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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " I mean maybe not desperation but more wanting a young hot 20 year old to fuck them. Alot of these things these days which require payment are just...posher prostitution effectively. Not that that's a bad thing at all! You pay for good service all the time in real life x | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " This. Both sides. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " Some men never get any interest from women. That's enough to make anyone desperate. Imagine you never had a message from one year to the next. They have to try something else to have some time with the opposite sex. | |||
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"I wouldn’t say so each to they own they aren’t doing anyone any harm As long as all parties are comfortable with the arrangement Don’t see a problem with it at all Maybe they aren’t comfortable with see a bad word So find it easier to offer a shopping trip for some company for the night As long as both parties are upfront from the get go and not leading one on in expectation Ie I have herd off some sugerees Suggest sex but have no intention off it Also herd off some daddy’s expecting sex when it was never on offer As long as both parties cards are on the table on what’s on offer then no harm done As long as one’s not playing the other for a fool " I think your last line is telling- sometimes older men praying on naive young women? | |||
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"I wouldn’t say so each to they own they aren’t doing anyone any harm As long as all parties are comfortable with the arrangement Don’t see a problem with it at all Maybe they aren’t comfortable with see a bad word So find it easier to offer a shopping trip for some company for the night As long as both parties are upfront from the get go and not leading one on in expectation Ie I have herd off some sugerees Suggest sex but have no intention off it Also herd off some daddy’s expecting sex when it was never on offer As long as both parties cards are on the table on what’s on offer then no harm done As long as one’s not playing the other for a fool I think your last line is telling- sometimes older men praying on naive young women?" No that wasn’t what I was meaning Buy that What I was meaning Is the “cringe I hate say this word but only way to explain it” daddy expect sex when the sugaree has explicitly sed there wouldn’t be any Or the other way around the sugaree being suggestive that sex is on the table and then late on after the shopping trip is over take it off the table I understand everybody has the right to change they minds and all and I am fully for that But could be seen as leading someone on to get something Just a fine line as sed if all cards are on the table and both are ok with it and no harm is being done then leave them be | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " does it work though? | |||
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"It makes me feel deeply uncomfortable, and being a libra, the imbalance would make my head explode But if one person enjoys buying gifts and treating someone, and the other is happy to be treated - it all works, and no harm done. No?" So very true… | |||
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"It makes me feel deeply uncomfortable, and being a libra, the imbalance would make my head explode But if one person enjoys buying gifts and treating someone, and the other is happy to be treated - it all works, and no harm done. No?" I think its the transactional quality of it that makes me dislike it. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " I would have to be unbelievably desperate to take anyone shopping... | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. does it work though? " Yip it dose work a former “agent” to lot off big IG models got canned and done a dish all On how sed IG model got her car and what not On a podcast on YouTube Basically Dish was they didn’t have a lambo They agent got contact for a “phone” shoot over in arab emirates A private plane picked them up they left and came back the next day with a lambo getting delivered to they door and 100k worth off clothing and jewellery | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " This | |||
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"How many men pay for everything on a first date ? I do because in my mind it’s the right thing to do. " I date younger women and sometimes do pay on a first date but it’s really not a big deal. People with much more money than me , often buy me dinner, including women and I have no issue accepting their generosity. Very few people with money cannot spot a leech or pseudo-hook*r. When I do spot them I’m pretty brutal. I once got told that asking her to pay half was the biggest insult a man could give a woman in her culture.,I said good , that was my intention - now get your card out. | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " | |||
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"How many men pay for everything on a first date ? I do because in my mind it’s the right thing to do. " The first date for me is always a coffee so paying for both isn't really an issue | |||
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"How many men pay for everything on a first date ? I do because in my mind it’s the right thing to do. " A coffee and a walk in the park yes sure. Anything more should be 50/50 | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." I don't think so, not normal nice women... Most I've met on here , tinder etc have certainly offered | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right." That’s odd. If she offers to pay I let her! What if she’s earning 10x what you are? | |||
