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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
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Yup...it does happen...  I fell in love that way with my hubby
Looked...and that was it...both ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I believe in reincarnation and twin flames/soulmates, I absolutely believe in love at first sight  when the stars are aligned, anything is possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because I believe in reincarnation and twin flames/soulmates, I absolutely believe in love at first sight when the stars are aligned, anything is possible "
And I thought you were wise, heartbroken.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lust at first sight yes but I don’t believe in love at first sight. Falling in love happens gradually as you get to know the person. You don’t get to see all their little flaws straight away and falling in love with someone means you love every part of them , the good and the bad. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lust at first sight yes but I don’t believe in love at first sight. Falling in love happens gradually as you get to know the person. You don’t get to see all their little flaws straight away and falling in love with someone means you love every part of them , the good and the bad. "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not sure.
I do believe your soul recognises a kindred soul and in that instant you can feel an indescribable connection with another - it might not be a romantic love, it might be. There's some part of you that recognises the potential of something.
I think if you're both open to it, wanting it, it could be love over time. I think secondary attraction is where love starts to come into play generally. When you know more about a person, the flaws, the quirks, the qualities. You can fall for someone quickly but love blossoms in time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No but lust yes x This exactly
Is it lust disguised as love? Over a period of time lust can dissipate "
Yeah lust can wear off quickly but love takes time to wear.
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
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Definately, first started chatting to my partner it was like everyone else just faded away. Met on the banks of a river, was standing feeding ducks and he came up to me, put his arms around me and kissed me on my neck. I was like an electric shock through my entire body. Everything made sense and had become whole. Sorry im just a sentimental old fool |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been watching a video of a Swedish woman who met a Thai fisherman on phi phi island when she was 21,they instantly fell in love,but there story has many heartbreaking twists and turns, I've posted the link if anyone want to hear their lovely story
https://youtu.be/Ta6863oAYxk |
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
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Definitely lust at first sight |
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Yes.
That gravity shifting need to be near them and hear their voice from the first moment they were near.
It's a beautiful thing. It doesn't always work out. My person for that lives 400 miles away now. But it was never lust. Just souls that sang to one another even if they were utterly incompatible as anything non platonic. But still love. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
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My wife, the center of my world, saw me walking down the road when we were at uni, and immediately knew I was the person she'd spend the rest of her life with. We were together for 32 years.  . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My wife, the center of my world, saw me walking down the road when we were at uni, and immediately knew I was the person she'd spend the rest of her life with. We were together for 32 years. ."
Awww lovely story,love holds no bounds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a date with a girl at Bizarre Ball at the Coronet (sadly no longer) years ago - she called her friend over, saying, "come kiss my date".
Friend & I look at each other, kiss and blam!
We spent 6 years together after that so it does happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
The only way I can describe love at first sight it witnessing child birth, it is only at that moment when you see your child for the first time do you know what love at first sight is
IMO"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. Well love in about an hour .
I've experienced it and it broke my heart and his too .
It was all so intense. The chemistry electric, we kissed and both had that jolt of something that made everything feel completely undeniable. It was exactly like a dream or a fairy tale .
I've never experienced anything like it before or since and I very much doubt I ever will again .
It was utterly magical but ultimately very painful for us both in the end.
And no it didn't happen here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
The only way I can describe love at first sight it witnessing child birth, it is only at that moment when you see your child for the first time do you know what love at first sight is
IMO"
I've heard so many say this but for me it wasn't love at first sight, more duty at first sight I cared about him but there was no bolt from the blue feeling. Just shock and awe, the true love kicked in at about two weeks |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Honestly fell in love with mrs k the minute I saw her . Helped we spoke for a while prior . So I knew the personality was there too . "
Even as a romantic, this is the only way I can see it happening.
Total blind date, not having seen the person but have talked/text etc to have that connection started. To then see them for the first time, yes.
When people say "first sight" do they actually mean very first glance or including the whole of the first date, very early on in the date. |
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
The only way I can describe love at first sight it witnessing child birth, it is only at that moment when you see your child for the first time do you know what love at first sight is
IMOI've heard so many say this but for me it wasn't love at first sight, more duty at first sight I cared about him but there was no bolt from the blue feeling. Just shock and awe, the true love kicked in at about two weeks"
Exactly the same for me, no love at 1st sight, more wondering what was wrong with me because I didn't get that, I was exhausted.
Nice to not feel alone with that.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
The only way I can describe love at first sight it witnessing child birth, it is only at that moment when you see your child for the first time do you know what love at first sight is
IMOI've heard so many say this but for me it wasn't love at first sight, more duty at first sight I cared about him but there was no bolt from the blue feeling. Just shock and awe, the true love kicked in at about two weeks
Exactly the same for me, no love at 1st sight, more wondering what was wrong with me because I didn't get that, I was exhausted.
Nice to not feel alone with that.
Mrs "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can you fall out of love as quick?"
I think falling out of love is more a gradual thing. It's a build up of seemingly non-consequential happenings interspersed with some biggies that really annoy. Or you could just grow apart amicably and call it a day. I've outgrown a couple of full on crazy-in-love-at-first-sight relationships I truly believed I'd be in forever |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I dont believe so , love wouldn’t be worth much would it it just happens without really knowing the person. I love you because….. you’re pretty and fit and have nice eyes?
