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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect." I don’t care about anyone’s ethnicity, it’s definitely all about the connection | |||
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect. I don’t care about anyone’s ethnicity, it’s definitely all about the connection " Agreed  | |||
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"We have our preferences." --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good. "Their not all devils.... | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good. "Which Tasmanian hurt you, Nero?  | |||
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt" I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended. | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people." Attractive = meets preference Not attractive... | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people. Attractive = meets preference Not attractive..." But then does that suggest it’s a cultural thing? | |||
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended." ----Honestly guys, think about taking it out. I mean - how often are you going to be asked? All you have to do is say "no thanks" or just ignore. Your profile will be so much more attractive to other people because of it. Think of how many people you could be missing due to having such a needless couple of words. ----pt | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people. Attractive = meets preference Not attractive... But then does that suggest it’s a cultural thing?" Potentially. I know that personally whenever I see "No Asians" on a profile I immediately assume it's because of stereotypes and stories around south Asian men due to the culture they were brought up in. Of course that doesn't help me when I've been called a Bounty my entire life  | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people. Attractive = meets preference Not attractive... But then does that suggest it’s a cultural thing? Potentially. I know that personally whenever I see "No Asians" on a profile I immediately assume it's because of stereotypes and stories around south Asian men due to the culture they were brought up in. Of course that doesn't help me when I've been called a Bounty my entire life "That’s the same with me. Raised by a white British family but look Asian. The preference thing doesn’t bother me though because they’re not the type of people I’d want to meet anyway. | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people. Attractive = meets preference Not attractive... But then does that suggest it’s a cultural thing? Potentially. I know that personally whenever I see "No Asians" on a profile I immediately assume it's because of stereotypes and stories around south Asian men due to the culture they were brought up in. Of course that doesn't help me when I've been called a Bounty my entire life
That’s the same with me. Raised by a white British family but look Asian. The preference thing doesn’t bother me though because they’re not the type of people I’d want to meet anyway."That's exactly it. I'd hate for them to think I'm "one of the good ones"  | |||
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended. ----Honestly guys, think about taking it out. I mean - how often are you going to be asked? All you have to do is say "no thanks" or just ignore. Your profile will be so much more attractive to other people because of it. Think of how many people you could be missing due to having such a needless couple of words. ----pt" It’s in our profile and we STILL get inundated with messages. I’m sorry if you don’t find our profile/us attractive, but we’re certainly not missing out. It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended. | |||
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended. ----Honestly guys, think about taking it out. I mean - how often are you going to be asked? All you have to do is say "no thanks" or just ignore. Your profile will be so much more attractive to other people because of it. Think of how many people you could be missing due to having such a needless couple of words. ----pt It’s in our profile and we STILL get inundated with messages. I’m sorry if you don’t find our profile/us attractive, but we’re certainly not missing out. It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended." ----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt | |||
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" It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended." If someone is offended by your preference thats their problem. Why is an ethnic preference any different to an age, size or any other preference. Having a preference and being racist (clearly what is being implied) are very different things. 2023 ffs | |||
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended. ----Honestly guys, think about taking it out. I mean - how often are you going to be asked? All you have to do is say "no thanks" or just ignore. Your profile will be so much more attractive to other people because of it. Think of how many people you could be missing due to having such a needless couple of words. ----pt It’s in our profile and we STILL get inundated with messages. I’m sorry if you don’t find our profile/us attractive, but we’re certainly not missing out. It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended. ----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt" You’re making a few leaps there buddy. We responded to a post with a genuine answer. We get inundated with a lot of messages including (but not excluded to) Asians. You don’t know what the bad experiences were so please don’t dare try to say it’s really bad. Regardless there is absolutely nothing wrong in stating a preference. I’ve got to ask why you didn’t pick up the chap that said his preference was white chicks with fat arses? Again I apologise if you personally find it offensive, it’s not intended and you’d probably be best to just block us. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt" I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same  | |||
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" It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended. If someone is offended by your preference thats their problem. Why is an ethnic preference any different to an age, size or any other preference. Having a preference and being racist (clearly what is being implied) are very different things. 2023 ffs" Thank you so much for this, it really is appreciated.
We’re most definitely NOT racist and obviously don’t like people trying to label as such, but if it does genuinely upset people then of course we’ll apologise. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same "Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend. | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Their not all devils...."• Their!??!?  | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
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Which Tasmanian hurt you, Nero? "• The one who suggested that I wear Dior 999 red lipstick!  | |||
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"If only.... The amount of I've never fckd a black chic can I TRY you inboxes I get is sickening " Oh yes I get this for being mixed race by different ethnicity, an absolute turn off | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend."No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Their not all devils....
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Their!??!? "They're
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend."• I agree. Leave it 'in situ'. It's your profile. It may not be to everyone's taste but it's not for you to placate those people. | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Their not all devils....
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This is why we can never meet - I'm far too common "• So in essence, you're going to blank me in Mådchester? | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Their not all devils....
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Their!??!?
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This is why we can never meet - I'm far too common
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So in essence, you're going to blank me in Mådchester? "I'll nod and maybe raise a smile from the other side of the bar. Us common people can't get too close to the upper classes | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions"----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
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So in essence, you're going to blank me in Mådchester?