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"How many men pay for everything on a first date ? I do because in my mind it’s the right thing to do. A coffee and a walk in the park yes sure. Anything more should be 50/50 " I have a friend on the dating scene in Paris , she was telling me how miserly the Parisian men (she met) are on first dates, as they’d be in a park. If it goes well, an offer to go to dinner would be 2nd date lol | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. That’s odd. If she offers to pay I let her! What if she’s earning 10x what you are? " Regardless. I wouldn't want her to pay. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. That’s odd. If she offers to pay I let her! What if she’s earning 10x what you are? " Is it about earnings though, or paying your way? | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." In my experience of the ladies I’ve dated, they’d let me pay if the first date went well, and if they don’t want to meet again they’d insist going Dutch. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. That’s odd. If she offers to pay I let her! What if she’s earning 10x what you are? Is it about earnings though, or paying your way? " It’s about paying my way for me | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right." Why? I earn more than my husband...... | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " I'd be a pretty shit sugar daddy, given the highlight of most of my shopping trips is the middle aisle at Aldi..... A | |||
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"I wouldn’t say so each to they own they aren’t doing anyone any harm As long as all parties are comfortable with the arrangement Don’t see a problem with it at all Maybe they aren’t comfortable with see a bad word So find it easier to offer a shopping trip for some company for the night As long as both parties are upfront from the get go and not leading one on in expectation Ie I have herd off some sugerees Suggest sex but have no intention off it Also herd off some daddy’s expecting sex when it was never on offer As long as both parties cards are on the table on what’s on offer then no harm done As long as one’s not playing the other for a fool I think your last line is telling- sometimes older men praying on naive young women?" Wow! you're not at all biased...all those poor naive girls on here posting ads for one, they have not the slightest clue what they're doing- poor things! | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " If ..now..IF ..a person is " into " this type of scenario, the best of luck to them , each are getting what they want , the guy is f***ing a beautiful lady and the girl is getting financially rewarded for doing the same , it's not everyone's cup of tea but whoever is into that is into that , both see money as being able to provide so hey ..off they go and do it. | |||
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"I would never entertain it. I am not a walking atm machine for some lazy cow who has nothing to offer but mediocre sex. " Tell us how you REALLY feel | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." They don't go down that road at all , they simply meet the Rich older guy and he looks after everything financially. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." Yes about 70% expect to have everything paid for them on here and in the vanilla dating world. I know wonrn that date every evening and get s free meal every day of the week. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " I thought that was the definition of marriage | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " Indeed they are. Have been seeing an increasing number of such profiles appearing on fab | |||
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"Foodie calls are a trend for most women on the dating scene. But ask your female friends if they would want to pay 50 50 on a first date. " Mine would! | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Yes about 70% expect to have everything paid for them on here and in the vanilla dating world. I know wonrn that date every evening and get s free meal every day of the week. " That's a really bold claim | |||
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"Foodie calls are a trend for most women on the dating scene. But ask your female friends if they would want to pay 50 50 on a first date. " All my friends would expect to pay for themselves. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere." Please will you pay for my 10k entry?! | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " This... | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere." I've never had that, maybe you're picking badly as going dutch is the modern way | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. Please will you pay for my 10k entry?! " No chance but I'll buy you lunch if you beat your PB | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. Please will you pay for my 10k entry?! No chance but I'll buy you lunch if you beat your PB " You're on Will you buy lunch for everyone else too!! | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." Not me, I offer to either pay or pay my share. I like being solvent and I like being independent...it's my way of saying to a man, 'this is me, and I can look after myself' | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. I've never had that, maybe you're picking badly as going dutch is the modern way " It’s the tight-ass way you mean lol. If a lady wants to go Dutch sure, I wouldn’t want her to feel uncomfortable. If she’s happy for me to be chivalrous, that works perfectly fine for me. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. Please will you pay for my 10k entry?! No chance but I'll buy you lunch if you beat your PB You're on Will you buy lunch for everyone else too!! " No worries, see you at Greggs | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. I've never had that, maybe you're picking badly as going dutch is the modern way " There's only so much Edam a man can eat though. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. Please will you pay for my 10k entry?! No chance but I'll buy you lunch if you beat your PB You're on Will you buy lunch for everyone else too!! No worries, see you at Greggs " Cheeky sod | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." I'm not unwilling But I'm also past the point of getting into some charade about insisting if a guy picks up the bill. I've nothing prove | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Not me, I offer to either pay or pay my share. I like being solvent and I like being independent...it's my way of saying to a man, 'this is me, and I can look after myself'" As a chivalrous guy, I have paid for dates fully, even with my female date earning 5x of my salary. Independence and affordability wasn’t in the mind of the ladies I’ve dated. Of course if they pushed to go Dutch then I’d oblige, as I want them to feel comfortable. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. I mean maybe not desperation but more wanting a young hot 20 year old to fuck them. Alot of these things these days which require payment are just...posher prostitution effectively. Not that that's a bad thing at all! You pay for good service all the time in real life x" Not just 20 year olds though I’ve had offers but I doubt they have 2 bob to rub together let alone give me all the pretty things lol | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. That’s odd. If she offers to pay I let her! What if she’s earning 10x what you are? Is it about earnings though, or paying your way? It’s about paying my way for me " Same. I don't want to be "beholden", to anyone. I have paid for coffee dates sometimes too. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Not me, I offer to either pay or pay my share. I like being solvent and I like being independent...it's my way of saying to a man, 'this is me, and I can look after myself'" Same. I remember my work colleagues being shocked when I said I'd paid the entire bill after a date. I enjoyed the food, enjoyed his company and I was the higher earner. Wasn't that shocking to me. | |||
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"It makes me feel deeply uncomfortable, and being a libra, the imbalance would make my head explode But if one person enjoys buying gifts and treating someone, and the other is happy to be treated - it all works, and no harm done. No?" Red you have hit the nail on the head, everything in moderation. When does buying something sexy from Ann Summers being OK, become not OK because 50 grand has gone on designer watches, holidays, etc. The same applies for everything else, there may be a sub/dom relationship where a smack on the bum eventually becomes physical abuse. It's all dependent on the people, pushing the boundaries of what people would normally accept is part of what we do, you just need to know when not to take that one step too far. | |||
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"Prostitution pure and simple. Each exploiting the other. " I would disagree it’s exploiting. Exploiting is one has a hold or power over another.it seems there is a fair exchange, if we park morality to one side. And who knows what the morality police think about swingers lol. | |||
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"Prostitution pure and simple. Each exploiting the other. I would disagree it’s exploiting. Exploiting is one has a hold or power over another.it seems there is a fair exchange, if we park morality to one side. And who knows what the morality police think about swingers lol. " Hmmmm. Is a fair exchange for one person to buy another relatively inexpensive undies from Ann Summers? Almost certainly. £50k watch? Holidays? University fees? In these relationships, there's usually one person of very good means (financially) and one of far poorer means. There's definitely a strong possibility of exploitation, when there's a massive disparity in the financial means, within a relationship based around money. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. They don't go down that road at all , they simply meet the Rich older guy and he looks after everything financially." No, I understand how a Sugar Parent (because it’s not just Sugar Daddies)/Sugar Baby relationship works, I was responding to comments in the thread related to dating/meets and women expecting men to pay for them. | |||
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"Some bitches just want money and will use their cunt to get it! Am right? " Bit rude to call the Sugar Daddy a cunt! | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." In my experience its 50/50. One fab friend expected us to pick up the tab for absolutely everything, even after we stopped being fab friends…. The other fab friend hates me even moving towards my wallet when we are out and about. | |||
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"Where the sugar mummies at? " Nice call | |||
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"Where the sugar mummies at? " I was buying my toyboy his Christmas present at perfume counter... The 30ml bottle was £50 and the £130 ml bottle was £100... I'll have the big one I said... Oh you don't have to do that hun, he said ... I'm not your gigolo... "Of course you are"... I said, handing my AmEx to the assistant... winking at her... who didn't know where to smirk... | |||
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"Some bitches just want money and will use their cunt to get it! Am right? Bit rude to call the Sugar Daddy a cunt! " But I am one (apparently) | |||