I think it’s possible to meet someone and know fairly quickly, not instantly, that you could fall for them, possibly fall in love, but it still takes time. |
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I don’t believe in it , not sure if true love exists
Yes , when you meet someone and (wow) that’s powerful and the honeymoon period is awesome but it can happen again with another , it’s an infatuation and chemical reaction in the body , dopamine/testosterone /endorphins and oxytocin all play apart but as for true undying love I very much doubt it … says us on a swinging site |
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"I don’t believe in it , not sure if true love exists
Yes , when you meet someone and (wow) that’s powerful and the honeymoon period is awesome but it can happen again with another , it’s an infatuation and chemical reaction in the body , dopamine/testosterone /endorphins and oxytocin all play apart but as for true undying love I very much doubt it … says us on a swinging site "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lust at first sight - absolutely.
‘True’ love at first sight - I don’t believe so personally.
It’s an emotion that builds over time. "
I agree,falling out of love is gradual as well,couples who divorce have obviously fell out of love over a period of time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess it's very much an individual thing, I've not experienced it but is that because of my cerebral wiring or because I've not found 'the one' I have spoken to people who say they've experienced it so like I say I guess it's different for different people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes, when I first saw my babies.
Romantic love? I don't think so. Infatuation, lust, the possibility of future love, absolutely possible at first sight. Real love comes with knowing a person. |
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"Yes, when I first saw my babies.
Romantic love? I don't think so. Infatuation, lust, the possibility of future love, absolutely possible at first sight. Real love comes with knowing a person."
I wholeheartedly agree |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, when I first saw my babies.
Romantic love? I don't think so. Infatuation, lust, the possibility of future love, absolutely possible at first sight. Real love comes with knowing a person."
Yep |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Yes, when I first saw my babies.
Romantic love? I don't think so. Infatuation, lust, the possibility of future love, absolutely possible at first sight. Real love comes with knowing a person.
I wholeheartedly agree "
I think it also comes through service, loyalty etc. what people do for you , the sacrifices they make etc out of how they feel , that’s real love .
Too much love too quickly is often just insecurity and wanting to cling on to them
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know, I've never fallen in love.
I can think of one time in my life that I saw a girl for the first time and was struck with a flurry of feelings... I should have gone and talked to her."
aww. Hindsight Is a wonderful thing ...there to kick us up the arse in preparation for the next opportunity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't know, I've never fallen in love.
I can think of one time in my life that I saw a girl for the first time and was struck with a flurry of feelings... I should have gone and talked to her. aww. Hindsight Is a wonderful thing ...there to kick us up the arse in preparation for the next opportunity "
Or.....she reports him for unwanted sexual harassment......the art of seduction is dead |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't know, I've never fallen in love.
I can think of one time in my life that I saw a girl for the first time and was struck with a flurry of feelings... I should have gone and talked to her. aww. Hindsight Is a wonderful thing ...there to kick us up the arse in preparation for the next opportunity
Or.....she reports him for unwanted sexual harassment......the art of seduction is dead"
 ah yes I almost forgot, we're in new times aren't we. Everything's harassment  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't know, I've never fallen in love.
I can think of one time in my life that I saw a girl for the first time and was struck with a flurry of feelings... I should have gone and talked to her. aww. Hindsight Is a wonderful thing ...there to kick us up the arse in preparation for the next opportunity
Or.....she reports him for unwanted sexual harassment......the art of seduction is dead ah yes I almost forgot, we're in new times aren't we. Everything's harassment "
Unfortunately it's correct,but let's talk about amour |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dont know. Probably. I can fall in love with someone without actually ever seeing them in person, just a billion messages so yeah probably  "
But aren't you just in love with words and not the person,a bit like Cyrano de bergerac |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know. Probably. I can fall in love with someone without actually ever seeing them in person, just a billion messages so yeah probably
But aren't you just in love with words and not the person,a bit like Cyrano de bergerac"
But the words spill forth from a person so you fall in love with the person for coming up with that arrangement of words |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I dont know. Probably. I can fall in love with someone without actually ever seeing them in person, just a billion messages so yeah probably
But aren't you just in love with words and not the person,a bit like Cyrano de bergerac
But the words spill forth from a person so you fall in love with the person for coming up with that arrangement of words "
Ironically I've just fallen in love with you it was the "spill forth" what did it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends what you consider love to be.
I'd say you get an instant zing of chemistry.
But we all know you can loathe a person in spite of chemistry.
Love takes time for me. Only if I learn and know and trust and bond with a person on a deeper level than lust would I say I love them.
Lust and habit do not equal love |
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I do believe your soul recognises a kindred soul and in that instant you can feel an indescribable connection with another - it might not be a romantic love, it might be. There's some part of you that recognises the potential of something.
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I do not want to believe in this. I am quite content in my cold logical tower. Don’t bring this witchcraft into it |
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"Is it possible? Is there such a thing? Is it literal,the moment you set eyes on someone can you actually fall in love
Surely personality plays a part in any relationship
I'm a very deep man
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Love no. Lust yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was a cynic too but it happened to me big time. Literally love at first sight and that love grew with time.
Unfortunately it wasn't equal and I believe that he fell in lust/infatuation sadly ...
It's over now but no hard feelings and I actually like the person I've come out of it, the experience has been a positive
Will I get over it? Probably not, though I am content now and that is a definite plus
I think those that haven't felt never will believe it's possible and those that have just know that it is ...
Our experiences colour us all and let's paint the world a rainbow |
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