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"Do you know what, I used to answer a lot of the "looking for profile advice" type threads on this forum some time ago, but it just occurred to me one day... why bother? How people create their profiles is a pretty good barometer of who they are - or at least how they approach Fab (even when the profile is blank, the intentions will be equally basic imo)... and at the end of the day 'like does tend to attract like'. So maybe some profiles do act as good warning signs? After all, there is nothing worse than a really 'clashing' meet! Or someone being spun a cosy line that isn't really true. Unfortunately these things just remain unpleasant for most of us to see, ie in "2023". Imo we are living in a time where people on-balance (with just a few exceptions) have never had so much freedom, opportunity and courage to say whatever they want, despite the endless protestations to the contrary. The only difference now is that people typically get something back! This is the 2023 we live in. It's an age of clash. The full - ie non-lazy - line of our times? "You can't say anything anymore.... without someone questioning whether it's a 'fair' thing to say!"-----pt" If our profile warns off the odd 4’2” old, fat, smelly bloke that’s ok with us. 
It’s clear you don’t like what we’ve said and have taken personal offence, for that i do apologise, but again is not intentional. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt"You're clearly very passionate about this subject but the OP asked a question, and they answered. It's not that deep. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt"Didn’t even know the OP was Asian when I responded. Why does his ethnicity affect the question he asked? Please just take our apology for any personal offence. There’s absolutely no need to continue the bad vibes, you’ve made your point and we don’t agree. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt
You're clearly very passionate about this subject but the OP asked a question, and they answered. It's not that deep."Exactly and I don’t blame him for being passionate, but not a lot more we can do other than apologise for unintentionally offending. | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt
You're clearly very passionate about this subject but the OP asked a question, and they answered. It's not that deep."-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt
You're clearly very passionate about this subject but the OP asked a question, and they answered. It's not that deep.
Exactly and I don’t blame him for being passionate, but not a lot more we can do other than apologise for unintentionally offending."---I'm done. ----pt | |||
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"----You get inundated with Asians? Bad experience makes it sound like a cultural generalisation here too (ie rather than a sexual thing) - sorry that is really bad imo. Asian covers so many people too, it's just crazy. It just makes Fabswingers a grotty experience for everyone who passes by imo. And of course people were going to look given the way you expressed your post. I don't get it. It's like an angry statement and I just don't get it at all. ----pt I think you should just leave it, they've stated their preferences and even if you might not agree with the reasoning behind it (I understand the reason but don't necessarily agree), they're still entitled to it all the same
Thank you and we do empathise hence the apologies, but it’s not intended to offend.
No need to be sorry, it's a sensitive topic that's always brought up and even my perspective flip flops depending on different opinions
----Clearly! Gee thanks. It's not the opinion that they can't have(!), it's the voicing of it - here in this thread especially - that I objected to! The OP is Asian. "We have our preferences" was their response. I look, and I read "No Asians." Just that. So I give friendly advice. And they go on to say it's "bad experience". I don't really need to be told to "leave it" thanks. Especially as I am leaving it. In the way that I see fit. -----pt
You're clearly very passionate about this subject but the OP asked a question, and they answered. It's not that deep.
Exactly and I don’t blame him for being passionate, but not a lot more we can do other than apologise for unintentionally offending.
---I'm done. ----pt"Thank you. We haven’t blocked you so feel free to inbox us and I’ll happily apologise and have an adult discussion off here. If not then sorry again and all the best. | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt" Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was." The chap isn’t into skinny guys, does that make him skinnyphobic or body shaming? He prefers older guys, does that make him ageist? If us somehow saying we don’t want to fuck Asian men is being taken as racially offensive, then again I can only apologise. | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. The chap isn’t into skinny guys, does that make him skinnyphobic or body shaming? He prefers older guys, does that make him ageist? If us somehow saying we don’t want to fuck Asian men is being taken as racially offensive, then again I can only apologise. " I wasn't referring to you, I was talking about previous experiences on here. | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. The chap isn’t into skinny guys, does that make him skinnyphobic or body shaming? He prefers older guys, does that make him ageist? If us somehow saying we don’t want to fuck Asian men is being taken as racially offensive, then again I can only apologise. I wasn't referring to you, I was talking about previous experiences on here." Oh my apologies, completely misread & took the wrong way.  | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was." -----Well I hope you get a bundle being the alternative. I'm still none the wiser as to what "Asian" men actually are as definable group of course. But I'm out now with you too. Have a good night both. Be good. -----pt | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. The chap isn’t into skinny guys, does that make him skinnyphobic or body shaming? He prefers older guys, does that make him ageist? If us somehow saying we don’t want to fuck Asian men is being taken as racially offensive, then again I can only apologise. I wasn't referring to you, I was talking about previous experiences on here. Oh my apologies, completely misread & took the wrong way. "Stop being sorry, FFS! | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. -----Well I hope you get a bundle being the alternative. I'm still none the wiser as to what "Asian" men actually are as definable group of course. But I'm out now with you too. Have a good night both. Be good. -----pt" N’night bud | |||
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"-----That's something you've just decided, but you're cocky and still young. There's a wider debate here about the nature of modern nuanced racial comments and what it constitutes, along with any generalising nature involved. Show a little respect when someone is acting like I am. I'm 52 I've been around and I've seen a lot in my life - a lot. Let me have my say. I live in a very multicultural area and had to deal officially with overheard racism (several complaints) in a community centre just the other day. And other things of its ilk beside. It is raw right now, but leave me to be me here. ------pt Mate, I am more than fully aware of how my race goes against me in this community along with the stereotypes of being pushy and not sexually mature. I've seen "No Asians" on profiles and read club reviews where people have said their night was ruined by "Asian guys" following them. Not guys, Asian guys; and how that further pushes an existing narrative. I'm not cocky, I just know that the people who have that opinion on here aren't going to change their minds no matter what you say because they don't like the challenge to their existing beliefs in case they might be wrong and they have to admit having those prejudices are just that. I'm sorry you've heard that racist absue but you really did make more out of that comment than there was. The chap isn’t into skinny guys, does that make him skinnyphobic or body shaming? He prefers older guys, does that make him ageist? If us somehow saying we don’t want to fuck Asian men is being taken as racially offensive, then again I can only apologise. I wasn't referring to you, I was talking about previous experiences on here. Oh my apologies, completely misread & took the wrong way.