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"Prostitution pure and simple. Each exploiting the other. I would disagree it’s exploiting. Exploiting is one has a hold or power over another.it seems there is a fair exchange, if we park morality to one side. And who knows what the morality police think about swingers lol. Hmmmm. Is a fair exchange for one person to buy another relatively inexpensive undies from Ann Summers? Almost certainly. £50k watch? Holidays? University fees? In these relationships, there's usually one person of very good means (financially) and one of far poorer means. There's definitely a strong possibility of exploitation, when there's a massive disparity in the financial means, within a relationship based around money. " Absolutely this. | |||
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"Foodie calls are a trend for most women on the dating scene. But ask your female friends if they would want to pay 50 50 on a first date. All my friends would expect to pay for themselves. " And mine. Whenever I’ve talked about this with other women they’ve always said they’d pay their way. It’s an incredibly archaic view that the man should pay. | |||
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"Where the sugar mummies at? I was buying my toyboy his Christmas present at perfume counter... The 30ml bottle was £50 and the £130 ml bottle was £100... I'll have the big one I said... Oh you don't have to do that hun, he said ... I'm not your gigolo... "Of course you are"... I said, handing my AmEx to the assistant... winking at her... who didn't know where to smirk..." I need this in my life right now! | |||
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"I need this in my life right now! " Let me know when you're free and your postcode... I'll send the driver... | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. Fab is the only place I've met women who expected me to pay. Never experienced it elsewhere. I've never had that, maybe you're picking badly as going dutch is the modern way It’s the tight-ass way you mean lol. If a lady wants to go Dutch sure, I wouldn’t want her to feel uncomfortable. If she’s happy for me to be chivalrous, that works perfectly fine for me. " You said they expected you to pay, that's not you being chivalrous | |||
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"Foodie calls are a trend for most women on the dating scene. But ask your female friends if they would want to pay 50 50 on a first date. All my friends would expect to pay for themselves. And mine. Whenever I’ve talked about this with other women they’ve always said they’d pay their way. It’s an incredibly archaic view that the man should pay." Makes some guys feel small I guess if they don't get to pay it all themselves, not me though as I'm all for equality | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " Oh i could do with a shopping trip! Where do I sign up | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " Sugar daddies have the money that make dreams come true for a few and most adhere to their host x | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. Sugar daddies have the money that make dreams come true for a few and most adhere to their host x" Adhere to what? | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. I wouldn't expect a woman to pay a penny. It just doesn't seem right. Why? I earn more than my husband......" It's just what I expect to do | |||
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"Desperation from the sugar daddy. Prostitution from the woman. The mr " You think ? Desperation might be a bit much tbh , maybe he doesn't want any serious relationship and is only going down that road as he finds it easier ? As regards the Woman maybe she wants cash to pay for collage etc and when that is over so is her Sugar Daddy..who knows , l fully understand that some people play the part of what you have said but a lot of others do have alternative motives that in this World which can be financially hard they find no other alternative and go down that road, tbh it's not a situation l'd personally want if l was filthy rich financially , l personally wouldn't want it myself that lm only getting laid because l have money.. anyway l suppose people do .. people don't .. whatever is said here isn't gonna change their minds on what they do some like to be in that World of Sugar Daddie's ..others don't. | |||
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"Is there such a thing as a sugar mummy?" I want one of those , just for a day! Would he nice to be spoiled for a change! | |||
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"Where the sugar mummies at? I was buying my toyboy his Christmas present at perfume counter... The 30ml bottle was £50 and the £130 ml bottle was £100... I'll have the big one I said... Oh you don't have to do that hun, he said ... I'm not your gigolo... "Of course you are"... I said, handing my AmEx to the assistant... winking at her... who didn't know where to smirk..." | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. Sugar daddies have the money that make dreams come true for a few and most adhere to their host x" Exactly this. Lots of Thai Brides do this and the relationship Is nurtured. If its one sided and especially if gained under any deception it's prostitution. | |||
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"Some bitches just want money and will use their cunt to get it! Am right? " There's a man who messages me almost monthly, clearly models himself on a veri I once displayed but adds the opportunity of spoiling me as well. I think for some women receiving a message like that from someone like that would be a definite yes and I can sort of understand the appeal of a sugar baby lifestyle - I've never been spoiled for the day and it must be kind of nice to have that attention lavished on you. Not thinking/worrying about things. Then again, the common sense kicks in a few seconds later and I remember I'm a) too used to paying and b) too old. | |||
