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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I should be sulking about something that happened to me this week but the horn has taken over. I things don’t improve can I get a cuddle op and a bum squeeze to cheer me up? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I should be sulking about something that happened to me this week but the horn has taken over. I things don’t improve can I get a cuddle op and a bum squeeze to cheer me up?"
You’re on. Might have to wait until June 3rd though  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dont sulk op
I read it and you did nothing wrong "
Meh. Maybe I did. I probably replied one too many times. I don’t usually, don’t like to monopolise a thread that isn’t mine, but I really wanted to understand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont sulk op
I read it and you did nothing wrong
Meh. Maybe I did. I probably replied one too many times. I don’t usually, don’t like to monopolise a thread that isn’t mine, but I really wanted to understand "
What thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont sulk op
I read it and you did nothing wrong
Meh. Maybe I did. I probably replied one too many times. I don’t usually, don’t like to monopolise a thread that isn’t mine, but I really wanted to understand "
I could see that! It's the reason I say you did nothing wrong |
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I’m a sulker. Not in a childish way, it’s just that things bother me (like if I’ve upset someone).
I have found that talking to my best friends helps me put things into perspective and air my grievances (not a hint btw).
Anything you feel like sharing OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dont sulk op
I read it and you did nothing wrong
Meh. Maybe I did. I probably replied one too many times. I don’t usually, don’t like to monopolise a thread that isn’t mine, but I really wanted to understand "
That OP from the other thread didn't help themself, and they have posted something equally confusing elsewhere, so please don't sulk it's definitely not you.  |
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I'm not so much sulking as contemplating what it might mean if I can't regain my previous level of more tolerable pain and the bit of function back in my leg. What then? I don't want to live like this, too much pain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ohhhhhh I have one bad habit.
If I am profoundly hurt or pushed beyond the not-inconsiderable limits of my self-control I. Will. Lose. My. GiveAShit-o-meter
It's not an immature indulgence, it's like a safety valve on an overworked last nerve.
And it's never pretty.
Filter? Gone.
Patience? Gone.
Temper? Lost.
I don't sulk I hulk 
THEN I will process through a massive emotional hangover worse than any migraine you can imagine 
If amends are needed I own it and make things right. It's a matter of honour and integrity for me to walk the walk.
And then bounce back like you wouldn't believe.
Resilience is a life skill. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking 
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?
Jaysus Mary and Joseph that thread was a right shitshow Red.. you had no chance "
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?
Jaysus Mary and Joseph that thread was a right shitshow Red.. you had no chance
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He’s still talking nonsense but we gave him shit for being rude 
I think we worked pretty hard to get his question out of him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ohhhhhh I have one bad habit.
If I am profoundly hurt or pushed beyond the not-inconsiderable limits of my self-control I. Will. Lose. My. GiveAShit-o-meter
It's not an immature indulgence, it's like a safety valve on an overworked last nerve.
And it's never pretty.
Filter? Gone.
Patience? Gone.
Temper? Lost.
I don't sulk I hulk
THEN I will process through a massive emotional hangover worse than any migraine you can imagine
If amends are needed I own it and make things right. It's a matter of honour and integrity for me to walk the walk.
And then bounce back like you wouldn't believe.
Resilience is a life skill."
I love how self aware you are, Ms F  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say sulk but sometimes I remove myself from a situation so I don't respond instinctively.
When it gets to a certain point of crappy behaviour/unfairness, I end up always tackling it directly. Probably a bit bluntly at times.
Sometimes if I'm being a bit bratty I'll mock sulk. That's quite enjoyable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?"
Got to move on quickly OP…that’s not saying don’t allow yourself to feel what it is …but allow that and then move on…. Life’s too short  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah, I'm a talker, which isn't always good. I've had to learn to take time out sometimes to let the emotions calm before talking things through.
My ex husband was a massive sulker until he got told off by our marriage counsellor for being passive aggressive and emotionally manipulative. He knocked it on the head immediately.
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I know quite a few people, only some of them on here who sulk by proxy.
They are offended on other peoples behalf to such a degree they believe every negative comment is aimed at them even when they aren't in the room or the conversation.
On the flip side they accept every compliment including those not intended for them and then sulk when they cop on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can get over it in milliseconds. I don't have the energy to let things bother me anymore
Although, a cuppa is always welcomed if you think you've bothered me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know quite a few people, only some of them on here who sulk by proxy.
They are offended on other peoples behalf to such a degree they believe every negative comment is aimed at them even when they aren't in the room or the conversation.
On the flip side they accept every compliment including those not intended for them and then sulk when they cop on. "
Love this comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still don’t know what that thread was about "
Not got a scooby
You was patiently trying to decipher it but the op was very rude to you
You have zero reason to be upset
I for one like and enjoy your input in tbe forums |
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?"
I'm a sulker, a ruminater it ruins days... But I'm working on it. Took me years to work out made no difference to anyone else if is sulked and was only bad for me... But its surprisingly hard. Wonder where that behaviour comes from and why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have the attention span to sulk, my emotions can change quickly and I soon forget what I had the ump about in the first place. So if I do get the ump I tell whoever caused it why they give me the ump and then I move on. Why waste time on it. It only upsets yourself |
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"Still don’t know what that thread was about "
Hope you’re feeling better this morning!
