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So why do single guys even bother?....

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By *iker and Mare! OP   Couple  over a year ago

Torbay

Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

They moan about it on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I feel for the ugly ones, I really do.

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By *agerMorganMan  over a year ago

Canvey Island

I just socialise on the forums, zero expectations of getting a nosh & a personal rule of not messaging first. Saves the hassle AND doesn’t get lost in 6K messages.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple  over a year ago

in Lancashire


"They moan about it on the forums "

Only because their wives don't listen though..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just stay for the vibes

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS  over a year ago

Bristol

Well they have to give it a shot.

They might get lucky

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS  over a year ago

Bristol


"They moan about it on the forums

Only because their wives don't listen though.."

Technically not a single guy then

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don’t complain - found some great people on here

Need to be patient and find the people who want similar things

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By *oppet22TV/TS  over a year ago

huddersfield

Just got to stay positive thats all we can do

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"They moan about it on the forums

Only because their wives don't listen though.."

Tbf, neither do we

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By *avinaTVTV/TS  over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

6000 messages!?

I'm lucky if I get 60!

Surely that's an exaggeration, no matter how hot she is?

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By *iscean_dreamMan  over a year ago

Llanelli

I just enjoy the forums and perving and now and then the occasional nice surprise meet. I've made good friends here so I'm happy

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By *apperleymanMan  over a year ago

Nottingham

Patience is a virtue…

As is a 12 inch penis..

Luckily I’m patient

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By *odgerMooreMan  over a year ago

Carlisle

I come here for the ambience… which takes a nosedive when I arrive mostly . expect nothing to happen and you will be pleasantly surprised when something does!!

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"I just socialise on the forums, zero expectations of getting a nosh & a personal rule of not messaging first. Saves the hassle AND doesn’t get lost in 6K messages. "

Exactly this. The only people I talk to off here are people from the forums, that I’ve met at socials and my mates ex who I see out in town occasionally

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By *ull English with teaMan  over a year ago

London


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

5000 of those messages are from me!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I try to stay positive for as long as possible... then after a few months delete my account and join back up a year later and hope I have more luck. I don't but I keep doing it anyway

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By *affeine DuskMan  over a year ago

Caerphilly


"how do the other 95% stay positive?"

From the friends we make.

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By *hil most chillMan  over a year ago

South East & Europe


"I just enjoy the forums and perving and now and then the occasional nice surprise meet. I've made good friends here so I'm happy "

Exactly this. I know the odds aren't great, but but if you're not an asshole and make an effort, you'll be rewarded eventually

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By *hagTonightMan  over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I have taken a break from the searching and mostly just use the forum, it is comedy gold

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By *ecadent_DevonMan  over a year ago

Okehampton

Occasionally I find exciting, debauched individuals or couples and have a fine old time.

I am a fairly low effort fabber though (I am afraid that fab hasn’t moved very well with the times and there are now other avenues that really cut down on the hoop jumping by making the connection process more intuitive), so I don’t really send messages and just manage my profile and let people make the first move (if they want too).

I think if you’re the kinda guy that sends out lots of messages and really tries to connect with people, and get disappointed when you don’t, then fab is tough.

I just tend to put up a “meet today” and see what happens, or the planned meet thingy (I.e. free this coming weekend, drop me a line sort of thing) , kinda put those out there and don’t be too disheartened if you don’t get a nibble, the effort you put in was minimal and better for your confidence and self esteem

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

They usually ignore those who play the unread message numbers popularity game.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays.

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By *apperleymanMan  over a year ago

Nottingham

It would be interesting to see what the actual stats are like for the ratio on fab.. I can imagine it’s ridiculous - like 1000:1

With that said if you take the time to ‘read’ the couples or single woman’s profile and tailor your first message to suit you will climb above the “Hey how are you doing?” Or “suk my Cok” one liners that most seem to think is acceptable..

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By *2000ManMan  over a year ago

Worthing

I just use fab as a social club. Lots of different topics up for discussion. Anything else is a bonus.

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By *affeine DuskMan  over a year ago

Caerphilly


"To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays."

Also this

If I'm horny and/or want to meet someone new, Fab is the last place I would go for that.

This is just where all my pals are.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

You have to become 1 of the 5%

If you build it they will come.

Apparently there isn't distorted ratios or lack of single women on here.

Thanking you supporting our case OP.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A"

Seen people with 6000 fabs on the hot pics.

It is not unrealistic that figure.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It is what it is, I think sometimes the frustrating part is seeing single guys getting meets and then Not receiving any yourself. Or your just above or below the age range. Can't be helped. Best way to deal with it is not to have expectations and if something does come from it then it's a bonus

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By *iker and Mare! OP   Couple  over a year ago

Torbay


"To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays."

Would be interested in which apps you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays.

Would be interested in which apps you mean? "

I'd love to help out, but it'll get me banned if I mention other sites on here

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A

Seen people with 6000 fabs on the hot pics.

It is not unrealistic that figure."

6000 fabs bears no relation to message volumes.

If someone chooses to seek attention from the entire site, despite not wanting to meet or fuck 99% of them then that's their choice.