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"I only fuck eskimos. Cold, I know…" Badum tish. Well played, sir! | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Which Tasmanian hurt you, Nero? "He's not allowed to say. Naming and shaming is a no no. But I know who he means #IYKYK | |||
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"I tend to avøid Tasmanians, but yes, otherwise it's all good.
Which Tasmanian hurt you, Nero?
He's not allowed to say.
Naming and shaming is a no no.
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x" This reminds me of when my son and his mixed Asian girlfriend went for the covid jabs they put her down for white English and him as Asian ethnicity as he looks more ethnic than she does yet comes from white English parents where as her dad was Chinese origin | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x" Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? " • The "least offensive" would perhaps be to mention what you would prefer. So for example: "We are looking to meet Caucasians only", as opposed to "WE WON'T MEET ASIANS!!", which is often what I see. The latter comes across as offensive with a tone of repulsion. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? • The "least offensive" would perhaps be to mention what you would prefer. So for example: "We are looking to meet Caucasians only", as opposed to "WE WON'T MEET ASIANS!!", which is often what I see. The latter comes across as offensive with a tone of repulsion." But that’s not what we mean. We’re not looking for Caucasians only. Appreciate you trying to advise though, thank you. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x" Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? • The "least offensive" would perhaps be to mention what you would prefer. So for example: "We are looking to meet Caucasians only", as opposed to "WE WON'T MEET ASIANS!!", which is often what I see. The latter comes across as offensive with a tone of repulsion. But that’s not what we mean. We’re not looking for Caucasians only. Appreciate you trying to advise though, thank you." • You took me literally. It was simply an example. X | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? • The "least offensive" would perhaps be to mention what you would prefer. So for example: "We are looking to meet Caucasians only", as opposed to "WE WON'T MEET ASIANS!!", which is often what I see. The latter comes across as offensive with a tone of repulsion. But that’s not what we mean. We’re not looking for Caucasians only. Appreciate you trying to advise though, thank you. • You took me literally. It was simply an example. X"Ah apologies, but was looking for specifics as really don’t want to offend if we can help it. | |||
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"I only fuck eskimos. Cold, I know… • It's "Inuit", FEWT. "Eskimo" is a derogatory term. "All Nell's fault. Her legendary libidinous behaviour must have brought eternal shame on the once proud community. | |||
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"If only.... The amount of I've never fckd a black chic can I TRY you inboxes I get is sickening " Tell me about ..and the oh you're a fantasy ...absolutely hate it . it's like you just something they want to cross off their list . Like hi I've never had some chocolate before ....bla blah BLOCKED.HATE IT | |||
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"If only.... The amount of I've never fckd a black chic can I TRY you inboxes I get is sickening Tell me about ..and the oh you're a fantasy ...absolutely hate it . it's like you just something they want to cross off their list . Like hi I've never had some chocolate before ....bla blah BLOCKED.HATE IT " Yeah I agreed I think it's the connection and the relationship that matters. | |||
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"What an odd question. You either find a person attractive or you don't." Attraction isn't just looks though. It's also personality, and you won't really find out what their personality is really like until you meet them. Not many people, especially couples and single women, will be able to meet everyone who messages them to check if they're compatible. I can understand perfectly why people do as much "vetting" as they possibly can from the few pics and messages they get on here, including stipulating certain types on their profiles. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? " I'm afraid I don't really have an answer for you. Somebody will always be offended by something, no matter what you do. It's a 21st century hobby. If it were me with the same preferences you have, I would vet the pictures more closely. It's entirely up to you who you have sex with, and you have the right to say no to anyone. Bess x | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area." Indeed I was born in Israel | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? I'm afraid I don't really have an answer for you. Somebody will always be offended by something, no matter what you do. It's a 21st century hobby. If it were me with the same preferences you have, I would vet the pictures more closely. It's entirely up to you who you have sex with, and you have the right to say no to anyone. Bess x" Thanks matey. We obviously agree, but if there’s a way to word it better so as not to offend we’re all ears. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel "Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes "Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans "Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity | |||
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"I like my own kind only reason I don’t put that on my profile is people will cry wacist" Can't imagine why | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity "Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity
Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here."Freedom of speech lmao | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity
Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here.
Freedom of speech lmao"You're derailing the thread, which isn't allowed. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity
Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here.
Freedom of speech lmao
You're derailing the thread, which isn't allowed."No I’m not this thread is about ethnicity and nationality | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/23 14:55:30] You did a dirty delete lmao" Well aren’t you a little ray of sunshine? Have some tea. Or a hug. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity
Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here.
Freedom of speech lmao
You're derailing the thread, which isn't allowed.
No I’m not this thread is about ethnicity and nationality "It's about whether people are bothered about ethnicity on here, not getting into a political attack on Israel. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Asia, according to my atlas/globe, extends from Turkey eastwards to Japan and beyond. A number of different cultures and races are spread across that vast area. Indeed I was born in Israel
Israel is doing a lot of bad things I hope your country is brought to justice one day for its many crimes
Dude no need for that. Chill yer beans
Israel gets away with way too much should be charged with crimes against humanity
Take it to the politics forum, no need for it here.
Freedom of speech lmao
You're derailing the thread, which isn't allowed.
