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What is considered a good first message?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, this is where your approach will fail.
Adapt to the individual, what does their profile say, how do they come across, what can you offer.
It's not like a secret phrase that must be uttered.
It's your mentality that has to be on point. And that requires more than a good opener.
RIP this thread though, they'll be loads of attempts at humour.
Some might even work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).
Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).
Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).
But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.
There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )
Have fun! |
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I would not know as they rarely work for me. Most of my recent meets have been the result of the lady sending the first message. So my advice is to sit back and let the ladies flock to you my friend  |
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"Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems.  "
It will differ with every single person you message. We all like different things.
If I get a message from someone new I look at their profile before the message. Your profile is pretty good in my opinion (I can’t say here what I don’t like unless you specifically ask for feedback) so I’d then look at your message. I’d be looking for signs that you had read my profile and that you could offer what I am looking for. Because you say you like funny ladies I’d like to see that you have a sense of humour too that hopefully works well with mine ie not just banter, so some element of displaying that would be good 
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O.P.
Read their profile.
Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....
the best of luck to you o.p. |
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"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).
Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).
Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).
But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.
There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )
Have fun!"
Agree, especially about giving a reason to respond |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately there is no “easy” message that will work
That you can copy from here and paste
As ever message should be tallerd to suit that person and they profile
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).
Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).
Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).
But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.
There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )
Have fun!
Agree, especially about giving a reason to respond "
Have also done this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"O.P.
Read their profile.
Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....
the best of luck to you o.p. "
Have done this |
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By *uddlesXXXCouple
over a year ago
Huddersfield area |
The only few messages that I have been inclined to reply to, were those that addressed us as people and not just a play thing. Those who actually read the profile that we can't meet at the drop of a hat, drop a face pic and we're more likely to respond. Pick up on little parts of the profile and make comments on that.
None of that copy and paste shit, we can generally see right through messages like that
I need the social side to be flowing before I could even consider a meet, let alone have my clothes taken off 
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I generally wait until the person I want to message is ‘online’ before I send. That way they will see the new message notification, and if your message is good then they are likely to reply then and there.
There is little point in messaging someone that has not been on the site for days as their inbox will be heaving with other messages and yours will just get lost in the pile.
Of course, this doesn’t negate the possibility that the recipient will consider you not her type or the message dull and uninspiring.
Good luck |
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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago
Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K. |
"Prove you have read their profile (comment on something they have said, provide a photo if that is what they request).
Tell them why you have contacted them (location, interests etc - what aspect of their profile appeals).
Give them a reason to respond (ask a question, provide a next step).
But before you contact them, make sure your profile is working for you and what you are seeking - be honest, provide details, add up to date photos.
There is no magic formula when it comes to messaging. Treat others as you would like to be treated (works in life, works on Fab )
Have fun!"
I agree with this as well! |
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"Don't be sleezy, read theor profile and try and come up with something on their profile that might get a response."
Sleezy guys need love too, no discrimination against sleezy people, sleezy lives matter. |
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"One with out a cock in it…  "
That would be me, not on the profile, not on the public pics, specifically noted on the bio.
Am I shy? Fuck no, if people are that curious I'll send you a download link for a fleshlight session with a rope that goes halfway across the room. But, I totally get that people should only get to see that if they want to. |
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Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honestly, guy to guy... Don't bother. You can write the best, most personal message related to the profile, ask a good question to open conversation, compliment them on their pictures and it'll still go unread and deleted and all that effort was for nothing and you'll end up disheartened and rather bitter. Best thing would be to work on your own profile and let them come to you. |
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"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suggestion very much welcome. Not a very popular Fabber it seems. "
You've been here the grand total of 6weeks. Bit premature to be bemoaning.
If you want feedback on your profile you need to specifically ask for it or just check out the few dozen older threads for tips |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more."
If only you were 18 and a fresher.
Never mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone telling you what to say isn’t you then…"
This.
I like humour, sarcastic humour and a slight couldn't give a fuck attitude.
But that's just who someone is, it's not someone you can pretend to be. |
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"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more.
If only you were 18 and a fresher.
Never mind."
Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very lengthy, extremely verbose homegrown erotica always does it for me. Joyce-esque punctuation dodging is a must, even better if you've got a Dickensian vocabulary. And if you make sure it takes me days to get to the end of it then you've got me hooked and coming back for more.
If only you were 18 and a fresher.
Never mind.
Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that? "
Honestly, I'd probably be there with you. Just doing what everyone else is, hoping that the passing of ones family and the inevitable property price crash leave us with, something? Turnips maybe.
I mean, I'd have to be a literal sugar daddy, granulated, caster, demerara, confectioners and one with deep rich molasses.
Might even stretch to actual cubes if your lucky.
The one benefit is that ick feeling would just be the sugar on the fingertips, not, ya know, deeply concerning abuse.
Tomato po-tah-toe or horse's for different fish in the sea.
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Hey, I may no longer be in the first flush however I *can* offer skint, naive and vulnerable - can you work with that? "
Depends, if you put the same profile on Christian Mingle do you think you would get more feedback or less? |
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"O.P.
Read their profile.
Send a message saying :- hello , I'm do dah, I read your profile and I'm interested. Take a look at my profile and pics and if you are interested in speaking more get in touch....
the best of luck to you o.p.
Have done this"
Do it more than once |
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