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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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over a year ago
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Male or Female I can't do more than three shortish paragraphs. They should preferably be neither too boastful or too self denigrating, specific not vague, and funny without trying too hard. Bonus point for good spelling and grammar and please, NO SHOUTING.
So the exact opposite of mine really. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Nobody really reads them anyway "
Oh I disagree (hence putting this thread up!) - I read every profile that has messaged, of course some take 2 seconds only as they just mention "fill in later" or something.
Seriously, I think guys have much greater chances of meets if they have a decent profile.
So many women have stated in their profiles what they like and dislike and still receive unsolicited cock pictures and ""How are you finding the site?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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Yeah, but did he say he was professional? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Male or Female I can't do more than three shortish paragraphs. They should preferably be neither too boastful or too self denigrating, specific not vague, and funny without trying too hard. Bonus point for good spelling and grammar and please, NO SHOUTING.
So the exact opposite of mine really. "
You used to have a good one though! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Confidence. Not in a "I'll lick pussy for hours" kinda way, more like relaxed and chatty and self aware. "
Completely agree - turn off for me.
What would be a turn-on phrase example for you? |
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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humour and thought  |
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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Good information and nice classy pictures I look for |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
Yeah, but did he say he was professional? "
I think if you are professional (I never know whether that refers to somebody's work or their sexual skills...)
you do not need to mention it perhaps? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
humour and thought "
100 % for me |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I'm not a sales man... Just a man. A horny man at that "
Understand that completely.
I think the profile is a platform that leads to a click though and if the profile has something, even a small comment that makes me wonder/ chuckle/ become intrigued... then I will look deeper? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Male or Female I can't do more than three shortish paragraphs. They should preferably be neither too boastful or too self denigrating, specific not vague, and funny without trying too hard. Bonus point for good spelling and grammar and please, NO SHOUTING.
So the exact opposite of mine really.
You used to have a good one though! "
Ah thanks OP 
Not meeting or messaging now so don't want to encourage a flood of hotties  |
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What makes a great profile is very subjective. What appeals to one person will put another off. However I am a big believer in “Informative and helpful “ profiles. What I mean is profiles that very clearly communicate what that person or couple seek. I like “cut to the chase” profiles that leave you in no doubt as to whether or not you should reach out to them. Time is precious isn’t it ?  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"effort & originality.
Effort is a big one for me, too.
This 1000%
And some creative, original photos. Even a tasteful cock pic or two.
A"
Absolutely agree... I don't mind a tasteful cock shot in a profile - I just don't appreciate being sent a random dick picture as a way of introduction |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"What makes a great profile is very subjective. What appeals to one person will put another off. However I am a big believer in “Informative and helpful “ profiles. What I mean is profiles that very clearly communicate what that person or couple seek. I like “cut to the chase” profiles that leave you in no doubt as to whether or not you should reach out to them. Time is precious isn’t it ? "
Agreed - and yours is very clear in its message - I have peeped a fair few times just to be sure I had seen all the pictures as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Something borrowed, something blue, something old, something rude.
Yours is great to read, had me chuckle! "
Ahh, thank you, but strangely as soon as I posted this I went into it and edited it, only just saved it, so you'll have to check it out again... |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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I have tried all kind of approaches to my profile and I believe that you can never right the perfect one here unless you have a degree in creative writing.you either peal to people or not. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Something borrowed, something blue, something old, something rude.
Yours is great to read, had me chuckle!
Ahh, thank you, but strangely as soon as I posted this I went into it and edited it, only just saved it, so you'll have to check it out again..."
I simply had to... and it made me chuckle again... |
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But what do you give ? You like to know what others seek but do you share what you have to offer.
I read a profile on the forum very recently because a poster requested it and they requested feedback. I didn't give feedback. I avoided being open and honest.
Most people praised the profile. I just thought , 'this is written by someone desperately trying to portray themselves as something they aspire to' .... they really missed out the nuts and bolts. They didn't write it from the 'buyers' perspective and they didn't say what they could bring to the table.
It was like reading a sugary ideal beneath the image of a wannabee adonis....
