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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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Are you as approachable as you appear?
Does the cover of the book reflect the inside?
Situations and moods will obviously play a factor in this, but in general as a core part of you, are you approachable?
I am in reality extremely approachable and welcoming unless given good reason not to be. However I may appear to be slightly less so, my awkwardness and weirdness at times may make me seem a lot less friendly than I am. |
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I have a pretty solid "You can fuck off now" resting bitch face.
It's rare anyone approaches me in public. I'm happy with that.
In general, I'm very cold and distant with new people. My friends get to see the warm and fluffy side though. |
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I'm very approachable. My boyfriend on the other hand...
He's got a Grant Mitchel look about him (including the shaved head). He's around 6ft 4" and 18 stone. He has this glare he does when someone/something is peeing him off lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am approachable, but my dog puts people off so that is a positive (except for the other sodding dog walkers who insist on talking to me - which really pisses my dog off).
I prefer to think of myself as a misanthrope, but not sure I carry it off  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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Very approachable. Though unable to hide when in a bad mood this is rare and normally have a cheerful and laid back expression.
Certainly helps in my line of work as it puts patients at ease  |
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No I'm not approachable, unless I am focused and want to be. People generally leave me alone.
Head In the clouds overthinking shit is my default setting and I've walked past friends whilst out, with zero clue they were there  |
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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago
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I’m not approachable, my rbf is strong and keeps things peaceful
If I know you and like you I’d give the shirt off my back, it’s just rare I let anyone that close, too many have shown why I need such high walls |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I'm not approachable, unless I am focused and want to be. People generally leave me alone.
Head In the clouds overthinking shit is my default setting and I've walked past friends whilst out, with zero clue they were there "
I have imaginary friends, they never leave me alone, and the voices in my head don't like them very much  |
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I’m very friendly and approachable on here and in real life. Sometimes on here my sarcasm misses the mark and makes me sound like I’m bitching, but I rarely am. I’m fact, I find it hard to take most things seriously.
Out and about I look serious and I sense people thinking I look like a miserable bastard. In reality I’m delightful in every way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m more approachable than I look. I have serious RBF but if someone came up to me in public I’d always be nice and polite. I don’t get approached very often though probably because of the way I look  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a frosty bitch , I have my back up around new people and will recoil when people come near me. Takes me ages to warm up to people but once I do I am lovely I think I am not approachable to strangers but to friends very much |
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I am very approachable. I have the opposite of resting bitch face, resting "come and have a chat with me, especially if you're a grade A loony" face.
It's always funny in work the first time someone sees me driving an aggressive negotiation - since they don't come around that often it's always a shock for someone who hasn't seen me in that environment before and assumes I'll cave easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nobody is ever brave enough to approach me
It's the white coat with the strange sleeves on backwards that probably puts people off "
But I covered it in googly eye's to camouflage it |
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"Are you as approachable as you appear?
Does the cover of the book reflect the inside?
Situations and moods will obviously play a factor in this, but in general as a core part of you, are you approachable?
I am in reality extremely approachable and welcoming unless given good reason not to be. However I may appear to be slightly less so, my awkwardness and weirdness at times may make me seem a lot less friendly than I am. "
I'm super happy to meet new folk, very approachable, here, let me help you into the boot of my car, don't worry, you're not using the shovel, I am. There, now watch your head with the boot...its only a short ride, see you in heaven soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here, I think I must be quite unapproachable (so I've changed my profile picture to reflect this). In real life, I'm a friendly, approachable guy especially in the workplace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In person. Yes.
In Fab, no.
I hate text, I always have and it’s a hindrance to finding anyone who will get me enough to want to approach me and get to know me more. So, I’m not approachable, I get it.
In real life, I think they get my character more, and see me for who I actually am and are not afraid of my quirky/odd/sarcastic/wierd humour and outlook at life. |
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I must look very approachable. If I'm on an entirely empty bus the next passenger will sit next to me and strike up a conversation with the opening line
"Did you know maths used to be illegal?" or similar |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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"I must look very approachable. If I'm on an entirely empty bus the next passenger will sit next to me and strike up a conversation with the opening line
"Did you know maths used to be illegal?" or similar "
Did you know that? |
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I'm seen as hard-nosed by many when they meet me for the first time - particularly at work. The truth is there's a real shyness below the surface, but if approached I'd hope I'm warm and friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aligned and measured,with a air of confidence and eye contact at all times.
Strong Aura. Yet very deep deep thoughts and emotions smouldering like hott lava!
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I've always been approachable which can be good but also a curse.
