 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My ex husband .
Glad I’m free from him but feel for my daughter putting up with him.
At 12 years old she’s starting to see it.
I’m not saying a word or getting involved , but says a lot when she didn’t see him for 2 weeks, and then called me to demand to be collected within an hour .
I heard it when he called me when he brought her back , the attempt to make out he was perfect and she was imagining it . She was literally screaming ‘ stop lying and take me home ‘
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Personally off site?
Two.
On here? You can only make assumptions based on what you've read and jow someone portrays themselves and those assumptions may be wrong. Or they may be right.
A |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen."
Least you know and know what to do |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Cheryl on Facebook that can’t tell the difference between too and to and there and their can spell Narcissist perfectly well every time she splits with her latest boyfriend. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen.
Least you know and know what to do "
Oh, I sure do - run!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I don't think I've met a full blown narcissist. A few people who do seem to talk about themselves and bring conversations back to them. But I'm not sure if that's just narcissistic tendencies or them trying to understand the topics by providing their experiences. Either way, I'm definitely not qualified enough to call them a full blown narcissist. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"As I'm not a psychiatric this is purely conjecture, but there are probably three people I've met in my life who I genuinely believe to be at the deeper end of the narcissist spectrum - one seriously enough affected to warrant assessing for a personality disorder, but with this country's dire mental health provision, almost certainly never going to happen.
Least you know and know what to do
Oh, I sure do - run!!"
Oh I did but it did affect me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't think I've met a full blown narcissist. A few people who do seem to talk about themselves and bring conversations back to them. But I'm not sure if that's just narcissistic tendencies or them trying to understand the topics by providing their experiences. Either way, I'm definitely not qualified enough to call them a full blown narcissist."
I do this, but I think it's a neurodivergent thing - I think many of us are more self-referential (not quite the same as self-absorbed) in how we perceive the world. And talking about our own experiences is our way of showing understanding and/or empathy.
Fuck, I've done it again   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I don't think I've met a full blown narcissist. A few people who do seem to talk about themselves and bring conversations back to them. But I'm not sure if that's just narcissistic tendencies or them trying to understand the topics by providing their experiences. Either way, I'm definitely not qualified enough to call them a full blown narcissist.
I do this, but I think it's a neurodivergent thing - I think many of us are more self-referential (not quite the same as self-absorbed) in how we perceive the world. And talking about our own experiences is our way of showing understanding and/or empathy.
Fuck, I've done it again "
Haha I think you're right though, a lot of people do rely on their own experience to participate in conversations. I even worry about doing it in messages on here as I never want to make it seem like I'm only talking about myself so I try to ask them questions so they can talk about themselves too. See what I did there?  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'd never imagine that I could make a statement like that about someone 
I can. My mother is one. "
I don't have the experience or qualifications. My first husband exhibited various traits that I saw afterwards were not 'normal' no idea what name I'd give it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.
We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.
The second I would not wish on anyone
 to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.
We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.
The second I would not wish on anyone
to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story "
Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story
Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x"
How about you OP, do you know anyone who's one? x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago
Stockport |
"My ex husband .
Glad I’m free from him but feel for my daughter putting up with him.
At 12 years old she’s starting to see it.
I’m not saying a word or getting involved , but says a lot when she didn’t see him for 2 weeks, and then called me to demand to be collected within an hour .
I heard it when he called me when he brought her back , the attempt to make out he was perfect and she was imagining it . She was literally screaming ‘ stop lying and take me home ‘
"
Sorry you're both going through thar. Same situation for me/my daughter (15). Sending ((hugs)) if you have use for them x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ittleMyWoman
over a year ago
Stockport |
"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.
We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.
The second I would not wish on anyone
to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party "
Thank you lovely. My excuse for a mother has NPD. I'm 10 years out from severing all ties from her. The single best decision I've ever made. You've earned your party! x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Need to remember there's a difference between the common idea of narcissism of being a little too in love with yourself, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
NPD is the stuff of nightmares and Hitchcock-like torturous abuse.
We all have a bit of the first, it's just human nature.
The second I would not wish on anyone
to anyone reading this who is living it or escaped it. I'm near my 1yr anniversary away from it and I actually think I'm going to have a party "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Like most aspects of human personality, traits exist on a continuum, so it's possible for many to have characteristics, without being a full narcissistic personality. Certainly, if another is manipulative and not supportive of your needs, you don't need to know their DSM assessment profile. I knew the odd 1 in real life and steer clear. In fab, I'd do the same, alongside anyone who's not healthy to be with. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"My ex is a self serving narcissist. I realized when it was too late but I'm glad he's out of my life now. My mother's a narcissist too, that one's a long story
Well I've dug up some worms tonight. Feeling for you all x
How about you OP, do you know anyone who's one? x"
Yes I do was seeing him a long time and I'm glad I'm out of it now. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"The lines between loving yourself, being confident and narcissism are very very thin "
The need for admiration is one big difference. You can be extremely confident , successful and not liked by everyone , but don’t really care that much about the views of people who don’t matter. That isn’t narcissistic, but the need for admiration often displayed here is |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