It was empty of attraction in any way. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
I have tried all kind of approaches to my profile and I believe that you can never right the perfect one here unless you have a degree in creative writing.you either peal to people or not. "
For me, yours is a good example of a short but expressive profile with good pictures as it tells me a bit about the kind of person you are. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
It's very subjective...for me it would be the content (pics /vidoes)...showcasing a mix of eroticism, artistic talent and being able to express some of the person's personality in it. The dick/pussy pics, penis in vagina pics and bathroom selfies are just boring! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"But what do you give ? You like to know what others seek but do you share what you have to offer.
I read a profile on the forum very recently because a poster requested it and they requested feedback. I didn't give feedback. I avoided being open and honest.
Most people praised the profile. I just thought , 'this is written by someone desperately trying to portray themselves as something they aspire to' .... they really missed out the nuts and bolts. They didn't write it from the 'buyers' perspective and they didn't say what they could bring to the table.
It was like reading a sugary ideal beneath the image of a wannabee adonis....
It was empty of attraction in any way."
And while different profiles surely can cater for different tastes...I agree that anything that sounds non-authentic would likely elicit similar responses in other people. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's very subjective...for me it would be the content (pics /vidoes)...showcasing a mix of eroticism, artistic talent and being able to express some of the person's personality in it. The dick/pussy pics, penis in vagina pics and bathroom selfies are just boring! "
I find them boring, too, tbh.
I know that not everybody has visual literacy and the ability to write creatively - and surely trying to imagine what the reader might think reading the profile and listening to the common noises in the forums eg about unsolicited dick pics and one liner profiles.... would make people think about putting a bit more content? |
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One of my favourite male profile pictures was a guy standing next to Town or Village signs that had unusual or risqué names like Cockermouth or Bitchfield.
Best text was a poem, very funny and rude.
Both guys had verifications and they weren’t Greek gods, but you could tell they would be fun to meet.  |
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I’ve been complimented over my profile, but ultimately it’s pretty whimsical, although I hope it makes people who can be bothered to read it at least smile; and occasionally chortle.
I like a profile that makes me feel I’d like to spend time in this person’s company not necessarily in a sexual way. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"One of my favourite male profile pictures was a guy standing next to Town or Village signs that had unusual or risqué names like Cockermouth or Bitchfield.
Best text was a poem, very funny and rude.
Both guys had verifications and they weren’t Greek gods, but you could tell they would be fun to meet. "
That's what I am looking for - people whose company I would enjoy. For me sex is better with people I like, enjoy laughing with and just feel good in their company. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I’ve been complimented over my profile, but ultimately it’s pretty whimsical, although I hope it makes people who can be bothered to read it at least smile; and occasionally chortle.
I like a profile that makes me feel I’d like to spend time in this person’s company not necessarily in a sexual way. "
Just read yours.... I want to be in that cupboard with you, alas I think my bum is too big to fit both of us in there.
Brilliant profile! |
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By *eliusMan
over a year ago
Henlow |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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I thought mine was pretty damn good but have told (a few times) that this is a serious sex site and no place for humour … ain’t changing it though - lol
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
I thought mine was pretty damn good but have told (a few times) that this is a serious sex site and no place for humour … ain’t changing it though - lol
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For what it's worth.... a darn side better than so many one liner profiles. Just my preference, I like it! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"An honest one... "
Actually good point.... you want to meet the person on the pictures not the one whose pictures were taken three decades ago.
On another note, you have really great pictures! |
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"An honest one...
Actually good point.... you want to meet the person on the pictures not the one whose pictures were taken three decades ago.
On another note, you have really great pictures! "
Thank you x
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"effort & originality.
Effort is a big one for me, too.
This 1000%
And some creative, original photos. Even a tasteful cock pic or two.
AAbsolutely agree... I don't mind a tasteful cock shot in a profile - I just don't appreciate being sent a random dick picture as a way of introduction "
I don't post them at all, if people don't want a random dick pic sent in a message, why should I make them see one on the public profile too? The friends stuff has it, I will happily send one on demand in a private message. As far as profile goes, wording is always tricky because I'm much better verbally than written and I suspect a lot of people get bypassed for this reason when in real life they are probably very witty and obane. Everyone is allowed to be picky, but if I start to put too many don'ts on my own profile it can make me look arrogant and narcissistic. Ladies can do that because the sheer weight of rubbish landing in their message box means they have to.
