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over a year ago
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You meet someone for a social.
If they were 5 stone heavier than you expected, would you mention it?
Would you notice? For example if it was a friend who was slim the last time you met a few years ago.
Would you say nothing and arrange a fuck meet anyway?
If you were the person who gained weight would you ask them if they noticed you are now a different shape?
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To be fair they might not have realised they’ve put on some timber. There could be circumstances that have meant they’ve put on some weight. Being injured, medical reasons.
I wouldn’t be so quick to judge. And think more of them if they put their hands up at the start of the social just to say why. Not that it’s my business.
But in past exploits a good camera angle can work wonders!  |
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"To be fair they might not have realised they’ve put on some timber. There could be circumstances that have meant they’ve put on some weight. Being injured, medical reasons.
I wouldn’t be so quick to judge. And think more of them if they put their hands up at the start of the social just to say why. Not that it’s my business.
But in past exploits a good camera angle can work wonders! "
Not realise you’d put on 5 stone?! |
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I wouldn’t say anything, have a drink but then make my excuses.
I have no issue if it’s a little timber because weight can change, I know mine goes up and down (after Xmas usually) so it happens, but 5 stone means the pics would be very old and it’s just deceitful.
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It really depends on the frame and size if the person.
Someone who is 6ft plus and chunky already 5 stone will be far less noticeable than a 5ft 5 person who was previously 11 stone.
If it was someone I hadn’t met before I might say, you look smaller in your photos.
If I knew them already I probably say, you’ve been on the chocolate cake a bit lately haven’t you.
As for having sex, I‘m a man, if there’s a pulse it’s all good, right? |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"To be fair they might not have realised they’ve put on some timber. There could be circumstances that have meant they’ve put on some weight. Being injured, medical reasons.
I wouldn’t be so quick to judge. And think more of them if they put their hands up at the start of the social just to say why. Not that it’s my business.
But in past exploits a good camera angle can work wonders! "
I think you'd notice 5 stone! That's a fair few dress/pants sizes difference!
If it was a mate I wouldn't say a thing.
If it was a meet I would probably be out of there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It really depends on the frame and size if the person.
Someone who is 6ft plus and chunky already 5 stone will be far less noticeable than a 5ft 5 person who was previously 11 stone.
If it was someone I hadn’t met before I might say, you look smaller in your photos.
If I knew them already I probably say, you’ve been on the chocolate cake a bit lately haven’t you.
As for having sex, I‘m a man, if there’s a pulse it’s all good, right? "
Yeah I've still got a pulse!
I'm short. I look like I ate a barrel and then a barrel ate me. |
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"Experience has taught me that telling someone they've lost weight is (usually) a compliment, telling them they've put weight on is an insult. "
I slightly disagree with your last comment, telling someone they have put on weight, in and of itself, is not an insult but the manner in which you choose to say it may make it an insult.  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I did meet someone who was at least 20 years older than his photos and possibly more than 5 stone heavier.
He was a nice chap and I wasn't in the mood for annoyance so I didn't say anything.
When I put 9 stone on very quickly a lot of people who hadn't seen me since I was skinny were shocked.
One brother in law said that I'd ballooned, and one young lady walked past me at a dance competition and prodded my fat belly.
I laughed at that.
I was always the skinny one. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"Experience has taught me that telling someone they've lost weight is (usually) a compliment, telling them they've put weight on is an insult. "
Do people think we don't know we've gone up 5 dress sizes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd not mention it. Not my business.
If it were a fab social, I'd probably not arrange anything more. Part of that may be due to lack of attraction (hard to tell in a hypothetical) but laregly a trust thing. Why had I believed they were 5 stone lighter ... ?
If it was a friend I've not seen in a while I'd not be arranging a fuck date anyway. However i may be keeping an ear out for what has changed in their life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well it depends.
If it was someone that I'd met online and we had exchanged pictures etc then I'd feel uncomfortable about them not representing themselves in a true light. I wouldn't be able to trust them and although I'd be polite I'd never contact them again.
But if it's a friend I'd not seen in a while it wouldn't phase me. It's not something I'd mention unless it came up in conversation. |
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If they'd put on weight and I still found them attractive there is no need to say anything.
