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I remember being with an ex and, having gone down on her with some top drawer minge munching, she said “I suppose you want me to return the favour”.
My immediate thought was, no. Actually I don’t. If that’s how you feel about oral then I don’t want you to. Not only does it mean you doing something you don’t want to do (and, in my humble opinion, there is literally nothing worse with a partner than making them do something they don’t want to), but it also means I won’t enjoy it because I know you don’t like it.
So, we did something different.
That being said, I do remember how disappointed Percy was because he likes examining tongue, tonsils, tongue, tonsils, tongue. You get the picture.
I suppose a talk could help understand her perspective, but if she fundamentally doesn’t like it the barrier will always be up.
Maybe it’s an opportunity to identify different things you both like. |
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No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral..
Do you go down on her? It's usually a two-way street. "
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For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.
So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.
Oh, and I love to reciprocate.
Frank |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.
So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.
Oh, and I love to reciprocate.
Frank"
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"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.
So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.
Oh, and I love to reciprocate.
Frank
Do you enjoy giving oral?"
Yes, that's what I meant when I said I love to reciprocate 
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"She could be worried she isn't good at it.
She might be a pillow princess. "
Being worried she's not good at it isn't the same as saying she doesn't like doing it. She can be taught.
Funny you mention pillow princesses. Not so long ago I had sex with someone in a club (with Jane's knowledge as she was at the club too) and after a rather disappointing encounter I, as politely as I could, mentioned I considered her to be a pillow princess. The next time I was in the club (again with Jane) she practically dragged me into a room and upped her game considerably.
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"She could be worried she isn't good at it.
She might be a pillow princess.
What's a pillow princess?
A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.
Frank"
Goodness are there really women like that 
Is there a male equivalent? |
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"She could be worried she isn't good at it.
She might be a pillow princess.
What's a pillow princess?
A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.
Frank
Goodness are there really women like that
Is there a male equivalent?"
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"She could be worried she isn't good at it.
She might be a pillow princess.
What's a pillow princess?
A woman who just lies there and gives nothing back.
Frank
Goodness are there really women like that
Is there a male equivalent?"
Yep we met one. I think he assumed his larger than average cock was all that was required as he lay back |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?"
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know. |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?"
I don't think oral sex is the only foreplay available. It's only if I'm in a relationship that it's important for me to know the option is there. A Fab hookup I'm not bothered about, as long as kissing is involved, but that's another thread
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."
Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.
Frank |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."
What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.
I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.
Frank"
That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.
Frank
That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in "
"too deep in"? That a pun?
Frank |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
Yes, and after all the talking and understanding is done and she still doesn't want to go down on me I'm out I'm afraid. Again, I stress this would be for a potential partner, not a casual hookup.
Frank
That's fair in my view. If there are non negotiables for you it's best to sort them out before you get too deep in
"too deep in"? That a pun?
Frank"
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By *uicycock8Man
over a year ago
Norrh East & East midlands |
"Go down on me?
No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral..
Do you go down on her? It's usually a two-way street.
Fannies are definitely a two way street "
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"For me it doesn't really matter if there is a legitimate reason for her not wanting to give me oral. It's not something I want all the time but it is something I don't want taken off the table. I also want it to be given with enthusiasm because she loves doing it.
So, if for whatever reason my partner didn't want, or like, giving me blow jobs I'd finish with her. This is something that would be discovered very early in the relationship so no biggie.
Oh, and I love to reciprocate.
Frank"
100% agree with this!
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.
I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem "
Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral. |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.
I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem
Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral. "
"Almost" but not all. Because most men like it, not all of us, but most. If a woman didn't want me to go down on her because she definitely didn't like it I'd respect her wishes. However, she wouldn't be considered for a long term partner as I do enjoy me some cunnilingus
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By *ooleyMan
over a year ago
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My current FWB is not a fan. First time she went down on me, she glared and said she didn't want cum in her mouth. Fair enough. But I've noticed that she when she *does* give me a blowjob, she isn't enthusiastic or - and you know when a partner does - even enjoys it.
So, you know.. it's not going to be a long term thing with her.
Turns out blowjobs - good ones - are make-or-break for me! Gotta say, I'm often a little disappointed when we get together. |
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Maybe she's worried you'll just cum in her mouth and not warn her first... Because maybe so many other guys have done that before she just says no and that's it.
Maybe she wants sex and doesn't want to give you a blow job thinking that if you cum she's out of luck.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know.
What happens if a woman doesn't have 'issues' but simply doesn't like it, they're not afraid or embarrassed to tell you because there is no other reason? I know some men it does nothing for.
I'm not being deliberately argumentative but there does seem to be an implication here that women who don't like giving oral have a problem
Or that it's a requirement for sex. Almost every man I've had sex with expected me to give oral.
"Almost" but not all. Because most men like it, not all of us, but most. If a woman didn't want me to go down on her because she definitely didn't like it I'd respect her wishes. However, she wouldn't be considered for a long term partner as I do enjoy me some cunnilingus
Frank"
By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth. |
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"By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth. "
Sorry Nanna, you're either very unlucky or picking shitty lovers 
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By *ad NannaWoman
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"By almost I'm talking one or maybe two who didn't expect to be sucked. Some wanted to constantly stick their cock in my mouth.
Sorry Nanna, you're either very unlucky or picking shitty lovers
Frank"
I've picked from all walks of life. I don't find submissive men appealing, so maybe I am picking shitty lovers. |
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"Usually because it does nothing for her or she doesn't like it.
I would ask another question.
Why do so many men and probably women too assume that oral sex is the only foreplay available?
Isn't foreplay what you do that makes you want to get your genitals out?
If someone doesn't like it and you don't know why then they are afraid or embarrassed to tell you. It is up to her if she wants to open up to you and this is the key. Make her feel comfortable to tell you and accept that no matter what she says, you are probably not going to get your dick sucked by her. That is her right, it is her body.
If you can show enough compassion to enable her to talk about it, you might understand and stop asking. With patience and understanding, you might be able to find a way of approaching oral sex in a way she feels more comfortable with that addresses her issues. Until you find the key, you will never know."
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"Go down on me?
No not the elton john song, but some practical advice to those going without the oral.. "
I'm sure people don't communicate with their partners |
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