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"Desperation from the sugar daddy. Prostitution from the woman. The mr " Often. Not always. | |||
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"A sugar daddy is a guy who has money to burn who treats a younger female say like shes a princess....... Whats wrong with that? Not sure who could be classed as "desperate" in that scenario. " The thought is unable to attract without wealth. People being used for their assets, strikes a distasteful chord with many is all. Loads of people have a successful nurturing sugar relationship. It's when the cash hungry overstep their morals, and become coldhearted that people tend to remember. | |||
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"The first thing I would say is any girl advertising for a Sugar Daddy is probably not naive and understands what she is asking for. The degree may vary but the principle is clear. " I disagree. There are plenty of people who enter into such arrangements out of desperation and therefore are at risk of being exploited in some way. It might be a carefully planned/calculated thing for some, but for others, it's definitely not. We've heard some unpleasant stories via people at universities, mainly about the nature of the sexual activity expected by the person holding the purse strings. That's mainly where the danger lies. | |||
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"The first thing I would say is any girl advertising for a Sugar Daddy is probably not naive and understands what she is asking for. The degree may vary but the principle is clear. I disagree. There are plenty of people who enter into such arrangements out of desperation and therefore are at risk of being exploited in some way. It might be a carefully planned/calculated thing for some, but for others, it's definitely not. We've heard some unpleasant stories via people at universities, mainly about the nature of the sexual activity expected by the person holding the purse strings. That's mainly where the danger lies. " I suppose there is that risk that the Sugar Daddy makes unreasonable demands that go beyond expectations. That happens in any relationship area really. Predatory partners exploiting the other persons naivety or weaknesses. | |||
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"The first thing I would say is any girl advertising for a Sugar Daddy is probably not naive and understands what she is asking for. The degree may vary but the principle is clear. I disagree. There are plenty of people who enter into such arrangements out of desperation and therefore are at risk of being exploited in some way. It might be a carefully planned/calculated thing for some, but for others, it's definitely not. We've heard some unpleasant stories via people at universities, mainly about the nature of the sexual activity expected by the person holding the purse strings. That's mainly where the danger lies. I suppose there is that risk that the Sugar Daddy makes unreasonable demands that go beyond expectations. That happens in any relationship area really. Predatory partners exploiting the other persons naivety or weaknesses. " Indeed, but it's rare for genuine relationships to be so transactional. It's the "I'm giving you money/expensive stuff" aspect that helps in creating a possibly coercive situation. | |||
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"We’d like sugar parents please. Any couples out there wanna spoil us rotten and take us to a jungle gym? Also… boys like sparkling gifts too. (Just saying)" Do you need a sparkly ring Sam? | |||
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"Some bitches just want money and will use their cunt to get it! Am right? There's a man who messages me almost monthly, clearly models himself on a veri I once displayed but adds the opportunity of spoiling me as well. I think for some women receiving a message like that from someone like that would be a definite yes and I can sort of understand the appeal of a sugar baby lifestyle - I've never been spoiled for the day and it must be kind of nice to have that attention lavished on you. Not thinking/worrying about things. Then again, the common sense kicks in a few seconds later and I remember I'm a) too used to paying and b) too old." You aren't to old, if you are there's no hope for me. | |||
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"I suppose there is that risk that the Sugar Daddy makes unreasonable demands that go beyond expectations. That happens in any relationship area really. Predatory partners exploiting the other persons naivety or weaknesses. " It goes both ways. The person with the money can be taken advantage of by the person wanting it. Just like any fraudster/victim encounter, people will use what they know to manipulate you into getting what they want. | |||
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"A sugar daddy is a guy who has money to burn who treats a younger female say like shes a princess....... Whats wrong with that? Not sure who could be classed as "desperate" in that scenario. The thought is unable to attract without wealth. People being used for their assets, strikes a distasteful chord with many is all. Loads of people have a successful nurturing sugar relationship. It's when the cash hungry overstep their morals, and become coldhearted that people tend to remember." ahhh ok so many sugar daddies here then i ask because i obviously haven't came across any | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " Choice maybe? | |||
