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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is this a taboo subject on a swingers website?
When was the last time someone did something romantic for you, or did you do something romantic for them? Did they know it was romantic?
What makes something romantic,… is it because it was done on the 14th feb?
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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Romantic can also be interpreted as sensitive, arousing, responsive and woman centred ... a good lover can be romantic ... I love and adore my husband who is often in the room with us and also playing ... I fuck and play with men who are quality and have romantic capacity / attributes. x Anne |
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Not sure if it counts as romantic but I was feeling down and a bit lost. So my ex wrote me a poem about my good points and my not so. It made me laugh and I needed that.. it was also quite sweet that some of the things he said were things I didn't remember till mentioned |
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Romance used to be seen when lovers sent letters to each other, comments on the Christmas cards and romantic gestures on valentines cards. In this fast life of texts and Snapchat, it isn’t quite so easy to see but it’s still there. Little gestures , opening a door , the morning kiss and cuddle, giving encouragement when someone feels nervous, but mostly being there for somebody when they are down |
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I’m a useless romantic, but I’m a good egg, I can’t go into a shop without buying the mrs some sweets ( she loves sweets ), so much so that now when I take my 4 year old daughter in a shop with me she automatically says “ what sweets shall we make mummy happy with “.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Romance is doing nice things someone will fuck them.
Otherwise it's just true caring and friendship.  "
Not everyone can or wants to even have sex. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a poem written to me. It was very sweet and very funny. It cheered me up after a slew of wanna fuck type messages.
Thank you Poet."
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think it's taboo. Less discussed, less likely to happen because of the nature of the site.
But not because it's bad. I think romance in general has fallen out of fashion somewhat.
The last romantic thing? On a first date with someone recently they bought a book I'd mentioned, very briefly and a good month or so ago now, and had wanted to read. And they wrote a little message for me inside.
I'm used to being the more observant one, remembering little things. That gesture really made me smile and gave me a fuzzy feeling. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
Chorley, Eng |
Uncommon on a swingers site but surely not taboo.
I have many facets to my personality. I love long deep emotional conversations, stupid dirty talk, calm romantic candle lit meals and snuggles on a sofa, I also like to fuck. None of these things detracts from the others.
I don't remember the last time someone did something romantic for me. But I struggle to find people who will take as deep an interest in who I am as a person and ask me the questions needed to find out about me as I do them. Right now I crave that much more than romance and fucks are easy to come by. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Oh and in terms of what makes something romantic?
It's the intent behind it, it's the saying to the other person "I'm thinking about you and you hold value to me" without saying it. I don't think it always has to be material - you can make romantic gestures. Spend time thinking about another and what they'd like, what would make them smile without spending a lot.
I guess it differs from friendship because of the depth/presence of romantic feelings there. |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh and in terms of what makes something romantic?
It's the intent behind it, it's the saying to the other person "I'm thinking about you and you hold value to me" without saying it. I don't think it always has to be material - you can make romantic gestures. Spend time thinking about another and what they'd like, what would make them smile without spending a lot.
I guess it differs from friendship because of the depth/presence of romantic feelings there."
Totally agree with you here! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"At the weekend it was our anniversary. Wolf had printed out the whats app messages we’d swapped on the day we first met and put them in with the presents he’d got me.
Red "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think it's taboo. Less discussed, less likely to happen because of the nature of the site.
But not because it's bad. I think romance in general has fallen out of fashion somewhat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had valentines gifts, birthday gifts x Someone once left a post it note with a love heart on it for me to find. That particular guy turned out to be satan himself so not a good example really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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reading this thread, i guess romance is well and truly alive for some, and it's beautiful 
it doesn't exist for me anymore, nor can i remember the last time it did. Px  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Luv romance but it would have to be with someone very special to fall in love with; otherwise it's just raw hardcore sex. Still waiting to meet that one special person to fall head over heels with (maybe one day, who knows), until that day I'm very content being a single male and just enjoying meeting plenty lovely peeps and having like minded NSA fun.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love romance and make no secret of it. 