Just making their own lives harder and not beneficial to them or anyone trying to contact them. The alleged 'top 5%' will be lost in with all the trash.

A

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By *assionate explorer 1Man  over a year ago

Folkestone


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

I'd say for every 10 messages sent I get 1 reply.

Knowing that you are one in a 1000 guys trying is essential. Rejection is part of being a man.

Suck it up and keep trying. Some of my best experiences have come from fab.

I've had ffm and mmf threesomes, met several couples and single girls.

Be positive and respectful is my advice.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’m a single guy

But not looking to rush

Yes would love to find some one I can date who is into kinky fun on here

But looking to try chams

Sometimes just luck of the draw when find some one who is willing to chat

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling

By accepting what is.

I very rarely bother reaching out and striking up new and first contact anymore - outside of any forum related stuff. Local very few are or have been interested or I interested in them.

I'm here for me and however I do things, if I was not happy with it I would have left long again.

Generally still here because I enjoy chatting with a select few. Plus the forum and some characters here

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By *hristopherd999Man  over a year ago

Brentwood

Wishful thinking

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By *acDreamyMan  over a year ago

Wirral

It keeps you grounded getting constantly ignored & rejected!

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By *ornycougaWoman  over a year ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat


"6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A"

It's not always ego stroking. I tried blocking single guys and hunting but I'm all about the face. It's one thing for a guy to message me, I ask for a face pic then say no thanks. It is quite another for me to message a guy, provide a pic of my face, ask for one in return then reject. It's awkward so I have reverted back to then messaging me. My choice and I'm not going to moan about the volume of messages as a consequence. Quality is another matter!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

To give you an idea, OP, and this is anecdotal evidence, but if I were to send say, 20 well thought out messages which ticked every box requested on the profiles in question, to people within age range, geographical range etc, looking for the same things based on profiles etc...I would expect maybe 2 replies out of 20.

Most would be unread/deleted/blocked or read and never replied to. One might say thanks but no thanks, but one might come to something.

Those are the sort of odds you get on here. Now if you have a terribly worded profile with awful photos, I have no idea how those guys get on. In fact I do, they don't get on and they get angry with people.

I've been doing this well over 15 years, and I feel I have a half decent profile, but the odds are still absolutely horrendous on here for actually connecting and meeting people.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A

Seen people with 6000 fabs on the hot pics.

It is not unrealistic that figure.

6000 fabs bears no relation to message volumes.

If someone chooses to seek attention from the entire site, despite not wanting to meet or fuck 99% of them then that's their choice.

Just making their own lives harder and not beneficial to them or anyone trying to contact them. The alleged 'top 5%' will be lost in with all the trash.

A"

Single women are rarely proactive, especially a new lady.

Won't know how to use the site yet.

They will find the people they like,

Others guys might have to try again another time.

We rest our case.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan  over a year ago

Okehampton


"To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays."

Pretty much this, fab is no longer the only place in town (though it never really was). The problem with fab isn’t so much the ratio but because of the way it’s set up which has led to single guys, for the most part having to make 80% of the effort to make the connection.

Now this isn’t a subtle “fab is crap” post, it’s just that it doesn’t really have tools to connect people beyond messaging (“no hi’s, read my profile, compose a soliloquy, put “pink giraffe” in your first message, send face pic, do my obstacle course”), winks are viewed poorly, “fabbing” someone’s pic makes no odds.

When you just want to meet people to have a bit of fun with (even the word “fun” is frowned upon by some of fab), the barriers to that connection seem to be a little too high, when I can go on another site, see who likes me, see that I like them too and thus we are connected.

So why am I still here? Because sometimes fab is great, every now and then I connect with people and it’s “fun”, and a hunter with only one arrow in his quiver will go hungry.

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford

I think if the forums and messaging people is your only strategy and approach you might struggle.

Get to clubs, get to socials and invest time in actually meeting people, building relationships and making an impression in person

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"6000?

It's either an exaggeration or she just isn't interested in meeting.

If someone genuinely wants to meet but has anywhere near that volume of messages then its unsustainable. Obviously little to no filters are in play and as such anyone and everyone can message.

If they're really that 'hot' (haven't looked tbh) and they wanted to meet then the easiest solution would be to block incoming mail and contact the guys she fancies. Unlikely they'd respond negatively and would result in meets with compatible people.

But hey. That kind of proactivity doesn't stroke the ego so maybe that's a factor..........

A

It's not always ego stroking. I tried blocking single guys and hunting but I'm all about the face. It's one thing for a guy to message me, I ask for a face pic then say no thanks. It is quite another for me to message a guy, provide a pic of my face, ask for one in return then reject. It's awkward so I have reverted back to then messaging me. My choice and I'm not going to moan about the volume of messages as a consequence. Quality is another matter! "

But that's the important difference. If you're not moaning about it then all is good!

You're doing what you think works best for you.

It's the people that moan about the volume they receive and how it makes their lives difficult, yet do nothing to help themselves.

And sometimes it's definitely about the ego. Much like the begging for fabs.

A

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town

Its all the kindness and empathy that keeps us going strong.

