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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one."
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. |
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"Can a gentleman be a Dom?
Yes and no
Bring a Dom isn’t something you crown yourself, it’s something earned
Some can earn submission, others are less able to
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You clearly understand  
Submission is a gift, not a right. |
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What do you mean by gentlemen? If it's the gentleman Dom look I'm not that fussed on it. Always comes across as style over substance for me personally.
Plus I don't particularly want a gentleman Dominant, I prefer something a bit more primal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one."
And there are thousands that claim to be intelligent.
Personally I think the lasts thing to discover water would be fish.
Dominating is a verb , not a noun . An action, not a physical entity.
Well, in my world.
However, does it expose “Doms” who don’t know the difference? |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. "
I was left with nerve damage from someone on the scene who was known locally as experienced with ropework it's not just inexperienced people who get it wrong! |
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"If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries. "
But would you apply the term lady to a female Dom? I don't think many would.
Which is why I prefer the term ethical Dom   |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
Ilkeston |
"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. "
This!!!! So many people claim to be into the lifestyle but have no idea and it is a huge safety concern. Its so easy to mess up (even the experienced ones) that can have long term damage to people |
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"Can a Dom be a Gentleman? 
Not at that particular moment 
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Oh hush you! Don't you have a mole that needs fixing!? "
I did think about cutting it out myself and posting it but I think I'll wait for the appointment |
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. "
I get where you are coming from, I genuinely do. But it's also down to the submissive to do their own research. It's their own health and safety they are risking and thus important they do their own research. I'm a sub and I research everything I do or have done to me as much as the Dom. And this I personally isn't highlighted enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries.
But would you apply the term lady to a female Dom? I don't think many would.
Which is why I prefer the term ethical Dom "
I think being ethical is something that covers so many different areas and definitions rather than the terms good/bad or right/wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. "
 That's terrible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps the OP can provide some clarification? I interpreted it as "can a nice guy be dominant"? But I think that interpretation is because of my experiences and the (wannabe) Dominants I've talked to. It seems to be a sticking point for many - can I be a good guy and restrain/hurt/control someone? I think you can, provided you are going to learn and keep learning so you understand what you're doing and can be safe and respectful with those you dominate. |
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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago
Ilkeston |
"Perhaps the OP can provide some clarification? I interpreted it as "can a nice guy be dominant"? But I think that interpretation is because of my experiences and the (wannabe) Dominants I've talked to. It seems to be a sticking point for many - can I be a good guy and restrain/hurt/control someone? I think you can, provided you are going to learn and keep learning so you understand what you're doing and can be safe and respectful with those you dominate. "
I think you raise a good point as people can be a nice person but also dominant in the bedroom. The too thing can work together. Its very dependent on the dynamic that is present |
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over a year ago
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Think every Tom dick and Harry now claims to be dominant, it's like a fashion statement.
Back in the mists of time it was something you whispered as was seen almost like saying you had a thing for donkeys |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I get where you are coming from, I genuinely do. But it's also down to the submissive to do their own research. It's their own health and safety they are risking and thus important they do their own research. I'm a sub and I research everything I do or have done to me as much as the Dom. And this I personally isn't highlighted enough. "
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Yes!!!
When I ran the Manchester Munch we had a lending library of great instructional/educational books... I used to encourage all newbies to have a good read, but especially new submissives.
There are too many people who tell submissives they shouldn't bother about learning how to do things safely... This should be the biggest red flag.
As a bottom/submissive the only person who can accurately assess how you're feeling or responding to something is yourself.
Learn about safe placement of rope, learn anatomy and where danger points (such as nerves or arteries) are.
Keep yourself safe - always! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think every Tom dick and Harry now claims to be dominant, it's like a fashion statement.
Back in the mists of time it was something you whispered as was seen almost like saying you had a thing for donkeys"
Tbh I don't think this is a good site to advertise being into BDSM. Some very judgemental people. |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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"If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries.
But would you apply the term lady to a female Dom? I don't think many would.
Which is why I prefer the term ethical Dom "
The term for a women is Domme
Any Dom of any gender should work within SSC as a baseline, if they don’t, run!
They’re not ethical and don’t deserve the title or anyone’s submission |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries.
But would you apply the term lady to a female Dom? I don't think many would.
Which is why I prefer the term ethical Dom
The term for a women is Domme
Any Dom of any gender should work within SSC as a baseline, if they don’t, run!