Its not about grand gestures or clichés. It's about those little moment's that make your heart flutter.
Its a feeling, a vibe and I'm all for it.
Much like feelings. They really don't need to be ignored or avoided. They can be enjoyed and indulged upon. It can make things go from good to incredible, so why wouldn't I want that?
Yes. Romance me. Sweep me off my feet. Utterly seduce me and please, let me do the same in return.
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I struggle to find people who will take as deep an interest in who I am as a person and ask me the questions needed to find out about me as I do them. Right now I crave that much more than romance and fucks are easy to come by. "
That's pretty much how I would define intimacy, which is generally what leads to me developing sexual or romantic feelings. |
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Last person I was seeing let me put the tip of my penis in her butt and she's never let anyone do that, it was like a beautiful sunrise moment on a beach but without sand in places it shouldn't be |
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So for me without knowing me intimately: a romantic gesture is arbitrary, and is something a person may do for anyone. It has to be personal to be meaningful.
The same really applies to sex for me. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I love romance and make no secret of it.
Its not about grand gestures or clichés. It's about those little moment's that make your heart flutter.
Its a feeling, a vibe and I'm all for it.
Much like feelings. They really don't need to be ignored or avoided. They can be enjoyed and indulged upon. It can make things go from good to incredible, so why wouldn't I want that?
Yes. Romance me. Sweep me off my feet. Utterly seduce me and please, let me do the same in return.
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This reply! I'm not looking to enter a relationship with anyone currently. Far from it, almost the opposite! But I love going on dates, the romantic side of things. I have no shame in that. There's something to be said for that intimacy, for another person knowing you and you them. Or at least being open to learn you.
I guess for me I want to enjoy the romance without a romantic relationship. And there's nothing wrong with that. |
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"I love romance and make no secret of it.
Its not about grand gestures or clichés. It's about those little moment's that make your heart flutter.
Its a feeling, a vibe and I'm all for it.
Much like feelings. They really don't need to be ignored or avoided. They can be enjoyed and indulged upon. It can make things go from good to incredible, so why wouldn't I want that?
Yes. Romance me. Sweep me off my feet. Utterly seduce me and please, let me do the same in return.
This reply! I'm not looking to enter a relationship with anyone currently. Far from it, almost the opposite! But I love going on dates, the romantic side of things. I have no shame in that. There's something to be said for that intimacy, for another person knowing you and you them. Or at least being open to learn you.
I guess for me I want to enjoy the romance without a romantic relationship. And there's nothing wrong with that. "
Yes I am starting to ask that of future partners. Too many just assume it will be a quick social then the next time straight into a sexual meet. I'm not after monogamy but a true friend with a side helping of benefits. So I want to take it slower. That's not to say the first method hasn't worked for me in the past. I have made some wonderful fwbs in the past. Its all about communication. |
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Im an old school romantic, me.
I took the sammich maker away for our anniversary to a lovely place that had once won the Channel 4 show, Four in a Bed! I booked a room with two luxurious king sized beds, a shower you could fit half a dozen in and a four person hot tub! I paid someone else to feed the old girl, so no sammich making or washing up for her that day! We drank expensive and varied cocktails till the sun went down, then back to the hot tub for prosecco and naughty fun. We kept it quiet as the tub was adjacent to the restaurant, but it was interesting listening to the bants of the staff as they locked up and headed home. We had never been in a hot tub before and ermagerd! It takes a bit of working out how to have sex in one without emptying it, but it is worth the perserverence!
Unfortunately sammich maker isnt a drinker and the hot tub seemed to turn her into a soccer bore, now excited for the future of womens football following the Lionesses success. She also became irrationally possessive over the prosecco and she was being quite mean with my measures. It wasnt too long before she became so intoxicated that she ended up under the shower, eating complimentary biscuits and wondering why the Biscoff kept dissolving.
This is where my clever forward planning came in handy by booking a room with two beds (Pinocchio, you know the other couple didnt show up!). This meant i got a good nights sleep and sammich maker could starfish and thrash about to her hearts content. Which was nice.