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By *ustintime69Man  over a year ago

Bristol

8 years ago when the world and I were younger and jollier I met a few gorgeous women on here but since hitting that certain age, the world of Fab has become a lot smaller, so now I just muck about in the forums and post compliments to people I like the look of with absolutely no expectations of anything happening ever

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"To be honest, the best way to meet people these days is by NOT using Fab for it!

There are plenty of other online/app options for meeting nice play partners. Fab is predominantly social media for people nowadays.

Pretty much this, fab is no longer the only place in town (though it never really was). The problem with fab isn’t so much the ratio but because of the way it’s set up which has led to single guys, for the most part having to make 80% of the effort to make the connection.

Now this isn’t a subtle “fab is crap” post, it’s just that it doesn’t really have tools to connect people beyond messaging (“no hi’s, read my profile, compose a soliloquy, put “pink giraffe” in your first message, send face pic, do my obstacle course”), winks are viewed poorly, “fabbing” someone’s pic makes no odds.

When you just want to meet people to have a bit of fun with (even the word “fun” is frowned upon by some of fab), the barriers to that connection seem to be a little too high, when I can go on another site, see who likes me, see that I like them too and thus we are connected.

So why am I still here? Because sometimes fab is great, every now and then I connect with people and it’s “fun”, and a hunter with only one arrow in his quiver will go hungry. "

I concur with this - Fab is no longer a contact site in essence, but there are much better contact site options out there which are waaaay less toxic, and the people are much friendlier. The culture on Fab has sadly declined to the point of frustration overtaking the fun of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Be extremely patient

Not be too pushy

Engage in conversation

Attend club meets

Hope that one day luck will change

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Another thing I've noticed in recent months is also that there are a lot of content creators using Fab as a jump-off point for their content.

They have a profile with photos and talk of meeting up, but when you message them, they eventually direct you to all their 'socials' and try to sell you content.

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Another thing I've noticed in recent months is also that there are a lot of content creators using Fab as a jump-off point for their content.

They have a profile with photos and talk of meeting up, but when you message them, they eventually direct you to all their 'socials' and try to sell you content."

Then you should report them

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Another thing I've noticed in recent months is also that there are a lot of content creators using Fab as a jump-off point for their content.

They have a profile with photos and talk of meeting up, but when you message them, they eventually direct you to all their 'socials' and try to sell you content.

Then you should report them"

That's a bit like playing whack-a-mole. Pointless and time consuming. If I did that, how would I find the time to waste sending 25 lovely messages out to people who block me?!

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By *r SproutMan  over a year ago

the middle

I’ll let you know when I drop out of the top 5%

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By *r TriomanMan  over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I'm happy to just enjoy the very few meets that come my way through this site; when I want more swinging action, I go to a club.

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By *inger_the_NinjaMan  over a year ago

Frome


"Well they have to give it a shot.

They might get lucky "

Talking of which, how you doin'?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"They usually ignore those who play the unread message numbers popularity game.

"

I often wonder if these women ever read ANY of their messages.

Men are often accused of seeking an ego boost, but I wonder just how many women get off on the number of messages they receive - but with no real intention of meeting anyone.

Granted, it's probably just a handful, but it does make you wonder

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It's like fishing, sometimes you get a rubber boot, sometimes you get a marlin, same as golf , one good drive and you forget about all the slices.

Plus if everybody was f@#king all the time , who would fill up the forums ?

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By *acDreamyMan  over a year ago

Wirral


"Another thing I've noticed in recent months is also that there are a lot of content creators using Fab as a jump-off point for their content.

They have a profile with photos and talk of meeting up, but when you message them, they eventually direct you to all their 'socials' and try to sell you content."

Loads use this as a fishing exercise for their OF acount.

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"They usually ignore those who play the unread message numbers popularity game.

I often wonder if these women ever read ANY of their messages.

Men are often accused of seeking an ego boost, but I wonder just how many women get off on the number of messages they receive - but with no real intention of meeting anyone.

Granted, it's probably just a handful, but it does make you wonder"

If they read any, they then mark them unread and never delete them.

Of course it is an ego boost, same as having hundreds or thousands of fabs on a photo is an ego boost.

Not a bad thing, but if you want the ego boost and are seeking it, own that. Don't moan about it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Most of the single guys on here don't put in anywhere near enought effort, relying on empty profiles and one-word chat-up lines which they fire off at random to anyone with a pulse.

Those of us in the top 5% take a little longer and go for quality rather than quantity. We know we have to put the effort in to get results.

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By *ucka39Man  over a year ago

Newcastle

Being creative and patience

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

What about the middle group?

-Or is it top 5% enjoy fab

-The rest don’t!

I’m not walking around with girls hung onto my legs as I walk, but I get to talk to some lovely people and have my ego boosted with the odd smooch but I certainly don’t hang around here because I might get to shag someone off the page 1 of hot pics page and I wouldn’t leave because I’m not getting jumped every night.

That’s why I bother!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What about the middle group?

-Or is it top 5% enjoy fab

-The rest don’t!

I’m not walking around with girls hung onto my legs as I walk, but I get to talk to some lovely people and have my ego boosted with the odd smooch but I certainly don’t hang around here because I might get to shag someone off the page 1 of hot pics page and I wouldn’t leave because I’m not getting jumped every night.

