate Gandhi
You'd date Little.bird if she says she hates me Pickle....shameful mate
Poor form from me that "
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The couples tend to fall on subterfuge and duplicity: I seem to experience a reversal of fortune when engaging with them. It's hard to fathom with whom I'm chatting to, especially when each party fails to sign off with their name or initials.
Sometimes they will misuse the trust and pretend to be the other person in the couple and then have the gall to get upset if I get upset.
The most amusing part however is when risque photographs of the woman's anatomy land in my inbox, without prompting, and then the male half goes apeshit with her.
All in all it keeps me amused between my Gin and my work video-conference calls.
Luckily these a rare occurrences.
Luckily also the women are usually pretty fit. |
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"Just for the record I don’t hate anyone
Me too. I just dislike most, and I like very few.
Do you love me?
No
Do you loooooove me?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3zJZ2d4cis
(The Contours - Now that I Can Dance)"
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I’m not a fan of the couples that …………
Ooh boobs, forget that, as you were.
To be serious and don’t worry fabbers it won’t last, I’ve noticed that in the majority of comms I have with couples it will generally be only one of the couple and that’s fine, when it’s both of the couple that become friends, that’s equally fine.
Moral - single man, single woman, couple, I’m not bothered as I take everybody as I find them.
You get some nobs of all varieties and some absolutely beautiful lovely people of all types too. |
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Some .... only some ...... think that only they ( couples ) can have a swingers badge. They mix swinging up with wife swapping and think that singles can't join in like it's not their football!
Some... MOST .... don't have pictures of the male half.
MOST sign posts as Mr or Mrs
All and I mean all .... come in 2's. |
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"Some .... only some ...... think that only they ( couples ) can have a swingers badge. They mix swinging up with wife swapping and think that singles can't join in like it's not their football!
Some... MOST .... don't have pictures of the male half.
MOST sign posts as Mr or Mrs
All and I mean all .... come in 2's. "
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"I see how some couples view single mens pleasures and needs as secondary to their pleasures and needs, the ones who think they are doing a man a favour. Or those who dont read profiles but complain about theirs not being read. Other than that, I've no real opinion as they arent what I'm looking for.
Absolutely.
As put off as I can be by the way couples treat the putative unicorn, I know they treat guys worse. (notallcouples etc)
Totally get this both comments and see it a lot on fab, both with the elusive "unicorn" and single men bust bow down attitudes it must get extremely off-putting we've chatted to women who no longer meet couples because they feel like an object to some and that's awful, never chatted to any men about it though.
(Not all couples )
Mrs "
We've spoken to other singles and couples who've experienced the feeling left out thing. That's not our approach, we feel everyone needs to be involved equally if possible, or at least sharing the pleasure. Its important to us that no one feels left out
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"So the fab forums constantly have the Men Vs Women which a lot of threads turn into, it's rather amusing.
Men hating the women because they don't reply, have too high expectations, can have any cock they want and are overly demanding.
Women hating the men because there whining, putting little effort in and throwing their cock in any inbox that will look at it.
So anyway where do the couples fall, are we just happily plodding on in the middle? Or are we despised too?
Let's leave the men and women alone for a moment and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs "
I have seen both sides of this.
The hard part for couples is 4 way attraction- not so easy as 121.
But sometimes, only sometimes, they are smug! |
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"I do think alot of couples seem to think they have the upper hand and other couples will meet them in an instance. No. We need to establish the attraction, a good connection and stuff before any of that!
F"
Yep totally get this too, there's very few couples that don't apply the pressure and want the sex straight away, or doesn't work that way for me, I need conversation, attraction, the connection without that they ain't getting the sex, plus we're still virgins in that department it's quite intimidating sometimes.
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"I do think alot of couples seem to think they have the upper hand and other couples will meet them in an instance. No. We need to establish the attraction, a good connection and stuff before any of that!
F
Yep totally get this too, there's very few couples that don't apply the pressure and want the sex straight away, or doesn't work that way for me, I need conversation, attraction, the connection without that they ain't getting the sex, plus we're still virgins in that department it's quite intimidating sometimes.
