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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
Yes. Though depending on the partner, no. If I have the feels, I know I'll struggle to share. Even if sharing makes them happy, I'd attempt to but I know eventually it wouldn't work.
Always a case of never say never but the odds are stacked against this one, always a chance... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No probably not.
If I was in a committed relationship and we loved each other I'd want to be the only one.
I realise how hypocritical that is.
I admire couples with such strong relationships to share each other but I would feel far too vulnerable..I'd overthink. I'd get jealous and every insecurity I have would become even bigger . |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sexually? Sure. Have at it. I mean millions of partners, no. Not at all. We wouldn't be compatible with how we do things.
Emotionally? Yes. But... and this is something I've been talking about just last night, it was a difficult conversation. As long as I'm not made to feel like I no longer matter. Like they'd rather spend time with others. Like I'm not worth basic respect.
I don't have the ability to give more than three people that emotional deep bandwidth but different dynamics can fulfill me still.
I'm happy for other's happy but not if it starts dimming my light repeatedly. And my friends are bored of me crying over thoughtlessness. That's when I step away.  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Travelling |
"Yes. Though depending on the partner, no. If I have the feels, I know I'll struggle to share. Even if sharing makes them happy, I'd attempt to but I know eventually it wouldn't work.
Always a case of never say never but the odds are stacked against this one, always a chance... "
Just to add to this, I'd love to say I could. Seeing the strength of bond and connection of some couples in here that are beyond dedicated to each other but also so very open about sharing, that is something special. |
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Yes, but only in certain ways that apply equally to both of us. I wouldn't be comfortable with her just going out and seeing guys (not that she wants to), but we've had sex with other people next to each other and it's been very enjoyable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexually yes.
Emotionally, I'm not sure. It's hard not to get invested into people especially in a fwb arrangement but there needs to be boundaries somewhere. There's certain things I'd only lean on my partner for and I'd want him to do the same with me.
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"Sexually, yes.
Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?
Both together, no
What do you mean by both together? "
I'm not interested in my partner being sexually and emotionally involved with someone else and I wouldn't want that for myself either. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
Never having done it in a long-term relationship capacity I guess I can't really say.
Physically I don't think I would have a problem as lot as there was a lot of communication.
Emotionally I'm not sure about really. I suppose it would depend on what sort of capacity it was in.
No relationship is ever the same so I think it all comes down to the connection and how safe I feel with them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.
Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa. |
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"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"
I believe so, but have never had the opportunity to find out. As others have said, I’d struggle if i suddenly felt disregarded. And I suspect some of my insecurities may come racing to the surface.
But, I would like to find a fwb on fab with whom I could start a couples profile. I appreciate that is far easier said than done but, under those circumstances, I’d have to share and find out how i feel. |
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By *hiversMan
over a year ago
Dinas Powys |
"Yes. Absolutely happily.
So long as I'm safe and secure in how they feel about me and my place in their lives, I outright prefer my partners to have other partners  "
This. As long as everyone is on the same page it can work. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.
Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa."
A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material. There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
Talk about things.
Anything is possible but what if it looks like you'll lose if you don't let them have what they want?
If I was put in that situation I'd let them go. But that's just me I'm sure your different x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Yes it feels quite normal to and reduces the pressure from having to be their everything.
I’ve never done it with a live in partner, but can’t see why I would have an issue as long as she respected our space / hone. I have with other mens live in partners and it really is the ideal poly setup to me |
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It depends on the partner, and our relationship.
I’ve been in swinging relationships and non-swinging ones. They’re different. I think I would struggle to turn one into the other. My hat is off to those who manage that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.
Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.
A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material. There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens."
Why're you not vixen material?
Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually and Emotionally share a partner with others"
What do you mean by sharing emotionally?
Do you mean emotionally you're OK with sharing them?
Or that your ok with them feeling emotional about someone else?! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.
Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.
A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material. There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens.
Why're you not vixen material?
Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me. "
Ah because I'm not a vixen to put it simply. There's a particular image it conjures in my mind and I'm far from that. Happy but also, not a vixen.
I think dating someone who is already in a relationship must be difficult. Especially if you know you need/want more. There's definitely an increase in men in poly dynamics isn't there? |
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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago
london stratford |
"It depends on the partner, and our relationship.