That’s why I bother!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I’m just here with popcorn …..

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

OK.

Here's my take, even though it's been 11 years since I nuked my single profile on here.

I never considered myself in any 'top 5%' yet I never had reason to complain about life on Fab. Why? Because I never once considered the site to be my only source of either sex or female company. I still engaged with people in the real world. I joined the local club. I networked with people and went to private parties. The number of meets arranged just via Fab was far less than those sourced elsewhere.

I dicked around in the forums rather than sending messages. I'll confess to becoming a bit of a forum whore and meeting more women and couples via conversations started off the back of forum threads than from sending an initial message after browsing. I met friends of friends that I'd made. I introduced people I'd met to guys I'd got chatting with in the forums, at parties and at clubs, because I thought they'd get along and suited eachother - and generally they did.

If I joined Fab today as a single guy?

I'd do the exact same thing. Because it worked.

For all the talk of the 'top 5%', the hot folk that have pictures that everyone drools over, the guys with horse dicks and any perceived 'elite'....those people are the exception, not the norm. The bulk of Fab's population whether male, female or couple doesn't fall into those tiny percentages. They're generally the most visible due to the hot pics section and the fawning forum posts naming and referring to them in all manner of threads about who had the biggest cock, best tits or nicest arse...but don't ever believe that they're in any way more successful on Fan than your average Joe.

Because truth be told they're most likely not.

The most successful people on here don't make a big deal of it. They're too busy enjoying life on site.

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Mic drop....

That sums it all up really

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By *ubytuesdaysTV/TS  over a year ago

birmingham

Theres a lot more" the wife couldnt make it" nowadays becoming "can I come on my own" Not complaining

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford


"6000 messages!?

I'm lucky if I get 60!

Surely that's an exaggeration, no matter how hot she is?"

Wouldn't say its an exaggeration at all! If she's young and hot! I can sometimes have over 2000 unread ! At moment it's only 727 and I'm old and probably not that hot lol x

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By *skyouneverknowMan  over a year ago

Calne

I post a status update saying I fancy meeting - seems do do the trick

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple  over a year ago

Cumbria


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’."

My favourite one was a typo I saw that read, "need help with this massive loaf".

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple  over a year ago

Cumbria


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’.

My favourite one was a typo I saw that read, "need help with this massive loaf"."

We’d be far more interested in that than the alternative!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’.

My favourite one was a typo I saw that read, "need help with this massive loaf".

We’d be far more interested in that than the alternative!"

I messaged him and asked if he was a baker. He did not get the joke. He did block me.

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By *estarossa.Woman  over a year ago

Flagrante


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’.

My favourite one was a typo I saw that read, "need help with this massive loaf".

We’d be far more interested in that than the alternative!

I messaged him and asked if he was a baker. He did not get the joke. He did block me."

Should have asked if he was a master-baker

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington

This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

I've met some great people on here.

I think if your not getting to meet people ...in all honesty you need to look at yourself...in terms of your approach and how you present yourself. But also in the knowledge...you aren't gonna be for everyone.

Also don't rely on fab to meet people . Get to socials, clubs etc. Theres no doubt it's the best way to meet people in my opinion.

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’."

Ahh those smooth talking bastards

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

"

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've had about 1000 messages AND im old AND my profile is a big fuck off AND single guys still ignore the big "fuck off she's not looking for single guys" pop up.They don't care they'll message anyone.

So yeh I can well imagine a newbie getting 6000 it's a numbers game for a lot on here, scattergun approach, fire off as many messages someone will reply.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I do feel for those poor single guys who can’t accommodate, but happen to love outdoor sex and can meet in very specific time spots in the daytime. I especially feel for the ones who post statuses like ‘need to empty my load’.

My favourite one was a typo I saw that read, "need help with this massive loaf".

We’d be far more interested in that than the alternative!

I messaged him and asked if he was a baker. He did not get the joke. He did block me.

Should have asked if he was a master-baker "

Wahey! You're winning this morning

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've had about 1000 messages AND im old AND my profile is a big fuck off AND single guys still ignore the big "fuck off she's not looking for single guys" pop up.They don't care they'll message anyone.

So yeh I can well imagine a newbie getting 6000 it's a numbers game for a lot on here, scattergun approach, fire off as many messages someone will reply."

Got a M134 mini gun here like Arnie in T2.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

"

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington

They can just all go and fuck each other then and leave the rest of us mortals alone.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A"

No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

"

Good for them.

I’ll Carry on talking to all those that don’t give a shit.

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

Good for them.

I’ll Carry on talking to all those that don’t give a shit. "

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

Good for them.

I’ll Carry on talking to all those that don’t give a shit.

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

Good for them.

I’ll Carry on talking to all those that don’t give a shit.

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A"

If you can't beat them join them.

It is a good strategy if you are experienced and meeting new and unexposed.

It carries weight.

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

"

It's not a competition...I don't care who they are meeting.

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By *oofy321Man  over a year ago

moon base zero

If you throw enough s#!t at the wall some will stick....keep throwing guys

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A"

Top 5%????? Joined in last 5 Days option in search????

Coincidence???? I think not!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

It's not a competition...I don't care who they are meeting. "

Told you before as a single guy it's a competition whether you like it or not.