No I’m not this thread is about ethnicity and nationality
It's about whether people are bothered about ethnicity on here, not getting into a political attack on Israel. "People chose to mention a place responsible for a lot of pain and innocent children being killed people are gonna say something it’s an ethnic conflict anyway | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/23 14:55:30] You did a dirty delete lmao Well aren’t you a little ray of sunshine? Have some tea. Or a hug. You seem very triggered " Is this special word bingo? Are we going to have woke next? Feminist maybe? | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/23 14:55:30] You did a dirty delete lmao Well aren’t you a little ray of sunshine? Have some tea. Or a hug. You seem very triggered Is this special word bingo? Are we going to have woke next? Feminist maybe? "Judging by your answer you’re quite triggered | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 05/05/23 14:55:30] You did a dirty delete lmao Well aren’t you a little ray of sunshine? Have some tea. Or a hug. You seem very triggered Is this special word bingo? Are we going to have woke next? Feminist maybe?
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect." Same for me OP. It's never been an issue for me. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x Genuine question please; what’s least offensive? I'm afraid I don't really have an answer for you. Somebody will always be offended by something, no matter what you do. It's a 21st century hobby. If it were me with the same preferences you have, I would vet the pictures more closely. It's entirely up to you who you have sex with, and you have the right to say no to anyone. Bess x Thanks matey. We obviously agree, but if there’s a way to word it better so as not to offend we’re all ears. " Personally, I wouldn't change what you say, those who are offended by it probably aren't the people you would want to meet anyway. I'm sure you get enough messages to easily discard those who appear not to fit your criteria. Bess x | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x ---You put that better than I did when I said "what exactly are they?". I really want to expand on this myself now. The 'No Asians' thing is just a nonsense, it really is! People here seem happy to essentially admit it's 'political' - ie a personal generalisation of things that personally bother them about a 'group' of their own definition! If any passing 'Asian' person who has had a shitty day see it then 'tough luck'. Grow a pair. It's just Fab. Tough luck for being in an utterly arbitrary 'group of people' the profile writer feels they have certain issues with! A bit of kindness, knowledge and empathy and some people could get to understand what some people go through trying to get on in life. Some young people in the UK look at their skin colour and just cry. They struggle to get on due to generalised prejudice - and that is not a woke lie, it's a fact. Skin colour can be the ONLY single defining feature of "Asian" to the 'No Asians' people - whatever they claim about "culture", because white-skinned 'Asian' people aren't thought of even for a second. Let alone all the different cultures and countries 'Asian' covers! 'Asian' can apparently cover between 4 - 5 billion people - but nobody is counting because there is no point! It's a totally meaningless term on a global scale. And to say "NO Asians" in the UK of course uses the exact same global scale - because Britain is so multinational! The UK is home to Asian people who descend from the billion or so people of SE Asia up to the Japanese, through China and Russia and into India and the Middle East... and of course onward into Europe! Are they really "all the bloody same?" The Catholics of the Philippines and elsewhere to all the Buddhists, Hindus and Muslims? Someone told me once there were around a million Communists in one part of India. Think about all the religions in India? The term just couldn't cover more people, it really couldn't. Some people are just crude and ignorant and seem to lack any kind of empathy at all. Who on Earth would want to even be seen as one of those type of people? You would hope people would run a mile from being seen as someone like that! But people get so politically entrenched these days, even when they don't have a leg to stand on. It's a symptom of political insanity imo, however people try to colour it. The crazy thing is that if was merely a sexual preference then it wouldn't be anywhere near so bad! (though I still think it's a crude thing to say outright, but what can you do - people profiles are people's profiles). It's entirely the 'political' elements that makes this one so bad I'm afraid. The generalising and the entrenchment. ----pt" Given your other replies I can’t help but feel this is targeted at us, if it’s not then apologies. You’re really reading too much into an honest reply. It’s purely a sexual thing for us and is due to past pretty horrific experiences which I’m not going to go into. I’ll say again, apologies if it’s offended. We’re more than happy to listen to a better way of writing it, but we won’t be removing just because it offends you I’m afraid and we’re most definitely not racist. | |||
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"If only.... The amount of I've never fckd a black chic can I TRY you inboxes I get is sickening Tell me about ..and the oh you're a fantasy ...absolutely hate it . it's like you just something they want to cross off their list . Like hi I've never had some chocolate before ....bla blah BLOCKED.HATE IT " My wife said the same. Every message straight in the bin. It wasn't the odd few either, it was a daily occurrence. | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x ---You put that better than I did when I said "what exactly are they?". I really want to expand on this myself now. The 'No Asians' thing is just a nonsense, it really is! People here seem happy to essentially admit it's 'political' - ie a personal generalisation of things that personally bother them about a 'group' of their own definition! If any passing 'Asian' person who has had a shitty day see it then 'tough luck'. Grow a pair. It's just Fab. Tough luck for being in an utterly arbitrary 'group of people' the profile writer feels they have certain issues with! A bit of kindness, knowledge and empathy and some people could get to understand what some people go through trying to get on in life. Some young people in the UK look at their skin colour and just cry. They struggle to get on due to generalised prejudice - and that is not a woke lie, it's a fact. Skin colour can be the ONLY single defining feature of "Asian" to the 'No Asians' people - whatever they claim about "culture", because white-skinned 'Asian' people aren't thought of even for a second. Let alone all the different cultures and countries 'Asian' covers! 