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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago
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Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done |
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over a year ago
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Oh this is so upsetting to read after your post this morning 
Is there any way you can salvage the day? Maybe take yourself to a nice lunch in Leeds, or visit some attractions? |
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Leeds? What a terrible place to be left alone 
I'm sorry to learn of this.
Unfortunately, people can be shit, we all know that.
I hope your day improves. |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Oooopss!!!sorry to hear that.shit happens! |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Name and shame? Take the ban, itll be worth it  |
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I'm so sorry they've done this.
I know it's a horrible feeling. Try and make the best of being in Leeds, get a nice lunch and a cocktail or a cream bun and coffee. Please don't let them keep you down. |
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She probably got nervous too, but a simple "sorry, not coming to meet you", is all it would have taken. Even if she blocked you everywhere afterwards.
It's happened to loads of us and it'll happen to loads more. Some people huh? Try not to let it get to you too much. If you talk by phone and have hands free in the car, maybe chat while you're driving? Keep communication open on the way. My partner and I did that I think. |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Oh yeah... You had another thread with how excited you were. What a pain. Still at least you tried. Onwards and upwards mate. |
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It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.
It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.
Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x |
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"It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.
It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.
Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x"
It's not only your age group, trust me
The worst thing is not even the waste of time and travel, it's the constant getting your hopes up and being disappointed; the roller-coaster of emotions. No wonder people turn bitter. |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done
Name and shame? Take the ban, itll be worth it "
Im still running with the name and shame course of action on OP
Playing devils advocate for one moment; assuming she was an actual human female with a verified back catalogue, and not a dude pretending, then I would suggest the earlier thread about how excited you were probably wasnt the best idea. Granted her profile name isn't disclosed, but she may still not want the attention created, such as people would be looking at your profile and then subsequently her profile after the verification is given.
She may not even use the forums, but its possible she also does |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s happened to me a couple of times, get ready to go and meet someone and message to say I’m leaving, to find I’ve been blocked.
It’s not you, it’s them - I don’t know why, especially in my age group, people can’t just be honest and respectful. But some people are just inconsiderate.
Please don’t take it to heart, keep trying and keep positive, it’s the only way forward x
It's not only your age group, trust me
The worst thing is not even the waste of time and travel, it's the constant getting your hopes up and being disappointed; the roller-coaster of emotions. No wonder people turn bitter. "
I understand completely.
Someone filling you with compliments and you hit it off really well via text etc.
It’s worse when you don’t see it coming.
Get yourself to a club or two, you can have the fun, meet some great people and leave when you’ve had enough.
No let downs, no drama - Might be the way forward for you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hugs sorry this happened to you
Just have to vet more careful
Everyone should ask them selfs the question off would that sex say something like that
If your answer is no in your head red flag it run for the door
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" circumstances change but it’s just common decency isn’t it to cancel in advance if that’s the case. Sorry to hear you’ve been mucked around OP "
Agree with this, I'd to cancel on Saturday but let him know by lunchtime I'd not just not show up its awful. However, might something have happened, I worry about that when seeing this kinda thing. If they have been back online fair enough they clearly are OK. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Thats awful OP, I'm sorry to here you've been ghosted. I've been in the same boat myself.
I hope the person contacts you with an apology and explanation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Damn I saw the thread earlier and felt happy for you. But I suspected this would happen
Sorry to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that AC, sucks that it happened when you were looking so forward to it. I still hope you can make a day of it to salvage some of it and try to move on quickly. It's a shame people can't have the decency to even let you know if plans have schanged |
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Had the same Sat night staring at 2 empty chairs - they’re pathetic- probably everything they told you was crap and pics probably weren’t even them - thats what i think of mine anyway… sorry you gad it too bud |
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"This is why you just ask for a social right away. Weeks wasted chatting to get ghosted. Ask early and get it over with"
And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I've had some video calls where I've been so glad I've saved myself the time and effort of going to meet them too  |
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I am very sorry for you Agent Coulson.
Yes it has happened to us all but that does not make it right or any less painful. I very much doubt it was last minute nerves, just cold hearted absolute disregard for the feelings of another human being. Still, pick yourself up and once more back into the breach!!
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There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.
It happens to the best of people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.
It happens to the best of people."
If they were as nervous as yourself, the thread earlier might have tipped the balance and scared them off.
A message is always nice but no way of knowing for sure the why of it. |
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"There maybe a reasonable explanation...maybe give it a day or so. They may have been unavoidably delayed and unable to contact you. They may have been really keen but like you were nervous but from them it was too much.
It happens to the best of people."
If I was forced by circumstances to stand someone up I would contact them and apologise immediately, without delay, on here and on phone.
