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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My current Fab FWB I approached him first! But it’s the only time I’ve ever done it!

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By *offiaCoolWoman over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Not often, but I have done on the past when I was meeting.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I do.

Mrs TMN x

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By *iromancergirl1Woman over a year ago

bolton

I don’t I think I’m a bit afraid of rejection if truth be told .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've done it a few times. I prefer to seek out what I'm looking for versus sitting on a step waiting on them stumbling over me

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not that many, from my own extensive research.

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

All of them :P...well at least in my case, as I don't usually message first

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By *BootyfulDayWoman over a year ago

…

I do….usually if I’ve seen them on the forums and like the impression I get of them, or if they have interesting pics/profile. I do get worried about rejection though!

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By *ean counterMan over a year ago

Market Harborough / Kettering

All of them

I very very rarely send messages as they never get read. The ones that message ne first are the ones that are interested in me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've messaged about 3 people and had no reply. Never received a message.

Only been on the site 3 weeks though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had one or two, but it is very rare, and to be honest, isn't it the prerogative for the man to make first move?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have done and would do again if the attraction is there.

The older I get the braver I become

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have made first contact but not always in a pick up kinda way... More often just chat re something in forums or their profile.

It's good to talk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

None of them do. There’s a study that says women who instigate contact with men are more likely to sleep with them within 2 days and end up in a long term relationship and 50% of those get married.

So I think they’re scared of that in here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just be an noisy twat on the forums. Most of my chats have been through people messaging me mostly from forum threads tbf.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do….usually if I’ve seen them on the forums and like the impression I get of them "

Yep that’s how I found my FWB!

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

I haven’t.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

I'll sometimes wink first but never message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well if there is a brave lady who wants too, feels like it etc feel free

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I have messaged alot of men first.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't sent a first contact message since the beginning of 2020 and every single conversation since has been initiated by women making the first move.

Even before that I met my FWB when she contacted me. So yes it does happen.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yep I've made first contact I've no issue doing it,the worst that can happen I'd they delete my message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have made first contact but not always in a pick up kinda way... More often just chat re something in forums or their profile.

It's good to talk

Yeah I think this is the best way to contact someone. Especially in a thread where you are showing similar interests. But then again I've had 1st contact by a woman telling me off for something I said and we ended up getting on and chatting for over 3 years everyday on WhatsApp! Friends on Facebook etc, but we've never met in person. She contacted me a day before I left UK and she was busy, my flight was paid for. We are great friends though she's helped me through my travels just by being there to talk too.

Chance encounters and finding someone you click with is gold! It's a good day when you make a new friend!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do.

I sneak up to them, boop them on the nose and run away giggling

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman over a year ago

Thurrock

Yes

That's how I generally find most of my meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well if there is a brave lady who wants too, feels like it etc feel free"

I see what you did there

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

I have had a few ladies message me first. They are usually looking for something specific and, in my experience, it means a meet is more likely to happen as they know what they want and they don’t get inundated by putting an ad up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *he zephyrCouple over a year ago

The Sol

On my single profile if someone caught my eye I wouldnt be shy to say hi.

I wouldnt go straight in with talk of a meet or anything though. I might pm about a forum post, compliment a good photo or refer to something on their profile that attracted me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are happy to send a message to people who catch our eye. Life is too short to worry about a stranger rejecting you. Live in the moment.

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"On my single profile if someone caught my eye I wouldnt be shy to say hi.

I wouldnt go straight in with talk of a meet or anything though. I might pm about a forum post, compliment a good photo or refer to something on their profile that attracted me.

Damn this Fab postal strike.

Somewhere in a dusty backroom of the server there is a teetering pile of pale blue Fabmail with my name on it, I'm convinced.

The alternative is I face the truth...

No. Denial is the English way,as Pink Floyd almost sang.

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s got to be close to 0, right?

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

We have done in the past, although not with any success.

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection "

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

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By *ris GrayMan over a year ago

Dorchester

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies "
35

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve done it twice.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

I think I’ve only ever messaged first a couple of times and I think those times were because I’d seen them at a club or social but not made contact at the time.