'Asian' can apparently cover between 4 - 5 billion people - but nobody is counting because there is no point! It's a totally meaningless term on a global scale. And to say "NO Asians" in the UK of course uses the exact same global scale - because Britain is so multinational! The UK is home to Asian people who descend from the billion or so people of SE Asia up to the Japanese, through China and Russia and into India and the Middle East... and of course onward into Europe! Are they really "all the bloody same?" The Catholics of the Philippines and elsewhere to all the Buddhists, Hindus and Muslims? Someone told me once there were around a million Communists in one part of India. Think about all the religions in India? The term just couldn't cover more people, it really couldn't. Some people are just crude and ignorant and seem to lack any kind of empathy at all. Who on Earth would want to even be seen as one of those type of people? You would hope people would run a mile from being seen as someone like that! But people get so politically entrenched these days, even when they don't have a leg to stand on. It's a symptom of political insanity imo, however people try to colour it. The crazy thing is that if was merely a sexual preference then it wouldn't be anywhere near so bad! (though I still think it's a crude thing to say outright, but what can you do - people profiles are people's profiles). It's entirely the 'political' elements that makes this one so bad I'm afraid. The generalising and the entrenchment. ----pt" So do you think that people should fuck people they're not attracted to? Age ranges on profiles exclude many people, surely that's similar. If someone is racist or ageist or whatever, so what? They can still choose who they do and don't want to fuck. | |||
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect." If you don't care - why ask ? Why ask on ethnicity ? Why not flavours of ice cream e.g. I only fuck strawberry ice cream eaters .... Why not ask on shoe size ? You chose ethnicity for a reason - was it so you could say how you aren't concerned about it ? By the way I don't care too much for money | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x ----You put that better than I did when I said "what exactly are they?". I really want to expand on this myself now. The 'No Asians' thing is just a nonsense, it really is! People here seem happy to essentially admit it's 'political' - ie a personal generalisation of things that personally bother them about a 'group' of their own definition! If any passing 'Asian' person who has had a shitty day see it then 'tough luck'. Grow a pair. It's just Fab. Tough luck for being in an utterly arbitrary 'group of people' the profile writer feels they have certain issues with! A bit of kindness, knowledge and empathy and some people could get to understand what some people go through trying to get on in life. Some young people in the UK look at their skin colour and just cry. They struggle to get on due to generalised prejudice - and that is not a woke lie, it's a fact. Skin colour can be the ONLY single defining feature of "Asian" to the 'No Asians' people - whatever they claim about "culture", because white-skinned 'Asian' people aren't thought of even for a second. Let alone all the different cultures and countries 'Asian' covers! 'Asian' can apparently cover between 4 - 5 billion people - but nobody is counting because there is no point! It's a totally meaningless term on a global scale. And to say "NO Asians" in the UK of course uses the exact same global scale - because Britain is so multinational! The UK is home to Asian people who descend from the billion or so people of SE Asia up to the Japanese, through China and Russia and into India and the Middle East... and of course onward into Europe! Are they really "all the bloody same?" The Catholics of the Philippines and elsewhere to all the Buddhists, Hindus and Muslims? Someone told me once there were around a million Communists in one part of India. Think about all the religions in India? The term just couldn't cover more people, it really couldn't. Some people are just crude and ignorant and seem to lack any kind of empathy at all. Who on Earth would want to even be seen as one of those type of people? You would hope people would run a mile from being seen as someone like that! But people get so politically entrenched these days, even when they don't have a leg to stand on. It's a symptom of political insanity imo, however people try to colour it. The crazy thing is that if was merely a sexual preference then it wouldn't be anywhere near so bad! (though I still think it's a crude thing to say outright, but what can you do - people profiles are people's profiles). It's entirely the 'political' elements that makes this one so bad I'm afraid. The generalising and the entrenchment. ------pt So do you think that people should fuck people they're not attracted to? Age ranges on profiles exclude many people, surely that's similar. If someone is racist or ageist or whatever, so what? They can still choose who they do and don't want to fuck. " ------ You've quoted the whole thing but you haven't fully read it though I think... honestly it's got nothing to do with what people find physically attractive. As I've said earlier, I myself happen to have loads of quirky preferences (outside of the physical too) - I could hardly have more really! I've always said on Fab that nobody belongs to anyone else, or should have to do anything! I just think there is a 'line' when it comes to cultural generalising. And that is *entirely* what this is when it comes to Asians (and with nobs on), is I've tried to explain. You can actually say my position is 'woke' if you like, I don't mind. I've always felt the same about it. To *not* put "No Asians" doesn't mean you have to shag the next person who looks Asian (because that's all Asian is) - that's just a lazy equivalence really. Honestly if it's only about not-really being attracted to the skin-tone or whatever I couldn't care less (though people could be a bit more delicate sometimes when they feel they really have to note it). But singling out "No Asians" does more than that, and I really care about the effect it can have on some people. They know it goes deeper, because they experience it *on an entirely different level* to the people who just *say it*. It's an incredibly damaging generalisation. As we all know, I'm hardly alone in thinking like this in these rumbustious times. It's as silly as saying "nobody from the South of England please" but with a melatonin-added twist. -------pt | |||
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect. If you don't care - why ask ? Why ask on ethnicity ? Why not flavours of ice cream e.g. I only fuck strawberry ice cream eaters .... Why not ask on shoe size ? You chose ethnicity for a reason - was it so you could say how you aren't concerned about it ? By the way I don't care too much for money " Well if you don’t care too much for money Granny, can I have yours please | |||
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" ------ You've quoted the whole thing but you haven't fully read it though I think... honestly it's got nothing to do with what people find physically attractive. As I've said earlier, I myself happen to have loads of quirky preferences (outside of the physical too) - I could hardly have more really! I've always said on Fab that nobody belongs to anyone else, or should have to do anything! I just think there is a 'line' when it comes to cultural generalising. And that is *entirely* what this is when it comes to Asians (and with nobs on), is I've tried to explain. You can actually say my position is 'woke' if you like, I don't mind. I've always felt the same about it. To *not* put "No Asians" doesn't mean you have to shag the next person who looks Asian (because that's all Asian is) - that's just a lazy equivalence really. Honestly if it's only about not-really being attracted to the skin-tone or whatever I couldn't care less (though people could be a bit more delicate sometimes when they feel they really have to note it). But singling out "No Asians" does more than that, and I really care about the effect it can have on some people. They know it goes deeper, because they experience it *on an entirely different level* to the people who just *say it*. It's an incredibly damaging generalisation. As we all know, I'm hardly alone in thinking like this in these rumbustious times. It's as silly as saying "nobody from the South of England please" but with a melatonin-added twist. -------pt " Yes to all of this! | |||