Mrs "
So. Faf?
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"Some .... only some ...... think that only they ( couples ) can have a swingers badge. They mix swinging up with wife swapping and think that singles can't join in like it's not their football!
Some... MOST .... don't have pictures of the male half.
MOST sign posts as Mr or Mrs
All and I mean all .... come in 2's. "
The no pics of the man drives me crazy, why does my man get to see the woman but it's blind date for me?
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"Some .... only some ...... think that only they ( couples ) can have a swingers badge. They mix swinging up with wife swapping and think that singles can't join in like it's not their football!
Some... MOST .... don't have pictures of the male half.
MOST sign posts as Mr or Mrs
All and I mean all .... come in 2's.
The no pics of the man drives me crazy, why does my man get to see the woman but it's blind date for me?
Mrs "
Me too since I'd only be interested in the man or many have just one or 2 cock pics ,as if that's all I'd be looking for.
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I don't like the couples that expect you to chase and put all the work in and treat you like your surplus to requirement and just an added extra to their perfectly perfect lives and you're privileged to have even been considered.
The couples that when you cancel for legitimate reasons accuse of you of being too chicken. Yep I had that once.
Other couples that preach equality and in practice are quite the opposite and demand you turn on the partner and when you don't message make snide remarks about you having other fish to fry.
The couples that make rules on what you can and can't do with him meaning you just end up being a performer and get nothing back.
I could go in
I like equality in and out of the bedroom. |
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We neither expect nor demand, we are in the invisible age group as well as far to far north to be noticed anyway. If 'couples' do get in touch, they say its 'male half only meeting' 
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"So the fab forums constantly have the Men Vs Women which a lot of threads turn into, it's rather amusing.
Men hating the women ……
Mrs "
Whoa whoa,…women don’t listen to this. I loves the women |
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Some couples (never all) are actually pretty intimidating and seem to be looking for some sort of performing seal.
Some couples are actually lovely though.
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"Some couples (never all) are actually pretty intimidating and seem to be looking for some sort of performing seal.
Some couples are actually lovely though.
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Penguin, performing penguin is what we're after
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"…………….and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs "
I missed this bit..
I do like couples, and I’m attracted to many (a few) couples profiles.
But what I find are on of the, (usually the fella) is overly protective or has to show how much “in charge” they are, and I lose all interest in talking to some. The arrogance can be overwhelming to read.
But some are just carefree, and it’s a real downer for me that they have “no single men” on their profiles. So I don’t message.
Couples are cool, and there’s two of you, so it’s like DOUBLE COOL!! |
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"I do think alot of couples seem to think they have the upper hand and other couples will meet them in an instance. No. We need to establish the attraction, a good connection and stuff before any of that!
F
Yep totally get this too, there's very few couples that don't apply the pressure and want the sex straight away, or doesn't work that way for me, I need conversation, attraction, the connection without that they ain't getting the sex, plus we're still virgins in that department it's quite intimidating sometimes.
Mrs
So. Faf?
F"
Sure, now?
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One of the things I like about couples is, it's a massive compliment if they're asking you to join them...it means they trust you in the sanctity of their relationship..and also that they think you're sexy |
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"…………….and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs
I missed this bit..
I do like couples, and I’m attracted to many (a few) couples profiles.
But what I find are on of the, (usually the fella) is overly protective or has to show how much “in charge” they are, and I lose all interest in talking to some. The arrogance can be overwhelming to read.
But some are just carefree, and it’s a real downer for me that they have “no single men” on their profiles. So I don’t message.
Couples are cool, and there’s two of you, so it’s like DOUBLE COOL!!"
This is what puts me off a lot of couples we've chatted to it's very male led and the inevitable cock pics and arrogance is off-putting.
We don't meet men, that's my choice I don't want to disappoint 2 cocks at once, especially when there looking at me with that eye! I just don't like being center of attention so it would be my worst nightmare
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"Some couples (never all) are actually pretty intimidating and seem to be looking for some sort of performing seal.