I was always the one girls approached to ask about my mates but at the same time in 30 years of management a lot of difficult situations were diffused because people on both sides knew they could approach me.
At the same time I'm not a doormat so while anyone can approach they may not always get the response they expect or require. |
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In person: If someone approaches me respectfully though, I am almost always receptive to at least having a little bit of banter. I am always aware that no one is entitled to my time (nor am I entitled to anyone else's).
On fab: rarely. I tend to screen people very carefully here.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think I'm quite approachable. To a certain degree.
I've got quite a friendly face, I smile a fair amount. I'm happy to talk to people (intermittently). So yes, quite. On and away from here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I am much more approachable than I look. I have been told I look standoffish and intimidating, but that’s my height and my shyness as I keep myself to myself
However, OAP’s love chatting to me and find me very approachable, if my experiences in Supermarkets are anything to go by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real. "
Why the Bitch face?? |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real.
Why the Bitch face?? "
Maybe she was born with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I'm quite approachable. To a certain degree.
I've got quite a friendly face, I smile a fair amount. I'm happy to talk to people (intermittently). So yes, quite. On and away from here. "
Calm and poised.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh I feel like I'm invisible most of the time n when I do let ppl nr they just disappear anyway so what's the point "
Whats your choice of perfume? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real.
Why the Bitch face??
Maybe she was born with it "
really?
Bitch face or otherwise, is a given choice!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I seem to get approached all the time so I must have one of those faces... People asking for directions, random chats in queues, shops etc. Can someone suggest the male equivalent of the RBF please? |
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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real.
Why the Bitch face??
Maybe she was born with it really?
Bitch face or otherwise, is a given choice!
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Resting bitch face is not.
It is when your face naturally, when your muscles relax and are in their default state, takes the look of somebody in a bad mood or with a bad attitude. Regardless of your actual mood at that time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In person. Yes.
In Fab, no.
I hate text, I always have and it’s a hindrance to finding anyone who will get me enough to want to approach me and get to know me more. So, I’m not approachable, I get it.
In real life, I think they get my character more, and see me for who I actually am and are not afraid of my quirky/odd/sarcastic/wierd humour and outlook at life. "
Just had a flashback of a really mad weird story you told and I can't remember what it was! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I must look very approachable. If I'm on an entirely empty bus the next passenger will sit next to me and strike up a conversation with the opening line
"Did you know maths used to be illegal?" or similar "
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
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Tend to make friends easily so think am pretty approachable
Always got a cheeky smilevon my face & enjoy a laugh. Very few times I give off "a fuck off" vibe haha eg when I'm training or eating chicken wings |
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By *egoMan
over a year ago
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I don’t look approachable at all. Which is at odds with my personality of ‘try to be the nicest guy you’ve ever met’. Followed by further being less approachable as creep folks out haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real.
Why the Bitch face??
Maybe she was born with it "
Maybe it’s Maybelline. |
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Yes, I’m very approachable and easy to get on with
Very laid back and go with the flow
Unless I get really pissed off then I can bite a nail in half and stick it in someone’s eye….. which very rare lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope I have resting bitch face.
Got told off in my meeting yesterday at work for being unapproachable because I had a neutral face and crossed arms.
The struggle is real.
Why the Bitch face??
Maybe she was born with it really?
Bitch face or otherwise, is a given choice!
Resting bitch face is not.
It is when your face naturally, when your muscles relax and are in their default state, takes the look of somebody in a bad mood or with a bad attitude. Regardless of your actual mood at that time. "
Everything is controled by the mind/emotions and thought process at that given time.
We do have some level of choice of how we want to be and to come across and potray an image or message facial expression and whole body language shows so. |
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We're easy going, there's no point in the drama, some here seem to get, or give.
If you're sound in your relationship as a couple and meet likeminded couples too or ladies, our preferences, then a great time is had by all.
You do however sense that some are being coerced into the scene, that doesn't present itself as either approachable nor an area where we would want to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In person. Yes.
In Fab, no.
I hate text, I always have and it’s a hindrance to finding anyone who will get me enough to want to approach me and get to know me more. So, I’m not approachable, I get it.
In real life, I think they get my character more, and see me for who I actually am and are not afraid of my quirky/odd/sarcastic/wierd humour and outlook at life. "
I agree fella!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sometimes have resting bitch face at work I think but I am actually lovely and very easy to get along with "
All that good. Why still the bitch face??
Theres a process behind it all!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everything is controled by the mind/emotions and thought process at that given time.