It's dog eat dog.

People will drink all your milkshake and you leave you the dregs.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A

If you can't beat them join them.

It is a good strategy if you are experienced and meeting new and unexposed.

It carries weight.

"

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

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By *isaB45Woman  over a year ago

Fabville

Lots of single guys are successful here.

It's about mindset, expectations and attitude.

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By *eastXMan  over a year ago

London

I suggest always opening your audience to single guys, as many have regular fuckbuddies, and they can serve as couple when needed. That would make your life easier.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan  over a year ago

Salford


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

Have multiple fishing holes

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By *aitonelMan  over a year ago

Travelling


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

It's not a competition...I don't care who they are meeting.

Told you before as a single guy it's a competition whether you like it or not.

It's dog eat dog.

People will drink all your milkshake and you leave you the dregs. "

While I don't agree with the analogy or the phrasing, for the most part I do agree with the point being made.

No honour among thieves is very much a thing on here for the majority of men when it comes down to it.

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Thet top 5% of men, or the top 5% of women, is subjective. My top 5% isn't going to be the same as someone else's and apparently there are at least one or two people who think I'm in their top 5%.

That's true for anyone. Just because the typically attractive people are getting a lot of lovin doesn't mean that the rest of us aren't rocking the world of other people. So they should do them, we should do us, and single guys should absolutely keep making an effort all the time. Same as single women, TVs, TSs, couples and anyone who identifies as anything else.

Just don't be disheartened if someone you get all moist over doesn't feel the same. That's just life.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

If the 'top 5%' need to pounce on the 'new and unexposed' fresh meat before the general population ever gets to contact or meet them then that probably explains why so many profiles leave so quickly.

I knew there was a reason.....

A

If you can't beat them join them.

It is a good strategy if you are experienced and meeting new and unexposed.

It carries weight.

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend. "

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

"

That’s not an answer to what I asked. … that’s like an MP…...

Do you message every new user that pops on here? Do you use that strategy?

Because that screams desperation to me. *just my opinion.

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington


"This top 5% thing is a load of crap.

It's not, you see a lot of the same guys meeting the same people through the verification trail.

If the 'top 5%' are all just meeting eachother then that's great.

Because it means they have no interest in meeting the other 95% which leaves the majority of site members free and available to meet eachother.

Plenty to go round. Effectively the 5% have no influence on the rest of the site and don't affect it in any way.

Because.....well....logic!

A No the top 5% are meeting the new and unexposed others too.

You just see a lot of familiar names.

It's not a competition...I don't care who they are meeting.

Told you before as a single guy it's a competition whether you like it or not.

It's dog eat dog.

People will drink all your milkshake and you leave you the dregs. "

I can see how some people would view as such ... But I'm not Interested in racking up numbers or veris.

I terms of presenting yourself properly and your approach...then yes your competing against others. But I'm certainly not scouring fab for freshmeat....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

That’s not an answer to what I asked. … that’s like an MP…...

Do you message every new user that pops on here? Do you use that strategy?

Because that screams desperation to me. *just my opinion. "

Only if they are photo verified, have pics and are average, slim or athletic body type and no taller than 5 foot 7.

Works with couples too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a.memeber of the 95 per cent and not a member of the 5 per cent elite shagger club...the positivity comes from, there is still 95 per cent of the site left, who are generally good ppl. I'd rather be a pool with diversity rather than a pool with the 5 per cent. I'll take thr 95 per cent over the 5 per cent any day..

Where do these figures come.fron....as my top 5 per cent will be different to any body else

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By *ycanNightsMan  over a year ago

Workington


"As a.memeber of the 95 per cent and not a member of the 5 per cent elite shagger club...the positivity comes from, there is still 95 per cent of the site left, who are generally good ppl. I'd rather be a pool with diversity rather than a pool with the 5 per cent. I'll take thr 95 per cent over the 5 per cent any day..

Where do these figures come.fron....as my top 5 per cent will be different to any body else"

I think the elite shaggers club is self selecting...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

That’s not an answer to what I asked. … that’s like an MP…...

Do you message every new user that pops on here? Do you use that strategy?

Because that screams desperation to me. *just my opinion.

Only if they are photo verified, have pics and are average, slim or athletic body type and no taller than 5 foot 7.

Works with couples too.

"

Ah. The EBAY strategy. I like it

Search. Find. Bid. …. Hope to win at least one of them.

We all use fab in different warmups, and view swinging and the people who swing differently too.

I’m sure you’ll find people that much up with you that way. And the people who don’t do what you do… maybe the 95 percent who are having a blast with the other 95 don’t do it that way.

I’d hate to be a minority.

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By *ussell JonesMan  over a year ago

wendover

I know its a numbers game - 1 genuine single female for every 1000 genuine couples. One genuine couple for every 1000 single guys. Once you accept that you can remain positive. I can count on one hand the number of times I've met someone as a result of a speculative message I've sent on here. I use this site just to keep in touch with which friends are going to which clubs etc...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

That’s not an answer to what I asked. … that’s like an MP…...

Do you message every new user that pops on here? Do you use that strategy?