Anyway, OP you have a very interesting profile and you seem like a good person, just one that has been messed around a lot. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I like funny ones, that show a personality. The best one I read was a guy not on the forums who had a ridiculously long profile, but it was compelling and led me to message first. "
This! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I've been complimented in mine and have also received ransom abuse,if it's a bit marmite then that's what I was hoping for"
It is informative and brings you out as a person rather than a random cock - great in my mind! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I had a message the other day saying mine was well written, so I guess the months of tweaking it here and there have been worth it. Shame she was the opposite end of the country."
Again, your profile clearly states who and what you are! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I’ve changed mine numerous times does not seem to make any difference
I very very rarely get a message first."
You know this is a mystery to me because profile and pictures are good IMHO - perhaps to do with numbers game and not living close to a big city? Nothing wrong with your profile, well it drew me in for sure! |
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By *rtyIanMan
over a year ago
Gateway to the Beacons |
"I’ve changed mine numerous times does not seem to make any difference
I very very rarely get a message first.
You know this is a mystery to me because profile and pictures are good IMHO - perhaps to do with numbers game and not living close to a big city? Nothing wrong with your profile, well it drew me in for sure! "
You are biased.  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"effort & originality.
Effort is a big one for me, too.
This 1000%
And some creative, original photos. Even a tasteful cock pic or two.
AAbsolutely agree... I don't mind a tasteful cock shot in a profile - I just don't appreciate being sent a random dick picture as a way of introduction
I don't post them at all, if people don't want a random dick pic sent in a message, why should I make them see one on the public profile too? The friends stuff has it, I will happily send one on demand in a private message. As far as profile goes, wording is always tricky because I'm much better verbally than written and I suspect a lot of people get bypassed for this reason when in real life they are probably very witty and obane. Everyone is allowed to be picky, but if I start to put too many don'ts on my own profile it can make me look arrogant and narcissistic. Ladies can do that because the sheer weight of rubbish landing in their message box means they have to.
Anyway, OP you have a very interesting profile and you seem like a good person, just one that has been messed around a lot. "
Aww, thank you 
I do actually try to be a good person in real life (sometimes I am bad without trying to be but then I have been told is when I am bad I am actually...) better
I can also honestly say that I have actually not been messed about a lot - if anything I have been told I sound dominant and like a no messing kind of person.
I have received a lot of cock pictures despite requesting on my profile for this not to happen and loads of one liner messages which I now ignore.
I think if some people (probably mainly males) were to read profiles and perhaps listened a bit to what women really want, they could be more successful.
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve changed mine numerous times does not seem to make any difference
I very very rarely get a message first.
You know this is a mystery to me because profile and pictures are good IMHO - perhaps to do with numbers game and not living close to a big city? Nothing wrong with your profile, well it drew me in for sure!
You are biased. "
Probably - you should not be so sexy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Long time no see been a while I think my re right is good Yours is really detailed and people can see what you are about, which in my mind is a good thing! "
I did try to cover everything I could think off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Long time no see been a while I think my re right is good Yours is really detailed and people can see what you are about, which in my mind is a good thing!
I did try to cover everything I could think off Absolutely achieved that I think! "
Awww thank you so much x |
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" Aww, thank you
I do actually try to be a good person in real life (sometimes I am bad without trying to be but then I have been told is when I am bad I am actually...) better
I can also honestly say that I have actually not been messed about a lot - if anything I have been told I sound dominant and like a no messing kind of person.
I have received a lot of cock pictures despite requesting on my profile for this not to happen and loads of one liner messages which I now ignore.
I think if some people (probably mainly males) were to read profiles and perhaps listened a bit to what women really want, they could be more successful.
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Well, you accepted my compliment and were kind enough not to rip my profile to shreds, so I'm a happy bunny. If you bump into me at one of the clubs, make me buy you a drink and I'll introduce you to my owners. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
" Aww, thank you
I do actually try to be a good person in real life (sometimes I am bad without trying to be but then I have been told is when I am bad I am actually...) better
I can also honestly say that I have actually not been messed about a lot - if anything I have been told I sound dominant and like a no messing kind of person.
