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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Last month I was walking my dog in a cemetery and two men (separately) approached me. It was deserted at the time.

The first one who had just been standing near a gravestone came up and asked if I had a phone number for a nearby business. I said no, he asked me again. Still no. I walked away, around the corner.

A second man walked past me, turned around, walked back and asked me if I was [redacted] on the Internet. It was my previous Fab username. I've never showed my face on Fab. I kept my face emotionless and said no. He asked again. I said no. Walked away.

Today I walked my dog in the park. A few people around. I walked along a wide path and a man came towards me and was very close to me. This threw me as there was loads of space and no need for him to do that. He muttered something I didn't understand and I didn't reply, walked swiftly on. He kept looking at me as I walked around the park. I detoured when I realised he was heading in the same direction as me 10 mins later. I went to an area 15 feet away from the path. He spoke to me again - several words I didn't understand (I think he was from the ME). I waited until he passed and then had to backtrack and take a longer route home as he was still watching me and I felt uncomfortable.

By the time I got home both times, I felt seriously unnerved and creeped out. Am I overreacting?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not overreacting there. I’d be creeped out by that.

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By *unfriends1976Couple over a year ago

Darlington

No definitely not

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Covent Garden

What's "ME"?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's "ME"? "

Middle East

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier.

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By *aturefun63Man over a year ago

Belper

No does sound a bit creepy,is it a re known meeting area

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By *entBarryUKMan over a year ago

Ashford

That sounds very dodgy. Please be careful out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No does sound a bit creepy,is it a re known meeting area "

I don't think so? But not at 11am on a weekday surely?

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

No, that's really creepy!

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By *ilthyRacersCouple over a year ago

Coventry

Absolutely not over-reacting at all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier. "

I think you should report all those incidents to the police. Your personal safety is paramount and you are clearly unnerved by the situation.

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By *eliusMan over a year ago

Henlow

Absolutely not!

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By *immyinreadingMan over a year ago

henley on thames

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier. "

Absolutely not. Being freaked out by this is a completely rational reaction.

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By *uliette500Woman over a year ago

Hull

I'd be very creeped out by that too.

Are these all different men or the same ones on both days?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier.

I think you should report all those incidents to the police. Your personal safety is paramount and you are clearly unnerved by the situation."

They talked to me. I don't think the police would see anything wrong with that. It's the way they did it - the nuance - that's freaked me out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd be very creeped out by that too.

Are these all different men or the same ones on both days? "

3 different men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No id be in prepare for war mode if it happened to me so dont blame you for getting stressed by it

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No op that's seriously freaky

I hope you're ok and deffo not over reacting .

This is why I dont post stuff that would identify me much ,because people like that think they can approach you in public and scare you or out you.

Could it be someone you're previously sent a pic to ?.

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By *aizyWoman over a year ago

west midlands

No that is really creepy. Hope you're ok now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm genuinely surprised. I thought I was being over dramatic and silly.

I had my dog with me and he's quite fierce. I don't want to feel nervous about walking around without him.

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By *ackbydemandMan over a year ago

Leicester

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By *ackbydemandMan over a year ago

Leicester

Absolutely unacceptable. Even if they did know you and had previously met you in a totally consensual basis - it is absolutely a no to approach someone without intent and express consent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier.

I think you should report all those incidents to the police. Your personal safety is paramount and you are clearly unnerved by the situation.

They talked to me. I don't think the police would see anything wrong with that. It's the way they did it - the nuance - that's freaked me out. "

The fact that one of them knew your user suggests something very suspect?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No op that's seriously freaky

I hope you're ok and deffo not over reacting .

This is why I dont post stuff that would identify me much ,because people like that think they can approach you in public and scare you or out you.

Could it be someone you're previously sent a pic to ?."

No, I didn't recognise any of the men and I don't send a face pic to someone unless they also send one. I'm pretty careful on this profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Absolutely unacceptable. Even if they did know you and had previously met you in a totally consensual basis - it is absolutely a no to approach someone without intent and express consent."

