A mutually satisfying sexual encounter where both parties have a prior agreement that romantic attachments are not part of the arrangement- potentially to the extent of anonymity, and often a one-off occurrence.
It differs from a Friends With Benefits arrangement as these relationships involve a social element on an ongoing basis but not a romantic relationship. |
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Yeah in all seriousness it just means no commitment to each other. No exclusivity essentially, you can both do whatever you want / feel how you want but can do the same with others.
Usually ends in someone getting feelings and then heartbreak  |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"Just sex
Don’t need to know they life’s hang ups and such
What job they have
They use me I am useing them nothing more nothing less
One off or regular "
I don’t think it just means just sex though |
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It's a term that still flummoxes me, along with FWB. I know within my heart and mind what I'm looking for and desire, but I stop short of shoe-horning it into a term.
What does it mean to •me•? It means EVERYTHING, except the spousal attachment, the union, the commitment, the romance, the yearning, the love...; but not at the detriment to what is important to me: feelings, closeness, bonding, mental connection, trust, unconditional friendship, tactility and substance.
But that's just me. |
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"Just sex
Don’t need to know they life’s hang ups and such
What job they have
They use me I am useing them nothing more nothing less
One off or regular
I don’t think it just means just sex though "
True it could mean other things |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"It's amazing how many people believe it just means sex. This modern world  "
I'd say its more a case of within the context of the company around here and the room that the examples will surround sex.
What people have said does not change the meaning, which is essentially "here is the deal, we do this and that's done, no little extras or frills. The end" |
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I think it’s a term that can be something someone wants from here. No strings fun.
But I like there to be a connection with my playmates so I invest time and effort into that. So it doesn’t really apply to what I’m looking for OP
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"No Strings Attached.
What does that phrase mean to you?"
I suppose to get technical about it, NSA is defined in opposition to having ‘strings’ attached. So what are those strings and why might you not want them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a real boy..
Great minds 
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Incidentally, I require my Tripod. But keep my pristine white shirt, with the pearlescent buttons."
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"No Strings Attached.
What does that phrase mean to you?
I suppose to get technical about it, NSA is defined in opposition to having ‘strings’ attached. So what are those strings and why might you not want them?"
So how would you answer, sir?  |
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"No Strings Attached.
What does that phrase mean to you?
I suppose to get technical about it, NSA is defined in opposition to having ‘strings’ attached. So what are those strings and why might you not want them?
So how would you answer, sir? "
One man's string, is another man's nipple chain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's amazing how many people believe it just means sex. This modern world
So what is it to you, if not just sex?"
I expressed what it means to me in a previous post on the thread |
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"It's amazing how many people believe it just means sex. This modern world
So what is it to you, if not just sex?
I expressed what it means to me in a previous post on the thread"
Blimey, ok. Thanks for your input. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No Such Thing ..... !!!"
This is what I think. There are always strings. I want to care, and if I don’t care, I don’t see the point.
As Harlot said above - no hassle/ baggage is a similar concept. We all have it, but some won’t acknowledge it… |
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"No Such Thing ..... !!!
This is what I think. There are always strings. I want to care, and if I don’t care, I don’t see the point.
As Harlot said above - no hassle/ baggage is a similar concept. We all have it, but some won’t acknowledge it…"
But I think that depends on the person then. Maybe for you, there's no such things as you want to e emotionally I vested in the meet. But that doesn't apply to others who want to meet and purely see sex as an act between two consenting adults and nothing more |
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"No Such Thing ..... !!!
This is what I think. There are always strings. I want to care, and if I don’t care, I don’t see the point.
As Harlot said above - no hassle/ baggage is a similar concept. We all have it, but some won’t acknowledge it…"
And this is why swinging and swingers speak to me. I like people who I get along with. I don’t just want to forget who they are after we’ve been intimate.
NSA bothered me, and I don’t go looking for that with anyone. Been there, and i felt like shit afterwards. |
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"No Such Thing ..... !!!
This is what I think. There are always strings. I want to care, and if I don’t care, I don’t see the point.
As Harlot said above - no hassle/ baggage is a similar concept. We all have it, but some won’t acknowledge it…
And this is why swinging and swingers speak to me. I like people who I get along with. I don’t just want to forget who they are after we’ve been intimate.
NSA bothered me, and I don’t go looking for that with anyone. Been there, and i felt like shit afterwards. "
Yes I'm with you on that Woody NSA makes you feel as though you are just there to perform, make them cum and leave no kissing no intimacy  |
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NSA - Meet and go our separate ways, may never meet again.
No emotional involvement.
I see a progression to FB and finally FWB if we get on well.
Even a FWB would never be a part of my RL. |
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"So how would you answer, sir? "
Oooh, I think I like it when you call me ‘Sir’.
The answer to this is going to vary person by person. As it should!
For me, no strings means no ties. No commitments beyond being good to each other.
Nothing’s specifically off the table, it’s just a relaxed sexual relationship between two people. Whether that’s for a few hours or a few decades.
Whereas, in contrast, I’m married. That’s a sexual relationship which very much comes with strings attached. There’s a ring, a house, a duty of care to each other, a garage full of cars, a dog to look after, gas bills to pay and all sorts. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It means, definitely not for me.
I can understand why it works/how it could work for others. Have sex. Don't see each other again. No how are you messages, random chats. Pretty perfunctory, heat of the moment sort of sex. Simple. Uncomplicated.
But for me, I like strings. I like friendship. I'd love for it to be minimal drama, wouldn't we all? No one wants to deliberately court it. I don't want to move in with anyone. Get married. Have a child with them.
It's such a subjective term isn't it? |
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Yes, as many have said, the strings are what I'm looking for. That connection is the key. Sex can be the supreme expression of that connection, a catalyst for it, or one essential element of touch and desire, but I never want to have 'just' sex. It would do nothing for me. I'd infinitely rather a sexless connection than a connectionless shag. And yet sex is hugely important to me.
Doesn't mean we have to be all Victorian about it. Sex doesn't have to mean moving in together, let alone marriage/kids/mortgage - the full catastrophe, as they put it in Zorba the Greek. But it's partly because I love people, and partly because I crave responsibility - I WANT to know about your day, your family problems, what the lady in the flower shop said about your hair...everything. For at least that time together, I need us to be the whole world to each other.
I ended a relationship with someone shortly before I joined here - someone who sometimes said she wanted to marry me, that she loved me, and far more extravagantly romantic things - because she never wanted to talk about her life anymore. She actively shut down talk like that. I had become at worst a distraction, at best a wonderful fantasy. But I wasn't real anymore. In a way, I didn't matter. That's not for me.
(Shouldn't need saying, yet somehow always does on these threads...OBVIOUSLY these are entirely personal opinions, and OBVIOUSLY there are masses of people who are wholly happy and fulfilled with physical only sex.) |
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"It's amazing how many people believe it just means sex. This modern world
So what is it to you, if not just sex?
I expressed what it means to me in a previous post on the thread
Blimey, ok. Thanks for your input."
Blimey? Hah I'm assuming you were hoping for a deeper meaning with more words. What does NSA mean to you? |
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