Some couples are actually lovely though.
Penguin, performing penguin is what we're after
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"Some couples (never all) are actually pretty intimidating and seem to be looking for some sort of performing seal.
Some couples are actually lovely though.
Penguin, performing penguin is what we're after
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"Some couples (never all) are actually pretty intimidating and seem to be looking for some sort of performing seal.
Some couples are actually lovely though.
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I'm laughing my head off at the "performing seal" description hahaha. We are so far from being performing seals, we just want everyone to have fun together
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We find a lot of other couples hard work - no pics of Mr - both wanting different things - conversation slow or just one person chatting.
We aren’t rude to people at all although sometimes we’ll delete a message if we think someone hasn’t read our profile and/or hasn’t respected both of us.
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I removed the looking for couples option because the vast majority of messages I was receiving were full of entitlement.
So many were guilty of all the things they like to whinge about on the forums with demanding introductory messages that told me what I had to do if I wanted to meet them.
Lists of instructions or sage advice about how I was too old, too male and too straight to ever be successful here and how I needed to do as they said and they might consider adding me to their to-do lists for future events.
Most would then take offence when I refused and I've been told it was my loss and how they would make my fab journey a misery because I had just said no to a prominent couple.
These were all actual comments from well verified couples so it was obvious they had no interest in me as a person and just wanted a talking cock.
To balance this out, I am one half of a fab couple who has yet to meet others beyond a social due to personal issues but in setting up the profile we are determined we will never speak to anyone the way we have both been spoken to as individuals. |
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"I removed the looking for couples option because the vast majority of messages I was receiving were full of entitlement.
So many were guilty of all the things they like to whinge about on the forums with demanding introductory messages that told me what I had to do if I wanted to meet them.
Lists of instructions or sage advice about how I was too old, too male and too straight to ever be successful here and how I needed to do as they said and they might consider adding me to their to-do lists for future events.
Most would then take offence when I refused and I've been told it was my loss and how they would make my fab journey a misery because I had just said no to a prominent couple.
These were all actual comments from well verified couples so it was obvious they had no interest in me as a person and just wanted a talking cock.
To balance this out, I am one half of a fab couple who has yet to meet others beyond a social due to personal issues but in setting up the profile we are determined we will never speak to anyone the way we have both been spoken to as individuals. "
Wow someone actually said they'd make your fab life difficult for saying no?! That's awful!!
Good luck with the couples profile.
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I’d put couples in the naughty corner. Too often it’s a man pretending his wife’s at work/shopping/asleep etc.
added to that, the women of the couples when they do exist have usually been pushy and demanding in my experience! |
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"I’d put couples in the naughty corner. Too often it’s a man pretending his wife’s at work/shopping/asleep etc.
added to that, the women of the couples when they do exist have usually been pushy and demanding in my experience!"
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It's a minefield...
First. you have to decide whether it's a real life couple, or a fab fwb couple with one/both cheating on respective real life partners... Second. finding out whether she is going to go nuts, cos you can make him cum how she cannot...
Third. Finding out that they just want to use you, as a fuck toy without telling you... |
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"So the fab forums constantly have the Men Vs Women which a lot of threads turn into, it's rather amusing.
Men hating the women because they don't reply, have too high expectations, can have any cock they want and are overly demanding.
Women hating the men because there whining, putting little effort in and throwing their cock in any inbox that will look at it.
So anyway where do the couples fall, are we just happily plodding on in the middle? Or are we despised too?
Let's leave the men and women alone for a moment and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs "
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I love couples that are clear in what they're looking for
Some say the lady half meets alone but when it comes to the day of the meet, I get asked if the husband can watch or at least listen.
If you want that type of play, please make it clear |
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"I find it hard not to just direct towards the female without offending. I’m straight and their straight so not going to say lovely cock there mate…generally try to include by saying lucky hubby or such words…"
I (mr) used to fucking hate the 'lucky hubby' comment. Yes, I know it's meant in a nice manner. I'm not fucking lucky that she's stayed with me for 20 years. There's much more to it than luck
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"I removed the looking for couples option because the vast majority of messages I was receiving were full of entitlement.