Someone messaged us yesterday and I admitted he’d been on my hotlist for a while but I never would have sent that first message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do! A lot of conversations I've had on here have come from them messaging me first. Local women are a bit different though and have had to go chasing a bit

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yep frequently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Try me! Lol!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

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By *iromancergirl1Woman over a year ago

bolton

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection "
that’s how I feel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sure. Why not? I’m in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue "

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!"

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get them all the time, and all of those unsolicited pussy pics, I should update my profile to say no unsolicited pussy pics if I wasn't so lazy.

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By *weetiepie99Woman over a year ago

cardiff

I never have on here, i know i should pluck up the courage...i may do one day..

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter.. "

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I get all the sexy ladies to come to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha."

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too? "

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

So what you are saying Dan is Beryl has not contacted you? Interesting…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Just get on with it silly!

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Me. Both on here and dating. I messaged my ex first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

So what you are saying Dan is Beryl has not contacted you? Interesting…"

Blocked

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter.. "

Damn it, man.

Now I want to put my whites on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Or Jennifer, Alison, Philipa, Sue?

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too? "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

I beckoned Mr KC into a bedroom, 18.5yrs ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Just get on with it silly!

Need to psych myself up a little lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those! "

Never know unless you ask though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I …… and, in my experience, it means a meet is more likely to happen as they know what they want and they don’t get inundated by putting an ad up.

I believe there’s some truth in that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Logically I know this lol but mentally it’s a different story!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I had my single profile it's how I always did it. Filters up, scrutinise forum posters with a clipboard and checklist in hand, send first message when I thought someone was on my wave length. I don't care about getting rejected, it's just part of life.

Nell

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"None of them do. There’s a study that says women who instigate contact with men are more likely to sleep with them within 2 days and end up in a long term relationship and 50% of those get married.

So I think they’re scared of that in here. "

Ah. Yes. We got married

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

So what you are saying Dan is Beryl has not contacted you? Interesting…

Blocked

Yeah me too, she lived up to it all, sucked me like a dyson and left me like a husk, when I managed the strength to log back in, I had been blocked, her status message was “do not assume a man in jodhpurs is a good ride”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

So what you are saying Dan is Beryl has not contacted you? Interesting…

Blocked

her loss! Anyway, can you send me her pics on Telegram?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

Beryl

Cheryl

and Sue

I’ve had 4, Angela, Pamela, Sandra and Rita

And as I continue, you know they getting sweeter..

Not Rita, Sue and Bob too?

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue, Deborah, Annabel, too

(although I forget their names)

So what you are saying Dan is Beryl has not contacted you? Interesting…

Blocked

her loss! Anyway, can you send me her pics on Telegram? "

They’re magic eye ones, are you sure?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Granted, insecurity can get the better of all of us, and yes, there always seems to be some sort of body positivity celebration which, ironically by virtue, separates others into feeling less than.

However, you have the advantage, tits n vag, innit.

What do I have, man tits.

With hair on them.

Trust me you'll be winning on average

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Just get on with it silly!

Need to psych myself up a little lol "

Ok…… let’s try another approach……

Gentlemen, you know what to do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We do. MissJ happy to say hi if she likes a guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Granted, insecurity can get the better of all of us, and yes, there always seems to be some sort of body positivity celebration which, ironically by virtue, separates others into feeling less than.

However, you have the advantage, tits n vag, innit.

What do I have, man tits.

With hair on them.

Trust me you'll be winning on average

Yeah I don’t know how guys do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

her loss! Anyway, can you send me her pics on Telegram?

They’re magic eye ones, are you sure? "

That reminded me to ‘unhide’ my magic eye pic! Now available again in my gallery Fabsters! What can you see?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You just have to send what you think and fingers crossed a reply comes….

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Me too. Imagine if it’s the same 1!! There’s another one on other threads too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Granted, insecurity can get the better of all of us, and yes, there always seems to be some sort of body positivity celebration which, ironically by virtue, separates others into feeling less than.

However, you have the advantage, tits n vag, innit.

What do I have, man tits.

With hair on them.

Trust me you'll be winning on average

Yeah I don’t know how guys do it! "

Sheer bloody mindedness.

