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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Babe, hun , sweetie .
I mean if we’ve built up a rapport than that’s different , but any of these kind of things in a first message is just creepy.
And never ever called me slut , that’s just a straight block no matter what. |
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Geezer, boss, guv - that sort of thing.
I don’t hate it as such but typically find that such as mentioned are invariably uttered by rather uncouth individuals who dwell well beneath one’s social standing….
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"Penis wallet. My husband uses that when he wants to irritate me 
Ah shit... I like that one and if I didn't want to fuck you, I'd have said it by now...  eternal dilemma "
My husband says it and he still gets to fuck me. I'm eternally generous and forgiving  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Don't tell me what you don't like! That's a sure way for me to start calling you it.
I hate being called a sex god, really winds me up  "
Ladies! This man is a complete and utter sex god! Don't be fooled by him, he is a 100% grade A sex god.
Just watch yourselves around the sex god, you know what they are like. |
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"Don't tell me what you don't like! That's a sure way for me to start calling you it.
I hate being called a sex god, really winds me up
Ladies! This man is a complete and utter sex god! Don't be fooled by him, he is a 100% grade A sex god.
Just watch yourselves around the sex god, you know what they are like. "
My day is completely ruined now, I need time to get over this |
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Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg. |
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over a year ago
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"A wet hole
Is that open (pun not intended) to other variations to being acceptable?
A hole?
A moist hole? (sorry!  I know that word triggers people)
A wholesome hole?"
No. I hate any orifice being referred to as a hole. If someone says to me “which one of your holes do you want me in” all of my “holes” are now closed to you except the door. Goodbye. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg. "
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"A wet hole
Is that open (pun not intended) to other variations to being acceptable?
A hole?
A moist hole? (sorry! I know that word triggers people)
A wholesome hole?
No. I hate any orifice being referred to as a hole. If someone says to me “which one of your holes do you want me in” all of my “holes” are now closed to you except the door. Goodbye. "
Mystical cave of wonders it is then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind. "
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
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While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind. "
Why do I have to keep their theoretical intentions in mind, and not that they instead should consider such labels might be unwelcome? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mistress, goddess just ick "
It would totally depend on who is doing the talking 
Some would be cute/funny/sexy others would be a bit creepy or just wrong.
Yeah, these above wouldn't ever fit me or feel right even as a bit of fun. Just odd sounding to me.
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
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I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days |
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While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Why do I have to keep their theoretical intentions in mind, and not that they instead should consider such labels might be unwelcome? "
Communication skills? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
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While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Why do I have to keep their theoretical intentions in mind, and not that they instead should consider such labels might be unwelcome? "
Well partially because you said yourself one guy gets a pass for it because you feel it is meant nicely. So you are doing that with him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days "
I pretty much use love for everyone. And pal seems masculine |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days "
A friend of mine just calls everyone "sausage" now. His words "everyone is equal, there is no hesitation, you are getting sausage or nothing" |
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Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
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In the setting I'm talking about, I'm required to wear a name badge displayed prominently, if they really really feel a need to refer to me. Also, I manage to get through every single one of these interactions without using pet names, it is in fact possible to have a whole exchange without them. |
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Well partially because you said yourself one guy gets a pass for it because you feel it is meant nicely. So you are doing that with him. "
Sure, based on two years of interpersonal interactions that have gone beyond 99% of the other interactions I have in that setting. There is context, and appropriateness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
In the setting I'm talking about, I'm required to wear a name badge displayed prominently, if they really really feel a need to refer to me. Also, I manage to get through every single one of these interactions without using pet names, it is in fact possible to have a whole exchange without them. "
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days
A friend of mine just calls everyone "sausage" now. His words "everyone is equal, there is no hesitation, you are getting sausage or nothing" "
The sausage and the hole... An aesops fable. |
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Baby or naughty girl 
Actually, anything involving girl - I'm a fully grown woman who can tie my own shoelaces and everything.
Where I live people use 'duck', I don't dislike it per se, I just find it strange. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Madam winds me right up...it just sounds like they're taking the piss.
I like being called by the shortened version of my name.
Don't really mind about babe, luv, hun or any of that...better than some other words! |
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days
I pretty much use love for everyone. And pal seems masculine "
Yeah granted pal doesn't go down well for all especially if they're interested in you, can't really win these days |
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"Female, or girl. Gah.
I don't mind people I have a connection with using pet names with me, if they want to, but at work I despise customers calling me sweetheart, love, darling, dear, mate, etc etc I am none of those things to those people! The one exception is a particular customer who always calls me 'flower', and he gets a pass because it is very clearly meant very nicely, and he seems like a good egg.
While I'm not dismissing the validness of your dislike for those names from strangers, 9/10 it will be meant nicely by those people too. People just have their words that are used to express appreciation - a lot of the time we should all keep this in mind.
Started typing similar response. Men and women use mate, love, dear. Because they're not rude names and they likely don't know you're actual name.
I admittedly used hun and man a lot like a whole lot and after wrong gendering someone thanks to a driver change over everyone is now just called pal these days
A friend of mine just calls everyone "sausage" now. His words "everyone is equal, there is no hesitation, you are getting sausage or nothing" "
Jesus, this dude sounds class tbf least you know what you're getting called if you know him, can imagine causes strange looks of strangers |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Babe is slightly off-putting.
I think as I've got older I'm less fussed/bothered about terms of endearment.
Some names will always come across as a bit patronising but meh. I'm getting softer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as I'm not called something offensive then I could not care less what I'm called. Love, luvvie, bud, dude, mate, bro, dear, darling, pal. Will just make sure Im not known as the Karen. |
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I normally get away with calling girls darling or sweetheart. On the odd occasion it's not gone down too well TBH but generally, if I smile, it seems to be acceptable.
On here, not sure I would dare try it. Usually difficult to convey a smile via text.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Baby or naughty girl
Actually, anything involving girl - I'm a fully grown woman who can tie my own shoelaces and everything.
Where I live people use 'duck', I don't dislike it per se, I just find it strange. "
Stoke! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Baby or naughty girl
Actually, anything involving girl - I'm a fully grown woman who can tie my own shoelaces and everything.
Where I live people use 'duck', I don't dislike it per se, I just find it strange.
Stoke!"
ALL RISE FOR THE STOKE ON TRENT NATIONAL ANTHEM |
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"Baby or naughty girl
Actually, anything involving girl - I'm a fully grown woman who can tie my own shoelaces and everything.
Where I live people use 'duck', I don't dislike it per se, I just find it strange. "
Being told I'm a good girl...ick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got called a spunk bucket once
He did apologised and we laughed it off think he was too inexperienced being so young at the time. Thought he’d blown it but nearly 22 years later we are still together. Still makes us laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mate
Can't fucking stand it
I don't even like gen friends using it "
From London originally and everyone we meet and don’t know their name get called Mate. Been in Derbyshire four years still not used to being called Duck especially by men |
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Wow you guys mix with some really amazing and nice people I do not feel what they have been calling you is too bad...
People I know go straight for the kill but the one I dislike the most hast to be Cunt. |
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unless it's followed by human they could be referencing all of the animals/mammals of the earth.
Much prefer being called a woman.
and I was born into wedlock 