If I no longer fancied them ( cos clothes change too if someone has piled the pounds on AND their mobility and gait ) I'd probably decline sex but not tell them why unless they asked. Even then I'd couch my response in terms of MY taste changing and not say ....ffs m8 your huge. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"You meet someone for a social.
If they were 5 stone heavier than you expected, would you mention it?
Would you notice? For example if it was a friend who was slim the last time you met a few years ago.
Would you say nothing and arrange a fuck meet anyway?
If you were the person who gained weight would you ask them if they noticed you are now a different shape?
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I saw someone at a club last weekend that hadn't seen me in a fair few years.
They didn't even realise it was me they were talking to after closing time.
Now worried I've put 5 stone on.....  
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I have actually been in this situation, i turned up at the lady’s house, she answered the door, just peeking around the door, as i entered she pounced on me
The girl was about 10 stone bigger than expected
I didn’t know what to do. I made up some bullshit and ran out
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For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
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Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight? |
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over a year ago
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight? "
Not on the surface, no. That comment was more about how I come across here as I explain my thought process. But one could argue using that alone (and saying that to them) could be construed as far shaming ie “the only reason I don’t want you I’d because you’re overweight”. |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight? "
Well this was my point everyone seems so touchy around the subject of weight and I'm pretty sure if a guy had mentioned it then the seven fires of hell would have descended upon him in the form of wrath.
Personally I don't think it's shaming to point out that someone looks very different from their pictures.
Just because you point it out doesn't mean a criticism.
Just pointing out the blooming obvious. |
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I think it would depend how well they looked on it, and it depends where the weight sits, and how I felt about them in general.
I put 3 stone on in less than a year thanks to medication, I got different reactions from different people, some men friends really appreciated it, I was extra curvy - bums/boobs. I've female friend patted my tummy and made a joke, I didn't thank her for that! And an uncle I hadn't seen in years said I looked chunky. That hurt.
I now disclose to people I've met in the past that I'm not the tiny size 6/8 they used to know.
So I probably wouldn't say anything to the other person... But might pass if they wanted to get physicial.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight?
Well this was my point everyone seems so touchy around the subject of weight and I'm pretty sure if a guy had mentioned it then the seven fires of hell would have descended upon him in the form of wrath.
Personally I don't think it's shaming to point out that someone looks very different from their pictures.
Just because you point it out doesn't mean a criticism.
Just pointing out the blooming obvious."
Quite a few of the men I've known for years seem happy when my boobs and bum get bigger.
One of them is a GP and said my bum would be perfect if I put on half a stone.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn’t mentioned anything but I’d notice… how can you not notice a 5 stone weight gain…"
You'd be surprised.
I gained 3 stone after my mum died, then another stone after having my gallbladder removed.
One day I went to put on a pair of jeans I'd not worn for ages and was shocked to find they didn't even go over my hips.
It creeps up slowly, and if you're not someone who weighs themselves or measures their waist frequently it's easy to suddenly realise you got fatter. |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight?
Not on the surface, no. That comment was more about how I come across here as I explain my thought process. But one could argue using that alone (and saying that to them) could be construed as far shaming ie “the only reason I don’t want you I’d because you’re overweight”. "
I am frequently told the only reason men don't want to meet us is because I am not a bbw. I don't take it as shaming me.
I get what you're saying though |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight?
Well this was my point everyone seems so touchy around the subject of weight and I'm pretty sure if a guy had mentioned it then the seven fires of hell would have descended upon him in the form of wrath.
Personally I don't think it's shaming to point out that someone looks very different from their pictures.
Just because you point it out doesn't mean a criticism.
Just pointing out the blooming obvious."
Quite a sensitive subject though |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight?
Not on the surface, no. That comment was more about how I come across here as I explain my thought process. But one could argue using that alone (and saying that to them) could be construed as far shaming ie “the only reason I don’t want you I’d because you’re overweight”.
I am frequently told the only reason men don't want to meet us is because I am not a bbw. I don't take it as shaming me.