And desperation... I mean, diligent perseverance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Me too. Imagine if it’s the same 1!! There’s another one on other threads too

Haha that would be funny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By *irtydevil666Man over a year ago

bristol

Jennifer, Alison, Phillipa, Sue,

Deborah, Annabel, too (I forget your name)......

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By *ecadent_DevonMan over a year ago

Okehampton

I don’t message first OP, I’m just here for Dans Magic Eye

Admittedly that could have been worded better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have. Takes a long build up to get the nerve but I have. And I've never said "how're u".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Granted, insecurity can get the better of all of us, and yes, there always seems to be some sort of body positivity celebration which, ironically by virtue, separates others into feeling less than.

However, you have the advantage, tits n vag, innit.

What do I have, man tits.

With hair on them.

Trust me you'll be winning on average

I have 'fairly' hairy tits, and a full blown 5 o'clock shadow these days

I still send messages as it's all online so no face-to-face humiliation of a 'no ta'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have and would, it's easier to get what you want that way.

A wink is almost always me as well, I know some don't like them but I'm a winker.

S x

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By *urora1912Woman over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I messaged first sometimes just depends on if they are what I'm looking for or not

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have and would, it's easier to get what you want that way.

A wink is almost always me as well, I know some don't like them but I'm a winker.

S x"

I think winks are easier for women and couples than it is for men. Them winking is a sign of interest but it seems men winking is seen as a lack of effort

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those!

Never know unless you ask though

Granted, insecurity can get the better of all of us, and yes, there always seems to be some sort of body positivity celebration which, ironically by virtue, separates others into feeling less than.

However, you have the advantage, tits n vag, innit.

What do I have, man tits.

With hair on them.

Trust me you'll be winning on average

I have 'fairly' hairy tits, and a full blown 5 o'clock shadow these days

I still send messages as it's all online so no face-to-face humiliation of a 'no ta'

Fairly hairy tits and a five o'clock shadow...

Dad...

I'm telling mum.

Looking good though, it's different from what I'm used too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women have always approached me, in the real World, far more than I have them. Fab, no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've approached men first a few times when I've been in the club in Glasgow but I prefer to be approached by the man x

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By *egvisir71Man over a year ago

Derbyshire

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Patiently watching my inbox

lol

Just a wink will do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have and would, it's easier to get what you want that way.

A wink is almost always me as well, I know some don't like them but I'm a winker.

S x

I think winks are easier for women and couples than it is for men. Them winking is a sign of interest but it seems men winking is seen as a lack of effort

Yes,male winkies tends to be mostly overlooked on here due to the sheer volume I suspect

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By *heHornyWandererMan over a year ago

glasgow

It certainly does happen, just no where near as much as you may wish though. Was once told it can be down to what country the lady is from, as some cultures can be more forthright in attitudes when it comes to who should initiate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

How good are your jokes?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have made first contact but not always in a pick up kinda way... More often just chat re something in forums or their profile.

It's good to talk

Chance encounters and finding someone you click with is gold! It's a good day when you make a new friend!

Sure is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have and would, it's easier to get what you want that way.

A wink is almost always me as well, I know some don't like them but I'm a winker.

S x

I think winks are easier for women and couples than it is for men. Them winking is a sign of interest but it seems men winking is seen as a lack of effort

Yes,male winkies tends to be mostly overlooked on here due to the sheer volume I suspect "

Yep, exactly. At least with a message you can tailor it to make it try and sound half decent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sent them a wink

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I can assure you that women sometimes do ask first.

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"Sent them a wink

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well that’s a start!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Comparing to the amount of first helloes I sended before is very close to nothing 0.02%

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"Sent them a wink

I bet you just made their week.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sent them a wink

I bet you just made their week.

Haha I hope so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sent them a wink

If this thread has done anything. This is a positive outcome for fab!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sent them a wink

If this thread has done anything. This is a positive outcome for fab!!!!

Lol only my 2nd time initiating contact in 7 years!

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Zero first winks or messages ...ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have and would, it's easier to get what you want that way.

A wink is almost always me as well, I know some don't like them but I'm a winker.