I have received a lot of cock pictures despite requesting on my profile for this not to happen and loads of one liner messages which I now ignore.
I think if some people (probably mainly males) were to read profiles and perhaps listened a bit to what women really want, they could be more successful.
Well, you accepted my compliment and were kind enough not to rip my profile to shreds, so I'm a happy bunny. If you bump into me at one of the clubs, make me buy you a drink and I'll introduce you to my owners."
Why on earth would I want to rip your profile to shreds? Not my style - people have different styles, different ways of living and one thing I really love about this country is that people seem more accepting of differences than in some other places I have lived.
Might take you up on that drink...;-) x |
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By *immyGGMan
over a year ago
South Cheshire |
"I had a message the other day saying mine was well written, so I guess the months of tweaking it here and there have been worth it. Shame she was the opposite end of the country.
Again, your profile clearly states who and what you are! "
Thankyou x |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I've been told mine is ok.
It is honest and open, has some really good pictures. Gets my vote in terms of profile!
Ahem, what do you mean by "some" good pictures !? "
I have liked the ones I think are good pics - different profile visitors might find the other ones great. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I try and adapt my bio when I can as there are some well written ones out there. I find some profiles entertaining and a tad weird  "
I think we all put out on our profiles what we feel comfortable with - I understand your reluctance of putting a face picture visibly to everyone - I would not do that either. |
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"I've been told mine is ok.
It is honest and open, has some really good pictures. Gets my vote in terms of profile!
Ahem, what do you mean by "some" good pictures !? I have liked the ones I think are good pics - different profile visitors might find the other ones great. "
I was just being silly. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"I've been complimented in mine and have also received ransom abuse,if it's a bit marmite then that's what I was hoping for It is informative and brings you out as a person rather than a random cock - great in my mind! "
Thank you. It also has far less typoes than my forum posts
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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Completely disagree with those who claim nobody reads profiles anyway! For me, they're so important. They've got to fulfil several main purposes - to inform and to intrigue being the main ones, I guess. But also they must stay within certain parameters - mainly not being too slutty (just a little bit, though!), neither being too vague or withdrawn (I need you to give me SOMETHING, after all!). It's subtle... and highly subjective! |
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over a year ago
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"I try and adapt my bio when I can as there are some well written ones out there. I find some profiles entertaining and a tad weird I think we all put out on our profiles what we feel comfortable with - I understand your reluctance of putting a face picture visibly to everyone - I would not do that either. "
I refuse to put my face on something like Fab until I know I can’t trust them I MAY send one in a message |
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"I like a profile that has had effort put into it and allows a little of their personality to shine through. If it makes me smile then even better. "
You have a very good profile, it says exactly what you do and don't want. Being very attractive as you are though, is it a double edge sword, attracting the wrong kind of attention? |
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"I like a profile that has had effort put into it and allows a little of their personality to shine through. If it makes me smile then even better.
You have a very good profile, it says exactly what you do and don't want. Being very attractive as you are though, is it a double edge sword, attracting the wrong kind of attention?"
Thank you… but pretty much every woman on here attracts messages from people that aren’t for them. It’s just how the site is. |
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Thank you… but pretty much every woman on here attracts messages from people that aren’t for them. It’s just how the site is."
I'm almost annoyed that my age is on the very edge of your range, still another year till I sail off the end of the world though. What are your thoughts on bypassing messaging completely and just speaking to people in the clubs like Chams or The Attic? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I kept chopping stuff out of mine and now there’s hardly anything left. "
I just realised I created more work (and fun!!) for myself as I find myself checking out every profile and its pictures. Glad I did though.... would have missed some really good ones like these... |
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We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
Completely disagree with those who claim nobody reads profiles anyway! For me, they're so important. They've got to fulfil several main purposes - to inform and to intrigue being the main ones, I guess. But also they must stay within certain parameters - mainly not being too slutty (just a little bit, though!), neither being too vague or withdrawn (I need you to give me SOMETHING, after all!). It's subtle... and highly subjective! "
Again, a really interesting profile which I would not have seen if I had not put up this thread. Great pictures, an example of being fully dressed (sort of..) and still very sexy! |
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I don't think my profile is particularly enticing but I wanted it to be honest.