Breakfast was interesting as i tucked into a dirty great plate of bacon, egg and black pudding while she enjoyed some coffee and paracetamol. My sammich maker is made of strong stuff, so before returning to regular life, we walked it off and had actual Sex on the Beach with a small audience of naked fappers. A veritable time to remember.
The very stuff that Mills and Boon is made from. True romance!  |
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By *mber81Woman
over a year ago
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I struggle to find people who will take as deep an interest in who I am as a person and ask me the questions needed to find out about me as I do them. Right now I crave that much more than romance and fucks are easy to come by.
That's pretty much how I would define intimacy, which is generally what leads to me developing sexual or romantic feelings. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what makes something romantic is the fact that the gesture as been tailored and thought for the person intended only. I think that romanticism has more impact if unique.
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IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic."
I don't think you're silly at all. I think it's rather lovely and you're right Polly.
The most romantic gestures to me aren't the big spends. It's the little things that show how much someone means to you.
Also "finding the return is there without having to ask" is so poignant in its simplicity. Beautiful. I'm going to use that somewhere else because it perfectly describes what I couldn't, x |
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic.
I don't think you're silly at all. I think it's rather lovely and you're right Polly.
The most romantic gestures to me aren't the big spends. It's the little things that show how much someone means to you.
Also "finding the return is there without having to ask" is so poignant in its simplicity. Beautiful. I'm going to use that somewhere else because it perfectly describes what I couldn't, x"
Yes ! Thank you Polly ! |
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic.
I don't think you're silly at all. I think it's rather lovely and you're right Polly.
The most romantic gestures to me aren't the big spends. It's the little things that show how much someone means to you.
Also "finding the return is there without having to ask" is so poignant in its simplicity. Beautiful. I'm going to use that somewhere else because it perfectly describes what I couldn't, x"
It's pretty well "giving someone your last Rollo". Providing that they're not diabetic of course! |
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic."
I’m one of those hopeless ones sometimes. |
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"Im an old school romantic, me.
I took the sammich maker away for our anniversary to a lovely place that had once won the Channel 4 show, Four in a Bed! I booked a room with two luxurious king sized beds, a shower you could fit half a dozen in and a four person hot tub! I paid someone else to feed the old girl, so no sammich making or washing up for her that day! We drank expensive and varied cocktails till the sun went down, then back to the hot tub for prosecco and naughty fun. We kept it quiet as the tub was adjacent to the restaurant, but it was interesting listening to the bants of the staff as they locked up and headed home. We had never been in a hot tub before and ermagerd! It takes a bit of working out how to have sex in one without emptying it, but it is worth the perserverence!
Unfortunately sammich maker isnt a drinker and the hot tub seemed to turn her into a soccer bore, now excited for the future of womens football following the Lionesses success. She also became irrationally possessive over the prosecco and she was being quite mean with my measures. It wasnt too long before she became so intoxicated that she ended up under the shower, eating complimentary biscuits and wondering why the Biscoff kept dissolving.
This is where my clever forward planning came in handy by booking a room with two beds (Pinocchio, you know the other couple didnt show up!). This meant i got a good nights sleep and sammich maker could starfish and thrash about to her hearts content. Which was nice.
Breakfast was interesting as i tucked into a dirty great plate of bacon, egg and black pudding while she enjoyed some coffee and paracetamol. My sammich maker is made of strong stuff, so before returning to regular life, we walked it off and had actual Sex on the Beach with a small audience of naked fappers. A veritable time to remember.
The very stuff that Mills and Boon is made from. True romance! "
I love this. It made me smile and laugh. |
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I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with. |
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"I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with."
Let me know when you have a poorly tummy and I'll do you a hot water bottle |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic.
I don't think you're silly at all. I think it's rather lovely and you're right Polly.
The most romantic gestures to me aren't the big spends. It's the little things that show how much someone means to you.