The only way that man would have known it was me is from semi-naked pics I've previously made public (on another profile). And he thought it was ok to approach me on the basis that he recognised my tits.

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By *oo..Woman over a year ago

Boo's World

You could be walking around a well known meeting area (on and off fab or a dogging site) that others use because it isn't always busy so less disturbances without realising you are.

I'd walk elsewhere and see what happens

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By *icknmix500Man over a year ago

South Gloucestershire

Very creepy

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By *ombikerbullMan over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Absolutely inappropriate.

I know of 2 women, who have profiles on here on my estate and I never once thought about approaching them.

The last guy sounds more like mental health issues.

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By *ackbydemandMan over a year ago

Leicester

"Absolutely unacceptable. Even if they did know you and had previously met you in a totally consensual basis - it is absolutely a no to approach someone without intent and express consent.

Lucky you said that, I would recognise those legs anywhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier.

I think you should report all those incidents to the police. Your personal safety is paramount and you are clearly unnerved by the situation."

I agree

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By *elaninMaverickWoman over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Honestly expected someone to tell me to stop being a princess! My hands were shaking when I came home earlier. "

Hugs! You are not being a Princess!

I live in London and unfortunately, there are attacks in parks and cemeteries all of the time and yes it can happen in broad daylight. Unfortunately, some of these attacks have resulted in unaliving.

In my local area the university has put on free self-defence classes for women.

I have Borderline/Emotionally unstable personality disorder and I know that the mental health services are woefully inadequate and keep those of us who are a danger to ourselves and other people medicated and off the streets!! And I've lived in this area for 11 years and it still hasn't gotten better!

If I'm planning to go for a walk/cycle with not many people around I dress like a man. Hair up ( no ponytails that perps like to grab), cap peak down and hood up (the mask also helps)... black, navy or grey or fluorescent oversized jacket. All my trainers are black. I do get a lot of my sport and exercise clothing from the men's section anyway.

I play 5 a side and when coming back late in winter..I sling my boots with the metal studs over my shoulder. 1. I look like a man and 2. the boots could be used as a weapon.

Another lady on Fab said that her dad told her some cheap deodorant can be used as mace. Mace and tasers are illegal for women to carry in the UK. In America, some women carry concealed handbag guns.

I have many r@p£ alarms which are very loud and one time I accidentally pulled it in the train at night..all the men were freaked out and all the women just smiled at me because they knew what it was. I just apologised embarrassingly.

I don't know if you regularly walk these routes and your dog is easily identifiable but try to vary your routes and times and doggie accessories. There is one lady in my area who had a distinctive greyhound and I was able to recognise her even without the greyhound. She was surprised but people like me who have autistic traits pick up on details that no one else notices.

Not meaning to scare you but check out the Suzy Lamplugh Trust for more women's safety tips. You can also contact your Local neighbourhood police team to report these incidents and any other safety tips they might have.

I'm a trauma and @ss@ult survivor but I refused to be hidden away cowering.

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By *jorkishMan over a year ago

Seaforth

Definitely creepy. Sorry you've experienced this

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By *WINGStars23Couple over a year ago

Northwest

You should call the police, and without mentioning fab, tell the that men are approaching women in the park and following them. They may put a uniformed or non uniformed patrol out there, preventing any future possible assaults frome taking place.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"Absolutely unacceptable. Even if they did know you and had previously met you in a totally consensual basis - it is absolutely a no to approach someone without intent and express consent.

I know it sucks and we should be able to wear whatever we want but I hide my boobs in public all of the time. They only come out in the gym and while swimming and on dates/meets.

I'm not sure if most men's eyes are just trained to go there or what but the number of men just generally looking at my face and then looking down creeps me out. Even my manager at work when my boobs was popping out of my uniform, he noticed but not the other female staff...Embarassing...