For me, though I'm put off more by what a profile says they're not looking for than I am by what it says. I find it more important how they come across in the forums and over messages than what's written on their profile.
That said I've seen a few profiles where the person managed to get their personality over very well. That's got to help win people over. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like a profile that has had effort put into it and allows a little of their personality to shine through. If it makes me smile then even better. "
So glad to hear ladies agree that we want to see some. effort in the write up. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Effort to share himself, more than just his cock. Something about his personality or interests.
Confidence not arrogance. "
Spot on and I love the statement in your profile about being asked "what type" ... so true! |
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I feel that putting in a profile with a description of what you like , a bit about yourself , A handful of pics and make it genuine and a bit of humour , I always take my time to read profiles and enjoy hating a bit first, I tend to think you get better responses from them , mines probably not fir everyone but know it’s hopefully better done than a lot |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
Mrs "
That is a tricky one , isn't it? When I was part of a couple, we had a few pics of him but not on general display more for those who were intrigued by our profile. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I don't think my profile is particularly enticing but I wanted it to be honest.
For me, though I'm put off more by what a profile says they're not looking for than I am by what it says. I find it more important how they come across in the forums and over messages than what's written on their profile.
That said I've seen a few profiles where the person managed to get their personality over very well. That's got to help win people over."
It is not easy, I agree, to show your personality without actually saying too much or sounding full of oneself. I also think it is a good thing to review a profile from time to time to see if it is still what you want it to be. Some people do not change their profile and that's probably accurate as to who they are but some of us change over the years, not just in looks. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I feel that putting in a profile with a description of what you like , a bit about yourself , A handful of pics and make it genuine and a bit of humour , I always take my time to read profiles and enjoy hating a bit first, I tend to think you get better responses from them , mines probably not fir everyone but know it’s hopefully better done than a lot "
If a profile is more "niche market" that is cool, I think. You are quite clear in what you are looking for and what you are about I think! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh I always read profiles it gives you a little idea off the person. I also like to look at their verifications too."
Really good point that nobody has mentioned yet. I read verifications, try and read between the lines as well and see if they reflect similar attributes across the board. Some veris do put me off a litte, others make me want to meet that person. |
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"We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
Mrs That is a tricky one , isn't it? When I was part of a couple, we had a few pics of him but not on general display more for those who were intrigued by our profile. "
It’s a fine line between too much attention, the wrong attention & advertising as a couple. We will put a few nice body shots on for the physique & leave it there I think. There are more on friends only. We don’t give away too much until we’re sure. We like to gauge someone’s true intentions first…. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It's very much a subjective thing isn't it? So for me, I like humour but not too try hard. Information about someone. Photos that show the person but tell me a bit more about what they're interested in. I can't quite explain it well - I've loved profiles that have been several paragraphs long or one perfect sentence.
Generally if I think, oh I'd like to get to know them more, that's a good profile. How they do it? I don't know. |
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over a year ago
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"We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
Mrs That is a tricky one , isn't it? When I was part of a couple, we had a few pics of him but not on general display more for those who were intrigued by our profile.
It’s a fine line between too much attention, the wrong attention & advertising as a couple. We will put a few nice body shots on for the physique & leave it there I think. There are more on friends only. We don’t give away too much until we’re sure. We like to gauge someone’s true intentions first…. "
This |
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"We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
Mrs That is a tricky one , isn't it? When I was part of a couple, we had a few pics of him but not on general display more for those who were intrigued by our profile.