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" It’s a preference due to previous BAD experienceS. We also have a preference on height, build, size, kinks and apologies to anyone that offends, but certainly isn’t intended. If someone is offended by your preference thats their problem. Why is an ethnic preference any different to an age, size or any other preference. Having a preference and being racist (clearly what is being implied) are very different things. 2023 ffs" Much respect to this comment ! | |||
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect. I don’t care about anyone’s ethnicity, it’s definitely all about the connection " In other words how they look | |||
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x ----You put that better than I did when I said "what exactly are they?". I really want to expand on this myself now. The 'No Asians' thing is just a nonsense, it really is! People here seem happy to essentially admit it's 'political' - ie a personal generalisation of things that personally bother them about a 'group' of their own definition! If any passing 'Asian' person who has had a shitty day see it then 'tough luck'. Grow a pair. It's just Fab. Tough luck for being in an utterly arbitrary 'group of people' the profile writer feels they have certain issues with! A bit of kindness, knowledge and empathy and some people could get to understand what some people go through trying to get on in life. Some young people in the UK look at their skin colour and just cry. They struggle to get on due to generalised prejudice - and that is not a woke lie, it's a fact. Skin colour can be the ONLY single defining feature of "Asian" to the 'No Asians' people - whatever they claim about "culture", because white-skinned 'Asian' people aren't thought of even for a second. Let alone all the different cultures and countries 'Asian' covers! 'Asian' can apparently cover between 4 - 5 billion people - but nobody is counting because there is no point! It's a totally meaningless term on a global scale. And to say "NO Asians" in the UK of course uses the exact same global scale - because Britain is so multinational! The UK is home to Asian people who descend from the billion or so people of SE Asia up to the Japanese, through China and Russia and into India and the Middle East... and of course onward into Europe! Are they really "all the bloody same?" The Catholics of the Philippines and elsewhere to all the Buddhists, Hindus and Muslims? Someone told me once there were around a million Communists in one part of India. Think about all the religions in India? The term just couldn't cover more people, it really couldn't. Some people are just crude and ignorant and seem to lack any kind of empathy at all. Who on Earth would want to even be seen as one of those type of people? You would hope people would run a mile from being seen as someone like that! But people get so politically entrenched these days, even when they don't have a leg to stand on. It's a symptom of political insanity imo, however people try to colour it. The crazy thing is that if was merely a sexual preference then it wouldn't be anywhere near so bad! (though I still think it's a crude thing to say outright, but what can you do - people profiles are people's profiles). It's entirely the 'political' elements that makes this one so bad I'm afraid. The generalising and the entrenchment. ------pt So do you think that people should fuck people they're not attracted to? Age ranges on profiles exclude many people, surely that's similar. If someone is racist or ageist or whatever, so what? They can still choose who they do and don't want to fuck. ------ You've quoted the whole thing but you haven't fully read it though I think... honestly it's got nothing to do with what people find physically attractive. As I've said earlier, I myself happen to have loads of quirky preferences (outside of the physical too) - I could hardly have more really! I've always said on Fab that nobody belongs to anyone else, or should have to do anything! I just think there is a 'line' when it comes to cultural generalising. And that is *entirely* what this is when it comes to Asians (and with nobs on), is I've tried to explain. You can actually say my position is 'woke' if you like, I don't mind. I've always felt the same about it. To *not* put "No Asians" doesn't mean you have to shag the next person who looks Asian (because that's all Asian is) - that's just a lazy equivalence really. Honestly if it's only about not-really being attracted to the skin-tone or whatever I couldn't care less (though people could be a bit more delicate sometimes when they feel they really have to note it). But singling out "No Asians" does more than that, and I really care about the effect it can have on some people. They know it goes deeper, because they experience it *on an entirely different level* to the people who just *say it*. It's an incredibly damaging generalisation. As we all know, I'm hardly alone in thinking like this in these rumbustious times. It's as silly as saying "nobody from the South of England please" but with a melatonin-added twist. -------pt " I agree about the being delicate about it. 'No xyz' is negative and would likely also put off people who are not xyz. However if someone doesn't want to meet xyz or people from the south of England, that is their choice. No beards No men over 45 No fat women No hairy women No Scottish Etc | |||
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"For anyone who's said something along the lines of 'we don't see 'Asians' because of previous bad experiences' I think we can all now agree that 'Asians' is the most vague and unspecific reference to a group of people ever. Also, are you saying that you've never had a bad experience on here with white people? Unfortunately, that's unlikely given the amount of rude and disrespectful white people there seem to be on this platform. So to follow the logic of not meeting people 'because of a bad experience', does that mean you wouldn't meet white people too? My heart goes out to anyone and everyone who has had a bad experience on this platform, whatever your ethnic background. It shouldn't happen, but people of all ethnicities can be a-holes. And to all 'asian' fabbers (again that terminology is ridiculously vague and retrograde), whenever I read something along the lines of 'no asians' on a profile, my heart sinks. So I can only imagine how negatively that can impact on the many decent people who may consider themselves asian and on their wellbeing. You deserve better. .