I get what you're saying though "
Oh I see. Well for what it’s worth, I agree and wouldn’t regard that as a shaming mentality. I know they are basically saying they don’t want you, but it feels more like stating a preference as opposed to calling out what they see as a negativity.
But I guess it could be seen from either side of the coin  |
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If it was a friend I would absolutely say something. 5 stone is quite an increase and I would be worried about them.
If it was a meet I would most definitely say something as there would have been some catfishing going on!! |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight?
Not on the surface, no. That comment was more about how I come across here as I explain my thought process. But one could argue using that alone (and saying that to them) could be construed as far shaming ie “the only reason I don’t want you I’d because you’re overweight”.
I am frequently told the only reason men don't want to meet us is because I am not a bbw. I don't take it as shaming me.
I get what you're saying though
Oh I see. Well for what it’s worth, I agree and wouldn’t regard that as a shaming mentality. I know they are basically saying they don’t want you, but it feels more like stating a preference as opposed to calling out what they see as a negativity.
But I guess it could be seen from either side of the coin "
In my opinion respectfully mentioning size as a reason for not meeting someone isn't shaming but is unnecessary. However if mentioning size is to be seen as shaming or an insult then it should be an insult whatever size or gender you are |
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"For me, this all comes down to attraction. If we’re meeting to check each other out in a social, it’s about whether we click and fancy each other. I’m no fat shamer - my weight and appearance fluctuates - but if it transpires I don’t fancy them I wouldn’t take things further. I wouldn’t say why, just cite a lack of attraction having now met. I’ve done that plenty of times for various reasons.
If it’s someone I’d already met frequently, it would depend on what it is about them that attracts me. If their body wasn’t a factor in that, I’d be happy to continue. If I felt I could discuss it with them without hurting their feelings, I would.
Is it fat shaming to say a person looks different due to additional weight? "
No, it’s telling the truth. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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If it was a friend I’d tell them, or just look at them and say what happened ? Out of genuine concern.
If it was someone I didn’t know we’ll I wouldn’t mention it, if I like them it wouldn’t matter.
If it was me , I’d wait to see if they said anything and probably pretend to be offended and deny it for a while for fun. If they said nothing I might tell them about my new diet and would they like me to WhatsApp it to them as they look a bit sluggish |
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I don't think I'd mention it on the meet. Just wouldn't arrange a second.
For myself, I'm honest from the beginning. My photos are from flattering angles, but I don't think they're misleading in any way. I also have my dress size and "mum-bod" on my profile. Mr and I reconnected by messaging after 9 years apart and my body had changed quite a bit since we last saw each other. I told him straight away that I didn't have that slim figure anymore, and he was more than happy with that.
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There's multiple questions being asked here.
First it's a social meet so frankly a situation where you are getting g to know the person see I'd there's a connection. If you feel the weight deception is an issue drink up shake hands move on. Is there a need to point it out just say lack of connection. Who k ows you may find that the personality outweighs the person and away you go on your adventure.
If it was a friend you hadn't seen in a few years why would you bring it up. Do you honestly think that this person doesn't know they have gained weight and if they was in a form of denial why is it your business to point out how their body looks.
I'd have thought it was simple.. have a social and walk away there's no need to give a review of the persons to body or see past it to the person who sparked your interest in the first place |
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By *hiversMan
over a year ago
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"You meet someone for a social.
If they were 5 stone heavier than you expected, would you mention it?
Would you notice? For example if it was a friend who was slim the last time you met a few years ago.
Would you say nothing and arrange a fuck meet anyway?
If you were the person who gained weight would you ask them if they noticed you are now a different shape?
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For a social? No, but I wouldn't meet them again if it was obviously deliberate deception. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You meet someone for a social.
If they were 5 stone heavier than you expected, would you mention it?
Would you notice? For example if it was a friend who was slim the last time you met a few years ago.
Would you say nothing and arrange a fuck meet anyway?
If you were the person who gained weight would you ask them if they noticed you are now a different shape?
I saw someone at a club last weekend that hadn't seen me in a fair few years.
They didn't even realise it was me they were talking to after closing time.