They’re not ethical and don’t deserve the title or anyone’s submission "
And preferably RACK or FRIES over SSC
As some of the things we do are neither sane nor often safe. We just make them as safe as we can  |
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I get where you are coming from, I genuinely do. But it's also down to the submissive to do their own research. It's their own health and safety they are risking and thus important they do their own research. I'm a sub and I research everything I do or have done to me as much as the Dom. And this I personally isn't highlighted enough. "
Absolutely agree with you. The problem is far more prevalent with new subs, as they come in excited to try things and say things like “I have no limits”, don’t research things and often suffer regret from a play session. Experienced subs (which I’m guessing is what you are) know what to do and what to look for.
I think when you get two inexperienced people it can lead to a lot of problems in extreme cases. |
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"If be gentleman, you mean ethical, genuine, open, honest, caring and attentive - then that is what a Dom should be, regardless of gender!
That doesn’t mean they cannot be Dominant, primal, brutal, remorseless - it means they operate within predefined and agreed boundaries.
But would you apply the term lady to a female Dom? I don't think many would.
Which is why I prefer the term ethical Dom
The term for a women is Domme
Any Dom of any gender should work within SSC as a baseline, if they don’t, run!
They’re not ethical and don’t deserve the title or anyone’s submission "
Not all female D like the word Domme. The ones I've encountered don't and have explained to me why, which is why I use their preferred terminology.
Not sure I understand why you added the bit about SSC, and ethical Dom's. But as I've mentioned elsewhere it's up to everyone D or s to do their own research and figure out what ethical means to them, before they start their BDSM journey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific. "
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s. "
There's a risk that BDSM will sink under the weight of acronyms  |
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s. "
Can you send me the PowerPoint slides? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s.
There's a risk that BDSM will sink under the weight of acronyms "
Without a doubt, which is why I use the word ethical as it covers pretty much everything when dealing with BDSM. |
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s.
There's a risk that BDSM will sink under the weight of acronyms "
Haha. I'm dyslexic they mean bog all to me, they're a jumble of letters  |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s.
Can you send me the PowerPoint slides?"
https://youtu.be/_PjoQ41B2IU
LAM Live workshop on consent and negotiation
There are a whole host of workshop videos on there, some with PowerPoints |
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By *ycallMan
over a year ago
Dorking |
You don’t have to be super alpha and aggressive to be a dom. You just need to be able to get inside someone’s head and push the right buttons.
Communication is a good start.
Remember at its core D/s is a two way street and the whole thing is built on a combination between creating a sense of vulnerability, trust and desire. |
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"SSC - Sane, safe and consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
FRIES - Freely-given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.
PRICK - Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink
More emphasis on personal responsibility.
Consent should always be FRIES and it works for submissive’s as well as Dominant’s.
Can you send me the PowerPoint slides?
https://youtu.be/_PjoQ41B2IU
LAM Live workshop on consent and negotiation
There are a whole host of workshop videos on there, some with PowerPoints "
Thank you I will actually take a look the appliance of science! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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In my opinion a 'Dom' is the ultimate gentleman in that he can get into the mind and help me explore all that my heart desires in ways that I never have the courage to do on my own  |
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"In my opinion a 'Dom' is the ultimate gentleman in that he can get into the mind and help me explore all that my heart desires in ways that I never have the courage to do on my own "
If that's your definition of a gentleman - I completely agree.
Although I think that has more to do with empathy. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing. "
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
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Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators. "
Rubbish. Take sine personal responsibility who you meet of the internet and fuck |
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
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Really respect what you said there about knowing you well. There's no better way of ensuring safety, in my eyes, than connection. I have to feel that way about them too.
I am not interested in anything without that, especially where there is a risk of someone being hurt. Saying there's no limits won't change that. |
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators. "
Women are sentient beings, if they have made that conscious decision to say anything goes, there does need to be some acknowledgement of that.
I'm switch. I completely understand the desire to say anything goes. I discuss limits openly with a potential partner and get to know them. If I gave carte blanche and got injured I wouldn't claim I was a victim. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators.
Rubbish. Take sine personal responsibility who you meet of the internet and fuck "
I mean you could have ended at 'take personal responsibility'
As I've said above, I believe anyone playing with BDSM (irrespective of orientation) should have a good grasp of the basics of what ever play you're indulging in...
Along with anatomy and first aid.
The only person I can rely on to look out for myself is me.
Don't get me wrong, my partner has my ultimate trust, I trust him with my life (and have done on more than one occasion not all kink related) but it's up to me to speak out if something doesn't feel right or if I have concerns. Mostly because no bugger else will ever know how something feels *to me*.
It's the same for anyone bottoming.