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"Just to point out, "Asian" is not a race or an ethnicity, it's a continent inhabited by different races, cultures and ethnicities. I am Asian. I have auburn hair, hazel eyes and white skin. Bess x ----You put that better than I did when I said "what exactly are they?". I really want to expand on this myself now. The 'No Asians' thing is just a nonsense, it really is! People here seem happy to essentially admit it's 'political' - ie a personal generalisation of things that personally bother them about a 'group' of their own definition! If any passing 'Asian' person who has had a shitty day see it then 'tough luck'. Grow a pair. It's just Fab. Tough luck for being in an utterly arbitrary 'group of people' the profile writer feels they have certain issues with! A bit of kindness, knowledge and empathy and some people could get to understand what some people go through trying to get on in life. Some young people in the UK look at their skin colour and just cry. They struggle to get on due to generalised prejudice - and that is not a woke lie, it's a fact. Skin colour can be the ONLY single defining feature of "Asian" to the 'No Asians' people - whatever they claim about "culture", because white-skinned 'Asian' people aren't thought of even for a second. Let alone all the different cultures and countries 'Asian' covers! 'Asian' can apparently cover between 4 - 5 billion people - but nobody is counting because there is no point! It's a totally meaningless term on a global scale. And to say "NO Asians" in the UK of course uses the exact same global scale - because Britain is so multinational! The UK is home to Asian people who descend from the billion or so people of SE Asia up to the Japanese, through China and Russia and into India and the Middle East... and of course onward into Europe! Are they really "all the bloody same?" The Catholics of the Philippines and elsewhere to all the Buddhists, Hindus and Muslims? Someone told me once there were around a million Communists in one part of India. Think about all the religions in India? The term just couldn't cover more people, it really couldn't. Some people are just crude and ignorant and seem to lack any kind of empathy at all. Who on Earth would want to even be seen as one of those type of people? You would hope people would run a mile from being seen as someone like that! But people get so politically entrenched these days, even when they don't have a leg to stand on. It's a symptom of political insanity imo, however people try to colour it. The crazy thing is that if was merely a sexual preference then it wouldn't be anywhere near so bad! (though I still think it's a crude thing to say outright, but what can you do - people profiles are people's profiles). It's entirely the 'political' elements that makes this one so bad I'm afraid. The generalising and the entrenchment. ------pt So do you think that people should fuck people they're not attracted to? Age ranges on profiles exclude many people, surely that's similar. If someone is racist or ageist or whatever, so what? They can still choose who they do and don't want to fuck. ------ You've quoted the whole thing but you haven't fully read it though I think... honestly it's got nothing to do with what people find physically attractive. As I've said earlier, I myself happen to have loads of quirky preferences (outside of the physical too) - I could hardly have more really! I've always said on Fab that nobody belongs to anyone else, or should have to do anything! I just think there is a 'line' when it comes to cultural generalising. And that is *entirely* what this is when it comes to Asians (and with nobs on), is I've tried to explain. You can actually say my position is 'woke' if you like, I don't mind. I've always felt the same about it. 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" - No skinny men - next level body shaming, absolutely disgusting behaviour. What about people with eating disorders?! - No tories - way to be prejudiced about a large number of this country. What about Asian tories? I obviously don’t see it like the above, merely pointing out the sheer fucking hypocrisy of the people jumping on us for stating a preference." I’ve had a skim through the thread and the only thing I can offer is to send you some paracetamol. I’ve got a feeling you are banging your head against a brick wall. If you are ok with how you do things I wouldn’t worry about it, you’ll never placate everyone. | |||
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"You only have to look at the search to see how many women want black men to answ0er that question I mean this was commented near the start, but not one person spoken up about it. I like white women with big bums . How is that any better? What about people wanting BBC, PAWGS etc? " It is your preference at the end of the day and you are entitled to it. When it comes to this subject it can be walking on a mine field. I put on my profile I’m my mixed race for people to make that decision…. I know im not everyone’s cup of tea because of that and I’m fine with that. I actually think being fetishised for my skin tone is worse. You do you, it’s your profile no one else’s | |||
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"If you have a preference that's one thing, if you start de-individualising people then that's going to piss some people off." At this point I’m past giving a fuck who we’ve pissed off. Tried to be a empathetic and apologise, but just keep getting shit. | |||
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"Realistic we all have preferences and standards we are human beings just because you wouldn't fuck someone you don't find attractive doesn't mean you respect them any less as a person. I have a type which happens to be white women with big bums and the is nothing wrong with that. Doesn't mean I won't be friends/friendly with everyone else " My G!
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"You only have to look at the search to see how many women want black men to answ0er that question I mean this was commented near the start, but not one person spoken up about it. I like white women with big bums . How is that any better? What about people wanting BBC, PAWGS etc? It is your preference at the end of the day and you are entitled to it. When it comes to this subject it can be walking on a mine field. I put on my profile I’m my mixed race for people to make that decision…. I know im not everyone’s cup of tea because of that and I’m fine with that. I actually think being fetishised for my skin tone is worse. You do you, it’s your profile no one else’s " That's my take aswell. By all means like how I look but to fetish me because I'm a certain shade of brown is weird to me. When I try and explain that - it gets even worse. I don't really want people asking my entire family history to satisfy their curiousity - it's kinda weird for me. I'm not exotic, trust me! | |||
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"Does everyone have a preferred ethnicity or you don't care and you just want to fuck. For me I don't really care as long as we connect." i just don't want to f*ck | |||
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"I do wonder what people with this preference feel about meeting mixed race people. Attractive = meets preference Not attractive... But then does that suggest it’s a cultural thing? Potentially. I know that personally whenever I see "No Asians" on a profile I immediately assume it's because of stereotypes and stories around south Asian men due to the culture they were brought up in. Of course that doesn't help me when I've been called a Bounty my entire life
That’s the same with me. Raised by a white British family but look Asian. The preference thing doesn’t bother me though because they’re not the type of people I’d want to meet anyway.