Still sorry that this happened. People are entitled to keep their lives private. People think just because they've seen a photo of you that they know you. No, they don't, they are strangers. That's why famous people and people in the public eye have stalkers. It's bang out of order.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's horrendous. Why do people feel this is acceptable behaviour? Hope you're ok

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By *elaninMaverickWoman over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"You should call the police, and without mentioning fab, tell the that men are approaching women in the park and following them. They may put a uniformed or non-uniformed patrol out there, preventing any future possible assaults frome taking place."

Facts!! I had a guy creep me out just by walking the South West coastal path...I had to call the police because I knew there were other lone female hikers out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You should call the police, and without mentioning fab, tell the that men are approaching women in the park and following them. They may put a uniformed or non uniformed patrol out there, preventing any future possible assaults frome taking place."

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah i think this is good advice generally - you can call 111 to do it. They'll want details of dates/times and descriptions (clothing etc), so write down as much as you can remember

Stay safe, i would be totally freaked out - i always walk alone - not even a dog

and also go through the graveyard /crem and parks , because they are so peaceful

Knowing your old profile name is a bit concerning.. Have you thought about changing your profiles location for safety.. Mine is in a different place for this reason x

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ? "

They could have been looking at who was near.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No that is really creepy. Hope you're ok now?"

I'm calm again and feeling a bit angry if I'm honest (which I think is healthy!)

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"No that is really creepy. Hope you're ok now?

I'm calm again and feeling a bit angry if I'm honest (which I think is healthy!)"

Agreed. It is healthy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time "

Just report it to the police!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You could be walking around a well known meeting area (on and off fab or a dogging site) that others use because it isn't always busy so less disturbances without realising you are.

I'd walk elsewhere and see what happens "

I avoided the cemetery for ages afterwards but my dog loves it there so it wasn't fair to stay away. It's next to a primary school and a very wide open space! A family park in the middle of day should be exactly where I can walk my dog. I've never seen either place mentioned on Fab in local updates. I feel really cross that because some dickhead man thinks he can freak me out I have to remove an enjoyable outing for myself and my dog?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ?

They could have been looking at who was near."

I always have that turned off

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

somerset

very creepy indeed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ? "

The guy followed me around the park and then talked to me again even though I'd ignored the first time. He would have had to raise his voice to make himself heard.

I'm sure you don't mean to be rude - but "maybe you attract weirdness" isn't a nice thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time "

Yes. Afraid it is. My daughter has already encountered creeps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah i think this is good advice generally - you can call 111 to do it. They'll want details of dates/times and descriptions (clothing etc), so write down as much as you can remember

Stay safe, i would be totally freaked out - i always walk alone - not even a dog

and also go through the graveyard /crem and parks , because they are so peaceful

Knowing your old profile name is a bit concerning.. Have you thought about changing your profiles location for safety.. Mine is in a different place for this reason x"

I will think about calling 111. I'm pretty surprised people have suggested it.

My location isn't accurate. And I left that username months before the guy asked me about it weirdly.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time

Yes. Afraid it is. My daughter has already encountered creeps. "

Yeah, our daughter worked in retail for some time. She was approached by men being wierd almost daily. She had more phone numbers than you'd ever think possible handed to her by men she was helping to buy gifts for their partner, men standing outside her work staring in at her, getting their friends to stand with them (who agrees to do that?

), talking to her inappropriately and all the other things these guys do

Do women do this to men or other women?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Absolutely unacceptable. Even if they did know you and had previously met you in a totally consensual basis - it is absolutely a no to approach someone without intent and express consent.

I know it sucks and we should be able to wear whatever we want but I hide my boobs in public all of the time. They only come out in the gym and while swimming and on dates/meets.

Thank you for your comments and I'm sorry you have to take all those precautions to stay safe.

I wear very nondescript clothing, mostly black. I will never pass as a man lol but I'm wearing a baggy jumper, camo trousers and trainers today. I have boobs and I exist and no matter what I wear men stare at them. I keep my head down and stay away from people because my dog is reactive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time

Yes. Afraid it is. My daughter has already encountered creeps.

), talking to her inappropriately and all the other things these guys do

Do women do this to men or other women?"