(let's not gender this, anyone can bottom and believe me any gender can present themselves with 'no limits' although in my experience that's always overly eager and horny men rather than women or enby people) |
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"You don’t have to be super alpha and aggressive to be a dom. You just need to be able to get inside someone’s head and push the right buttons.
Communication is a good start.
Remember at its core D/s is a two way street and the whole thing is built on a combination between creating a sense of vulnerability, trust and desire."
If only most men calling themselves Dom recognised this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators.
Rubbish. Take sine personal responsibility who you meet of the internet and fuck "
Frida and LadyJayne made the point without attacking women. |
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(Vixen here) I've been in the D/s lifestyle and around the BDSM "scene" in my younger years and the intersection with the "vanilla" swinging community can sometimes be seen as non-existent but of course power dynamics are at play in any sexual encounter irrespective if the people engaging know it or not, can name it or not, etc. In my opinion one (male or female) can't just decide to be dominant. Aspects of the fetish and play can be learned but natural dominance and having "it" is either there or not. When it IS there and it is augmented with learning, curiosity, care, elegance and so on that's when you have a Dom/me. And if you then add someone willing to give themselves to him/her and summit, then you have a Master/Mistress. It is a lot more complex than the populist 50 shades as most of us reading know but it's also an extraordinarily overlooked topic of interest because the power exchange in swinging is an even more complex dynamic that isn't sufficiently talked about IMO |
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
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And you probably encounter that because you are a straight male. I get plenty of messages from men saying they have no limits and I can do what I like to them. But I'm not naive enough to think it's anything based on gender.
There are so many misconceptions of what Ds is that it's not surprising people get the wrong end of the stick when they start out. As a responsible adult I tend to point out where they can do some research of they end up in my inbox. I don't generalise and say lots of women, thereby adding to the good subs don't question nonsense and such like |
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"Define a Dom.
There’s hundreds profiles on here that all claim to be one.
Since BDSM became “on trend” many guys have just seen being a Dom as a way to get women, even though they have no experience (or in some cases even an interest in bdsm) which can lead to safety issues.
We’ve met ladies that have been left with nerve damage after being tied up by someone with no idea what they were doing.
I would say the woman who allows that also has no idea what they are doing with bdsm.
Sure there are idiot men , but they exist in part because there are idiot women willing to let complete strangers do stuff like that.
Lots of women give you free reign nowadays, to do literally anything you want , I’ve often been told nothing is off limits but I’d hope it’s because they know me so well or at least that I know how to do column ties that tighten on themselves not the limb ! Surely women should know rope 101 so they can spot that ?
Balder dash! - it is not the victims fault but the perpetrators.
Rubbish. Take sine personal responsibility who you meet of the internet and fuck
I mean you could have ended at 'take personal responsibility'
As I've said above, I believe anyone playing with BDSM (irrespective of orientation) should have a good grasp of the basics of what ever play you're indulging in...
Along with anatomy and first aid.
The only person I can rely on to look out for myself is me.
Don't get me wrong, my partner has my ultimate trust, I trust him with my life (and have done on more than one occasion not all kink related) but it's up to me to speak out if something doesn't feel right or if I have concerns. Mostly because no bugger else will ever know how something feels *to me*.
It's the same for anyone bottoming.
(let's not gender this, anyone can bottom and believe me any gender can present themselves with 'no limits' although in my experience that's always overly eager and horny men rather than women or enby people)"
Well said. My personal experience is slight different to yours, but totally agree with your point. |
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over a year ago
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"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
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I don't want to derail the "lovely" discussion that is occurring...
But that statement is hot as fuck. |
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"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
I don't want to derail the "lovely" discussion that is occurring...
But that statement is hot as fuck."
God I love a woman who can diffuse with humour.
That's hot as fuck too |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
I don't want to derail the "lovely" discussion that is occurring...
But that statement is hot as fuck.
God I love a woman who can diffuse with humour.
That's hot as fuck too "
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"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
I don't want to derail the "lovely" discussion that is occurring...
But that statement is hot as fuck.
God I love a woman who can diffuse with humour.
That's hot as fuck too
Thank you kindly "
Shopping for those grip exerciser things and velvet gloves. |
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"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
I don't want to derail the "lovely" discussion that is occurring...
But that statement is hot as fuck."
I resemble that remark. |
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"Surely the steely grip in a velvet glove is the ultimate domination?
Manners and respect whilst completely controlling a situation is the remit of a true gentleman. "
Only if his sub is in the right mindset at the time. The ability to stop if anything doesn't feel right is very important, too many on both sides, carry on when they shouldn't |
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So yes is my short answer to the op! 