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It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky? |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with. |
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"No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with. "
Absolutely..there needs to be rapport mentally before physically |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope that’s perfectly normal, it’s the guys who aren’t too picky, the message you get will have been fired over to a dozen other women in hope one will reply."
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"Nope that’s perfectly normal, it’s the guys who aren’t too picky, the message you get will have been fired over to a dozen other women in hope one will reply."
Yes and they often send the same cut and paste message to me again and again |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
No.
Always put yourself in control of the situation.
You have boundaries for respect and wish to be spoken to like a human being instead of a piece of meat.
Always block and forget, if they not for you what's the harm? Do not tolerate any bad behaviour.
Good luck |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with.
Absolutely..there needs to be rapport mentally before physically "
100%
The way to excite me is to brainfuck me first!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
Yes meet now less talk.
Give. Immediately.
Something like that yeah? |
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"Nope that’s perfectly normal, it’s the guys who aren’t too picky, the message you get will have been fired over to a dozen other women in hope one will reply.
Yes and they often send the same cut and paste message to me again and again "
The issue is, and has been for a while is guys join this site thinking it’s instashag. No clue of the swinging lifestyle so don’t really know how they’re suppose to compose themselves.
From my experience every women I’ve met I’ve had long conversations with, socials etc and talked about anything and everything, and not really been about sex, you have to engage in the mind, find out if they’re the right person you want to explore with, and enjoy the company of, most don’t seem to want to put that kind of effort in, they just want to blow their load, a copy of penthouse and 3 minutes can do that. |
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By *uckMan
over a year ago
Scunthorpe DN15 |
"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
Certainly not...
You're looking to invite someone into "your space".
From conversation you can get the feel of a possible meet.
I'd carry on using your intuition if you get a blank canvas with no colour. |
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"No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with.
Absolutely..there needs to be rapport mentally before physically
100%
The way to excite me is to brainfuck me first!!! "
On a Friday? Huh, kinky  |
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
No...you can be as picky as you want. Or have standards in approach ( or any other standards) as you want.
Your not obliged to respond
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with.
Absolutely..there needs to be rapport mentally before physically
100%
The way to excite me is to brainfuck me first!!!
On a Friday? Huh, kinky "
You know me! |
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It's all about being enthused and energised by someone's conversational skills. I keep in touch with some of the menfolk of the fora and I'm rarely disappointed in the quality of their dialogue.
Surprisingly - and rather unfortunately - I find some (but not all) of the women quite lugubrious and unexciting when it comes to reciprocal dialogue and momentum in the chat. Certainly so when it's the woman who has instigated the conversation or made first contact!
The situation isn't helped when their profiles dictate 'chatting extensively' before meeting. They've clearly fallen foul of their own caveats. |
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I feel your pain. I received an introductory message from a ‘couple’ at 6:15am this morning-the message said ‘Yes please’. Who introduces themselves like that? What does
It even mean? What do I say to something like that? |
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
Converse with those who want to converse |
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over a year ago
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"I feel your pain. I received an introductory message from a ‘couple’ at 6:15am this morning-the message said ‘Yes please’. Who introduces themselves like that? What does
It even mean? What do I say to something like that?"
“I’ll see you at 8pm, get the Lambrini ready?”
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No your not too picky we have experienced the same type of thing with text talk in messages and people simple seemingly unable to hold a conversation for more than a message or two , we couldn’t jump into bed with people we don’t find attractive or that have no conversational skills at all . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Certainly seems to be a dying art - especially on fab.
I've lost count of the number of times I've sent a well stuctured message, asking a few questions only to get a single word response. And when trying to get some communication happening it feels like trying to get blood out of a stone most of the time, until the point where I just feel like I'm wasting my time and give up |
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"I feel your pain. I received an introductory message from a ‘couple’ at 6:15am this morning-the message said ‘Yes please’. Who introduces themselves like that? What does
It even mean? What do I say to something like that?
“I’ll see you at 8pm, get the Lambrini ready?”
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Perfection. |
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By *apidaryMan
over a year ago
Chipping Norton |
I stand ready to receive messages from women wanting to meet me immediately based on my profile, but ready chiefly to question their intent, taste, sense and sanity.
