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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less? |
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In what sense? Insisting on sex always being as wildly exciting as it is with someone new seems like a recipe for disappointment. Get to know someone and a bit of excitement wears off, but the pleasure and satisfaction often increases. Knowing what thrills and satisfies each other, being comfortable and full of laughter as well as fretted with hot serious desire.
I'm procrastinating on a straight answer. But maybe aiming for an ever higher moving average, rather than setting insatiable goals for perfection, is a better road to exquisite experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reckon okay sex has its place!
*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.
But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.
Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive.  |
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
If it’s a 1 st time with someone we all hope it will be mind blowing, some times it is sometimes it’s good but not fireworks and all. The more you get to know someone the better it gets. I think with casual sex it needs to be very good sex. With sex in a relationship, just the being close and intimate with someone you love can be enough regardless of how good the sex is. As long obviously as it’s not terrible lol. Hope that makes sense. Sean |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
I would rather no sex than sex with someone I am not that keen on. But I absolutely don't need every sexual encounter to be mind blowing. But it should be fun.
If I had a couple meets with someone and it wasn't good then it would be over though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
Never had or provided ok Sex. Always awesome |
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
No sex will do me...I'll do magic on myself so no point wasting with someone who's crap at it. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I reckon okay sex has its place!
*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.
But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.
Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive. "
That's exactly what inspired this thread - I was discussing Saturday night with a friend and they offered to pick me up, some middling sex followed by pizza. :D Tested my kegels reading it and then I thought about it... why is middle of the road sex looked down on? Sometimes it scratches an itch, it's nice enough. On the other hand...
So yeah, I'm pondering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd rather have no sex than shit sex...however that being said, I won't fuck anyone I don't feel some sort of connection with. I'd I feel comfortable enough to be naked with someone then I will communicate with them about what feels good, and ask them what they'd like. That way its a mutually enjoyable experience all round
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Despite the doubtless protestations of many, let’s face it; not all sex is mind blowing in reality.
Variables such as tiredness, not really being in the correct mood and even the possible side effects of prescribed medications are but a few examples that can all serve to somewhat abate the lustre of a lovemaking session.
Okay sex is therefore perfectly natural and….well….ok every now and then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
I think the question should be: can every sexual experience be mind blowing and should they be anyway ?
I believe that trying to reach for this ideal (of mind blowing sex) is like setting oneself to fail.
I’d rather have ´average’ sex, if passion is real than sleeping with someone who tries to give me this ‘mind blowing’ experience but it feels phoney.
Gimme average genuine sexual experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy. "
This! 
How can you have mind blowing sex with no average, mediocre or just plain god awful sex to compare it to? 
And if every experience was fantastic, with fireworks going off, multiple orgasms for both (yeah, fuck you women, fuck you  ), earth moving, bed breaking sex.........then how soon would that become 'normal' and thus average in itself? And how would you keep it up? What would you have to do to maintain the thrill, the excitement, the new discoveries and experiences?
Not every experience has to be great. Sometimes it's more important 'who' you're having sex with than how good that sex is.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reckon okay sex has its place!
*Narrator - Yes, normally in Woodys bed.
But if it was offered like that, “fancy some okay sex?” no, I’d decline. It just sounds mediocre.
Although I’d probably laugh and think that chat up line is funny, and then it sounds attractive.
That's exactly what inspired this thread - I was discussing Saturday night with a friend and they offered to pick me up, some middling sex followed by pizza. :D Tested my kegels reading it and then I thought about it... why is middle of the road sex looked down on? Sometimes it scratches an itch, it's nice enough. On the other hand...
So yeah, I'm pondering."
See, if it was offered it like that, your barriers snd expectations are down, expectations are gone, and you’ll probably have a blast.
Doesn’t have to be ‘mind blowing’ like others have said, but okay sex, can be bloody good with someone that makes you feel good snd you like them. .
But sex that’s just okay! Nah, I don’t want that.
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
Not every time is going to be mind blowing, not even with the same person.
But it does make a difference when you can lose yourself so much that you suddenly realise its hours later.. for me interactions like that are rare... but valued when they do happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think average sex is necessarily a bad thing. I’m not always looking for it to be mind blowing, sometimes a quickie is enough and as long as we’ve both enjoyed it then I’m happy.
This!
How can you have mind blowing sex with no average, mediocre or just plain god awful sex to compare it to?
And if every experience was fantastic, with fireworks going off, multiple orgasms for both (yeah, fuck you women, fuck you ), earth moving, bed breaking sex.........then how soon would that become 'normal' and thus average in itself? And how would you keep it up? What would you have to do to maintain the thrill, the excitement, the new discoveries and experiences?
Not every experience has to be great. Sometimes it's more important 'who' you're having sex with than how good that sex is.
A"
Yep, exactly.
Sometimes I don’t want to be thrown around the room or folded like a pretzel, let’s just have some okay sex so I can go to bed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's far more to sex than just the sex for me.
It's the intamacy, the affection, the connection and the ability to give and recieve pleasure. I'm not sure any of those things will ever be mediocre to me.
Sure, to some it might not always be exciting, adventurous or super kinky. It's not always about ticking off a sex to do list.
Sometimes just being is more than enough.
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Depends on why you’re having sex…. The need is different sometimes you need hard urgent right now fuck my brains out sex and other times you want more connected intimacy where the need is more emotional than physical… so any sex that satisfies the need at the time is fine with me. Sex that’s just ‘ok’ probably wont satisfy the need though and if someone else is just going through the motions.. without that level of understanding of your needs and desire to satisfy then it will soon end |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we tred dangerous ground if we 'expect' great sex
Not all sex can be great, even with a consistent and competent lover
However, I do think better sex comes via bonding, understanding, an intangible connection
I do, however, find a thrill in unexpected and unplanned sex
That thrill can lead to a feeling of elation and can sway the mind to believe that the sex was great whereas, in reality, the sex was probably just OK - it's the adrenaline hit that pushes it up a notch
I have had some great sexual encounters with 'no names' but I've also had some terrible ones
Finding someone who does things how you like them done is always a pleasant surprise |
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"So, sex. We all have it (although frequency varies a lot).
Would you rather have kind of okay sex or no sex?
Why? Does every sexual experience have to be mind blowing or are you happy to settle for less?"
Try da sexy thing wiv me, the best 5 mins of disappointment you'll ever experience, and with 3 mins of oral  |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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Think the conection with someone is what makes the biggest difference when it comes to mindblowing sex thats what my experience has been anyway thats why now i will go without had the connectionless it no longer excites me enough
I dare not risk a connection with anyone anymore almost 4 years of pining for whats lost has kind of soured me to the new |
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