I believe therefore the lack of contact here means another manuplative, sociopathic, timewaster is in play. |
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Maybe have a break from fab op and take stock I often find a break from here does you good in regards to being stood up that’s a pretty shit thing to do to someone try not let it affect your confidence who knows maybe it was unavoidable that they couldn’t make it  |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
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I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call |
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Oh dude. I’m so sorry that didn’t work out. I feel for you.
Don’t blame yourself mate, and don’t let someone else spoil it for you.
*this type of story and the things that I’ve experienced is the exact reason I am very reluctant to get exited about anything in here.
Coulson, you’re a good man, and someone took the piss.  |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call "
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter "
I wouldnt do one. But someone is entitled to ask for it anyway, or make it a prerequisite for them. It just means the meet wont happen |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call "
If someone can't handle a 5 minute video call I'm sure as hell not trusting them enough to schedule a meet with them, and the conversation stops there.
My generation is always on camera so there's no excuse really. |
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Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.
Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider. |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can't handle a 5 minute video call I'm sure as hell not trusting them enough to schedule a meet with them, and the conversation stops there.
My generation is always on camera so there's no excuse really. "
That's fair enough |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter "
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person."
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Looks like you took the last train to Clarksville and won’t becoming home?
Perhaps it was just a brief encounter?
Feel for you bro! |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face? "
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first! |
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FFS . Not again
Where is the respect towards others .
Sorry hear that .
I had 5 last 6 weeks .
im not sure about this … but I’m trying to calculate … I’m watching in my experience …
I have the feeling that Quick chats and instantly meet up has a higher chance of stood up …
Tho … I was stood up by someone who has been on my WhatsApp on n off for over a year .
Sweet lovely BBW , FFM lover as well , I liked her … that one was specially a kick in the gutter …
Sorry to hear that is very bad . It really hurts |
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"Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.
Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider."
11 no shows in a row?
You have the patience of Job.
I am not clear as to the relevance of a no show and sexual health or personal safety? |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!"
I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face
Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face? "
And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!
I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face
Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd "
I'm not interested in the typical or what most do. So it's a plus for me |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!"
I’m exactly the same . I work with chemistry .
Sweetness is my biggest turn on . And I looooove the woman beauty .
An arrogant woman does nothing to me .
In fact in my scale is the worse type . I hate them . Just makes me feel like : what a waste of a beauty
Anyway …
Whatever will be will
Quem será Sarah …
Sarah Saaaaarah … where aaaaare youuuuu ?
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
That is (Fab) for you. |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person"
This is a superficial environment where perceived physical attributes are sought above personality in most cases I would suggest?
You may have a magnetic personality but if you don’t fall into a persons requirements it counts for very little.
I would point out I have a large penis |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
And I also avoid at all costs guys requesting face pictures who've never spoken to me.. shows he could care less who I am as a person or if we had any common interests except his shallow looks desire. That's why people get catfished you got attracted to a picture and not the person
This is a superficial environment where perceived physical attributes are sought above personality in most cases I would suggest?
You may have a magnetic personality but if you don’t fall into a persons requirements it counts for very little.
I would point out I have a large penis "
And forgot to add for those who are undecided that I can breathe via my Eustachian tube, ejaculate copious amounts have an ability for encore performances and smooth in all the right places? |
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I think lots of us have had this issue at some point. It's very hit and miss, this is why I no longer chat for weeks on end, you don't get attached or have expectations build up.
Are you sure she was genuine? I'm not one for doing video calls as others have suggested, but I think my veris give a very clear indication of the kind of person that I am.
I never get my hopes up until the person is right there in front of me, no matter how promising things look! |
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"I think lots of us have had this issue at some point. It's very hit and miss, this is why I no longer chat for weeks on end, you don't get attached or have expectations build up.
Are you sure she was genuine? I'm not one for doing video calls as others have suggested, but I think my veris give a very clear indication of the kind of person that I am.
I never get my hopes up until the person is right there in front of me, no matter how promising things look!"
Doesn’t that suck though? I’d love to get all excited about a meet or date. The anticipation building. It’s so sad we have to deny ourselves that because of the number of fakes and timewasters
There’s nothing worse than getting a little excited for a meet, then reminding yourself to calm down, there’s a good chance it won’t happen  |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
I read your positive post earlier and so sad to hear this happened to you. |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!
I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face
Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd "
Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic. |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!
I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face
Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd
Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic."
Barely any? I think the vast majority wouldn’t even response to a message without one!
Whatever works I guess, but I don’t think I’m automatically shallow for wanting to put a face to the personality within 6 months
God, can you imagine? Talking for months, turn up to the social, they take one look at you and say “not my type, have a good day” and leave. Or imagine being the one turning up and not fancying them
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"Happens quite often I think I had 11 ghost arrangements in a row simple coffee at Nero but still. Had one message and say he had coffee at home was I fucking or not so no point in him wasting petrol or an overpriced coffee.