Even if it's only a mute one of glances and gasps, sex has to be part of a conversation. The reality is one can achieve the mechanical side of excitement and orgasm alone. Sex is about the contact and exchange with another person. Or persons, as I've learnt since finding this site.
Obviously if there's an offer of Lambrini then all bets are off and nothing else is needed. Make the event extra posh by putting the mugs away and pouring it into glasses. |
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You’re not too picky at all OP. You do you. How you want when you want.
I personally love a good conversation about all sorts of topics. But then I’m here to make friends as well as friends with benefits.
We’re all different  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Why would you be picky OP?
No, I don't think you are.
I think it comes down to compatibility and how interested someone is in you as a person. I love talking, learning more about a person - I find people fascinating. But sometimes if the conversation is a bit stunted it means they're either not that interested or not one for talking online. Or maybe they don't have that headspace.
It's not picky to want people who you're compatible with. |
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I need to have a good conversation with someone over a few days before I even meet them for a ‘normal’ date, let alone a good old fashioned ruinin’.
All too often I’ve matched with a woman on a dating app based on a few pictures and a short bio, only to realise after a chat that we’re not compatible. No point going on the date, then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found that a lot of people who state they want conversation have no fucking idea how to converse "
Exactly this. It tends to be the profiles that specifically state 'no one word messages' that send one word messages |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Nope i don't get it either ,when we havent even seen each others faces.Or they have no pics & not much text.
I just delete anyone who asks to meet in a first message,makes me think anyone would do. |
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Must mean i'm a fussy git too.
I love a good old laugh, natter and flirt. Bouncing messages back and forth about the most daft of things, intertwined with subtle (and not so subtle) flirty little messages. Seeing a connection forming between us both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not, it's a basic requirement to converse with someone before letting them put their penis in me. It's bizarre that people don't get this but I guess to most people I'm just a talking pussy. |
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I think some people fall down here because their written skills are not as good as their face to face interactions. That's part of this medium, though, and it's not like you don't know that going in. |
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"Absolutely not, it's a basic requirement to converse with someone before letting them put their penis in me. It's bizarre that people don't get this but I guess to most people I'm just a talking pussy."
On bad days here, I've felt like holes with optional pulse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
I'm sure there are people on here who do respond to the FAF type messages otherwise people wouldn't keep sending them..?  however for the rest of us, conversation and a mental connection with people is just as important as a physical connection.
As for whether you're being picky? Absolutely not. You're entitled to your opinion and standards, just block, delete and move on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No! You’re not too picky. I couldn’t sleep with someone I didn’t like. I wouldn’t want to meet someone I couldn’t chat happily with whether social or anything more. There’s got to be a connection, and quite frankly if people aren’t willing to explore it/nurture it they aren’t someone I want to spend time with.
Absolutely..there needs to be rapport mentally before physically
100%
The way to excite me is to brainfuck me first!!! "
This haha... Brain fucked is definitely the way! |
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By *red333Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
i think you'd get a much better idea in person, can you not do socials  |
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This morning I got a message saying "Why no photo" I looked at their profile which turned out to be hidden. I messaged back saying "Why hidden profile?" He messaged back "Wrong answer" and blocked me, which just made me laugh.People are strange for sure.
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"This morning I got a message saying "Why no photo" I looked at their profile which turned out to be hidden. I messaged back saying "Why hidden profile?" He messaged back "Wrong answer" and blocked me, which just made me laugh.People are strange for sure.
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I think the answer was supposed to be "because I was waiting for you and only you to blow me away sexually. Thank you!"
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
They probably font want a conversation when they meet xx some people on here lie… shocking I know x |
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"This morning I got a message saying "Why no photo" I looked at their profile which turned out to be hidden. I messaged back saying "Why hidden profile?" He messaged back "Wrong answer" and blocked me, which just made me laugh.People are strange for sure.
I think the answer was supposed to be "because I was waiting for you and only you to blow me away sexually. Thank you!"
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Lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's quite frustrating on here at times. I don't understand people who send a message and ask to meet without even having had a conversation! So many on here I don't even reply to, because they have such lack of respect or care for who they're even speaking to.
Am I too picky?"
No, you are definitely not too picky. People assume us ladies have an instantly dripping noonie when their opening message is along those lines! It's an instant block from me on those ones. |
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