I'm sorry to hear that

. My girl isn't old enough to have a job and we've already talked about creepy behaviour after she was photographed at a checkout (I was with her). She's feisty and strong but - it's not fucking fair.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Not over reacting. This behaviour is what makes women wary and on their guard *all* the damn time

Yes. Afraid it is. My daughter has already encountered creeps.

), talking to her inappropriately and all the other things these guys do

Do women do this to men or other women?

I'm sorry to hear that

It's not fair. Sadly we need to be wary because of a small minority of men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No you are not overreacting at all and most women could tell you a very similar story.

It's a very sad state of affairs that some men feel they can approach alone women Or get very close it could be they are simply not thinking their actions through but maybe they should start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ? "

You don't get to decide what creeps somebody else out.

A stranger getting very close in a wide open space and muttering something is inappropriate and creepy. Would you also care to explain how somebody attracts weirdness simply by walking their dogs? Yet another example of it must be something the woman is doing wrong somehow!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I genuinely have no problem with men talking to me (or any other gender) when I'm out on my own. It's the manner in which the minority approach that's the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The third one isn’t creepy at all. Just a random

Stranger saying something and you didn’t understand what.

The graveyard thing is a little bit weird , it sounds like maybe you attract weirdness. How do you think they knew your previous fab name ? "

Maybe you attract weirdness? Talk about victim blaming.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This. Also this might not be the 1st time something like this has happened and other reports may have already been made.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I genuinely have no problem with men talking to me (or any other gender) when I'm out on my own. It's the manner in which the minority approach that's the problem. "

Definitely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They're after the dog.

Take a new route.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"They're after the dog.

Take a new route. "

That is a genuine possibility

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They're after the dog.

Take a new route. "

That's a very good point actually.

That's been happening a lot round here recently particularly to loan women dog walkers having their dog snatched.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You could be walking around a well known meeting area (on and off fab or a dogging site) that others use because it isn't always busy so less disturbances without realising you are.

I'd walk elsewhere and see what happens "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP have you searched Fab to see if your old username still exists? Just wondering if someone may have made a new profile that you don't know about.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple over a year ago

Ryde

I don't think you are overreacting at all. There was one time when I was being served in a shop, and someone behind me quietly (but loud enough for me to register) my Fab username, and even though I was shocked, I made sure I didn't react.

I left, but the guy walked up to me outside the shop and muttered it again. Once more, I didn't react. Obviously annoyed, he came straight out and asked me if I was [FAB username] - to which I channelled my inner Hattie Jacques and told him that I had no idea who he was, who I thought I am, and if he didn't stop harassing me, I would report him to the police.

I must have being either convincing and/or intimidating, because he scarpered and I've never seen him again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They're after the dog.

Take a new route.

That's a very good point actually.

That's been happening a lot round here recently particularly to loan women dog walkers having their dog snatched. "

I really don't think they're after the mongrel dog. He's really not a target for anyone. Nobody would pay for my mutt!

And I'm going to keep going to both places. I don't go on regular days or regular times. I need to get out of the house for my dog and my mental health. I will buy a whistle/alarm. But I'm not letting fuckwit men dictate where I can walk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP have you searched Fab to see if your old username still exists? Just wondering if someone may have made a new profile that you don't know about.

I did check and no, it's not in use.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

That is pretty creepy. At first I thought it was an elaborate set up for a joke involving a vampire in the graveyard, but this is all far more unsettling.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They're after the dog.

Take a new route.

That's a very good point actually.

That's been happening a lot round here recently particularly to loan women dog walkers having their dog snatched.

I really don't think they're after the mongrel dog. He's really not a target for anyone. Nobody would pay for my mutt!

My last paragraph wasn't addressed to anyone in particular btw and not to the poster I quoted.

