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Better to Have Loved and Lost than Never to Have Loved at All…
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So was penned by the famous poet, Alfred, Lord Tennyson.
In fact he was specifically referring to the death of a close friend, Arthur Henry Hallam although the quote is now more popularly associated with and invariably quoted in the context of the breakdown of relationships.
In regards to this latter scenario;
Good folks, cast your mind back over previous partners in your lifetime whom you have loved, yet the relationship has indeed broken down…
Was it in fact better to have loved them and enjoyed the happy memories prior to the eventual heartache or, in hindsight, would you have preferred to never have met them in the first place?
Strewth! This was quite a deep post from me, right?
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Tough one. Lots and lots of happy memories verses a mental breakdown.
I'm going to go with better to have loved and lost. While the losing ( or in my case, leaving) was the major factor in having a breakdown, it's made me who I am today.
Can I re-write the quote? Better to have learnt what you know today before you love than to lose a love to learn? |
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I think it depends on the person, the relationship and what happened. I loved someone for a very long time that I don't regret for a second but someone else that in hindsight, I wish I'd never met. |
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Absolutely.
"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."
D. H. Lawrence.
I'd rather feel the love and suffer a broken heart than to have never known those moments.
Ms Wyld |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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Good folks, cast your mind back over previous partners in your lifetime whom you have loved, yet the relationship has indeed broken down…
Was it in fact better to have loved them and enjoyed the happy memories prior to the eventual heartache or, in hindsight, would you have preferred to never have met them in the first place?
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Always better to have loved and lost I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely.
"Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration."
D. H. Lawrence.
I'd rather feel the love and suffer a broken heart than to have never known those moments.
Ms Wyld"
That is such a true statement. Thanks for posting it. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.
I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.
And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".
It is delicate.
Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.
So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I. |
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By *stellaWoman
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"I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.
I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.
And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".
It is delicate.
Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.
So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I."
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I've dated some truly extraordinary ladies and have lots of happy memories, I still think about some of them now and miss them after years apart.
Could have done without the heartaches but when the good times were rolling then they really were amazing and I'm greatful for that.
I'm happy single now but I have moments I contemplate trying for a relationship but lots of people here would miss me I reckon  |
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By *eliWoman
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"I think that quote rings true for any relationship you experience love in - whether it's that deep friendship love that shows up time and time again without asking for anything. The love you have for a family member, your child, those who share your features but are so different from you. The romantic love that lifts you so high or gives you that safe comfort of an easy love.
I love. Fiercely. Unashamedly. My friends. My partner. People. I often think I'm a collection of the stories of those who've loved me, love me and are yet to.
And yes, sometimes it crashes. Burns spectacularly. Tears are shed, solace sought in distractions that provide a temporary relief from that unique sadness following losing that love. I hibernate, listen to those who care and say "Meli, protect your heart because it's a delicate thing".
It is delicate.
Yet there's so much love to be found within it. Shared. Enjoyed. Expressed. Lived.
So I'd rather keep experiencing that full kaleidoscope of life, giving my love to those I love and being loved, knowing one day it may end but those moments of happiness are no less because of that. They lived and so did I.
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Always. |
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Oh much better that things happened the way they did. While some of my experiences have been horrid, they have all contributed to my becoming the person I am today, and that's someone I bloody adore.
I either have the fondest of memories or the harshest of lessons from each and every person I've loved. |
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"Not sure I've ever been truly IN love with anybody..
So for me I can't miss what I've never had I guess 
Not very helpful I know sorry  "
Lucky you.But you may well finally find the one & have no heartbreak.  |
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I think there was one ex in particular who I remember fondly. Selfless, encouraging and supported me with completing something important. He was a good one. I don't regret him. It just fizzled out 
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"About 30 pairs and at least 15 odd ones. Poor odd socks. 
J"
I used to have sooo many socks.
Why did they leave me?
Actually, where on earth did they all disappear to?
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First hubby was evil! But had I not met him I would not have my first 3 children my 3 grandchildren and my 2 great grandsons! The second one he was the love of my life but a alcoholic that's now departed this world! But again had we not met I wouldn't have my 3 youngest children so yes agree with the saying! Actually I apply this to dogs/cats I've had over years as the love from them is amazing x |
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I'm so very grateful to have loved and been loved by my ex-husband. He's a lovely man and we get on very well co-parenting our children. Even if we didn't have children I'd still be grateful for having met him as we had some wonderful times together. The relationship simply ran its' course.
Nell
Ps. I own about 15 pairs of socks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always better to have loved and lost but it is a bugger when you see them looking better than ever. Heartstrings are not the only thing that gets tugged. |
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