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"We’d like sugar parents please. Any couples out there wanna spoil us rotten and take us to a jungle gym? Also… boys like sparkling gifts too. (Just saying) Do you need a sparkly ring Sam? " Sprinkle some glitter on it and I’ll pop a finger in for ya | |||
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"I find it interesting that a few people on here have described sex in a sugar setup as "transactional" with a negative tone. Isn't all sex transactional? I think it is. It's just in sugar relationships the transaction involves, amongst other things, money. Sara Pascoe has a podcast called Sex, Power, Money and it's all about sex work. It's really interesting and I'd recommend it. Very eye opening for people who might not realise the reality of such situations. I don't see any issue with a sugar relationship as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult. I'd definitely do it myself, but I don't think I fit the typical physical type I've sold items of clothing, and some (clothed but intimate) photos before - I don't really see it as all that much different to that really. Obviously it's not for everyone, but for me, sex and time can be a commodity just like any other service - nothing wrong with being paid to provide those things." No I dont think it is always transactional, I have sex for pleasure, not gain. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " After leaving monogamy and a marriage behind, and coming to my senses in more ways that one. I can't judge people who are in this sugar-type relationship. Sex, intimacy, companionship, and connection is something that most people need. How people get that as long as they are not causing bodily and psychological harm is their prerogative. Because let's face it, most of us can't get that need met in a traditional monogamous marriage for a million reasons that is nobody's fault. | |||
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" No I dont think it is always transactional, I have sex for pleasure, not gain." But you gain pleasure? Ie you take it, and/or are given it, from/by the other party. Presumably you also give pleasure too, and/or the other person derives pleasure from sex with you. You're exchanging pleasure, and also giving your time and attention to each other - it's still a transaction. It just doesn't involve cash | |||
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" No I dont think it is always transactional, I have sex for pleasure, not gain. But you gain pleasure? Ie you take it, and/or are given it, from/by the other party. Presumably you also give pleasure too, and/or the other person derives pleasure from sex with you. You're exchanging pleasure, and also giving your time and attention to each other - it's still a transaction. It just doesn't involve cash " transaction is something thats bought or sold by definition | |||
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" transaction is something thats bought or sold by definition " So let's say you fix my car for me and don't charge, and in exchange I fix your website, also without charge. Are you really saying you think that's not a transaction? There was no cash... Exchanging things - money, time, items, ideas, emotions, sex, intimacy, friendship.... these are all a back and forth, each giving and receiving (not an exhaustive list)... only one in that list is money. I just don't think the description "transactional" in a negative way is helpful when discussing legal, consensual, sex work. | |||
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"A sugar daddy is a guy who has money to burn who treats a younger female say like shes a princess....... Whats wrong with that? Not sure who could be classed as "desperate" in that scenario. The thought is unable to attract without wealth. People being used for their assets, strikes a distasteful chord with many is all. Loads of people have a successful nurturing sugar relationship. It's when the cash hungry overstep their morals, and become coldhearted that people tend to remember.ahhh ok so many sugar daddies here then i ask because i obviously haven't came across any " Ahhh...I'm speaking across ranges not just fab based | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question." • And which requires a genuine answer (but not necessarily an absolute one). With regards to lunch or dinner: in the 3½ years I've been on here none have 'gone halves' - because none have offered. I've almost exclusively paid in full because, again, none have offered. Only two insisted on settling the bill in full. It is quite revealing and therefore make of that what you will! (I've paid because I genuinely wanted to) With all that said and done it's really not a big deal for me. As a footnote for the sake of honesty: it would be 'nice' to receive an offer to 'go Dutch' or even the 'momentary raising of the handbag off the floor' as a sincere gesture. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. • And which requires a genuine answer (but not necessarily an absolute one). With regards to lunch or dinner: in the 3½ years I've been on here none have 'gone halves' - because none have offered. I've almost exclusively paid in full because, again, none have offered. Only two insisted on settling the bill in full. It is quite revealing and therefore make of that what you will! (I've paid because I genuinely wanted to) With all that said and done it's really not a big deal for me. As a footnote for the sake of honesty: it would be 'nice' to receive an offer to 'go Dutch' or even the 'momentary raising of the handbag off the floor' as a sincere gesture." Thats because you haven't had lunch with me! | |||