I’ve been in swinging relationships and non-swinging ones. They’re different. I think I would struggle to turn one into the other. My hat is off to those who manage that."
simple answer, given the right circumstances, Yes.
but there had to be 3way communication and respect all round. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually, yes definitely. Ideally I'd like to be in a stag/vixen dynamic.
Emotionally, I think so. But as Meli said, I'd want to remain important and special to my partner. And vice versa.
A stag/vixen dynamic sounds really hot! It's something I'd like to explore. I'm just not vixen material. There's a lot to be said for feeling important/special and that remaining. I think if you want successful poly relationships, you need to ensure that happens.
Why're you not vixen material?
Most of the "options" for dating I see are with men who already have a primary partner or are in an open relationship. My experience tells me that wouldn't be enough for me.
Ah because I'm not a vixen to put it simply. There's a particular image it conjures in my mind and I'm far from that. Happy but also, not a vixen.
I think dating someone who is already in a relationship must be difficult. Especially if you know you need/want more. There's definitely an increase in men in poly dynamics isn't there? "
I don't have a particular image in my head.I don't know I am vixen material either. I know a couple on F-Life who have that dynamic and it appeals hugely! I don't know if I believe that many guys are really poly on apps like Feeld. Few of them link to their partner and I have my suspicions! |
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"Sexually, yes.
Emotionally, yes. (Isn't that what friends are)?
Both together, no"
this.. I couldn't have an intimate relationship with someone I have feelings for and share their feelings as well. But sexually.. not an issue x |
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Id have to experience it and be able to rationalise that it was something that someone I care deeply about wants to experience… or needs…the physical side - is easy its what we do here all the time .. I’d have to see I guess |
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I’m not really sure, emotionally I’m going to say no. I fall deep when I’m in love. Sexually more likely as I’m a believer in exploring sexuality. And I’ve always wanted to do that with someone.
It’s a grey area I guess and the stars really have to align for both of you. |
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" Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.  
Does it? ...says who? 
... only if you pin emotions to the activity surely?  "
I agree... sex to me is void of emotion fun times yes but not tugging on the old heart strings as such. Now making love is a different matter.
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"Sexually yes.
Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway. "
Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.
Does it? ...says who?
... only if you pin emotions to the activity surely?
I agree... sex to me is void of emotion fun times yes but not tugging on the old heart strings as such. Now making love is a different matter.
Kinks "
I do didn’t say tugging in heart strings.
Emotionless sex doesn’t grab my attention. Fun and laughter is an emotion. Desire is an emotion. Lust..,etc.
anyone tells me they have sex without emotions and I picture someone who closes their eyes and waits for it to be over. *just my opinion.
Maybe I word things simply when I say sex involves emotions.
But I keep reading sex is just sex. What does that mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually yes.
Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.
Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you "
Ah, romance. Yes sure, if she wanted to be wined and dined and treated like a desired lady.
But if your talking about love! That’s something altogether different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could share sexually yes.
Emotionally upto a point yes, I have Emotional connections with a lot of people and i believe you can love more than one person at a time but I don't know if I would like a poly arrangement I think as long as it didn't overshadow my relationship with them then yes. |
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There’s a Venn diagram somewhere with three circles labelled ‘sex’, ‘romance’ and ‘love’. I could place everyone I’ve ever had sex with in one or two of those circles. I could probably count on the fingers of one hand the people I’d place bang in the middle, fulfilling all three.
Erm. I guess what I’m saying is that I see sex, romance and love as separate things with fuzzy boundaries. |
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Yes to both.
Probably if you asked me this 15 years ago ...I'd have said no the emotionally part.
But long as you are secure in your relationship / dynamic and still treating each other like they are a priority. And both happy with the situation....why not
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"Sexually yes.
Emotionally? Ah, But sex involves emotions anyway.
Romantic emotions Woody. Knowing that another man loves your partner as much as you do and that she loves him as much as she does you
Ah, romance. Yes sure, if she wanted to be wined and dined and treated like a desired lady.
But if your talking about love! That’s something altogether different. "
Yep love Woody. Knowing that she has loving feelings for someone else and he has them for her. But you trust that when she tells you that she loves you, she means it |
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