Because that screams desperation to me. *just my opinion.

Only if they are photo verified, have pics and are average, slim or athletic body type and no taller than 5 foot 7.

Works with couples too.

Ah. The EBAY strategy. I like it

Search. Find. Bid. …. Hope to win at least one of them.

We all use fab in different warmups, and view swinging and the people who swing differently too.

I’m sure you’ll find people that much up with you that way. And the people who don’t do what you do… maybe the 95 percent who are having a blast with the other 95 don’t do it that way.

I’d hate to be a minority. "

You can search for members who are new in the last 5 days.

Fab are obviously aware of the strategy too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"As a.memeber of the 95 per cent and not a member of the 5 per cent elite shagger club...the positivity comes from, there is still 95 per cent of the site left, who are generally good ppl. I'd rather be a pool with diversity rather than a pool with the 5 per cent. I'll take thr 95 per cent over the 5 per cent any day..

Where do these figures come.fron....as my top 5 per cent will be different to any body else

I think the elite shaggers club is self selecting..."

It seems that way, and self proclaiming

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"….

Is this what do? Is it working?

What’s your conversation rate?

Asking for a friend.

It is not the only strategy, it is just another avenue.

Cover all bases, find that edge.

That’s not an answer to what I asked. … that’s like an MP…...

Do you message every new user that pops on here? Do you use that strategy?

Because that screams desperation to me. *just my opinion.

Only if they are photo verified, have pics and are average, slim or athletic body type and no taller than 5 foot 7.

Works with couples too.

Ah. The EBAY strategy. I like it

Search. Find. Bid. …. Hope to win at least one of them.

We all use fab in different warmups, and view swinging and the people who swing differently too.

I’m sure you’ll find people that much up with you that way. And the people who don’t do what you do… maybe the 95 percent who are having a blast with the other 95 don’t do it that way.

I’d hate to be a minority.

You can search for members who are new in the last 5 days.

Fab are obviously aware of the strategy too. "

Always try message when they are online too.

If they're not put them in your hotlist and wait till you see the online with the blue dot.

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By *aza1888Man  over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

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By *aza1888Man  over a year ago

Glasgow


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Both I usty think like this I just opened my mind and decided I have no standards and realise am more happy if entertain those who entertain me and if they don't who care im not they dad can't make them

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

Most of the guys this relates to, won't be forum users. They just get the tough, rough deal. A lot of new men drop out, after a few days. They may potentially be occasional returners. I guess there's disappointed aplenty

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?"

Yes. It really is.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man  over a year ago

Lingfield

Firstly I'd take the 6000 messages with a large pinch of if salt.

I'm just of here to chat, make friends and talk about sex with whoever is interested. If I get a meet from it then great, if not then no worries.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?"

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

"

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"Another thing I've noticed in recent months is also that there are a lot of content creators using Fab as a jump-off point for their content.

They have a profile with photos and talk of meeting up, but when you message them, they eventually direct you to all their 'socials' and try to sell you content.

Loads use this as a fishing exercise for their OF acount. "

If you fab it you can fuck it

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs. "

The only time I've ever seen a pattern of veris is when they're on the profile of someone who frequents the same club regularly or attends organised socials.

I guess you have to be in the 5% to be able to see them, eh.

Chances are they hide from mere mortals.

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs. "

Some are worth keeping track of in your hotlist.

The most valuable commodity I know is information.

I know that the moment I verify a new person, the vulchers will be onto her too.

Because the smart 1s are tracking you aswell.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

Yes. It really is."

Chad bullshit? I had disappointing curry once.

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?"

Yup

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By *ou only live onceMan  over a year ago

London


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

Some are worth keeping track of in your hotlist.

The most valuable commodity I know is information.

I know that the moment I verify a new person, the vulchers will be onto her too.

Because the smart 1s are tracking you aswell. "

Ah, man, you've hidden your profile and I was just about to swoop and prey on your veris, like the vulture I am!

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By *rooperRedMan  over a year ago

Littlehampton

I'm just here to waste a few minutes. It's for novelty purposes only. I know the risk is that I dragged into the negative spiral of my narrative. Reading profiles with loads of veris about hot spontaneous sex is just self destructive.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

The only time I've ever seen a pattern of veris is when they're on the profile of someone who frequents the same club regularly or attends organised socials.

I guess you have to be in the 5% to be able to see them, eh.

Chances are they hide from mere mortals.

A"

'The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision'

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By *iscean_dreamMan  over a year ago

Llanelli


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?"

It's bull bullshit

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

The only time I've ever seen a pattern of veris is when they're on the profile of someone who frequents the same club regularly or attends organised socials.

I guess you have to be in the 5% to be able to see them, eh.

Chances are they hide from mere mortals.

A 'The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision'

"

Yeah, OK.

I hear a lot of great advice on the forums.

A lot of top tips for success.

A lot of statements about using information and tools to achieve success.

It's rare though that I see anything to back up these claims. All these elite shaggers and top 5%ers that are meeting all the hot young things and yet there never seems to be any supporting evidence of them hooking up.

I'd love to see one of these profiles where the veri trails all lead to the same people. But try as I might it never happens.