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" transaction is something thats bought or sold by definition So let's say you fix my car for me and don't charge, and in exchange I fix your website, also without charge. Are you really saying you think that's not a transaction? There was no cash... Exchanging things - money, time, items, ideas, emotions, sex, intimacy, friendship.... these are all a back and forth, each giving and receiving (not an exhaustive list)... only one in that list is money. I just don't think the description "transactional" in a negative way is helpful when discussing legal, consensual, sex work. " If I understood correctly, when yuu it mentioned sex and transaction, sadly it becomes sex work. | |||
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" If I understood correctly, when yuu it mentioned sex and transaction, sadly it becomes sex work. " Firstly, no need for the "sadly' Secondly, of course paying for sex is a transaction. I never said it wasn't. I'm saying other types of sex can be described as transactions too. When I accept an invite in a club, it's with the express intention of exchanging pleasure (or whatever has been agreed). There's a give and take, a mutual benefit...that back and forth is a type of transaction | |||
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"I think it’s accepted a guy pays for a first date. Anything else is a bonus. I don’t begrudge, or feel hard done by. I often pay when the lady has gone to the restroom . So there’s no question about payment as it’s done. " The man paying gives me the "ick". I don't know if it was how I was raised ( mom and dad both paid for things sometimes 50/50 sometimes 60 /40 sometimes 70/30). Or all the "man buys dinner, then woman must give sex" tropes I've had ingrained in me over the years by the feminist/misogyny/manosphere movement. Or just because I'm neurodivergent and anyone doing anything nice for me is met with suspicion regardless of gender. Lol! Mostly I just ignore the "ick", reel in my urge to fight over the bill and apply my strongest therapy skill techniques to move like the Duchess of Grace and let the man do one of those "man things". Like most things, I eventually get over myself. lol! | |||
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"I think it’s accepted a guy pays for a first date. Anything else is a bonus. I don’t begrudge, or feel hard done by. I often pay when the lady has gone to the restroom . So there’s no question about payment as it’s done. The man paying gives me the "ick". I don't know if it was how I was raised ( mom and dad both paid for things sometimes 50/50 sometimes 60 /40 sometimes 70/30). Or all the "man buys dinner, then woman must give sex" tropes I've had ingrained in me over the years by the feminist/misogyny/manosphere movement. Or just because I'm neurodivergent and anyone doing anything nice for me is met with suspicion regardless of gender. Lol! Mostly I just ignore the "ick", reel in my urge to fight over the bill and apply my strongest therapy skill techniques to move like the Duchess of Grace and let the man do one of those "man things". Like most things, I eventually get over myself. lol!" No man should expect anything from simply being chivalrous. If a lady wants to pay or go Dutch I’m perfectly happy to split or be treated. It doesn’t affect my masculinity in anyway . | |||
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" transaction is something thats bought or sold by definition So let's say you fix my car for me and don't charge, and in exchange I fix your website, also without charge. Are you really saying you think that's not a transaction? There was no cash... Exchanging things - money, time, items, ideas, emotions, sex, intimacy, friendship.... these are all a back and forth, each giving and receiving (not an exhaustive list)... only one in that list is money. I just don't think the description "transactional" in a negative way is helpful when discussing legal, consensual, sex work. " they would be favours | |||
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" If I understood correctly, when yuu it mentioned sex and transaction, sadly it becomes sex work. Firstly, no need for the "sadly' Secondly, of course paying for sex is a transaction. I never said it wasn't. I'm saying other types of sex can be described as transactions too. When I accept an invite in a club, it's with the express intention of exchanging pleasure (or whatever has been agreed). There's a give and take, a mutual benefit...that back and forth is a type of transaction " You’ve really confused me . ‘Other types of sex’? If your example of someone paying your entry fee to a club in exchange for sex, then that is sex work. If your entry fee was paid on the condition sex might / might not happen, then I’d say that’s chivalry. | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. • And which requires a genuine answer (but not necessarily an absolute one). With regards to lunch or dinner: in the 3½ years I've been on here none have 'gone halves' - because none have offered. I've almost exclusively paid in full because, again, none have offered. Only two insisted on settling the bill in full. It is quite revealing and therefore make of that what you will! (I've paid because I genuinely wanted to) With all that said and done it's really not a big deal for me. As a footnote for the sake of honesty: it would be 'nice' to receive an offer to 'go Dutch' or even the 'momentary raising of the handbag off the floor' as a sincere gesture. Thats because you haven't had lunch with me!" • It would have to be a 'prix fixe' menu! | |||
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" You’ve really confused me . ‘Other types of sex’? If your example of someone paying your entry fee to a club in exchange for sex, then that is sex work. If your entry fee was paid on the condition sex might / might not happen, then I’d say that’s chivalry. " Type as in distinction between sex for work and sex that isn't work Also if paying my entry free for guaranteed sex is sex work then I better tell my partner that our last few club trips have actually been sex work | |||