Now worried I've put 5 stone on.....
A"
Did you get a different toupée?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hate to be that person but I imagine that the replies would be very different if a guy posted this!!
What would you say if I had a cock?
I'd say 'nice cock on you pal'.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'd notice yes. Of course I would.
Would I mention it? Unlikely. If they were a friend they'd have probably said something already. We talk quite openly about stuff.
I meet people because I want to meet them. I don't go into it viewing it as a potential fuck it's more... I like this person, I'd like to know more. See how we get on in real life. I don't really like dishonesty though; if they were using photos from some time ago, including any more intimate ones I might be a tad unamused. Not because they gained weight but because they felt they had to hide who they really are in order for me to like them. I'd try and move past that though and see them as they are in that moment.
On a personal level, I know when I've put weight on. Don't hide away from the fact I'm fat but working on it. I'd never use very out of date photos (although I'm considering using one of me at my biggest so people are wow Meli, you look different to expected).
The only time I've been hurt by someone commenting on my weight from Fab was when someone publicly said in front of friends at a social - "Oh Meli, hi. You're a lot bigger than I thought you'd be in my head, thought you'd be a size 12." I've never proclaimed to be slim, frequently post about plus size lingerie and never shy away from being fat. Maybe I just give off SWE.
I wouldn't want to put someone through that humiliation. So I'd approach it with kindness or accept someone as they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There's multiple questions being asked here.
First it's a social meet so frankly a situation where you are getting g to know the person see I'd there's a connection. If you feel the weight deception is an issue drink up shake hands move on. Is there a need to point it out just say lack of connection. Who k ows you may find that the personality outweighs the person and away you go on your adventure.
If it was a friend you hadn't seen in a few years why would you bring it up. Do you honestly think that this person doesn't know they have gained weight and if they was in a form of denial why is it your business to point out how their body looks.
I'd have thought it was simple.. have a social and walk away there's no need to give a review of the persons to body or see past it to the person who sparked your interest in the first place "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd notice yes. Of course I would.
Would I mention it? Unlikely. If they were a friend they'd have probably said something already. We talk quite openly about stuff.
I meet people because I want to meet them. I don't go into it viewing it as a potential fuck it's more... I like this person, I'd like to know more. See how we get on in real life. I don't really like dishonesty though; if they were using photos from some time ago, including any more intimate ones I might be a tad unamused. Not because they gained weight but because they felt they had to hide who they really are in order for me to like them. I'd try and move past that though and see them as they are in that moment.
On a personal level, I know when I've put weight on. Don't hide away from the fact I'm fat but working on it. I'd never use very out of date photos (although I'm considering using one of me at my biggest so people are wow Meli, you look different to expected).
The only time I've been hurt by someone commenting on my weight from Fab was when someone publicly said in front of friends at a social - "Oh Meli, hi. You're a lot bigger than I thought you'd be in my head, thought you'd be a size 12." I've never proclaimed to be slim, frequently post about plus size lingerie and never shy away from being fat. Maybe I just give off SWE.
I wouldn't want to put someone through that humiliation. So I'd approach it with kindness or accept someone as they are."
What is SWE? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Slim woman energy I think "
Yep yep. I was messing about a bit and decided to use it. I don't think size dictates confidence in the written word. Or your ability to waffle on with absolute crap. |
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"^^
Slim woman energy I think
Yep yep. I was messing about a bit and decided to use it. I don't think size dictates confidence in the written word. Or your ability to waffle on with absolute crap."
In my opinion size only dictates the label on the back of your cardigan really.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Slim woman energy I think
Yep yep. I was messing about a bit and decided to use it. I don't think size dictates confidence in the written word. Or your ability to waffle on with absolute crap."
Aha!
Yeah I waffle utter crap whatever size I am. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Slim woman energy I think
Yep yep. I was messing about a bit and decided to use it. I don't think size dictates confidence in the written word. Or your ability to waffle on with absolute crap.
In my opinion size only dictates the label on the back of your cardigan really.
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Yes, I agree. I don't think being slim makes you devoid of personality. I don't think being fat means you're incapable of doing anything but being jolly.