So many were guilty of all the things they like to whinge about on the forums with demanding introductory messages that told me what I had to do if I wanted to meet them.
Lists of instructions or sage advice about how I was too old, too male and too straight to ever be successful here and how I needed to do as they said and they might consider adding me to their to-do lists for future events.
Most would then take offence when I refused and I've been told it was my loss and how they would make my fab journey a misery because I had just said no to a prominent couple.
These were all actual comments from well verified couples so it was obvious they had no interest in me as a person and just wanted a talking cock.
To balance this out, I am one half of a fab couple who has yet to meet others beyond a social due to personal issues but in setting up the profile we are determined we will never speak to anyone the way we have both been spoken to as individuals. "
Yup...l fully agree , a couple blocked me when they didn't get their own way , probably stooked ..who knows..but were chatting before Hand then they didn't get their own way .. blocked me..so I asked them why on their forum page that they had up ...l got banned by admin for my troubles ..for asking a straight question..jeez |
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First off you have to work out if they are a real couple We only meet couples anyway and we only meet new ones via group socials that way we know they actually are real..
Then you have to understand their dynamics and if they fit in with yours .
We only meet bi couples so finding that 4way attraction and to also click in a social environment can be hard but when you do it’s definitely worth it.
Couples can definitely be hard work |
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We don't hate anyone, except creeps that "accidentally" brush past you in a wide corridor many times in a couple of hours in a club and stare at you in the changing room
We've met lots of great couples and single men and women though |
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I wish that the couples profiles were more set out like they are on Feeld- each person has their own profile and you “link up” as a couple, and then you can create a group chat with the 3 of you.
Rather than some people having their own profile, and a couples profile.. recently had a guy non stop message me so I blocked him, he then started on his couples profile, and his partners profile too..  |
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When I go to clubs I can't help but cringe at the way single guys behave towards woman and couples. I'm a single guy myself I tend to find if I do the exact opposite of the the other single guys I will get lucky. Basically use them as a tool to figure out what will work |
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"I think couples could be less demanding and entitled.
There! I've said it
I agree with this "
We agree with this as 99% off guys who message us can't read our profile as its very clear what we after but they still decide to message anyway |
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"One of the things I like about couples is, it's a massive compliment if they're asking you to join them...it means they trust you in the sanctity of their relationship..and also that they think you're sexy "
No it's not though. You have just as much to bring to the table, more in fact. You are fulfilling their fantasy, you will be in more demand than they will as a woman willing to join a couple and it's a huge leap of faith for you as the single to do so. |
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"I think couples could be less demanding and entitled.
There! I've said it
I agree with this
We agree with this as 99% off guys who message us can't read our profile as its very clear what we after but they still decide to message anyway "
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB"
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!"
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair "
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"So the fab forums constantly have the Men Vs Women which a lot of threads turn into, it's rather amusing.
Men hating the women because they don't reply, have too high expectations, can have any cock they want and are overly demanding.
Women hating the men because there whining, putting little effort in and throwing their cock in any inbox that will look at it.
So anyway where do the couples fall, are we just happily plodding on in the middle? Or are we despised too?
Let's leave the men and women alone for a moment and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs "
Couples are the worst. Whining about guys and ladies and other couples!
Generally with their smug self entitled attitude. |
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair
I’d take it on the back of a bus right now! "
FYI thr 11 in brum is thr longest bus route in Europe, so next time your Dog sitting that little terror |
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair
I’d take it on the back of a bus right now!
FYI thr 11 in brum is thr longest bus route in Europe, so next time your Dog sitting that little terror "
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair
I’d take it on the back of a bus right now!
FYI thr 11 in brum is thr longest bus route in Europe, so next time your Dog sitting that little terror
Taking notes Mr. "
We'll compare notes in thr not to distant future |
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"First off you have to work out if they are a real couple We only meet couples anyway and we only meet new ones via group socials that way we know they actually are real..