Just be thankful because if they didn't put the effort or decency in a reply consider what other std or sex safety they don't consider."
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
Agreed I don't send face pictures my number or do a video call unless I think I actually want to see them in person.
How do you know you want to see someone in person if you haven't seen their face?
I'm don't care about looks.. if we can't chat on txt chat by phone voice get in together he can be a 10 and I don't want to see him..if he is a 5 and we get on great and I see him for the 5 he is he is STILL GREAT regardless if he won't ever be a 10. It's the biggest let down to see a physically attractive bell end knob end! So I don't give two shits on how a guy looks. Now if he's an arrogant prick of a 5 he ALSO stands zero chances but he'd get a chance simply because we got along mentally emotionally first!
I’ll be honest, I know very few guys, that aren’t desperate, that would chat for weeks without even seeing a face
Whatever works for you, but I think that’s really odd
Attraction is key for the majority! I bet there’s barely any women on here who’d chat for a lengthy amount of time without a face pic.
Barely any? I think the vast majority wouldn’t even response to a message without one!
Whatever works I guess, but I don’t think I’m automatically shallow for wanting to put a face to the personality within 6 months
God, can you imagine? Talking for months, turn up to the social, they take one look at you and say “not my type, have a good day” and leave. Or imagine being the one turning up and not fancying them
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This isn’t dating! Nothing wrong with shallowness anyway! I wouldn’t fuck someone I didn’t find attractive, if that makes me shallow so be it! |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
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She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way. |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."
So, how about a white lie ...where is the harm in that. Better than making someone feel like shit |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."
She should also have seen Cousins pics ... |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.
She should also have seen Cousins pics ..."
Sorry not with that? |
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And always, always make sure you do a video call before going out to meet them. If they're reluctant or keep postponing they're likely a timewaster.
I don't agree with this. I think lots might be reluctant to do a video call
If someone can’t handle a quick video call, I can’t rely on them to turn up to a social.
So actually, requesting a video call is a great filter
I wouldnt do one. But someone is entitled to ask for it anyway, or make it a prerequisite for them. It just means the meet wont happen"
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.
She should also have seen Cousins pics ...
Sorry not with that?"
Oh ok ...
"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."
Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way."
Nah, you can't excuse her behaviour. It's not OK leaving someone stood up like that after arranging a meet. I'm sure she was well aware of who she was meeting and what to expect, and if she wasn't then why bother to waste someone time if you're not 100% committed?
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.
She should also have seen Cousins pics ...
Sorry not with that?
Oh ok ...
"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."
Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was "
She still has a right not go through with it? |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.
She should also have seen Cousins pics ...
Sorry not with that?
Oh ok ...
"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."
Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was
She still has a right not go through with it?"
Of course...as do we all |
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"Ah my lovely I'm so sorry to see you have had such a shit day.
They are bang out of order and no...it isn't too much to fucking ask, for a change of mind text!
She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station. A polite change of mind text would have not gone amiss but this is a very shallow environment and I am sure the agent knows that.
Fab is not for the faint hearted or those who are sensitive to the, sometimes, incredulity of the terms of engagement but there it is!
The Agent needs to gird his loins and be ready for the next fab adventure that comes his way.
She should also have seen Cousins pics ...
Sorry not with that?
Oh ok ...
"She may seen the Agent on the platform and thought nah, not my gig and stayed on to the next station."
Surely she would have seen his pics, on his profile and known exactly what a lovely guy he was
She still has a right not go through with it?"
Respect…. The guy (or a girl) has traveled, and put faith and trust forward for someone to have the balls to say something direct to him.
Staying on a train (or ghosting) is pathetic and cowerdly. Disrespectful at best.
I do not defend it, and judge anyone who says that’s a right thing to do.
Just tell them, we live in a bad world where we think ignorance is a way to communicate.
I’m looking at you Fab rules!…  |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
Really sorry that happened to you. Some people are wankers |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done "
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"Leeds? What a terrible place to be left alone
I'm sorry to learn of this.
Unfortunately, people can be shit, we all know that.
I hope your day improves. "
what's wrong with Leeds ? Heard it's a great night out |
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"It’s shit. But OP you got a choice put yourself out there or give up. It says nothing about you.
Maybe arrange a meet with a back up plan next time? "
Good Point
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it happens a lot and I totally agree with you. If you can't make it, let them know on the day that they can't or changed their minds is not a big deal.
Report them as a no show. The chances are they have let others down as well. Eventually the site will suspend or delete the profile |
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"Sick and fucking tired of people on here taking the piss.
Is it so hard for someone to say, I have had a change of mind or sorry I'm not going to make it.
I dragged my sorry arse to Leeds to sit in the station for an hour only to get ghosted.
I was so looking forward to today, I think I am finally done sorry bro"
Unfortunate I agree but no one died and there is always another day!
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