I mean the advanced search facility let's you browse anywhere in the country. You'd think with a bit of effort you'd be able to find these circular verification trails.

But no. Why is that?

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We like a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

The only time I've ever seen a pattern of veris is when they're on the profile of someone who frequents the same club regularly or attends organised socials.

I guess you have to be in the 5% to be able to see them, eh.

Chances are they hide from mere mortals.

A 'The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision'

Yeah, OK.

I hear a lot of great advice on the forums.

A lot of top tips for success.

A lot of statements about using information and tools to achieve success.

It's rare though that I see anything to back up these claims. All these elite shaggers and top 5%ers that are meeting all the hot young things and yet there never seems to be any supporting evidence of them hooking up.

I'd love to see one of these profiles where the veri trails all lead to the same people. But try as I might it never happens.

I mean the advanced search facility let's you browse anywhere in the country. You'd think with a bit of effort you'd be able to find these circular verification trails.

But no. Why is that?

A"

Cuz it's a fallacy, a misnomer. Or in plan terms a load of bollocks

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By *onningtonplumberMan  over a year ago

Donnington

I just come here look around and chill, if it happens it happens. I comment on posts. But unless a profile is literally like an advert for me I don't message.

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By *con7Man  over a year ago

BARNET


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

Zero expectations and just make some nice connections from socials or possibly the forums

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By *con7Man  over a year ago

BARNET


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway?

5000 of those messages are from me! "

this made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I definitely DO NOT consider myself in the top 5%. The thing is I do okay.

It’s about appeal. Having a USP if you like. Something about you.

I’m certainly not the most handsome of men. For me, my USP, is about being almost 52 and in good shape. A lot of ladies like that and that definitely helps my cause.

It garners interest. That’s the hard part I find. Getting them to look in the ‘shop window’. Once they do then my charming personality comes to the fore

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

I rarely check veris other than to sense check a catfish.

Ive never noticed a 5pc when I have... Other than maybe those who do do clubs.

The only time I've ever seen a pattern of veris is when they're on the profile of someone who frequents the same club regularly or attends organised socials.

I guess you have to be in the 5% to be able to see them, eh.

Chances are they hide from mere mortals.

A 'The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision'

Yeah, OK.

I hear a lot of great advice on the forums.

A lot of top tips for success.

A lot of statements about using information and tools to achieve success.

It's rare though that I see anything to back up these claims. All these elite shaggers and top 5%ers that are meeting all the hot young things and yet there never seems to be any supporting evidence of them hooking up.

I'd love to see one of these profiles where the veri trails all lead to the same people. But try as I might it never happens.

I mean the advanced search facility let's you browse anywhere in the country. You'd think with a bit of effort you'd be able to find these circular verification trails.

But no. Why is that?

A"

There are 9 men that I currently have in my hotlist in the northwest that I haven't even met or spoken too.

That I consider in the 5%

You can cross reference and see some have met the same people.

The most universally attractive and top tier of single women and couples they meet.

Who can be established, new, only just breaching out into looking for single guys. Etc.

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By *implynaughty1Couple  over a year ago

stockport


"6000 messages!?

I'm lucky if I get 60!

Surely that's an exaggeration, no matter how hot she is?"

I was just thinking that myself must of been nice to get that many mrs m x

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By *iscreetguy16Man  over a year ago

chester le street


"I feel for the ugly ones, I really do."

I’m a good looking and and still have no luck on here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think there is an awful lot of fucking happening steadily and quietly by a lot of the 'ordinary' folks both men and women in the far corners of fab. Most of the people I speak to on here get messages replied to and even fuck. Unbelievable I know!

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By *hrek101Man  over a year ago

Herts


"I feel for the ugly ones, I really do."

Thanks appreciate the support

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

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By *lephantisMan  over a year ago

Oxford

The real meets were all the blocks we made along the way.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple  over a year ago

Cumbria

So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

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By *avin77Man  over a year ago

camberley


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

I'm stubborn so won't give up lol

But as a gen single male it is hard on here

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please. "

Would 7 upset the balance to much

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By *ris GrayMan  over a year ago

Dorchester


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

we enjoy torture

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much "

have my slot. She knows my intentions now

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By *iscean_dreamMan  over a year ago

Llanelli


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there."

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

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By *eliusMan  over a year ago

Henlow


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

I am 5,999 … I’m not last so there’s still hope - lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much have my slot. She knows my intentions now "

Exploiting my weaknesses

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much have my slot. She knows my intentions now "

You're always offering your slot to someone Waffle

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By *londebiguyMan  over a year ago

Southport


"Just seen a hot newish girl on top pics, saying she has 6000 unread messages.

We are a hot sexy (lol) couple and find meeting other suitable couples and single females tough enough.

Obviously the top 5% of single guys might do okay, but how do the other 95% stay positive? Or are they just happy here for the perving anyway? "

I'm fine with it.

I'm quite happy with the people tgat I meet.

Most that I see have a very highly inflated opinion of themselves in here that would be very unrealistic out there in everyday real life.

I leave them to their fantasy that they are somehow incredibly hot and in demand.

I prefer people with true personality myself.