Muppets, weirdos and fuckwits are two-a-penny on this site and they somehow feel the need to assert themselves through rudeness.
They mostly disappear as quickly as they arrive so take comfort in the nice ones who think you’re cool. There’s a lot of us! x |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't sulk.I may at times get annoyed about things but I don't sulk and I get over it fast, especially on here,I see no point in letting someone I don't know and probably will never want to know upset me.
If I get pulled on something I say that someone doesn't agree with and I feel I should reply I do. I won't get pulled into a slagging match on here like some seem to thrive on,I just think ah let them off they are just showing themselves up.
This is not referring to what happened to the OP as I have no clue what happened there.But just from what I have seen on my times on the forums. There are some who thrive on drama and biting at others on here. Especially if they have the background back up of are just trolling for fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Still don’t know what that thread was about
Hope you’re feeling better this morning!
Muppets, weirdos and fuckwits are two-a-penny on this site and they somehow feel the need to assert themselves through rudeness.
They mostly disappear as quickly as they arrive so take comfort in the nice ones who think you’re cool. There’s a lot of us! x"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ohhhhhh I have one bad habit.
If I am profoundly hurt or pushed beyond the not-inconsiderable limits of my self-control I. Will. Lose. My. GiveAShit-o-meter
It's not an immature indulgence, it's like a safety valve on an overworked last nerve.
And it's never pretty.
Filter? Gone.
Patience? Gone.
Temper? Lost.
I don't sulk I hulk
THEN I will process through a massive emotional hangover worse than any migraine you can imagine
If amends are needed I own it and make things right. It's a matter of honour and integrity for me to walk the walk.
And then bounce back like you wouldn't believe.
Resilience is a life skill.
I love how self aware you are, Ms F "
Thank you for that, its not easy but I try my best. I make mistakes along the way.
It keeps me accountable to myself as well as anyone else.
Clears the head as well as the heart
And I never expect perfection of myself or others. That's just not reality as humans.
I love honesty and integrity and accountability above almost any other traits.
Perfectly imperfect and perfect for me is my ideal
I just do my best as I go and if I wobble I suck it up and make things right as best as I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gave up sulking when I became an adult.
See.. That's interesting. How? Did you just decide and flick a switch or did you have to work at it at all? "
I don't think it's that simple as childishness versus adult.
It's a mild put down to anyone honest enough to fess up to emotional reactions.
We're all in different places and stages.
If you're doing your best then I applaud you, keep working on yourselves
If a sulk helps you decompress and doesn't hurt or harm or isn't weaponised as passive aggressive, then do what you need to do and feel better |
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"Gave up sulking when I became an adult.
See.. That's interesting. How? Did you just decide and flick a switch or did you have to work at it at all?
I don't think it's that simple as childishness versus adult.
It's a mild put down to anyone honest enough to fess up to emotional reactions.
We're all in different places and stages.
If you're doing your best then I applaud you, keep working on yourselves
If a sulk helps you decompress and doesn't hurt or harm or isn't weaponised as passive aggressive, then do what you need to do and feel better "
Hear hear. My sulking is more like rumination. I take myself away from the situation and use the time to reflect and rebalance. I find I can then come back with things in perspective and feeling positive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm a sulker, a ruminater it ruins days... But I'm working on it. Took me years to work out made no difference to anyone else if is sulked and was only bad for me... But it’s surprisingly hard. Wonder where that behaviour comes from and why? "
For me, it’s definitely hereditary. Both my parents sulk. My longest relationship (marriage) taught me that the opposite is also not great - being followed around and having someone go on and on at you culminating in a shouting match - I felt at one point we got to a happy medium of giving each other space and time to process our thoughts, discussing our gripes and moving on.
It’s pretty tough resisting that default setting though, and my most recent relationship was with the Grandmaster of Sulks, so… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This thread has actually surprised me, Red.
You certainly aren't a stranger to the forums. And its shocked me that one buffoons comment had this effect on you.
Were there other factors/events during the week that maybe added to your reaction?
Ill admit, it was very random the way he singled you out, especially as you weren't even taking the p**s, but in fact asking for clarification.
All that clowns done is commit fabicide.
Onwards and upwards, as they say.
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By (user no longer on site)
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To me sulking is just telling myself ok I’ll waste sone time and make myself feel shit until I (inevitably) decide to get over it. So I just decide to get over it and not waste the time. |
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"I'm a sulker, a ruminater it ruins days... But I'm working on it. Took me years to work out made no difference to anyone else if is sulked and was only bad for me... But it’s surprisingly hard. Wonder where that behaviour comes from and why?
For me, it’s definitely hereditary. Both my parents sulk. My longest relationship (marriage) taught me that the opposite is also not great - being followed around and having someone go on and on at you culminating in a shouting match - I felt at one point we got to a happy medium of giving each other space and time to process our thoughts, discussing our gripes and moving on.