S x

I think winks are easier for women and couples than it is for men. Them winking is a sign of interest but it seems men winking is seen as a lack of effort

Yes,male winkies tends to be mostly overlooked on here due to the sheer volume I suspect

Yep, exactly. At least with a message you can tailor it to make it try and sound half decent"

Not exactly the kind of winkies I was thinking of... But sure! Still stands I guess

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By *urora1912Woman over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

May of winked someone on this thread

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By *pentoanythingMan over a year ago

Rotherham

In the really world yeah it happens definitely but on fab, not a chance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots do but I hate it when they just say 'Hi' ! Make an effort please if you want to stand out.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

How good are your jokes? "

Terrible

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By *ab FunstersCouple over a year ago

Midlands

Mrs FF finds it really difficult and feels shy..she would not message anyone first..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Great.. and if this thread has helped a couple of people then that’s amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My experience is 0

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, well not in my experience… ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

How good are your jokes?

Terrible "

Sent you one.

you can use it.

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

I think maybe once a woman has messaged me first … probably a case of mistaking me for someone she fancied

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rare as hens teeth in my experience

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

[Removed by poster at 04/10/22 22:22:13]

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Occasionally, usually in reply to a status or something in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!

I find this absolutely bonkers, to be honest.

You two, fear rejection... pour one out for the rest of us haha.

Lol on a site that regularly has threads on big boobs, big asses, petite frames etc it can be intimidating when you possess none of those! "

Yeah but you possess a gorgeous body and a pretty face, go for it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I approached my husband . It was his military dress uniform with the medals and ribbons. I am a sucker for men in uniform.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I beckoned Mr KC into a bedroom, 18.5yrs ago

Love this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sent them a wink

If this thread has done anything. This is a positive outcome for fab!!!!

Lol only my 2nd time initiating contact in 7 years!

In which case I should probably retire from Fab forever, because I've clearly peaked.

Shhhhhhh

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

How good are your jokes?

Terrible

Sent you one.

you can use it.

Wooo outsourcing!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was beginning to wonder if there was any women on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a couple of time's, and they've been good meets

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On here, not really tbh, in normal daily life moreso.

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By *ornycougaWoman over a year ago

NOT IN THE UK Wherever I lay my hat

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

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By *ornycougaWoman over a year ago

NOT IN THE UK Wherever I lay my hat

Tinder when I am doing a 'in town for one night only' shout out. On here - very rarely

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By *errocaWoman over a year ago

Shropshire

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies "

All the time.. I would say, the majority of my meets, are when I've made first contact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep I was approached a few times. Some were in response to a status update and some were from a wink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But do they send unique carefully crafted messages that reflect something in the profile blah blah blah ..,,,

Yes plus usually a joke

How good are your jokes?

Terrible

Sent you one.

you can use it.

Wooo outsourcing! "

The first ones free. All others are on a subscription service.

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By *kblokenorthMan over a year ago

Any

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies "

Join bumble - the women have the privilege of making the first contact.

Disclaimer…..only for singles and not targeted at swingers…

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Just checked my first message and wink-o-meter ...the display array still says zero

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down."

I made the first move, balls in his court now

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"Just checked my first message and wink-o-meter ...the display array still says zero

It wasn't me then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well there’s a grand idea for a thread, maybe someone should do it.

The men say they’re in and it’s down to the ladies to initiate first contact..

Could it work? Or will we end up with a thread of 175 frustrated men not getting a message?

Hmmm …

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Fingers crossed he wants to get his balls in your court too

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies

Join bumble - the women have the privilege of making the first contact."

That does happen here too... honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So how many of you are now going all Dexter saying...

"Tonights the night... and it's going to happen again and again..."

And by that I mean, 0 winks, 0 messages, 7 pints to feel better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just not when the footy is on please and thanks. Any other days its hot asf

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By *enelope2UWoman over a year ago

Fife

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies "

All of my long terms matches I approached.

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By *B69Woman over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’ve sent first msg occasionally or I’ve sent a wink, usually worked out fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the same Texan survey that found Kelly Brook has the perfect body did another survey, in their lunch break, and found the odds of Elvis being alive, living in Luxembourg and winning the Euro Millions lottery was higher than that of yours truly receiving a message from a single lady.

It has only been a month though so yeh !!!