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By *imply DeeWoman  over a year ago

Wherever

Erm, 6000 unread messages sounds a little bit over the top but what do I know, I’m just here, that’s me in the corner. I’m here for the single guys anyway so I hope they keep bothering me, all 89,67% of them please.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

Most that I see have a very highly inflated opinion of themselves in here that would be very unrealistic out there in everyday real life.

"

You silver tongued Devil you.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much have my slot. She knows my intentions now

You're always offering your slot to someone Waffle "

I'm an equal opportunities fella me. Just be gentle.

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By *apperleymanMan  over a year ago

Nottingham


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there."

You mean it’s not? Does it depend on what video game you play though? Damn…

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Great question ... single guys for their own health just can't take ANYTHING serious here because if they get all wrapped up in this place for all the wrong reasons they can find themselves on the slippery slope fairly fast, wrong reasons include rejection or no replies , do not let anyone here fuck you up mentally, just realise that you are not suitable for the person you have messaged, don't let anyone take the fun out of it for you .

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please. "

Make that 7

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By *otSoPoshWoman  over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much have my slot. She knows my intentions now

You're always offering your slot to someone Waffle I'm an equal opportunities fella me. Just be gentle. "

I'm always gentle

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I get about 6 messages a day so I'll bother with all the single guys please.

Would 7 upset the balance to much have my slot. She knows my intentions now

You're always offering your slot to someone Waffle I'm an equal opportunities fella me. Just be gentle.

I'm always gentle "

Even with fish slices

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By *ou only live onceMan  over a year ago

London


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to? "

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Why do I bother?

Something’ to do innit.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game... "

What video game? I might know a good strategy!

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By *ou only live onceMan  over a year ago

London


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

What video game? I might know a good strategy! "

I think I'm still at Sonic the Hedgehog circa 1992 levels...

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

What video game? I might know a good strategy!

I think I'm still at Sonic the Hedgehog circa 1992 levels..."

I'm a wiz at 'Jet Set Willy'......

A

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

What video game? I might know a good strategy!

I think I'm still at Sonic the Hedgehog circa 1992 levels...

I'm a wiz at 'Jet Set Willy'......

A"

Give me snake, now were talking

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By *rder66Man  over a year ago

Tatooine

I don't need to justify being here, if they don't bother you then why complain about them, site isn't called fabcouples.com.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

What video game? I might know a good strategy!

I think I'm still at Sonic the Hedgehog circa 1992 levels...

I'm a wiz at 'Jet Set Willy'......

A

Give me snake, now were talking "

I just like playing with my joystick.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm a bi guy so on here because it's not all about straight couples. I've met tgirls, gay guys as well as groups , single ladies and bi couples..

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan  over a year ago

Torquay

I guess I am lucky, I'm a single guy, nothing special but I get contacted every so often by very hot females and couples, no idea what I'm doing right, like I said maybe just lucky.

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By *uriousscouserWoman  over a year ago

Wirral


"Patience is a virtue…

As is a 12 inch penis..

Luckily I’m patient "

Just snort-laughed!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"So many men seem to think getting sex is like a video game, you do these things in the right order and you get laid.

No wonder there are so many incels out there.

I've never got laid after completing a video game, who do I complain to?

The real issue here is that I have never completed a computer game...

What video game? I might know a good strategy!

I think I'm still at Sonic the Hedgehog circa 1992 levels...

I'm a wiz at 'Jet Set Willy'......

A

Give me snake, now were talking

I just like playing with my joystick. "

The like that comes with two balls....I mean buttons

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By *unfunfun xMan  over a year ago

LONDON

I joined because a friend said it could be up my street, well I bought a gold pass and kinda noticed quickly it's so tough to get replies, but then noticed the forums and these can be fun so sticking around for bit well till at least gold pass expires, and I just ask my friend to refund the money I paid haha.

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By *ife NinjaMan  over a year ago

Dunfermline

Shits and giggles

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Occasionally I find exciting, debauched individuals or couples and have a fine old time.

I am a fairly low effort fabber though (I am afraid that fab hasn’t moved very well with the times and there are now other avenues that really cut down on the hoop jumping by making the connection process more intuitive), so I don’t really send messages and just manage my profile and let people make the first move (if they want too).

I think if you’re the kinda guy that sends out lots of messages and really tries to connect with people, and get disappointed when you don’t, then fab is tough.

I just tend to put up a “meet today” and see what happens, or the planned meet thingy (I.e. free this coming weekend, drop me a line sort of thing) , kinda put those out there and don’t be too disheartened if you don’t get a nibble, the effort you put in was minimal and better for your confidence and self esteem "

If you just want lots of sex or dating yes, there’s much more efficient platforms, but for meeting lifestyle people there’s nothing like fab.

Most of my free weekends are spent with women I’ve met in here not Tinder or Insta etc. the kind of people you can meet with and have fun regardless of who else you’re both seeing , I don’t think you find that on other sites

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Wtf does top 5 % mean, is that Chad bullshit?

You must see familiar single guy names on other peoples verifications.

Those guys.

"

No I don't but I suppose I wouldn't notice nor would I give a flying fuck because I'm too busy actually fucking to care who other people are fucking

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I sent the lady (with 6000) messages a question. …

I’ll see how I get on. .

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