Also "finding the return is there without having to ask" is so poignant in its simplicity. Beautiful. I'm going to use that somewhere else because it perfectly describes what I couldn't, x
It's pretty well "giving someone your last Rollo". Providing that they're not diabetic of course!"
And don't dislike rolos (me. It's me. I dislike rolos).
Perhaps it's more the deeper intimacy I crave, rather than romance. Not sure.
I'm happy doing things my own non-swinger way though - I think if you ask people away from the fora the majority will be actively avoiding any hint of romance. |
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"I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with.
Let me know when you have a poorly tummy and I'll do you a hot water bottle "
You’re on!! And if you’ve had a long day I’ll give you a foot rub |
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"I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with.
Let me know when you have a poorly tummy and I'll do you a hot water bottle
You’re on!! And if you’ve had a long day I’ll give you a foot rub"
If you're willing to touch my feet then it must be love |
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"I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with.
Let me know when you have a poorly tummy and I'll do you a hot water bottle
You’re on!! And if you’ve had a long day I’ll give you a foot rub
If you're willing to touch my feet then it must be love "
 Just be thankful I didn’t say what I once did to a guy at work and promise a foot job!! |
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"I may be misremembering, but I cannot recall a single person doing something romantic for me in about the last eight years.
The girlfriend I had before that was always doing nice, simple little things that let me know she was thinking of me.
I like to be romantic, but not soppy. For me it’s all about little gestures that surprise someone.
I wish I had someone in my life to do these things with.
Let me know when you have a poorly tummy and I'll do you a hot water bottle
You’re on!! And if you’ve had a long day I’ll give you a foot rub
If you're willing to touch my feet then it must be love
Just be thankful I didn’t say what I once did to a guy at work and promise a foot job!!"
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I struggle to find people who will take as deep an interest in who I am as a person and ask me the questions needed to find out about me as I do them. Right now I crave that much more than romance and fucks are easy to come by.
That's pretty much how I would define intimacy, which is generally what leads to me developing sexual or romantic feelings.
You make a good point! "
You inspire my thoughts! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I've had people make romantic gestures that would mean something if I meant something to them.
My husband suggested we go out for dinner alone when he realised I'd had enough of his abuse and told me to find somewhere to book.
He wrote me a poem when I was severely depressed but still carried on his affair and the abuse.
I wouldn't know what real romance was.
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"I honestly can't remember when or if anyone ever has with me ..
The Ex certainly didn't !!
It would be lovely if it happened but also extremely unlikely "
Me either... Not for a very long time.
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I took my male friend out on a date once. Turned up at house with bouquet of sunflowers (favourite flower), booked a taxi to take us to very nice restaurant and then out for drinks. Went to late night music venue and danced badly, then I walked him home, and gave him back to his wife, who was very amused by the whole incident.
Apparently he's gone and got his hair and beard cut especially, dragged her around shops to find new shirt and sexy aftershave.
She said it's the first time she's seen him out of jeans or combats in about 5 years.
Mind you, she almost died in shock to see me in a dress. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though 
He sounds wheelie awful  "
Fuck sake Grumpy |
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"I've had people make romantic gestures that would mean something if I meant something to them.
My husband suggested we go out for dinner alone when he realised I'd had enough of his abuse and told me to find somewhere to book.
He wrote me a poem when I was severely depressed but still carried on his affair and the abuse.
I wouldn't know what real romance was.
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though
He sounds wheelie awful
Fuck sake Grumpy "
Couldn't help myself |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though
He sounds wheelie awful
Fuck sake Grumpy
Couldn't help myself "
Why not be romantic and come out the bins out!! |
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though
He sounds wheelie awful
Fuck sake Grumpy
Couldn't help myself
Why not be romantic and come out the bins out!!"
What day of the week is it and I'll make plans |
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over a year ago
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though
He sounds wheelie awful
Fuck sake Grumpy
Couldn't help myself
Why not be romantic and come out the bins out!!