It’s pretty tough resisting that default setting though, and my most recent relationship was with the Grandmaster of Sulks, so…"
It's one of those things isn't it that... If it serves you well... Then keep on keeping on. If it doesn't serve you well, then consider changing it... But there's the problem. Making change to a "go to" conditioned response is bloody hard. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This thread has actually surprised me, Red.
You certainly aren't a stranger to the forums. And its shocked me that one buffoons comment had this effect on you.
Were there other factors/events during the week that maybe added to your reaction?
Ill admit, it was very random the way he singled you out, especially as you weren't even taking the p**s, but in fact asking for clarification.
All that clowns done is commit fabicide.
Onwards and upwards, as they say.
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I started this thread as an attempt at humour, genuinely. I was faux sulking.
But it also started me thinking - ok, that happened, can I do things differently so I don’t have that effect on people in future. You know? I see that as a positive thing. Sometimes I won’t be able to do anything, and it would be incredibly egocentric to think everything is about me. But there are times when I could adjust my behaviour. |
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?"
Life’s too short. If it’s outside your circle of influence don’t even give it a second thought. (Easier said than done but comes with practice). |
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"This thread has actually surprised me, Red.
You certainly aren't a stranger to the forums. And its shocked me that one buffoons comment had this effect on you.
Were there other factors/events during the week that maybe added to your reaction?
Ill admit, it was very random the way he singled you out, especially as you weren't even taking the p**s, but in fact asking for clarification.
All that clowns done is commit fabicide.
Onwards and upwards, as they say.
I started this thread as an attempt at humour, genuinely. I was faux sulking.
But it also started me thinking - ok, that happened, can I do things differently so I don’t have that effect on people in future. You know? I see that as a positive thing. Sometimes I won’t be able to do anything, and it would be incredibly egocentric to think everything is about me. But there are times when I could adjust my behaviour."
I think it was clear you started this thread in jest.
Being mindful of how your actions affect others is a trait I think we should all be practicing but humans are also inherently self-absorbed so many of us can often forget about being socially empathetic.
In some instances, like on that other thread, there's simply nothing you can do if you're met with irrationality. There's only so much you can do.
You consistently come off as thoughtful, inquisitive, intelligent, and generally kind. Keep doing you Red |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dont sulk op
I read it and you did nothing wrong
Meh. Maybe I did. I probably replied one too many times. I don’t usually, don’t like to monopolise a thread that isn’t mine, but I really wanted to understand "
Ill admit, Red, i thought initially you were joking. Then saw other peoples replies and your above comment, and then assumed id got it wrong.
I should've known better.
You are more than capable of holding your own...(and others. ).
Anyway, now that's sorted, get your knickers back on and make me a brew. Coffee, one sugar.
(Ps..before anyone kicks off, im joking, of course...she doesn't need to put her knickers back on!!) |
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service.
You mean you don’t love Red?  "
I think last night we found one of the few guys who doesn’t!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This thread has actually surprised me, Red.
You certainly aren't a stranger to the forums. And its shocked me that one buffoons comment had this effect on you.
Were there other factors/events during the week that maybe added to your reaction?
Ill admit, it was very random the way he singled you out, especially as you weren't even taking the p**s, but in fact asking for clarification.
All that clowns done is commit fabicide.
Onwards and upwards, as they say.
I started this thread as an attempt at humour, genuinely. I was faux sulking.
But it also started me thinking - ok, that happened, can I do things differently so I don’t have that effect on people in future. You know? I see that as a positive thing. Sometimes I won’t be able to do anything, and it would be incredibly egocentric to think everything is about me. But there are times when I could adjust my behaviour."
Just having that self-awareness is half the battle, always good to look inwards too.
A bridge too far for some but they'll figure out their best way too eventually.
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service.
You mean you don’t love Red? "
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It's quite apparent that she loves me, but it's an unrequited type of love. ••— —•• |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service. "
Nero! This is the sort of brilliance that could make a woman fall in love.
P.S Red, hope you're okay now. |
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"Don’t mind me. I’m over here sulking
Are you a sulker? Or can you get over it and move on in a moment?"
I have a small tantrum and get over it quite quickly, you not being in my box might start one haha |
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service.
Nero! This is the sort of brilliance that could make a woman fall in love.
P.S Red, hope you're okay now. "
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Thank you, ex-wife.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service.
Nero! This is the sort of brilliance that could make a woman fall in love.
P.S Red, hope you're okay now.
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Thank you, ex-wife. "
Excuse me I'm the dark knight. I just love everyone here! I'd even protect your ass Nero. Protect not destroy x |
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"Don't sulk red! We all love you here!
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Speak for yourself mate. White-knighting is optional; it's not National Service.
Nero! This is the sort of brilliance that could make a woman fall in love.
P.S Red, hope you're okay now.
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Thank you, ex-wife.
Excuse me I'm the dark knight. I just love everyone here! I'd even protect your Ass Nero. Protect not destroy x"
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Young sirrah, if you wish to protect my Ass you will find it yonder, in the Paddock. |
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