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"Its just Capitalism. We encourage Capitalism and yet we sneer at the women who turn it to their advantage. " These sort of discussing remind me of a story in the 1920s America. Henry Ford at a society dinner found himself next to a beautiful socialite. Ford asked her two questions " If I gave you $5000 would you have sex with me. SOCIALITE, 'Yes of course', she replied. FORD 'Would you have sex with me for $5?' Socialite. ' No what kind of girl do you think I am?' Ford. ' We have established what kind of girl you are, the rest is simply a matter of negotiation.' And that I think sums up a sugar daddy and the woman who becomes one perfectly. | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " why do you say its all they can do? | |||
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"Its just Capitalism. We encourage Capitalism and yet we sneer at the women who turn it to their advantage. These sort of discussing remind me of a story in the 1920s America. Henry Ford at a society dinner found himself next to a beautiful socialite. Ford asked her two questions " If I gave you $5000 would you have sex with me. SOCIALITE, 'Yes of course', she replied. FORD 'Would you have sex with me for $5?' Socialite. ' No what kind of girl do you think I am?' Ford. ' We have established what kind of girl you are, the rest is simply a matter of negotiation.' And that I think sums up a sugar daddy and the woman who becomes one perfectly. " So Henry for was a sugar daddy? | |||
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"Are there really still large numbers of women unwilling to go halves?! Genuine question. • And which requires a genuine answer (but not necessarily an absolute one). With regards to lunch or dinner: in the 3½ years I've been on here none have 'gone halves' - because none have offered. I've almost exclusively paid in full because, again, none have offered. Only two insisted on settling the bill in full. It is quite revealing and therefore make of that what you will! (I've paid because I genuinely wanted to) With all that said and done it's really not a big deal for me. As a footnote for the sake of honesty: it would be 'nice' to receive an offer to 'go Dutch' or even the 'momentary raising of the handbag off the floor' as a sincere gesture. Thats because you haven't had lunch with me! • It would have to be a 'prix fixe' menu! " | |||
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"You have seen the type, all they can do is offer shopping trips to entice a woman to spend time with them. " . We all, men and women, spend our money as we wish, to buy whatever it is we want. Attention from and the company of an attractive woman is no different from getting a person round to clear your drains or any other service. If it suits both parties then it works for them. Trying to denigrate “the type” of man who offers a shopping trip is no different from “the type” who can’t clear their own drains. | |||
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"Let’s be honest, anyone who wants a sugar daddy/mummy set up is trading sex for money/gifts. It is a form of prostitution. That doesn’t make it remotely wrong. As long as both parties are genuinely happy with the transaction then no harm done. But let’s not butter it up." It doesn't always include sexual interaction though. | |||
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"Let’s be honest, anyone who wants a sugar daddy/mummy set up is trading sex for money/gifts. It is a form of prostitution. That doesn’t make it remotely wrong. As long as both parties are genuinely happy with the transaction then no harm done. But let’s not butter it up." Think if we look at it like that, there's many relationships could unknowingly fit the description? People just don't realise it until circumstances change and life isn't so great? As long as it works for people, it's noone else's business. | |||
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"Desperation from both sides I’d say. Plenty of women seem to be up for it. " This Just funny in interviews when they say ‘all they offer in return is companionship’ hahaha yeah right | |||
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"The sugar babies are clever, where you guys are giving sex away for free, they getting paid for it and it's on their terms. So who is in control?" I can be your babe | |||
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"yeah its desperate, but they can also potentially sleep with someone above thier weight that wouldnt usually be a option. thats what the famous bbc presenter is, on 400k and generous with his money " Just like life... People doing stuff with others because they want to. | |||
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"yeah its desperate, but they can also potentially sleep with someone above thier weight that wouldnt usually be a option. thats what the famous bbc presenter is, on 400k and generous with his money " Above their weight? I'm fine, Mr KC weighs less than me | |||
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"yeah its desperate, but they can also potentially sleep with someone above thier weight that wouldnt usually be a option. thats what the famous bbc presenter is, on 400k and generous with his money Above their weight? I'm fine, Mr KC weighs less than me " Lol I mean old men can sleep with people much younger because they are giving them money. Without the money the younger person may not be interested | |||
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