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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I kinda dismiss them as I tend to feel a bit awkward.
Someone says I look nice I'll instantly tell them what a bargain my outfit was or something.
I'm trying to get better at just saying thanks.
I do however love complimenting others. |
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Um, seemingly genuine ones from strangers get a thanks, if it looks like an attempt to get in my pants it gets an I know to stop their track, and if it's from am actual friend I can just about take it but it makes me feel super awkward.
Unless it's a compliment on my blowjob skills. I'm happy to receive those. |
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"Um, seemingly genuine ones from strangers get a thanks, if it looks like an attempt to get in my pants it gets an I know to stop their track, and if it's from am actual friend I can just about take it but it makes me feel super awkward.
Unless it's a compliment on my blowjob skills. I'm happy to receive those."
Nice pants. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It does depend on who it's from. Someone I'm close to, who I know doesn’t give compliments readily it means more than one from someone with a honeyed tongue.
Even a stranger saying "Oh, I really like your dress". And then going. It's an exchange where there's not more expected, it's given because it's how they felt and that's it.
I'm a bit cautious/uncertain about compliments on my physical appearance. I do try and say thank you more often but I value those which compliment something more than my big boobs. |
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"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
I’m ugly and weird but shallow, so I like to receive compliments. Not meaningless ones for the sake of it, but I like it when friends or partners give me affirmation. Sometimes my ego then sneaks into positive readings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I lavish them, ask for more, enquire as to the reasoning behind it, the psychological machinations that make me so wonderful.
It helps my low self esteem. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
Depends what they're complimenting and who certainly makes a difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On here, they don't mean a thing.
Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction."
Genuine attraction= they want sex.
I'm good with missing certain opportunities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Compliments I receive are usually things I’ve heard before so I usually believe them. I used to to feel awkward and get self deprecating but generally now I’m better and I’m about to just say thank you and also not force an awkward one in return.
So I guess I’m ok at receiving them? I tend to say ‘thank you, I appreciate that’ now mostly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe them depending on what it is that is said.
Any comments about my face and body (from people in real life) I do not believe, but I thank them anyway. I used to always fight people about it but what's the point? It's easier to just say thanks and move on.
I'll often get compliments about my outfits, hair, something I've done etc and I don't doubt that they are being sincere and I do believe them.
If I get complimented on here it doesn't really mean anything because they've probably said the exact same thing to 100 different women. |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
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"I believe them depending on what it is that is said.
Any comments about my face and body (from people in real life) I do not believe, but I thank them anyway. I used to always fight people about it but what's the point? It's easier to just say thanks and move on.
I'll often get compliments about my outfits, hair, something I've done etc and I don't doubt that they are being sincere and I do believe them.
If I get complimented on here it doesn't really mean anything because they've probably said the exact same thing to 100 different women. "
.. not me lemon |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
When it’s genuine I’m quite touched it reveals something about the person giving it.
But it’s rare and easy to spot fake. Like ‘you have a gorgeous cock’ is not a compliment it’s an opinion, one I neither agree with or care much about , it’s just the cock I was born with  |
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"On here, they don't mean a thing.
Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction."
If it's not a mutual attraction, it's not a missed opportunity.
Like when Tinder tells me I missed a match. No I didn't, how could it be a match if I'm not interested? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No no ladies, he's right.
You are missing all your opportunities.
Revisit every single nice thing said and take stock.
Now.
You are hurting the flow of the universe and the flow of their peens. |
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By *ate_BMan
over a year ago
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"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
I like to follow a compliment with a ‘Well… I try’. Don’t wanna give the impression of having a big ego. |
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Uncomfortable. 
But I do think I'm getting better at accepting them. It's definitely easier to accept a compliment from someone I know. On here they seem less 'genuine'. I no longer like that word.
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Terrible, make me feel uncomfortable if I don't believe they are genuine. I very much dislike when men give you ridiculously inflated compliments because they just want to shag you. But if the compliment comes from someone I like and I believe it is genuine it makes me smile but I still feel a bit awkward and never know what to say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
I’m ok with compliments but I love it when someone say “Thank you”. |
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"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
Excellent. I never used to be in my younger years but i've learned to thank people for their kind words without doing the fake humility denial thing AND most importantly I am able to use my Bullshit and insincerity filters and not buy into manipulative or sycophantic shite.
In short..... I know myself best. I know myself very well. Others are allowed their ill informed opinions. It's fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Meh, I just say thank you and shrug it off. Turning the conversation back to something else. I don't like talking about myself or letting others compliment me because it makes me feel like I need to say it back but then that feels like you're just saying it because they have and it just turns into a mess.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In life i have started to acknowledge them and thank people - i find it very curious to be viewed through someone else's lens 
On here pffffttt its mostly just bs to try and make legs open! |
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I had a colleague who constantly complimented me. She admitted my clothes,hair, figure etc on a daily basis. Eventually I asked to stop because I became uncomfortable with it daily. She wasn't offended but she couldn't understand why I felt discomfort.
There's a level I think |
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12 months ago compliments actually used to make me feel really awkward and uncomfortable.
My confidence has increased significantly since we started swinging, and this has had a knock on effect on my ability to actually accept a compliment. I can usually manage a thank you followed by lots of blushing now 
The "giver" absolutely makes a difference. If it's someone who's obviously just trying to get into my pants, it's taken with a grain of salt. If it's someone who's opinions matter to me, it means more 
On a night out recently I got stopped by several guys who said thing like "I'm gay, but I just had to tell you, you look fabulous"
This actually made me feel amazing because there was obviously no motivation other than making a stranger feel good about themselves 
K x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having spent so many years in an emotional abusive marriage, I never believe anyone is being genuine if they give me a compliment, and if I realise they are being genuine often it reduces me to tears. It's still very early days in recovery though. |
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I don't believe them on here but I am better at accepting them in real life.
I read a great thing about someone paying a compliment that was dismissed. I forget the exact words but it was along the lines of "I'm going to give you your flowers, but it's up to you whether you water them or not".
Water your damn flowers! |
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"On here, they don't mean a thing.
Sad that you think that way. Potentially a missed opportunity when there is a genuine attraction.
If it's not a mutual attraction, it's not a missed opportunity.
Like when Tinder tells me I missed a match. No I didn't, how could it be a match if I'm not interested?"
I had an image of you telling your phone off then.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to quickly dismiss them, now I just say thank you and pay them little attention.
Compliments can be as much about the person offering them, as it is about the one recieving.
Mrs used to not only dismiss, but argue against, her confidence has grown and she happily accepts them now. |
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"Recieving compliments?
Do you believe them? Do they make you feel awkward? Are they just confirming what you already know? Does it matter who they're from?"
I’m terrible and turn into a tawdry self deprecating Hugh Grant xx
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On here? Pretty good. I graciously accept and get on with my day, without thinking too much on them.
In person, I'll obviously say thank you, but will quickly deflect: 'Oh you like my shirt, thanks; where did you get your shoes?' I'm better at accepting compliments about my work or something non-physical. |
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