What day of the week is it and I'll make plans "
Early Tuesday morning so best coming Monday night |
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"I took my male friend out on a date once. Turned up at house with bouquet of sunflowers (favourite flower), booked a taxi to take us to very nice restaurant and then out for drinks. Went to late night music venue and danced badly, then I walked him home, and gave him back to his wife, who was very amused by the whole incident.
Apparently he's gone and got his hair and beard cut especially, dragged her around shops to find new shirt and sexy aftershave.
She said it's the first time she's seen him out of jeans or combats in about 5 years.
Mind you, she almost died in shock to see me in a dress."
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"Probably about 4 years ago when my now ex took the bins out
Goodness. They were truly spoiling you.
Indeed - didn't put a new bag in though
He sounds wheelie awful
Fuck sake Grumpy
Couldn't help myself
Why not be romantic and come out the bins out!!
What day of the week is it and I'll make plans
Early Tuesday morning so best coming Monday night "
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"Im an old school romantic, me.
I took the sammich maker away for our anniversary to a lovely place that had once won the Channel 4 show, Four in a Bed! I booked a room with two luxurious king sized beds, a shower you could fit half a dozen in and a four person hot tub! I paid someone else to feed the old girl, so no sammich making or washing up for her that day! We drank expensive and varied cocktails till the sun went down, then back to the hot tub for prosecco and naughty fun. We kept it quiet as the tub was adjacent to the restaurant, but it was interesting listening to the bants of the staff as they locked up and headed home. We had never been in a hot tub before and ermagerd! It takes a bit of working out how to have sex in one without emptying it, but it is worth the perserverence!
Unfortunately sammich maker isnt a drinker and the hot tub seemed to turn her into a soccer bore, now excited for the future of womens football following the Lionesses success. She also became irrationally possessive over the prosecco and she was being quite mean with my measures. It wasnt too long before she became so intoxicated that she ended up under the shower, eating complimentary biscuits and wondering why the Biscoff kept dissolving.
This is where my clever forward planning came in handy by booking a room with two beds (Pinocchio, you know the other couple didnt show up!). This meant i got a good nights sleep and sammich maker could starfish and thrash about to her hearts content. Which was nice.
Breakfast was interesting as i tucked into a dirty great plate of bacon, egg and black pudding while she enjoyed some coffee and paracetamol. My sammich maker is made of strong stuff, so before returning to regular life, we walked it off and had actual Sex on the Beach with a small audience of naked fappers. A veritable time to remember.
The very stuff that Mills and Boon is made from. True romance! "
Am I the only one who read this and thought “Sammich maker” was a Tefal Toastie Maker??
I thought you’d taken it away with you to impress your gal.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My kids father used to put little love notes in my lunch for work and leave notes dotted around the place. I thought that was romantic. Turns out he’d also secretly joined a dating site and was messaging other women!! So now I appreciate more normal stuff like cooking me a meal, rubbing my feet, a cuppa in bed. And I also don’t like cut flowers. So they’re wasted on me.
I can be romantic, I have made mix tapes and gifted little things that folk have mentioned in the past that they like. But it’s very rare. |
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"I took my male friend out on a date once. Turned up at house with bouquet of sunflowers (favourite flower), booked a taxi to take us to very nice restaurant and then out for drinks. Went to late night music venue and danced badly, then I walked him home, and gave him back to his wife, who was very amused by the whole incident.
Apparently he's gone and got his hair and beard cut especially, dragged her around shops to find new shirt and sexy aftershave.
She said it's the first time she's seen him out of jeans or combats in about 5 years.
Mind you, she almost died in shock to see me in a dress.
Did he take his wife out on a date too? "
Yes, they have date night. I often used to have kids at mine for them to have quiet time. I'd taken his wife out few months earlier, to dinner and a show, and he kept moaning nobody ever took him on a date. So I did. |
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"IMHO romance can be a simple as making a cup of tea at the right moment, without being asked. It's about showing that you care and you know what someone needs. Giving freely without asking return, but finding the return is there without having to ask. Holding someone in your heart just because.