Huh huh huh………Than’you very much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just checked my first message and wink-o-meter ...the display array still says zero

I know I'm not what your looking for, but I've sent you a wink mate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send the first message if hes what im looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I send the first message if hes what im looking for "

Haha he's gonna get bombarded now be..

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Im very flattered xx can’t believe you used that filth to describe what you want me to to you…. But definitely up for it if you can find the axle grease and the jet ski!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a personal note, I think it's definitely better if the person (male or female) does this rather than waiting for someone to approach them.

.. proactive

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By *riel13Woman over a year ago

Northampton

I do

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"Just checked my first message and wink-o-meter ...the display array still says zero

I know I'm not what your looking for, but I've sent you a wink mate

"
ooo I got all excited lol ..at least I know it works now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Im very flattered xx can’t believe you used that filth to describe what you want me to to you…. But definitely up for it if you can find the axle grease and the jet ski!!!

Lol! Do I seem the type to send filth? Judging by my profile?

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

"I don’t, not because I don’t want to, it’s just I don’t feel attractive enough to do that. I think that’s what attractive people do. I’m not keen on rejection

This is what puts me off making first contact too! My insecurities get the better of me!"

We may post pics but it doesn’t mean we are confident in ourselves enough to bite the bullet

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By *odgerMooreMan over a year ago

Carlisle

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Im very flattered xx can’t believe you used that filth to describe what you want me to to you…. But definitely up for it if you can find the axle grease and the jet ski!!!

Lol! Do I seem the type to send filth? Judging by my profile? "

No thats why it was such a shock - I was almost shocked out of my pants… ha!! Mow i see your plan - you saucy minx xxx

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By *aizyWoman over a year ago

west midlands

I do, I'll wink or send a msg if I like the look of a profile

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

As in, the late Queen's late Guide to the Sands, Cedric Robinson?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Im very flattered xx can’t believe you used that filth to describe what you want me to to you…. But definitely up for it if you can find the axle grease and the jet ski!!!

Lol! Do I seem the type to send filth? Judging by my profile? "

Dunno I'm on the blocklist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Im very flattered xx can’t believe you used that filth to describe what you want me to to you…. But definitely up for it if you can find the axle grease and the jet ski!!!

Lol! Do I seem the type to send filth? Judging by my profile?

Dunno I'm on the blocklist

Lol a lot of people are!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t, my social shyness gets the best of me most of the time. There is the odd spur of the moment wink and that’s as far as I go

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

We've had several women approach us. Most haven't gone anywhere but at least one has.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you do send a message, do you then check if they have read it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All of them :P...well at least in my case, as I don't usually message first

True! I did messaged you once, purely to compliment on one of your status

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

As in, the late Queen's late Guide to the Sands, Cedric Robinson? "

Ha! No, as in the author of Black Marxism: The Making of the Black Radical Tradition.

But, you know, maybe he was into links golf, too?

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By *istyPeaksCouple over a year ago

braintree

"I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

Ooh you tease

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

As in, the late Queen's late Guide to the Sands, Cedric Robinson?

Ha! No, as in the author of Black Marxism: The Making of the Black Radical Tradition.

But, you know, maybe he was into links golf, too?"

Maybe ol' Cedric was a darker dark horse than we knew, god bless his soul. He was a jolly nice chap (the late Queen's late Guide. I didn't meet the other chappie

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

Fingers crossed he wants to get his balls in your court too

Messaging now so I think so haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

The tension is killing me.. Has he realised yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m honestly interested, never had an approach so interested to see if people do specifically ladies "

Incredibly rarely....

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"I've had more people approach me on Twitter (where my profile is resolutely political/sarcastic, NOT remotely sexy) than on Fab.

Maybe I should start more threads on Cedric Robinson or Social Reproduction Theory.

Ooh you tease

Right? My anarcho-syndicalist Trotskyism brings all the girls to the yard.

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By *lephantisMan over a year ago

Oxford

"There’s actually someone on this thread I want to approach when I get the nerve

Back yourself! You have got it all going on. No guy in his right mind would turn you down.

I made the first move, balls in his court now

The tension is killing me.. Has he realised yet

Ah, the tension makes the narrative.

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