We do have some level of choice of how we want to be and to come across and potray an image or message facial expression and whole body language shows so. "
People constantly say things like “why are you in a bad mood?” “Everything okay?, you look grumpy”. Even when I’m in the best mood. It’s subconscious, I can’t control how my face is when it’s relaxed. Walking around with a big grin on my face all day to look more approachable is just daft. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everything is controled by the mind/emotions and thought process at that given time.
We do have some level of choice of how we want to be and to come across and potray an image or message facial expression and whole body language shows so.
People constantly say things like “why are you in a bad mood?” “Everything okay?, you look grumpy”. Even when I’m in the best mood. It’s subconscious, I can’t control how my face is when it’s relaxed. Walking around with a big grin on my face all day to look more approachable is just daft. "
.. i hear you!
So why should a grin on your face matter to the wider existance around you?? Its their opinion and Assumption of what they wish to read of you,from limited information about you!
But it has become your facial habit with that type of face expression and you do it subconciously daily or mostly!
Just my observation of what you have shared with us,thats all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so approachable I could be called teletubbiemagnetroundsbout but I have tbf when I’m not actively taliking all the oxygen out of the room so I guess less so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time I end up talking to all kinds of random people while I'm out and about. I tend to just say hello to people I make eye contact with and get chatting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I actually don't know if I'm approachable, as I think I always tend to be the one doing the approaching. I find it easy enough to chat to people if they do approach me although find it just as easy to kill a conversation if I don't want to talk. |
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"I’m more approachable than I look. I have serious RBF but if someone came up to me in public I’d always be nice and polite. I don’t get approached very often though probably because of the way I look "
I would definitely approach you
Mrs m |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm whatever a situation requires me to be.
I can be soft, sweet, loving, cuddly, joking, daft, silly sense of humour, absolutely bonkers, full of jokes and banter, life and soul of the party, in the thick of it all, dirty jokes, silly fun....
But.... if I need to?
I will put all of the goodness in me under lock and key and freeze your ass to the ground before I tear you a new asshole and leave you questioning your parentage and your every bad decision that got you square, front and center for my delightful B-Side.
B is for badass.
She only comes out on special occasions so if you see her you've definitely earned that pleasure.
I like to put it this way....
I'm a lover by nature not a fighter. But I've got a spine and I know how to use it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think I am, however, Mr T says different. Apparently I can’t hide my facial expressions very well and they tend to be resting bitch face or fuck off now kinda looks haha!
Mr T however, I very approachable and often chats to anyone.
My friends and family get the approachable fluffy Duffy me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol after being to England multiple times. The majority expecialy in big cities are super unapproachable. I would smile and say hi how are you. I just get glared at expecialy on public transportation.  |
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"Lol after being to England multiple times. The majority expecialy in big cities are super unapproachable. I would smile and say hi how are you. I just get glared at expecialy on public transportation. "
Ah, Blu. The first rule of British public transport is you do not talk to people on British public transport. It is a place for solitude and misery. Even eye contact is frowned upon. |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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"Lol after being to England multiple times. The majority expecialy in big cities are super unapproachable. I would smile and say hi how are you. I just get glared at expecialy on public transportation.
Ah, Blu. The first rule of British public transport is you do not talk to people on British public transport. It is a place for solitude and misery. Even eye contact is frowned upon."
A fab friend said to me last year while on the tube “don’t make eye contact or talk to anyone”
I may not have listened as I ended up giving a bloke a tap dancing lesson till we got off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol after being to England multiple times. The majority expecialy in big cities are super unapproachable. I would smile and say hi how are you. I just get glared at expecialy on public transportation.
Ah, Blu. The first rule of British public transport is you do not talk to people on British public transport. It is a place for solitude and misery. Even eye contact is frowned upon."
lol I figured that out eventually. I was like fuck it I will be just as miserable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m more approachable than I look. I have serious RBF but if someone came up to me in public I’d always be nice and polite. I don’t get approached very often though probably because of the way I look
I would definitely approach you
Mrs m"
Ooh I’ll put my nice approachable face on for you |
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"I’m more approachable than I look. I have serious RBF but if someone came up to me in public I’d always be nice and polite. I don’t get approached very often though probably because of the way I look
I would definitely approach you
Mrs m
Ooh I’ll put my nice approachable face on for you "
You have a lovely face. And excellent tshirt taste |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lol after being to England multiple times. The majority expecialy in big cities are super unapproachable. I would smile and say hi how are you. I just get glared at expecialy on public transportation. "
Northerners are more friendly than southerners. |
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