Maybe I'm just a silly romantic.
I don't think you're silly at all. I think it's rather lovely and you're right Polly.
The most romantic gestures to me aren't the big spends. It's the little things that show how much someone means to you.
Also "finding the return is there without having to ask" is so poignant in its simplicity. Beautiful. I'm going to use that somewhere else because it perfectly describes what I couldn't, x
It's pretty well "giving someone your last Rollo". Providing that they're not diabetic of course!
And don't dislike rolos (me. It's me. I dislike rolos).
Perhaps it's more the deeper intimacy I crave, rather than romance. Not sure.
I'm happy doing things my own non-swinger way though - I think if you ask people away from the fora the majority will be actively avoiding any hint of romance. "
I'm not actually that keen on them myself, haven't bought them in maybe forever. If I want chocolate (who am i kidding, of course I want chocolate, I always have chocolate in the house) I buy decent quality chocolate. It was quite a romantic advert though, many years ago...
I suspect that many, if not most, of us would like to have deep levels of intimacy. Failing that, romance would be wonderful. Failing that, any sort of continuing relationship even if it lacks romance. Failing that, a good shag now and then. Failing that, a bad shag once every fifth of never. And for those of us where even that now seems out of reach no matter how we try - perhaps because of age, or gender uncertainties, or having loved and lost too many times, sinking through emotional damage below the waterline - there is just fabbing photos and memories. |
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I'm not actually that keen on them myself, haven't bought them in maybe forever. If I want chocolate (who am i kidding, of course I want chocolate, I always have chocolate in the house) I buy decent quality chocolate. It was quite a romantic advert though, many years ago...
I suspect that many, if not most, of us would like to have deep levels of intimacy. Failing that, romance would be wonderful. Failing that, any sort of continuing relationship even if it lacks romance. Failing that, a good shag now and then. Failing that, a bad shag once every fifth of never. And for those of us where even that now seems out of reach no matter how we try - perhaps because of age, or gender uncertainties, or having loved and lost too many times, sinking through emotional damage below the waterline - there is just fabbing photos and memories."
Yes, but no, but yeh, … I’m going to go and cry in a corner somewhere. |
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Romance to me is holding my hair back when I’m being sick (I have a sickness disorder happens regularly). Putting my tablets out because he knows I will forget x
Making me a cup of coffee before he goes to bed
Moving 400 miles so I can look after my family x |
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By *xydadbodMan
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"Romance to me is holding my hair back when I’m being sick (I have a sickness disorder happens regularly). Putting my tablets out because he knows I will forget x
Making me a cup of coffee before he goes to bed
Moving 400 miles so I can look after my family x "
See, that would be my definition of romance too. Its not the lavish of stuff but more the little considerations that makes a big difference that matters. I'll take this version over fancy meal, suprise holidays anyday |
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"I honestly can’t remember ….
Me neither "
That’s what struck my question.
Sadly I don’t know when or what someone did for me that I thought was romantic.
I remember what I did or someone else though. Which is nice, it’s not a swinging brick just yet.  |
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"Romance to me is holding my hair back when I’m being sick (I have a sickness disorder happens regularly). Putting my tablets out because he knows I will forget x
Making me a cup of coffee before he goes to bed
Moving 400 miles so I can look after my family x
Exactly these things are the things you remember, not the meals that cost £100 quid and you forget them in 5 minutes xx
Things like walking along the beach line dv
See, that would be my definition of romance too. Its not the lavish of stuff but more the little considerations that makes a big difference that matters. I'll take this version over fancy meal, suprise holidays anyday "
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"Some waffle about the Sammich Maker.
Am I the only one who read this and thought “Sammich maker” was a Tefal Toastie Maker??
I thought you’d taken it away with you to impress your gal.
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I did think about that, but I thought she deserved a night off.
Indeed the Maker of Sammich is a highly praised skill which is not to be underrated. That which can maketh the ideal sammich in a pinch is the Sammich Maker to hold on to. |
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I think that's definitely romantic. 