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By *umseekerMan over a year ago

montrose

Non consensual- report it and see them on a register

You have the right to walk around where ever you like

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Non consensual- report it and see them on a register

You have the right to walk around where ever you like "

What register would that be? Assuming that the men could be identified

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By *umseekerMan over a year ago

montrose

Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ? "

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents. The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple over a year ago

blackpool

That's horrible! Hopefully your dog is a decent size that they'd protect you & potentially warn someone off.

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By *umseekerMan over a year ago

montrose

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

Voyeurism gets you on the register all there has to be is evidence that they are watching OP and receiving gratification from it ..

Don’t have to be naked ..

I share your view that many women will be unsurprised , but I am a perv of the highest order and I will only go where I’m invited

Men need to be better

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By *uliette500Woman over a year ago

Hull

As others have said I would report it. May be innocent but approaching women like that is not right and will make anyone feel uncomfortable.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

Voyeurism gets you on the register all there has to be is evidence that they are watching OP and receiving gratification from it ..

Don’t have to be naked ..

I share your view that many women will be unsurprised , but I am a perv of the highest order and I will only go where I’m invited

Men need to be better "

*Some* men need to be better. The vast majority are ok.

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Last month I was walking my dog in a cemetery and two men (separately) approached me. It was deserted at the time.

The first one who had just been standing near a gravestone came up and asked if I had a phone number for a nearby business. I said no, he asked me again. Still no. I walked away, around the corner.

By the time I got home both times, I felt seriously unnerved and creeped out. Am I overreacting? "

No not at all.

Definitely ask the police to record the incident. I mean what the fuck are they thinking. Get an alarm if not ready... Get a photo if you can... And be a bit careful for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope. Not at all.

Gotta protect yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely not, be careful walking on your own. Unless your dog is absolutely huge, with teeth the size of fence posts.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I'm mildly surprised that it happened 3 times, and 2 of those in the same place on the same day

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By *umseekerMan over a year ago

montrose

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

Voyeurism gets you on the register all there has to be is evidence that they are watching OP and receiving gratification from it ..

Don’t have to be naked ..

I share your view that many women will be unsurprised , but I am a perv of the highest order and I will only go where I’m invited

Men need to be better

*Some* men need to be better. The vast majority are ok."

Fair point well made

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I'm mildly surprised that it happened 3 times, and 2 of those in the same place on the same day"

What point are you trying to make?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolutely this^^^^

If you don’t feel you need to report for yourself, please report it for the woman they finally do end up assaulting, because in the vast majority of these cases that’s what sadly will happen, it’s just a matter of time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP have you searched Fab to see if your old username still exists? Just wondering if someone may have made a new profile that you don't know about.

I did check and no, it's not in use. "

That's good, I wondered if maybe someone had made a fake profile with your old pics and was arranging meets for places you'd be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **"

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked."

I think you need to live it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked."

Me and my husband were speaking about this the other day and he said he is shocked at the way I get spoken to by man compared to him. I actually recently got asked when it was something to do with me and my medical condition if they could talk to my husband as the he had spoken to him on the phone earlier! Made an inquiry about something but when they phoned back I wasn't in so he spoke to the man and when he phoned back he don't want to speak to me wanted to speak to him! Even though it was about my condition.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

Good grief! Have you made a complaint about him? That's awful. What a dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

Good grief! Have you made a complaint about him? That's awful. What a dick.

Yes and I got a box of chocolates and sorry card. He's been almost sickly nice every time iv been in the pharmacy since.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

Good grief! Have you made a complaint about him? That's awful. What a dick.

Yes and I got a box of chocolates and sorry card. He's been almost sickly nice every time iv been in the pharmacy since. "

Ugh that would creep me out!

Hope they were nice chocolates.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m creeped out reading it !!

If something is telling you that a situation feels wrong then it usually is, always trust that gut instinct and stay safe.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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To me the first two sounded like they were meeting people they didn't know, for example arranged a meet on a site like this and had to identify themselves by asking a question. We have done this before to make sure we were meeting the right person ( not in a graveyard though)

You say you don't show your face on here but then said you show if they do,so it could possibly have been someone you have spoken to but that doesn't excuse him approaching you in real life though

To the comment of attracting weirdos...I always do that, everytime I got on the train going to work years ago you could guarantee a weirdo or d*unk would sit next to me.