It’s a fine line between too much attention, the wrong attention & advertising as a couple. We will put a few nice body shots on for the physique & leave it there I think. There are more on friends only. We don’t give away too much until we’re sure. We like to gauge someone’s true intentions first…. "
I thought body shots were something else? |
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"Oh I always read profiles it gives you a little idea off the person. I also like to look at their verifications too.Really good point that nobody has mentioned yet. I read verifications, try and read between the lines as well and see if they reflect similar attributes across the board. Some veris do put me off a litte, others make me want to meet that person. "
OK, so brutal critique, I only have 3 veris, one for cam and two face to face (Fab is new, the scene is not) what is the one thing that you would say jumps out based on that feedback? |
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"Oh I always read profiles it gives you a little idea off the person. I also like to look at their verifications too.Really good point that nobody has mentioned yet. I read verifications, try and read between the lines as well and see if they reflect similar attributes across the board. Some veris do put me off a litte, others make me want to meet that person. "
Excatly this reason. Also shows the type of people they meet. |
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"We have put a fair bit of effort into our profile & can tell when someone hasn’t read it. It does irk a little, but delete and move on
I know that someone will mention there are no pictures of the Mr on public. We are addressing that.
Mrs That is a tricky one , isn't it? When I was part of a couple, we had a few pics of him but not on general display more for those who were intrigued by our profile.
It’s a fine line between too much attention, the wrong attention & advertising as a couple. We will put a few nice body shots on for the physique & leave it there I think. There are more on friends only. We don’t give away too much until we’re sure. We like to gauge someone’s true intentions first….
I thought body shots were something else? "
Oops
In which case - already done  |
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over a year ago
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So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
I can only say thanks mate for given my profile so good a write up |
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"My profile is old. But I managed to capture what I wanted and who I am on here. So I don't need to change it.
So a good male profile should be true to themselves. Not some marketing bollocks.I remember fav one of your pcs a while back, just added a couple more. Don't change a thing!!! "
Thanks. I won't
And I have reciprocated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t read make profiles.
I read male, female, TV, gay etc profiles... for inspiration, amusement (some profiles have me in stitches, in a good way!) and just for fun. "
I do hear what your saying, it is refreshing to read so thing that sounds unique and not run of the mill. It becomes toredome reading negativity, but I suppose we all go through that mood sometimes, so I accept I’ll read that sometimes.
There are some good witty people, and it shines in a well writer prose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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Sounds like a question for women but if a guy is to have any chance Respect has to be included in his profile or at least seen by a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its only random propaganda i change mine all the time be it shitty funny a rand a dwell on the past and still people say hello either way profile write ups are sooooo overated |
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"So I have seen a fair amount of criticism of badly written profiles, more often than not expressed about male than female or TV profiles.
I have just seen a truly amazing, well-written profile of a young man, quite possibly the best I have seen on fabs. The mind of profile that is reasonably long but I wanted to read it to the end as it was truly intriguing.
So, I wanted to pose the question what makes a really good male profile for you on here.
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No cock pics, no veris showing, funny text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love reading well written and well thought out profiles. I read every profile, I think it's rude to assume anything from just looking at the photos.
I will send a message saying if I laughed/enjoyed the profile as I think if you've gone to the effort to write it, it's nice to have it appreciated.
I would suggest any profile that mentions Sydney University, other than having studied there is an eye roll moment. |
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By *uddlesXXXCouple
over a year ago
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I like to have an idea of what people like, if the profile has one line, say, then I don't find it intriguing and skip past. I think ours is pretty good, and it seems to attract the kind of people we're looking for. |
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"I like to have an idea of what people like, if the profile has one line, say, then I don't find it intriguing and skip past. I think ours is pretty good, and it seems to attract the kind of people we're looking for. "
It's pretty informative and sends a good message, plus the pics are very good. I hope you find exactly what you are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine I try to give a big picture in small words .
Like in newspaper . Resuming . Easy to read .
Then is nice think someone will keen to find out a bit more ^^ |
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It's a great question/ post
And if one looks in the replys to this post you will see the answer
Most males have body / cock shot profiles to try catch the eye of there chosen ideal partner .
So then the ping pong messages begins and sadly either or both realise they've made a mistake.
Really?
Yep because we as a society don't interact socially anymore
It's all judged on body and looks and that's not what keeps people together.
Interaction, fun and laughter
And great conversation and meeting in person ,not looking at a profile. |
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By *uddlesXXXCouple
over a year ago
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"I like to have an idea of what people like, if the profile has one line, say, then I don't find it intriguing and skip past. I think ours is pretty good, and it seems to attract the kind of people we're looking for.
It's pretty informative and sends a good message, plus the pics are very good. I hope you find exactly what you are looking for."
We have so far! Thanks |
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