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"We have our preferences. --Clear on your profile, and clear here too. Both needless imo, no matter what your preferences are. I don't know what the OP is looking for here. One of my bugbears is seeing this topic come up! Do you know what, I probably have some too - most people with a variety of preferences of some sort will I think. I could never be so rude as to express them! Be human, and deal with it as it comes I say. ----pt I’m sorry if we’ve offended, certainly isn’t intended. The OP asked a question and I answered, nothing more and nothing malicious. Again apologies if unintentionally offended." No need to apologise. It’s your preference and great filter to add to block list. Why waste time on people who aren’t compatible with me | |||
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"Realistic we all have preferences and standards we are human beings just because you wouldn't fuck someone you don't find attractive doesn't mean you respect them any less as a person. I have a type which happens to be white women with big bums and the is nothing wrong with that. Doesn't mean I won't be friends/friendly with everyone else " Hi | |||
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. " If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste. | |||
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"If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste. " | |||
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste. "I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is. | |||
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"I'm not fussed to be hounest,as long as there is a connection and great sex.x " Indeed! | |||
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin."I'm genuinely sorry about the fact that you had a horrific experience. This is an emotive thread and it's difficult to keep track of comments. It's terrible that that happened and I sincerely hope you have been able to move on from it. I'm mindful of the fact that even making reference to it now may resurface past trauma. I hope you are ok. | |||
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" I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is. What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin. I'm genuinely sorry about the fact that you had a horrific experience. This is an emotive thread and it's difficult to keep track of comments. It's terrible that that happened and I sincerely hope you have been able to move on from it. I'm mindful of the fact that even making reference to it now may resurface past trauma. I hope you are ok. " Thank you buddy. Appreciate it’s never easy conceding on a tough subject, especially on the interwebs so massive high five. Just to add our profile doesn’t say “no Asians” it states “not into Asian guys”. Happily play with Asian women. We’ve zero issue chatting to Asian guys, indeed one of my close friends who ive literally been in the trenches with is Asian. Again I’ll offer an apology for any unintended offence as, like you, I do massively empathise it’s not nice for some people reading. Thanks again for taking the time to try understand and respond with compassion bud, shows you’ve a really strong character and although we may not agree, I hugely respect that. | |||
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin."----Deal with it, like real people. You haven't even **attempted** to understand the central argument here (ie what Asians even are, and what effects zero-meaning generalising can have on people), that's what upsets me. It's all woe is me. This whole thing feels like the end of debate to me. The end of meaning even. It's just about you and your idea of rights. What is going on? It's like we've reached a technological singularity. Quite possibly we are doomed. Yeah ------pt | |||
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin.
----Deal with it, like real people. You haven't even **attempted** to understand the central argument here (ie what Asians even are, and what effects zero-meaning generalising can have on people), that's what upsets me.
It's all woe is me.
This whole thing feels like the end of debate to me. The end of meaning even. It's just about you and your idea of rights. What is going on? It's like we've reached a technological singularity. Quite possibly we are doomed.
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin.
----Deal with it, like real people. You haven't even **attempted** to understand the central argument here (ie what Asians even are, and what effects zero-meaning generalising can have on people), that's what upsets me.
It's all woe is me.
This whole thing feels like the end of debate to me. The end of meaning even. It's just about you and your idea of rights. What is going on? It's like we've reached a technological singularity. Quite possibly we are doomed.
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"Writing 'no asians' on your profile isn't just about expressing your preference though is it? Imagine you're an Asian swinger who constantly has to read that, how would you feel? If you went into a shop and it said 'no Asians' would that be ok because it's just expressing a preference? No it wouldn't. Personally, if I'm not attracted to someone and they've taken the time to get in touch with me, all I need to do as say a polite no. Or if the person is abusive I'd just block/report/move on. Granted, we all have our preferences, but language around ethnicity is a particularly delicate and ever evolving aspect of life and culture. Using such phrases is much more loaded with history and meaning than simply saying something like 'I'm not into men with beards'. Anyone who writes stuff like 'no Asians' on a profile (for example) and who doesn't want to cause offence would do well to think very carefully about how using such terminology can be perceived by people who are from the Asian community. If you could kindly reread my previous response. Also be great to hear why you haven’t lambasted the chap wanting white girls with big bums. Again I’m done with trying to placate you guys. Be offended if you like at this point, I really couldn’t give less of a fuck. Namaste.
I don't think writing 'white women with big bums' is great either tbh. I genuinely didn't see that comment and wouldn't write it myself. Just to AGAIN point out, when we're expressing a non preference for people of other ethnicities, think very carefully about how that can be perceived by people from those communities, particularly if such language is similar to that which has historically been used to exclude or discriminate, which writing 'no Asians' most definitely is.
What part of “horrific experience” don’t you get? Please use your noggin.
----Deal with it, like real people. You haven't even **attempted** to understand the central argument here (ie what Asians even are, and what effects zero-meaning generalising can have on people), that's what upsets me.
It's all woe is me.
This whole thing feels like the end of debate to me. The end of meaning even. It's just about you and your idea of rights. What is going on? It's like we've reached a technological singularity. Quite possibly we are doomed.
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