Either way, I like chatting to people and will chat to anyone who will listen and answer anyone who speaks to me, be that male or female but there has been times were I have not been comfortable so cut it short or not answer.

It is a shame as walking a dog normally gets people chatting but only if you are comfortable

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"No does sound a bit creepy,is it a re known meeting area

I don't think so? But not at 11am on a weekday surely?"

People use the known meeting areas through the day too

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Non consensual- report it and see them on a register

You have the right to walk around where ever you like "

A register for talking?

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

Good grief! Have you made a complaint about him? That's awful. What a dick.

Yes and I got a box of chocolates and sorry card. He's been almost sickly nice every time iv been in the pharmacy since. "

Sometimes people make mistakes. Sounds like he has learned to be better about it.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Men need to be better

*Some* men need to be better. The vast majority are ok."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Absolutely this^^^^

I started to write that this is ridiculous, that they were all oblivious to boundaries and how uncomfortable I might feel. But they're all adults - why should they be oblivious to those things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

I don't think what the op has described is stalking. That needs to be persistent and over a period of time. These are more one off incidents.

**The shocking thing about all of it is that no woman will be even mildly surprised that it happened **

** Yep this.

I've had conversations with men lately about how women and men perceive situations differently - and why that is.

The men seemed shocked.

What a tw@t!

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

Men need to be better

*Some* men need to be better. The vast majority are ok.

I was genuinely shocked when my daughter told me some of the stuff she has to contend with. I think many men (most?) are oblivious to a lot of the situations.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To me the first two sounded like they were meeting people they didn't know, for example arranged a meet on a site like this and had to identify themselves by asking a question. We have done this before to make sure we were meeting the right person ( not in a graveyard though)

You say you don't show your face on here but then said you show if they do,so it could possibly have been someone you have spoken to but that doesn't excuse him approaching you in real life though

To the comment of attracting weirdos...I always do that, everytime I got on the train going to work years ago you could guarantee a weirdo or d*unk would sit next to me.

It is a shame as walking a dog normally gets people chatting but only if you are comfortable"

I've shared my face with a very small number of local men. I absolutely don't know any of those three. And nothing in my profile or messages ever indicated I'd be up for meeting outside in that way.

I do chat to people when I am walking my dog. I say hi to people in my street. I talk to other people with dogs. These guys were all bloody weird!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"Stalking is a crime is it not ? Do they not track those ?

Voyeurism gets you on the register all there has to be is evidence that they are watching OP and receiving gratification from it ..

Don’t have to be naked ..

Voyeurism is the practice of getting sexual pleasure by secretly watching other people having sex or taking their clothes off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m creeped out reading it !!

If something is telling you that a situation feels wrong then it usually is, always trust that gut instinct and stay safe. "

I'm glad I asked here because I had dismissed how uncomfortable I felt the first time. This guy today had me looking over my shoulder the whole way home!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No you're not over-reacting. Very creepy behaviour from both men. I'd stay away from the cemetery in future and walk your dog in a more public place. Take care and stay safe x

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Seriously? The majority of men who speak to women end up assaulting them?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously? The majority of men who speak to women end up assaulting them?

Unfortunately assaults on women are by men who know them x

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

Almost every woman I know (which admittedly isn't many) has a story or multiple stories similar to this.

You're definitely not overreacting.

I hope it doesn't happen again.

Stay safe

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By *omethingfun96Couple over a year ago

greater london

You’re not over reacting at all there’s so many stories like this now. I worries me what the world is coming to, when a woman can’t walk her dog in peace.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Can I remind people that they can't use a second profile to get round a permanent ban on the forum. Most of the time you give yourselves away and a Mod will notice or someone will report you.

If you want a previous forum ban lifted you should ask Admin to review it for you.If you don't hear anything back then you should assume they are not lifting it and you can't use a second one.

I am going to close this now.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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