Then you have to understand their dynamics and if they fit in with yours .
We only meet bi couples so finding that 4way attraction and to also click in a social environment can be hard but when you do it’s definitely worth it.
Couples can definitely be hard work "
They can be as our meet last december showed us. That meet turned very bad due to the guy became abusive. His partner we felt very sorry for as all she kept doing was appologising. Singles we met have been great but cpls caused us the most hassle so far.
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair
I’d take it on the back of a bus right now!
FYI thr 11 in brum is thr longest bus route in Europe, so next time your Dog sitting that little terror
Taking notes Mr.
We'll compare notes in thr not to distant future "
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"I agree with the less demanding comment. And also the most abuse I get is from couples I reject politely.
And they never attach face pics!!! Argh! Rant rant rant!
Feel better now
Need a hug MYB
I need a rogering!
In the bouncing chair
I’d take it on the back of a bus right now!
FYI thr 11 in brum is thr longest bus route in Europe, so next time your Dog sitting that little terror
Taking notes Mr.
We'll compare notes in thr not to distant future
That we will young padawan "
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"…………….and talk couples, what's wrong with us? What can we do better? Why don't you like couples or why do you love couples?
Mrs
I missed this bit..
I do like couples, and I’m attracted to many (a few) couples profiles.
But what I find are on of the, (usually the fella) is overly protective or has to show how much “in charge” they are, and I lose all interest in talking to some. The arrogance can be overwhelming to read.
But some are just carefree, and it’s a real downer for me that they have “no single men” on their profiles. So I don’t message.
Couples are cool, and there’s two of you, so it’s like DOUBLE COOL!!
This is what puts me off a lot of couples we've chatted to it's very male led and the inevitable cock pics and arrogance is off-putting.
We don't meet men, that's my choice I don't want to disappoint 2 cocks at once, especially when there looking at me with that eye! I just don't like being center of attention so it would be my worst nightmare
Mrs "
Waking up without my pen is is my worst nightmare.
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"This was a really interesting thread.
Good job we mainly use fab to dick about on the forums rather than meet anyone
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Yes, after the first few threads I saw on here about messages and contacting as a couple... decided it was best just never to message anyone first.
Enjoy reading forums and the odd partake of a discussion though. So its not all bad
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"I hate it when you don’t know which one you’re talking too. Just sign off your forum posts and messages please.
Fucking couples "
Have we been speaking with H all along?
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"I hate it when you don’t know which one you’re talking too. Just sign off your forum posts and messages please.
Fucking couples "
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"One of the things I like about couples is, it's a massive compliment if they're asking you to join them...it means they trust you in the sanctity of their relationship..and also that they think you're sexy
No it's not though. You have just as much to bring to the table, more in fact. You are fulfilling their fantasy, you will be in more demand than they will as a woman willing to join a couple and it's a huge leap of faith for you as the single to do so. "
We were asked what we like about couples, not what we like about ourselves...I know what I bring but we weren't asked about that.
I still do, very much so, see it as a compliment. Doesn't mean I value myself any less |
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"One of the things I like about couples is, it's a massive compliment if they're asking you to join them...it means they trust you in the sanctity of their relationship..and also that they think you're sexy
No it's not though. You have just as much to bring to the table, more in fact. You are fulfilling their fantasy, you will be in more demand than they will as a woman willing to join a couple and it's a huge leap of faith for you as the single to do so.
We were asked what we like about couples, not what we like about ourselves...I know what I bring but we weren't asked about that.
I still do, very much so, see it as a compliment. Doesn't mean I value myself any less "
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Then you have to understand their dynamics and if they fit in with yours .
We only meet bi couples so finding that 4way attraction and to also click in a social environment can be hard but when you do it’s definitely worth it.
Couples can definitely be hard work "
I much prefer meeting at organised socials it's so much easier than fab, we rarely look to meet on here.
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