I do think people naturally can have preferences for body shape. And that's fine. More than. It doesn't harm me if I'm not someone's cup of tea. But hurtful comments when you've constructed an image of someone in your head can. I don't agree with the #behind mantra, it's bollocks. Give me honesty. But don't weaponise it and be a dick. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"To be fair they might not have realised they’ve put on some timber. There could be circumstances that have meant they’ve put on some weight. Being injured, medical reasons.
I wouldn’t be so quick to judge. And think more of them if they put their hands up at the start of the social just to say why. Not that it’s my business.
But in past exploits a good camera angle can work wonders! "
Most who put on weight are in denial. You see it all the time specially in the body positive movement. |
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See, now this is something I worry about.
I'm listed as BBW.
Our pictures reflect me but they are taken at relatively flattering angles.
When we get all the young whipper snappers I'm like you do understand it's not just tits and arse. I've got big thighs and a big tummy to go with this too.
We do send another pic privately as well.
But still I worry someone could complain my body isn't what they expected.
But in answer to the ops question.
It's just a social. You can just politely decline another meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hate to be that person but I imagine that the replies would be very different if a guy posted this!!
Oh they so would. See only women are allowed to have a choice.
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Give me your honest opinion.
Would you ask me what the fuck I'd been eating the last 3 years? Or say nothing and arrange a fuck meet? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Hate to be that person but I imagine that the replies would be very different if a guy posted this!!
Oh they so would. See only women are allowed to have a choice.
Give me your honest opinion.
Would you ask me what the fuck I'd been eating the last 3 years? Or say nothing and arrange a fuck meet? "
Depends how long its been since I had my dick sucked tbh! |
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"Hate to be that person but I imagine that the replies would be very different if a guy posted this!!
Oh they so would. See only women are allowed to have a choice.
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I answered from a woman meeting a man point of view  |
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I'm someone who has put on a lot of weight in a short time. Since my partner died I've been comfort eating so I don't look the same as I did six months ago. I don't meet so its not a problem but my real life friends and family don't comment as they know what I'm going through |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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"Bring back the guy from yesterday who wouldn’t bang fat chicks!
He won't shag me! "
You know what they say….
He who doth protest the loudest usually changes their mind when they get no clunge after a few weeks! |
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"I'm someone who has put on a lot of weight in a short time. Since my partner died I've been comfort eating so I don't look the same as I did six months ago. I don't meet so its not a problem but my real life friends and family don't comment as they know what I'm going through"
I don't think people consider reasons behind weight loss or gain. That said they're far more likely to express genuine concern over unhealthy weight loss. |
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"Hate to be that person but I imagine that the replies would be very different if a guy posted this!!
Oh they so would. See only women are allowed to have a choice.
Give me your honest opinion.
Would you ask me what the fuck I'd been eating the last 3 years? Or say nothing and arrange a fuck meet?
Depends how long its been since I had my dick sucked tbh! "
3 years. You in? |
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"I'm someone who has put on a lot of weight in a short time. Since my partner died I've been comfort eating so I don't look the same as I did six months ago. I don't meet so its not a problem but my real life friends and family don't comment as they know what I'm going through"
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"It’s fab! I usually add five stone on to the profile pictures, especially if they’re close up’s. Never been disappointed
Aha Nora is right, you are a returner. "
Nora can’t even remember my name, she knows nothing! |
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"It’s fab! I usually add five stone on to the profile pictures, especially if they’re close up’s. Never been disappointed
Aha Nora is right, you are a returner.
Nora can’t even remember my name, she knows nothing! "
Is it Darren? |
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"It’s fab! I usually add five stone on to the profile pictures, especially if they’re close up’s. Never been disappointed
Aha Nora is right, you are a returner.
Nora can’t even remember my name, she knows nothing! "
I know who you are though. It’ll come to me  |
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"It’s fab! I usually add five stone on to the profile pictures, especially if they’re close up’s. Never been disappointed
Aha Nora is right, you are a returner.
Nora can’t even remember my name, she knows nothing!
I know who you are though. It’ll come to me "
Pervert!  |
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